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EXECUTIVE EDITOR Laura Sass MANAGING EDITOR Vincent Civitillo NEWS EDITOR David Maccar FEATURES EDITOR Lacey Korevec ENTERTAINMENT EDITOR Lacey Korevec OPINION EDITOR Bill Greenwood SPORTS EDITOR Jared Vichko WEB EDITOR Vincent Civitillo PHOTOGRAPHY EDITOR Allen Huang BUSINESS MANAGER Jaclyn Oceanak METRO EDITOR David Maccar ADVERTISING MANAGER Nicole Santore LAYOUT & DESIGN MANAGER Haley Ross DELIVERY MANAGER Frank Yuchymiw CO-ADVISERS Dr. E. Graham McKinley Dr.Thomas Simonet COPY EDITORS Brian Brennan Candice Grieco Kristen Jassin Erin Lynch Lauren Varga to nurture the relationship. It requires setting aside time to be with each other so as to appreciate and value each other and to share experiences. Commitment accentuates the importance of the relationship for each individual. • Honesty within a loving relationship is open and free flowing. It is a person-to-per- son acknowledgement of per- sonal likes, dislikes, feelings, thoughts and desires. There is an intrinsic goodness that is tender and responsive within honest communication. • Trust is a feeling of safety with each other. With lower defenses it is possible to relax into being one’s self. Vulnerabilities are expressed and displayed rather than concealed because kindness and gentle understanding are expected and given. • Respect is demonstrated by valuing differences as well as similarities. Each attempts to understand the other on his or her terms and to see integrity of the other’s choices and actions. In essence, the separateness of each other is honored. • Freedom is an essential part of intimacy. Freedom inspires mutual growth and nourishes the intimacy bond. Partners choose again to be involved with one another, renegotiate the limits and potentials of the relationship and reassess the relationship’s meaning and importance in their lives. The bond is re-affirmed rather than taken for granted. The source of the above information is Carol S. Becker’s Living and Relating. Other informative books about understanding love include: Harville Hendrix’s Getting The Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find; Gay Hendricks’ Conscious Living and Challenge of the Heart, edited by John Welwood. Keep in mind that inti- macy is key to a loving rela- tionship. Most importantly, in order to be intimate with someone, one must first be willing and able to be intimate with oneself. For concerns and questions about intimacy and relationships, call Rider University Counseling Services at x5157. The history of our nation has demonstrated that separate is seldom, if ever, equal. These wise words, released by the justices in Massachusetts who narrowly upheld the deci- sion to legalize same-sex mar- riages in the state, echo the growing resentment about the separate set of rules same-sex couples must follow. Although according to recent polls Americans are large- ly against legalizing same-sex marriages (60 percent against, 31 percent for), acceptance of unions between same-sex couples has been steadily rising. In California, Hawaii, New Jersey and Washington D.C., same-sex couples are able to have “domestic partnerships,” which accord the couples some benefits of marriage in varying degrees, from health care to child care. Vermont, which before the Massachusetts court decision occurred was the most open to same-sex couples, legalized civil unions, which accorded couples almost all benefits of marriage, excluding federal benefits such as social security and tax ben- efits. In New York, a bill for same-sex marriages was drafted but is currently on hold while in Rhode Island such a bill is currently being completed. Clearly, gay activists have been busy. In contrast, 37 states have forbidden such partnerships. On Wednesday, Feb. 11, President George W. Bush came down strongly against the ruling, hinting although not outright saying that he would support the proposed constitutional amendment ban- ning same-sex marriage, which already has 100 congressional co-sponsors. Religious groups, family organizations and conservatives have jumped on the bandwag- on, releasing press statements and writing angry columns denouncing “activist judges.” One of the main arguments against such unions is that it is morally reprehensible. This idea comes mainly from religion. One of the greatest strengths of America has always been its ability to separate church from state. If a constitutional amendment is passed according to Christian values, it is dan- gerously close to a theocracy. Although murder and rape can also be related to Christian val- ues, in both instances someone is clearly getting hurt. In the marriages, however, the only possible hurt is a moral one, which is debatable. In addition, the only other reason, other than moral out- rage, to oppose same-sex mar- riages is that such unions can- not produce children. Although true, this argument is also irrel- evant. There a r e some cou- ples who cannot repro- duce a n d some who choose not to. Should these couples be denied the right to marriage as well? And what about older people who may no longer be able to pro- create? Should senior citizens be denied a chance at happiness because of such a natural lack? The same-sex marriage issue will surely be a major campaign issue. Although cur- rent Democratic front-runner John Kerry is for civil unions, even the relatively liberal candi- date is against legalizing same- sex marriages. As for Bush, it is pretty certain where he stands. Come May 15, when the law will take effect, the first legal same-sex marriages will take place in America. The United Kingdom is also examining a measure legalizing such marriages. America has a choice: to once again lead the world as an example of flex- ibility and freedom or to hide behind the views of the past. I am writing to say that the Rider Athletic Program is being supported around the MAAC region. I graduated from Rider a few years ago and I now write for a newspaper near Albany, N.Y. Many of my co-work- ers are Siena graduates and informed me that I was in “Siena Country.” When Rider came up here to play Siena last week I went to lend my support. I was surprised to see other people there cheering on the Broncs. I talked to a few of them and found out they were alumni as well. After the Rider victory, we went out to a local public house and imbibed spirits while sing- ing the Rider fight song. It was a grand time indeed! I urge all current and for- mer students to support our fine athletic program. Sincerely, Brian Yurcan, Class of 2002 Letter To The Editor: Alumni still in the spirit A Citizen’s Voice: Legalize same-sex marraige Laura Sass EDITORIAL & MANAGERIAL BOARD www.rider.edu/ridernews ‘LOVE’ FROM PAGE 8 This Week in History: Feb. 14, 1929 — Sir Alexander Fleming discovers penicillin. Feb. 15, 1942 — Singapore falls to Japanese forces. Feb. 16, 1959 — Fidel Castro sworn in as premier of Cuba.
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EXECUTIVE EDITORLaura Sass
MANAGING EDITORVincent Civitillo
NEWS EDITORDavid Maccar
FEATURES EDITOR
Lacey Korevec
ENTERTAINMENT EDITORLacey Korevec
OPINION EDITORBill Greenwood
SPORTS EDITORJared Vichko
WEB EDITORVincent Civitillo
PHOTOGRAPHY EDITORAllen Huang
BUSINESS MANAGERJaclyn Oceanak
METRO EDITORDavid Maccar
ADVERTISING MANAGERNicole Santore
LAYOUT & DESIGN MANAGERHaley Ross
DELIVERY MANAGER
Frank Yuchymiw
CO-ADVISERSDr. E. Graham McKinleyDr. Thomas Simonet
COPY EDITORSBrian BrennanCandice GriecoKristen JassinErin LynchLauren Varga
to nurture the relationship. It requires setting aside time to be with each other so as to appreciate and value each other and to share experiences. Commitment accentuates the importance of the relationship for each individual.
• Honesty within a loving relationship is open and free flowing. It is a person-to-per-son acknowledgement of per-sonal likes, dislikes, feelings, thoughts and desires. There is an intrinsic goodness that is tender and responsive within honest communication.
• Trust is a feeling of safety with each other. With lower defenses it is possible to relax into being one’s self. Vulnerabilities are expressed and displayed rather than concealed because kindness and gentle understanding are expected and given.
• Respect is demonstrated by valuing differences as well as similarities. Each attempts to understand the other on his or her terms and to see integrity of the other’s choices and actions. In essence, the separateness of each other is
honored.
• Freedom is an essential part of intimacy. Freedom inspires mutual growth and nourishes the intimacy bond. Partners choose again to be involved with one another, renegotiate the limits and potentials of the relationship and reassess the relationship’s meaning and importance in their lives. The bond is re-affirmed rather than taken for granted.
The source of the above information is Carol S. Becker’s Living and Relating. Other informative books about understanding love include: Harville Hendrix’s Getting The Love You Want and Keeping the Love You Find; Gay Hendricks’ Conscious Living and Challenge of the Heart, edited by John Welwood. Keep in mind that inti-macy is key to a loving rela-tionship. Most importantly, in order to be intimate with someone, one must first be willing and able to be intimate with oneself. For concerns and questions about intimacy and relationships, call Rider University Counseling Services at x5157.
The history of our nation has demonstrated that separate is seldom, if ever, equal. These wise words, released by the justices in Massachusetts who narrowly upheld the deci-sion to legalize same-sex mar-riages in the state, echo the growing resentment about the separate set of rules same-sex couples must follow. Although according to recent polls Americans are large-ly against legalizing same-sex marriages (60 percent against, 31 percent for), acceptance of unions between same-sex couples has been steadily rising. In California, Hawaii, New Jersey and Washington D.C., same-sex couples are able to have “domestic partnerships,” which accord the couples some benefits of marriage in varying degrees, from health care to child care. Vermont, which before the Massachusetts court decision occurred was the most open to same-sex couples, legalized civil unions, which accorded couples almost all benefits of marriage, excluding federal benefits such as social security and tax ben-efits. In New York, a bill for same-sex marriages was drafted but is currently on hold while in Rhode Island such a bill is currently being completed. Clearly, gay activists have been busy.
In contrast, 37 states have forbidden such partnerships. On Wednesday, Feb. 11, President George W. Bush came down strongly against the ruling, hinting although not outright saying that he would support the proposed constitutional amendment ban-ning same-sex marriage, which already has 100 congressional co-sponsors. Religious groups, family organizations and conservatives have jumped on the bandwag-on, releasing press statements and writing angry columns denouncing “activist judges.” One of the main arguments against such unions is that it is morally reprehensible. This idea comes mainly from religion. One of the greatest strengths of America has always been its ability to separate church from state. If a constitutional amendment is passed according to Christian values, it is dan-gerously close to a theocracy. Although murder and rape can also be related to Christian val-ues, in both instances someone is clearly getting hurt. In the marriages, however, the only possible hurt is a moral one, which is debatable. In addition, the only other reason, other than moral out-rage, to oppose same-sex mar-riages is that such unions can-not produce children. Although true, this argument is also irrel-
evant . T h e r e a r e s o m e c o u -p l e s w h o cannot repro-d u c e a n d s o m e who choose not to. Should these couples be denied the right to marriage as well? And what about older people who may no longer be able to pro-create? Should senior citizens be denied a chance at happiness because of such a natural lack? The same-sex marriage issue will surely be a major campaign issue. Although cur-rent Democratic front-runner John Kerry is for civil unions, even the relatively liberal candi-date is against legalizing same-sex marriages. As for Bush, it is pretty certain where he stands. Come May 15, when the law will take effect, the first legal same-sex marriages will take place in America. The United Kingdom is also examining a measure legalizing such marriages. America has a choice: to once again lead the world as an example of flex-ibility and freedom or to hide behind the views of the past.
I am writing to say that the Rider Athletic Program is being supported around the MAAC region. I graduated from Rider a few years ago and I now write for a newspaper near Albany, N.Y. Many of my co-work-ers are Siena graduates and informed me that I was in “Siena Country.” When Rider came up here to play Siena last week I went to lend my support. I was surprised to see other people
there cheering on the Broncs. I talked to a few of them and found out they were alumni as well. After the Rider victory, we went out to a local public house and imbibed spirits while sing-ing the Rider fight song. It was a grand time indeed! I urge all current and for-mer students to support our fine athletic program.
Sincerely,Brian Yurcan, Class of 2002
Letter To The Editor: Alumni still in the spirit
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A Citizen’s Voice: Legalize same-sex marraige
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‘LOVE’FROM PAGE 8
This Week in History:Feb. 14, 1929 — Sir Alexander Fleming discovers penicillin.
Feb. 15, 1942 — Singapore falls to Japanese forces.
Feb. 16, 1959 — Fidel Castro sworn in as premier of Cuba.
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