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Facebook  IS  changing  the  rules  of  da?ng  

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“Facebook  has  created  a  whole  new  slew  of  obstacles  and  awkward  conversa4ons    that  previously  didn’t  exist  for  people  

in  the  dreadful  world  of  da4ng.”  -­‐  Gretchen  Kelmer    

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“There’s  less  structure  for  people  today  as  rela?onships  develop.  A  leJerman’s  jacket  or  a  class  ring  —  those  kinds  of  social  courtship  scripts  don’t  exist  on  Facebook.”    -­‐Gretchen  Kelmer    

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Facebook  is  one  of  the  primary  tools  for  interac?on  early  in  the  experimen?ng  stage  of  roman?c  rela?onship  development.    

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“Deciding  to  go  FBO  means  laying  your  emo?onal  cards  on  the  table,  face  up.”  -­‐  Tom  Jacobs    

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It  represents  a  “new  ?er  in  the  rela?onal  hierarchy,  an  announcement  that  two  people  are  in  an  exclusive,  long-­‐term,  and  public  commitment.”  Jesse  Fox  

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“Those  that  displayed  their  significant  other  in  their  profile  picture  and  were  listed  as    “in  a  rela?onship”  were  more  likely  to  stay  together  and  less  likely  to  have  cheated.    

They  also  showed  lower  levels  of  alterna?ve  partner  monitoring,”    -­‐Gretchen  Kelmer    

You  have  to  break  online  hearts  too    

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Studies  show  “  People  feel  more  pressure  from  friends  and  family  to  stay  together  when  they  have  their  partner  in  profile  picture  and  rela?onship  status.”  Kelmer    

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Not  to  men4on  your    exes  can  follow  you    everywhere     Photo  by  Oregon  State  University  (Flickr)  

Studies  show,  “Remaining  Facebook  friends  with  an  ex  delayed  emo?onal  recovery  and  led  to  greater  distress  over  the  breakup,  nega?ve  feelings,  sexual  desire  and  longing  for  the  ex-­‐partner.”  Tara  Marshall    

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“This  has  created  a  situa?on  where  we  are  trea?ng  each  other  as  though  we  were  

stalkers.'"  Dr.  Turkle    

This  is  creepy!  

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“Always-­‐on-­‐your  devices  provide  three  powerful  fantasies:  that  we  will  always  be  heard;  that  we  can  put  our  aJen?on  wherever  we  want  it  to  be;  and  that  we  never  have  to  be  alone.”  Sherry  Turkle    

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“Facebook  is  preJy  much  real  life  now  so  don’t  treat  it  any  differently  than  you  do  da?ng  OUT  THERE.  Be  normal,  be  cool,  be  nice.”  Allison  McCann    

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 “But  now,  thanks  to  our  smartphones,  it  is  never  OK  to  be  unavailable.  Ever.  Not  for  a  minute.”  Elizabeth  Bernstein  

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