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Transcript of FAMILY FOOD LOVE
Thank you! Family Food Love
Lori Jean Glass Executive Director of
Clinical Operations Five Sisters Ranch
CRC, CPC, CBC
Dr. Louise Stanger Ed.D, LCSW, CIP, CDWF-Candidate
Robyn Cruze National Recovery
Advocate Eating Recovery Center
Family…
• Turn to your neighbor
• Introduce Yourself
• Say one or two words that pop in your head when you say the word FAMILY.
Greeting…
To All of You
To Be Courageous
To Engage in The Conversation
What do your clients do?
Non Linear - Collaborative
Importance of Understanding The Narrative
Family Mapping
Our Work gets Messy
Live with Possibility
The Work Is Not Done
Relationship with Food …
It’s all about Relationships…
Food…
Culture Body Ideal…
Diet mentality: “The Paleo diet is the only way for me.”
I’ll get fat if I eat what my body asks me to eat.”
“If I eat sugar I won’t be able to stop.”
“If I loose control of my food, I’ll become addicted to food like I did substance.”
“I’ll be judged if I eat what I want.”
Can you think of any other beliefs?
Additional Belief Obstacles…
How do we form our relationship to food?
Family
Peers
Media
The Relationship with Food…
Rebuilding a Relationship with Your Body and The Food You Put in It
The Body Conversation ™�
1. Listen
2. Connect
3. Respond
�The Body Conversation ™ --
1. Listen:
Rebuilding the foundation. A safety structure to explore our relationship.
Time and portions No “good”/”bad” foods Can you hear your body signals?
The Body Conversation ™ (Cont’d) 2. Connect:
Taking queues from body signals and responding thoughtfully and considerately. Learning to communicate
3. Respond:
Deepening the connection with your body. Listening, honoring and loving for optimum health. A new inspired relationship
The Body Conversation ™ (Cont’d)
Connection
Connection to food is the connection to life
Connection of life is the connection to others
Connection to intimacy and love
Positive Loop of Recovery
Connection to Love…
Love…
Living
Wound Pain-body
Learn to Tolerate
and Manage “Self Management”
Origin: Attachment Addiction Trauma
Experiences: Process Addictions
Addictions Protest Behavior
Secretive Behavior
Anxious Frozen
Depressed Fearful
Not Enough Invisible
Feel
Self-Awareness Self-Care
Social Awareness
Relational Wounded Cycle…Family – Food - Love
Relational Alignment
The Cake! The Pain…
Original Wound… “Origin”
• Obsessive … experience is the deep desire to be in a relationship or the fantasy of falling in love (from feeling the un-met longing) Clinging – Obsessing
• Avoidance … experience is not letting anyone too close. Close is uncomfortable - pulls you out of the relationship -escape (from the feeling of engulfment) Avoiding – Hiding
How we love… adaptation to attachment wound
• Ambivalent … experience keeps you in and out of relationship. Questioning everything… unable to decide (from the feeling of un-met longing and engulfment) Push - Pull
How we “attach” with the wound
Avoidant Attachment Anxious Energy
Un-Met Longing
Binge Eating - Bulimia Anxiety Disorder Love Addiction Codependency Alcoholism – Drug Addiction Work . Work . Work
Tolerance for High Risk Behavior
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Anxious Attachment Avoidant Energy Engulfment Food Restricting
Love Avoidance Depression Pills / Drug Addiction Sex/ Porn Addiction Cutting
Secretive Behavior
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Anxious/Avoidant Attachment Ambivalent Energy
Sex AND Love Addiction Depression AND Anxiety Food Restricting AND Bingeing Borderline Personality Disorder Alcohol/Drug Addiction Smoking
FREEZE
Not Knowing
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Healing the “Love”…
Understand the “phases”…
Relational Realities
Understand the “phases”…
Relational Realities
Ours
TheirsMine
Honeymoon…
Come Together…
Settling…
Celebration…
What to do? • Attachment Work Family mapping Understand messages… Understand Patterns • Be the Good Student
of Self
Identify Core Belief, Original Wound, Painbody
• Self-Efficacy Apply systems: Listen, Connect,Respond/ Think, Feel Do
Don't think Control, think Connect (Get Curious) Don’t think Rules, think Equations If you do this… this is will happen (Accountability) Don’t think Lecture, think LAB (Experiential)
“When our mind thinks in alignment with how our heart feels and we have the courage to take proper action with our feet – we have achieved a verticality t h a t i s h e a l t h y , responsible, and results in finding our true self.” Lori Jean Glass
Copyright 2016 Lori Jean Glass LLC
Thank you!
Lori Jean Glass Executive Director of Clinical Operations Five Sisters Ranch
CRC, CPC, CBC
Dr. Louise Stanger Ed.D, LCSW, CIP, CDWF-Candidate
Robyn Cruze MA., National Recovery
Advocate Eating Recovery Center