FFAMILIES & FRIENDS OF

MURDER VICTIMS, Inc. (FFMV)

Newsletter May 2016

Thank-you: *Carol Anderson – Website

*Kaiser – Oakland *Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta

*St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland *Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church

Grand Terrace *First United Methodist Church of La Puente

* United Methodist Church of Sepulveda *San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of

Victim Services/Victim Advocates *Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim

Services/Victim Advocates

* Linda Rodriguez – Mother of Angel - Memory Cards *Janet Garcia & Barbara Christian

Facebook administrators * Deuce Players – IE

* Crime Victims United - CVU * Ellie Rossi – Mother of David and Lisa

* San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office for

sponsoring newsletter for 2016*

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Robin (center) FFMV Oakland Chapter

leader joined us at the Capitol.

Need Someone to Talk To? * Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking

(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm) Rialto CA

*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after 4pm)

Redlands CA

*Dawn Hall – Parent (951) 757-4419 –

Murrieta CA

*Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317) Emergency

Consult for Suicidal or

Homicidal Participants

*Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-662-4373 –

High Dessert

*Donna Lozano - Parent – 760-660-9054

* Palm Springs/Coachella Valley 10am-9pm

*Linda Rodriguez -Parent – 951-369-0010-Home –

951-732-3255 - Riverside

* Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133 Redlands CA

* Delores Maloy- Parent – High Desert

Contact – 760-530-7027

* Shayla Adams – 760-475-3774

* Richard McVoy – Adult Sibling –

909-503-5456 – Grand Terrace CA

* Tanya Powell - Parent – 760-596-2292-

Upland CA

Families & Friends of Murder Victims: A non-profit organization Dedicated to providing information, support, and friendship to persons who have experienced the death of a loved one through the violent act of murder Share Sorrow….. Share Strength Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to provide a pathway to well-being to those who have lost a loved one to murder and to those who are victims of attempted murder.

Love Gifts

Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted in newsletter. They are also made by caring professionals, organizations to help in the work that FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others and operating expenses. When making out a check, please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on

check or envelope. Love Gifts can be mailed to FFMV- P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - 92423-1222

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Thank-you

Janet Garcia Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94

Barbara Christian Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell –4/10/63 – 1/8/81

FFMV - Riverside Chapter

Meets on the 3rd Wednesday of every month at 7pm

Avaxat Elementary School, 24300 La Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA

Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419 Contact Dawn by May 17th to confirm you will

be attending meeting on the 18th

FFMV - Colton Chapter

1st Tuesday of every month Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church

Robinson Hall – Room 6 12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA

92313 Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm

Contact person for directions or information Rose – 909-754-6969

mail4ffmv@yahoo.com

Oakland Chapter

1st Tuesday of every month

Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at Broadway, 7pm-9pm

12th floor Room 1200 East Contact: Robin – 510-653-8069

Sandra – 510-691-7089

Grief Support Group ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings.

Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you

are suffering the loss of a loved one and in

need to talk to someone, we are here to listen

and share emotions.

Together and with the help of the Lord, we

can help each other heal.

Meetings are held every 2nd Wednesday of the

month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8

St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave. San

Bernardino (909)887-3810

Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163

Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387

(FFMV Participants)

Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744

FFMV West End Chapter -Bi-lingual

Meets every 2nd Thursday of every month at

7:00pm-8:30pm St. Anthony’s Catholic Church

Conference Room 2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786

Participants have the option of the English & Spanish Meeting

Local Grupo Bilingue Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés

o en Español Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a

las 7:00 p.m. Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:

Rita Marin (909) 215-7063 rittaatffmv@aol.com

Contact Rita by May 11th to confirm you will be attending meeting on the 12th

FFMV – SGV Chapter

Meetings are on the 2nd Tuesday of each month 7pm-9pm in a classroom at the First United

Methodist Church of La Puente, located at. 15701 Hill Street, La Puente, CA 91744

Contact information:

* Luz Ruiz (626) 388-6403 *Tracy Ponce (626) 533-3121

Bridge to Our Angels

Grieving Parents of Adult & Young Children

Mondays @ 4pm

Christ the Servant Lutheran Church Fellowship

Hall 2 South Pecos RD. Henderson NV 89074

Facilitated by Grieving parents

Sharon 702-238-8722 & Donna 702-688-1367

Janet, Rose, LaWanda (JFMC) & Juenenne at the Capitol

FFMV Fundraisers Office Depot - Staples – Office Max If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Office Depot which is 1139461170 Office Max – 650756207, Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803 for all three. We get reward points that help defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and office supplies.

PLEASE….Don‘t throw away your old ink cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or take them to Office Max, Staples or Office

Depot and give them 909-798-4803 It’s an easy way to help

FFMV purchase office supplies.

FFMV SGV Chapter News Announcements Luz shared that she would like to sell bracelets as a fundraiser for our chapter. These bracelets would be personalized with our loved one’s names on it and Luz Ruiz will make them herself. Each bracelet will cost $15. She will be posting pictures of the bracelets on her Facebook Page soon. She is taking orders now.

On behalf of Families & Friends of Murder

Victims, I was honored to accept this award

for Exemplary Service to Victims of Crime

presented by The San Bernardino County

District Attorney’s Office on April 11th.

Thank you on behalf of FFMV board,

chapter leaders, and supporters!

Resources and Additional Support Services

San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office

of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino

(909) 382-3846

Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241*

Victorville/Desert area: (760)552-6947

Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of

Victim Witness Centers:

Riverside: (951) 955-5450

Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130

* Indio: (760) 863-8408

*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim

Witness Assistance Program offices:

Pomona: 909) 620-3381

*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts.

323-816-9651 www.laurala.org

* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website

www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice

*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348

www.wagv.org

* Crime Victims United of California –

530-885-9544 www.crimevictimsunited.com or

mail@crimevictimsunited.com

* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA)

www.trynova.org

* Victims of Crime Resources Center (800)

VICTIMS

* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org

* Greater Orange County POMC –

Marie – 714-999-7132 – 562-508-2397

* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944

* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367

* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470

MOVE@cox.net

* Resource for the Grieving and

* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895

www.crimesurvivors.com

*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS –

(310) 457-0030 -

jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com

* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities

-S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com

oneunikadvocate2@aol.com

* Survivors of Murdered Children SGV Chapter – Tina-626-298-9054 -tinayyama@att.net

*Homicide Survivors Support Group

Meets every 2nd Tuesday at 7pm Solono Family Justice Center

604 Empire St. Fairfield CA Contacts: Valerie Dodini v.dodin.law@sbcglobal.net

Rita Edmonds-Norris at 707631

May 2016

Birthdays and Memories

You don’t get over your Grief by FORGETTING…

We get Thru Grief by REMEMBERING….

MAY BIRTHDAYS

Abel Gonzales Alicia Chagolla

Amber Fink Angelo “EIO” Huerta

Ashley Caldera Benjamin Armenta

Brian Doyel Cassandra Koochek

Chad Jeffrey Norris Chris Sanchez

Daniel Hernandez Daniel Svoboda

Eduardo “Eddy” Vargas Elena Sylvia Perez

Enrique Cerda John J. Martin

John Hillrich Jr. Joshua Michael Huizar

Lisel Wiedemann LonnyWilliams

Mario Quiroz Michael Ribaudo

Neal Williams Nikita Walton

Richard Flores Jr. II Robert Anthony Marquez

Robert Minjares Rudy Munoz

Ryan Blakeslee Sedrick Mills

Thomas J Sternad William Jacob Crader Jr.

MAY – In Loving Memory Anthony Rodriguez Ashley Caldera

Balam Alcarez Brian Brooks

Bryan O’Meara Corrina Wilson

Demetrius Lanier Williams Dominic T. Reed

Enrique Bermudez Franky Mosqueda

Guillermo Carbajal Jarred Mitchell

John Martin Jordon Alan Vigil Sr.

Jose Tamez Karl Dan Claes

Lori Renee Gonzalez Mario Flores

Marques Lemar Johnson Mark Anthony Minchaca

Michael Andrew Rosas Michael Espino

Rhonda McNamara Robert AnthonyMarquez

Ronald Saxton Sebastian Oriol

LOVE GIFTS In Loving Memory In Loving Memory In Loving Memory

Mario Quiroz Lisel Wiedmann Chad Jeffrey Norris 5/14/68 – 1/25/06

In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11 Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)

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FFMV’s 17th Annual Memorial held April 14, 2016 was another success!

Thank You RC Civic Center Staff and Council Members, Bill Alexander, SBCDA Mike Ramos. Flerida Alarcon Chief of Victim Services, Victim Advocates for all your continuous help and support : Lucy Drake Victim Advocate II-Victorville DAs office, Barbara Rivera-Loa Supervising Victim Advocate -Victorville DAs Office, Margarita Gonzalez Victim Advocate II -Rancho Cucamonga DAs office, Sonja Gonzales Victim Advocate II- Rancho Cucamonga DAs office, Tish Levine Victim Advocate II - Rancho Cucamonga DAs office, Francine Estrada Victim Advocate II - Rancho Cucamonga DAs office, Miriam Torres Victim Advocate-Rancho Cucamonga DAs office, Lorraine Aguirre Victim Advocate II San Bernardino DAs office Alfred Moore, San Bernardino DAs office, Pat Cornish Victim Services Office Assistant Rancho Cucamonga. Our speakers FFMV’s youngest guest speaker Alina Star Ponce-Daughter of Eileen Nicole Ponce, John Carson – Father of Michelle Jeannette Carson, and Marilyn Necochea – Sister of Michele Rene Flores. Eryana Gurule Girl Scout Troop 427, Alaena Martinez, Renee Martinez, Janet Garcia, Juenenne Jackson, Kristy Dawn, Ellie Rossi, Glenda Bloom Ackley Buttons and Ribbons in Loving Memory of Phillip “Ben” Ackley & Desi Karlic Ackley, Desi Ramos, making buttons. Our Chapter leaders, and all who continue to support FFMV. A special thank you to my sister Rita Marin for planning our beautiful 2016 memorial!

Some of the Victim Advocates Our Speakers

CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)

Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County District Attorney's Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent

death in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience.

At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed to help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This camp

has been so successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previously participated in

Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be a combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good Grief Peer Counselors. Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapists and

interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate their time to the camp.

The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue fundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future Camp Good

Grief-SVP programs. Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073

Another “Mother’s” Day

By: Jon Plour

This poem is dedicated to all grieving moms

Another “Mother’s” Day without your loving child is here,

No matter how long since your child has died, the pain is always near.

I watch the expression on her face, As she rises in the morning, something is out of place.

She tries to smile as she hides her terrible pain,

The tears in her eyes begin to fall like a gentle rain.

Mother’s Day was always a day of happiness and joyful bliss, After her child’s death, she cries as she longs for their gentle kiss.

No more handmade cards or gifts to make her smile, She treasures the past memories that will bring her peace for a little while.

Watching all those other children and families lovingly embrace their mom, Leaves her feeling so jealous, angry and ready to explode like a bomb.

She can’t help feel like she is out of place, You can see the sadness her face.

Her other children feel her deep pain too, It is so hard, they know not what to do.

Their love for their mom will always be true,

She knows how much she is loved, though, she is blue.

Mother’s Day should be a day of enjoying her happy children behave,

Not a day of shedding tears at her beloved, dead child’s grave.

For all moms who have had a child die, We love you and understand why you cry.

We wish you much love, comfort and peace each and every day,

We know that you love and miss your beautiful child on, Another “Mother’s” Day.

Septemb

I have been fortunate to have attended two different training sessions that Connie Saindon has taught. Thank you Sister Terry and her Community for the funding on this last training. I have now facilitated and co facilitated two 10week Journey Classes Thank you Connie for this opportunity … Rose Madsen

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A great turn-out!

Thank You Deuce Players

Proceeds will benefit FFMV’s Annual Victims Christmas Memorial, thank you Deuce Players for hosting this fundraiser! Vendors Welcomed Bring your family and support Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC

Contact Larry Diaz for more information (909) 332-8774.

From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the

Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV

In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber 12/02/73 – 11/10/94

A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader, Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA

Victims’ Rights week was again a very busy week, I attended 5 beautiful events hosted by other organizations, this year along with Janet Garcia & Juenenne Jackson, we attended the March on the Capitol and Crime Victims United Annual Victims Dinner, thank you Harriet Salarno for this opportunity. Guest speaker at the dinner was Jarrod Burguan Chief of Police City of San Bernardino. We also shared the evening with LaWanda Hawkins (JFMC) and Mike Ramos SBDA! Thank you Senator Jim Brulte (Ret.) for sponsoring FFMV’s table! FFMV’s 17th annual vigil was another success and I appreciate the hard work Rita Marin put into it and all the support that was given to FFMV to make our memorial meaningful for all who attended. During this week I got to meet many of my FB friends, re-connect with friends that I see once a year and I also met many new agencies that I can begin to network with. Many of FFMV participants were at various events, which was nice to see them honor their loved one. Mother’s Day is quickly approaching and as you all may know, this is a very difficult day for me and many

other moms. I will be thinking of all Moms on Mother's Day and especially Mothers who have lost their

children or mother to violence.

I will take a deep breath and pray for a peaceful day for all Moms!

My beautiful Jen…..I can no longer…See you with my eyes…Touch you with my hands… But I will feel you in my heart….Forever…Love, Mom

E-mail me your outcome of your court process, status of your case or upcoming events, and I will post

on our newsletter.

Thoughtfully,

Rose

FFMV Executive Board

Rose Madsen – Chair, Mother of Jennifer LeAnne Balber

Dawn Hall– Vice Chair, Mother of Joshua Rexford

Rita Marin – Secretary, Aunt of Jennifer LeAnne Balber

Bertha Flores – Treasurer, Mother of Kristopher Flores

Justice Served for Vanessa Martinez Sentence on April 14, 2016 * Life WITHOUT Parole *

FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of attempted murder. Our main purpose is to offer grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions regarding the policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to 909-754-6969 FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Service.Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims’ Rights Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact FFMV at the above e-mail or phone if you are interested. Tax ID #68-0299211 All Contributions Are Tax Deductible

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Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)

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