“I am confident

of this,

that the one who

began a

good work

among you

will bring it to

completion

by the day of

Jesus Christ.”

(Philippians 1: 6)

ought to love, who could never complete and earn our salvation, have found that God in his mercy and love sent his be-loved son to finish for us. “When Jesus had received the wine, he said, ‘It is fin-ished.’ Then he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.” (John 19:30)

May this Lenten season be a time for each of us to renew our commitment to following the Lord who loves and saves us! May we gather together often for worship and fellowship at Good Shep-herd! May we work creatively with our Lord in striving to spread the good news and to love our neighbor more perfectly!

“Now may the God of peace, who brought back from the dead our Lord Jesus, the great shepherd of the sheep, by the blood of the eternal covenant, make you complete in everything good so that you may do his will, working among us that which is pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be t h e g l o r y f o r e v e r a n d e v e r . Amen.” (Hebrews 13:20-12)

Completely Yours in Christ,

F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3

GOOD SHEPHERD LUTHERAN CHURCH & SCHOOLGOOD SHEPHERD LUTHERAN CHURCH & SCHOOLGOOD SHEPHERD LUTHERAN CHURCH & SCHOOLGOOD SHEPHERD LUTHERAN CHURCH & SCHOOL

CELEBRATING 60 YEARS IN GOD’S SERVICECELEBRATING 60 YEARS IN GOD’S SERVICECELEBRATING 60 YEARS IN GOD’S SERVICECELEBRATING 60 YEARS IN GOD’S SERVICE

Dear Faithful People of Good Shepherd,

How often have we put our hand to a task, began a project, set a goal or pur-sued a dream and have been unable to bring that task, project, goal or dream to completion? Maybe we have con-vinced ourselves that unforeseen cir-cumstances beyond our control were the cause for our stopping. Maybe we tell ourselves that the timing is not right and that we will resume our work at some time in the future. Maybe we beat ourselves up and blame ourselves for quitting. Regardless of our ultimate categorizing of things unfinished, most would agree that being “undone” or “incomplete” is an uncomfortable state of being which we hope is only tempo-rary at best.

On February 13th, Ash Wednesday, we will gather at 10:30 a.m. and 7:30 p.m. for worship here at Good Shepherd. We will recall the sin which clings so closely to us and the temporary nature of physical existence. We will discover that repentance remains unfinished. We will shamefully and sorrowfully remember how we continue to fall very short in our commitment to God and neighbor. “Remember that you are dust and to dust you shall return” are the words we will hear as the ashes are im-posed on our forehead. Oh God forgive and save your children we cry!

In our mourning and wailing God hears our cry. In the ashes the saving cross is found. We who could not love as we

Our much-publicized “coming soon” calligraphy class held its first session on Tuesday morning, January 15, in the West Cottage. Led by Gun-hild Hendrickson (Schabel), students Louise Lamont, Evelyn Helmers, Dr. Stanley Bartkow

(and Denise in absentia), Elaine Cassimatis, Rod-ney, and yours truly took the pen and the first steps to becoming master letterers. The funda-

mentals sounded simple enough—both feet on the floor, straight posture, slightly angled, holding the pen properly, keeping it at a 45° angle at all times and not pressing too hard. But sometimes old habits die hard! Everyone seemed happy to be there, especially Gunhild who went right back into teaching mode and relayed stories from her days of teaching seventh grade art. She very much enjoyed reminiscing on how she worked in tandem with the academic teachers when the students had projects. An English student, for ex-ample, would write poetry in calligraphy, and receive two grades—one from Ms. Hendrickson for the art work and the other from the English teacher for the poem! She also did similar projects with math students. Though we didn’t get graded this time, we did get homework! As we learned in school...practice makes perfect!

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O F H E A L I N GO F H E A L I N GO F H E A L I N GO F H E A L I N G

WE PRAY FOR...

Mike Adams (Maureen Cooke’s brother in law), Anne Araco (Lori Tollefsen’s mother), Maureen Kelly Araujo, Alex & Derek Bartkow, Annette & Bill Benson, Carol Berardino, John Binsfeld (Benner family friend), Martin Bolti-zar (Louise Lamont’s cousin), Larry Brokaw (Amy Pietrofere’s stepfather), Lynne Carlson (Irma’s daughter-in-law), Claudia Churchill (Amy Pietrofere’s mother), Eileen Cornelius (Mason family friend), Lorraine Cu (Marta Scherer’s friend), Chris Cucci and his family (Naomi Hulver’s student), Rita Cunningham (Cronin family friend), Ken Dixon (Pastor Eric’s friend), Susan Dowd (Maisch family friend), Anna Duda (Denise Bartkow’s mother), Ryan Faret & his family, Jim & Lois Fassino, James Fields (Vincent and Dorothy Cronin’s nephew), Mary Gessing (Dorothy and Vincent Cronin’s cousin), Erika Green, Natalie Heavren (Eleanor Pearson’s cousin), Norma Hinsch, Bodey Johnson (Karl & Carol Burfeindt’s great grandson), Jake (Maisch fam-ily friend) and his family, Lillian Kassan (Jeff’s mother), Robert Kraus (Naomi Hulver’s friend), Lisa Krenkel (Terry Miccio’s cousin); Toni Anne LaGois, Francis Lee (Helen Kopf’s son), Diane Lisa (Cathy Vollono’s friend), Max Ludewig, Bea McCabe, Pastor Fred McElderry (St. Andrew’s in West Hempstead), John Meyer (Lori Defilippis’ father), Helga Mitze, Mary Ellen Moyse (George’s wife), Gail Molo-ney, Leida Munoz (Marta Scherer’s friend), Ruth Odwazny, Keith Perry (Bonnie Beach-Gadigian’s friend), Joan Peterson (Eleanor Pearson’s sister in law), Tristan Phillips (Grace Berry’s great grandaughter), Kyle Pira-neo, Nick Portugal (Liam Broggy’s friend), Justin Rogers (Karin Kienle’s nephew) and his parents Christine & Tom Greenwood, Fred Ruff, Ashley Ruth, Julia Saprenza, Glenn Scha-bel, Margaret Schulze (Judy Hinsch’s friend), Arlene Schroeder (Virginia’s sister in law), Virginia Schroeder, Genevieve Sounia, Ian Spadaro, Maria Spergel (Suzanna Allan’s mother), Roy Steinhilber, Joyce Tare, Peggy Taylor (Amy Pietrofere’s friend), and Leon Thompson (Lisa Olsen’s father).

T H O S E S E R V I N GT H O S E S E R V I N GT H O S E S E R V I N GT H O S E S E R V I N G

I N T H E M I L I T A R YI N T H E M I L I T A R YI N T H E M I L I T A R YI N T H E M I L I T A R Y

Keith & Kyle Calderone (Army), Specialist Sean Hassett (Lori Mason’s cousin), David Jacobs (Joyce Tare’s nephew, Alec & Madi-son’s cousin), CPT. Paul Rickmeyer, LTC. Phillip Sounia, USMC Lance Corporal Nicho-las Ventrelli-O’Connell (Patty Larson’s family friend), and Christopher Zito (Mary Knotek’s friend).

Roger Griffith & Nick Sollom

The friends and family of Jack Neff, Robert Fiedler, Peter Marcel, Doreen Winter, Dominick Binetti, Isabel Boykin, and Doro-thy Vogel, the Ryan and Lombardo families, and the people of Newtown, CT.

T H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V IT H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V IT H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V IT H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V I N GN GN GN G

Wednesday, March 27

7:30 p.m.

Prayer Service

for Healing & Anointing with Oil

Maundy Thursday, March 28

7:30 p.m.

Holy Eucharist & Foot Washing

Good Friday, March 29

Noon – 2:00 p.m.

Church will be open for prayer & meditation

(Pastor Eric will be available for

prayer & counsel)

2:00 p.m.

Stations of the Cross

7:30 p.m.

Tenebrae

Holy Saturday, March 30

7:30 p.m.

Easter Vigil (part 1)

Easter Sunday, March 31

6:00 a.m.

Sunrise Holy Eucharist

(Easter Vigil part 2)

8:30 a.m. – 9:30 a.m.

Easter Breakfast

9:00 a.m.

Easter Egg Hunt

10:00 a.m.

Resurrection of our Lord Celebration

Holy Communion

Saturdays @ 5:30 p.m.

Sundays @ 8:00 & 10:00 a.m.

Wednesday Gatherings

February 20 & 28

March 6, 13, 20 & 27

6:15 p.m.

Soup & Bread Supper

7:30 p.m.

Kimberly AllanKimberly AllanKimberly AllanKimberly Allan————2/272/272/272/27

Martha BerardinoMartha BerardinoMartha BerardinoMartha Berardino————2/262/262/262/26

Alexis DiSapioAlexis DiSapioAlexis DiSapioAlexis DiSapio————2/152/152/152/15

Calista DiSapioCalista DiSapioCalista DiSapioCalista DiSapio————2/202/202/202/20

Sabrina GreigSabrina GreigSabrina GreigSabrina Greig————2/282/282/282/28

Brianna HansenBrianna HansenBrianna HansenBrianna Hansen————2/272/272/272/27

Kristina JordanKristina JordanKristina JordanKristina Jordan————2/222/222/222/22

Loré KachianosLoré KachianosLoré KachianosLoré Kachianos————2/222/222/222/22

Dillon Kwarta 2/16Dillon Kwarta 2/16Dillon Kwarta 2/16Dillon Kwarta 2/16

Matthew MarlinMatthew MarlinMatthew MarlinMatthew Marlin————2/222/222/222/22

Ann OckerAnn OckerAnn OckerAnn Ocker————2/202/202/202/20

Skylar PekarekSkylar PekarekSkylar PekarekSkylar Pekarek————2/42/42/42/4

Josef SauerackerJosef SauerackerJosef SauerackerJosef Saueracker————2/12/12/12/1

Gunhild SchabelGunhild SchabelGunhild SchabelGunhild Schabel————2/182/182/182/18

Lauren SieloffLauren SieloffLauren SieloffLauren Sieloff————2/32/32/32/3

Nancy StingelinNancy StingelinNancy StingelinNancy Stingelin————2/272/272/272/27

DATE SERVICE ASSISTING MINISTER LECTOR FLOWER CARE

February 3

Fourth Sunday after Epiphany 10:00 a.m. Marilyn Benner Lori Mason Kitty Hall

February 10

Transfiguration of our Lord 10:00 a.m. Lori Mason Marilyn Benner Kitty Hall

February 13

Ash Wednesday 7:30 p.m. Terry Miccio Gretel Saul LENT

February 17

First Sunday In Lent 10:00 a.m. Ellen Sangesland Cathy Volllono LENT

February 24

Second Sunday in Lent 10:00 a.m. Anne Rickmeyer Richard Benson LENT

UPDATE FOR JANUARY 2013

WITH COUNSELING SITES LOCATED IN: NASSAU SUFFOLK MANHATTAN QUEENS WESTCHESTER

Prepared especially for LCC Association Congregations & Schools

Valentine’s Day this month will once again gen-

erate much ado about love and relationships, much

of it idealized and fueled by abundant roses and

chocolates! But a closer look by women at the man

in their life, and by men themselves, can reveal a

painful portrait of isolation, anxiety, depression and

rage. Many men are hurting, and as a conse-

quence, so are their relationships.

It’s never been easy being a man, navigating

the development of a strong and healthy male

identity, and even less so today. The recent reces-

sion has been called a “man-cession” because of its

disproportionate impact on men. Skills in which

women excel such as open communication and so-

cial orientation put men at a disadvantage. It’s no

longer a “man’s world,” and values typically seen

as male are no longer as prized by society. The cul-

ture has undergone dramatic shifts, leaving men

confused, anxious and frustrated about their place

and role in the world. All the while, man’s anxiety

about proving his masculinity shows up in risky be-

haviors and higher rates of alcoholism, suicide and

early death. No wonder a recent Atlantic Monthly

cover story could trumpet “The End of Men.”

Gender may have a biological basis, but the

construction of the masculine self is a lifelong pro-

ject, constantly revised. From infancy on, males

take on two quite different ways of being: the Al-

pha male’s proudly assertive, autonomous, aggres-

sive nature; and the more reflective, sensitive na-

ture intent on attachment and connection.

Throughout life, the male will oscillate between

these two “positions,” with the task of realizing his

male ego ideal through their integration. That may

take many shapes and forms, for there is no one

set pathway to male identity and a wide spectrum

of masculinities—the artist as much as the athlete,

the “life of the party” as much as the strong, silent

“Marlboro Man.”

Life experiences, culture and faith all have their

impact. Often boys are not allowed to be boys, re-

sulting in guilt and hidden shame. Developing later

than girls, they experience more early failures.

Moving from attachment to the mother and longing

for the father and his blessing mark their journey

of individuation-separation. Today, many young

men isolate in a fantasy world of video games, with

yet more shame; the male slacker, in a rut, without

viable prospects of career, marriage or family,

seethes with anger. The married/partnered male

encounters other challenges, the pressures of work

and home and holding at bay dashed dreams and

creeping disillusionment. And the man advancing in

age must again define his masculine self, with

emerging inner potentialities of integrity and grati-

tude as life nears its end.

Men are hurting, both in self and in relationship.

Yet they do not ordinarily seek out help; two-thirds

of psychotherapy clients are women. But my ex-

perience with male clients and in facilitating men’s

groups has convinced me that contrary to the

stereotypes, men soon welcome the opportunity to

express themselves, to tell their story and examine

it, and in so doing come to know self and one an-

other in a deeper, affirming way. The life of faith

can be of great benefit in this process-- the Gos-

pel’s declaration of divine love, in the gift of the

created, redeemed and Spirit-endowed self power-

fully anchoring and liberating the male identity.

Women can reach out to the man in their life by

recognizing and affirming his uniqueness as a

male; by listening with care when he wants to talk;

by supporting participation in a men’s group or in-

dividual therapy; and by just being with him in his

“search of the masculine self.”

The Rev. Dr. David Elseroad is pastor of Trinity Lutheran

Church in Hawthorne, NY. Dr. Elseroad is fluent in

French and Spanish. His background includes work in

multicultural ministries and experience as a pastor, hos-

pital chaplain, missionary and teacher. He has a Doctor-

ate of Ministry in Pastoral Counseling from Hebrew Union

College—Jewish Institute of Religion and the Post-

graduate Center for Mental Health, NY. He is also a NY

state licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and sees

teens, couples, adults and families at LCC’s Manhattan,

Bronxville, and Mineola sites.

Contact Lutheran Counseling Center at 516-741-0994 or

1-800-317-1173 or e-mail us at Center@lccny.org for

more information or to set an appointment at any of our

eight regular counseling sites or at our temporary site in Staten Island. Visit our website at www.lccny.org .

IN SEARCH OF THE MASCULINE SELF

by Rev. David Elseroad, D.Min., Pastoral Psychotherapist

“You are the man.”—2 Samuel 12:7

HeartHeartHeartHeart

Hearts ache

Hearts break

Hearts are broken

We mourn our losses

loved ones return to God

personal challenges

relationships

natural disasters

national tragedies

Our hearts are broken wide-open,

we cry,

we soften,

we connect,

to the heart of what matters

We become soft-hearted

tender hearts

feeling the pain

feeling compassion arise

feeling connected again

Take heart

Open your heart

Share your heart

The world needs heart, all our hearts.........wide open.

Written by: Kathryn A. Prinz

Oyster Bay, NY

December, 2012