Feelings and Emotions The effects on the siblings.

Feelings and EmotionsFeelings and Emotions

The effects on the siblingsThe effects on the siblings

Starting PointStarting Point

Think about your relationship with a sibling Think about your relationship with a sibling (or imagine)(or imagine)

What did / do you think about them?What did / do you think about them? How would you describe them?How would you describe them? How did you spend time with them when How did you spend time with them when

you were children?you were children?

Sibling RelationshipsSibling Relationships

May be positive or negative (or both)May be positive or negative (or both)


May be positive or negative (or both)May be positive or negative (or both) Dependent on genderDependent on gender


May be positive or negative (or both)May be positive or negative (or both) Dependent on genderDependent on gender Dependent on relative agesDependent on relative ages


May be positive or negative (or both)May be positive or negative (or both) Dependent on genderDependent on gender Dependent on relative agesDependent on relative ages Dependent on circumstance / family Dependent on circumstance / family

structurestructure



structurestructure ComplexComplex



structurestructure ComplexComplex Still relevant when sibling has a Still relevant when sibling has a

communication disorder and / or disabilitycommunication disorder and / or disability

IntroductionIntroduction

The range and focus of research into the area of The range and focus of research into the area of emotional effects on siblingsemotional effects on siblings

Feelings expressed by siblingsFeelings expressed by siblings Influences on emotional / psychological response Influences on emotional / psychological response

of Siblingof Sibling Positive impactPositive impact Negative impactNegative impact Prevention and managementPrevention and management Further help and informationFurther help and information

Range and focus of researchRange and focus of research

Most into general disabilitiesMost into general disabilities Often general impact on family functioningOften general impact on family functioning Some specific to ASDSome specific to ASD Some specific problems identified related to Some specific problems identified related to

social communication disorderssocial communication disorders Most conclude further research is neededMost conclude further research is needed

Some specific issuesSome specific issues

Difficulties in being soothed in infanthoodDifficulties in being soothed in infanthood Difficulties with eating in infanthoodDifficulties with eating in infanthood Sleep difficulties in infanthoodSleep difficulties in infanthood(Barwick et al 2004)(Barwick et al 2004) ADHD (Cohen et al 1998)ADHD (Cohen et al 1998) Behavioural difficultiesBehavioural difficulties Cognition and social cognition problems Cognition and social cognition problems

(Cohen 1998)(Cohen 1998)

Feelings Expressed by SiblingsFeelings Expressed by Siblings

LoveLove PridePride HappinessHappiness LoyaltyLoyalty UnderstandingUnderstanding

Feelings Expressed by SiblingsFeelings Expressed by Siblings

LoveLove PridePride HappinessHappiness LoyaltyLoyalty UnderstandingUnderstanding

AngerAnger FrustrationFrustration JealousyJealousy GuiltGuilt FearFear AnxietyAnxiety PressurePressure ResentmentResentment EmbarrassmentEmbarrassment GriefGrief LonelinessLoneliness ConfusedConfused

Influences on Sibling ResponseInfluences on Sibling Response

Parents ability to copeParents ability to cope Siblings temperamentSiblings temperament Nature and severity of the child’s disabilityNature and severity of the child’s disability Communication styles and ability within the Communication styles and ability within the

familyfamily Level of support from extended familyLevel of support from extended family Services availableServices available Other sibling support within the familyOther sibling support within the family

Positive EffectsPositive Effects

Develop greater empathy and Develop greater empathy and understanding of those with disabilitiesunderstanding of those with disabilities

Increased tolerance of difficultiesIncreased tolerance of difficulties Enhanced communication skillsEnhanced communication skills Increased maturity and ability to be Increased maturity and ability to be

responsibleresponsible Increased social competenceIncreased social competence

Negative EffectsNegative Effects

IsolatedIsolated Over burdenedOver burdened Lack of parental attentionLack of parental attention Tiredness leading to impact on educationTiredness leading to impact on education Anxiety about sibling / parental wellbeingAnxiety about sibling / parental wellbeing Resentment leading to “acting out”Resentment leading to “acting out” Escape – alcohol / drugs / inappropriate Escape – alcohol / drugs / inappropriate

relationshipsrelationships Low self esteemLow self esteem

ExerciseExercise

Given what we know about what influences Given what we know about what influences the emotional and psychological impact on the emotional and psychological impact on

siblings of a child with social communication siblings of a child with social communication disorder or disability what can we do to disorder or disability what can we do to

reduce potential negative impacts?reduce potential negative impacts?

Prevention of siblings emotional Prevention of siblings emotional difficultiesdifficulties

Understanding and knowledgeUnderstanding and knowledge Provide information in an age appropriate wayProvide information in an age appropriate way Give time to take in and discussGive time to take in and discuss Including the sibling Including the sibling Ensure professionals supporting the child with Ensure professionals supporting the child with

difficulties are aware of other childrendifficulties are aware of other children Give siblings time to talk about their own feelings Give siblings time to talk about their own feelings

and problems in their own lifeand problems in their own life


Take time to listenTake time to listen As parents remember to take care of your As parents remember to take care of your

own health and emotional needsown health and emotional needs Give praise and encouragement for the Give praise and encouragement for the

achievements of siblingsachievements of siblings Foster and maintain extended family links or Foster and maintain extended family links or

friendshipsfriendships Try to schedule time with other childrenTry to schedule time with other children


Try to find time to engage in activities as a Try to find time to engage in activities as a family that you can all enjoyfamily that you can all enjoy

Try to schedule in a special treat for siblings Try to schedule in a special treat for siblings every so often so they have things to look every so often so they have things to look forward toforward to

If seeing any worrying signs or behaviour If seeing any worrying signs or behaviour changes don’t be afraid of asking for help or changes don’t be afraid of asking for help or advice advice

Some Sources of helpSome Sources of help

Young Carers: Young Carers: www.youngcarers.netwww.youngcarers.net Handsel trust: Handsel trust: www.handseltrust.org.ukwww.handseltrust.org.uk Contact a family: Contact a family: www.cafamily.org.ukwww.cafamily.org.uk For Siblings of disabled children: For Siblings of disabled children: www.sibs.org.ukwww.sibs.org.uk Childline: Childline: www.childline.org.ukwww.childline.org.uk – 0800 11 11 – 0800 11 11 Disability Alliance http://www.disabilityalliance.org/lDisability Alliance http://www.disabilityalliance.org/l

inks6.htminks6.htm

Young Minds Young Minds http://http://www.youngminds.org.ukwww.youngminds.org.uk//

http://www.youngcarers.net/

http://www.handseltrust.org.uk/

http://www.cafamily.org.uk/

http://www.sibs.org.uk/

http://www.childline.org.uk/

http://www.disabilityalliance.org/links6.htm

http://www.disabilityalliance.org/links6.htm

http://www.youngminds.org.uk/




Dynamic Wrexham Dynamic Wrexham http://www.dynamicwrexham.com/contact-us.htmlhttp://www.dynamicwrexham.com/contact-us.html

The Princess Royal Trust for Carers The Princess Royal Trust for Carers http://www.carers.org/carers-centres/find-your-http://www.carers.org/carers-centres/find-your-local-centre-list?keys=&tid=10 local-centre-list?keys=&tid=10

Association of Voluntary Organisations in Association of Voluntary Organisations in Wrexham http://www.avow.org/welcome/carers-Wrexham http://www.avow.org/welcome/carers-infomation-service infomation-service

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http://www.dynamicwrexham.com/contact-us.html


Unllais http://www.unllais.co.uk/intro.asp provides Unllais http://www.unllais.co.uk/intro.asp provides a directory of services available nationally and a directory of services available nationally and locally locally

Wrexham Family Information Service (formerly Wrexham Family Information Service (formerly Children's Infomration Bureau) Children's Infomration Bureau) http://www.wrexham.gov.uk/english/community/cibhttp://www.wrexham.gov.uk/english/community/cib/index_text.htm#contact /index_text.htm#contact

Meic is a new helpline service for children and Meic is a new helpline service for children and young people up to the age of 25 in Wales. young people up to the age of 25 in Wales. http://www.meiccymru.org/ http://www.meiccymru.org/


www.denbighshire.gov.uk/www.denbighshire.gov.uk/childrensinformation - Denbighshire Family childrensinformation - Denbighshire Family Information Service Information Service

Flintshire Family Information Flintshire Family Information Service http://www.flintshire.gov.uk/wps/porService http://www.flintshire.gov.uk/wps/portal/english/services?tal/english/services?WCM_GLOBAL_CONTEXT=/web+content/WCM_GLOBAL_CONTEXT=/web+content/flintshire/english/services flintshire/english/services

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