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A-INTRODUCTION TO EQ-1f2 DAY

Objecti~ This session is designed as a primer to introduce some basic concepts of emoshytional intelligence It is designed for leaders at any level who would like to learn more about how emotions impact the workplace The participant vJill

1 Learn that emotions are an integral part of everyones work experience and are impacted by the leader

2 Learn about the impact between emotions and productivity and quality

3 Explore how and why the leader should find reasons to express gratitude in the workplace

4 Learn how to create a positive team environment through visuals

Icebreaker ActivityIntroductions 15 min

EO 1 Champion or Chump 40 min

EO 15 AGrateful Heart 40 min

EO 16 Gifts 40 min

Break 15 min

EO 50 The Power of Pictures 50 + 10 min per person

Wrap-Up Summary 15 min

FORMAT B-EQ ESSENTIAL5-1 DAY

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work team and equips the leader with some guidelines for addressing hisher emotions in the workplace The participant will

1 Learn that emotions are an integral part of everyones work experience and are impacted by the leader

2 Learn the connection between emotions and productivity and quality

3 Lean how and why the leader should find reasons to express gratitude in the workplace

4 Identify his or her emotions in the workplace and the impact the emotions have on his or her team

5 Develop guidelines for expressing emotions that contribute to the overall producshytivity and quality of the team

Icebreaker ActivityIntroductions 15 min

EO 1 Champion or Chump 40 min

EO 4 Rank Order Your Employees 50 min

Break 15 min

EO 3 Adding Fuel to the Importance Meter 55 min

Lunch

EO 15 AGrateful Heart 40 min

EO 16 Gifts 40 min

Break 15 min

EO 9 Coming Through 85 min

Wrap-Up Summary 15 min

FORMAT C-EQ STRATEGIES-2 DAYS

Objectives This two-day workshop gives leaders the basic groundwork about how emotions impact the workplace It also explores how the leaders emotions impact his or her work team and equips the leader with some guidelines for addressing hisher emotions in the workplace In addition this workshop helps leaders to discover their core purpose and vision as it relates to being a leader The participant will

1 Learn that emotions are an integral part of everyones work experience and are impacted by the leader

2 Learn that emotions impact productivity and quality output

3 Discover how and why the leader should find reasons to express gratitude in the workplace

4 Learn how to identify his or her emotions in the workplace and the impact the emotions have on his or her team

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5 Develop guildelines for expressing emotions that contribute to the overall producshytivity and quality of the team

6 Explore his or her fundamental beliefs and values about leadership that drive his her workplace behavior

7 Evaluate which beliefs and values contribute positively and negatively to his or her leadership approach

Day 1

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EO 1

EO 2

EO 3

Lunch

EQ 15

EQ 16

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EQ 9

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Adding Fuel to the Importance Meter

AGrateful Heart

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EO 8

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EQ 30

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Great Vision

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Take a Stand

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Wrap-Up Summary

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OBJECTIVES

bull To help participants become familiar with the past feelings that certain leaders fostered

bull To determine exactly what those leaders did to foster certain feelings

ESTIMATED TIME

40 minutes

MATERIALS

Emotional Intelligence Exercise 1

RISKDIFFICULTY

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This EO activity is designed to help participants realize the impact that the leader has on the follower By reaching back into our memories of both positive and negative examples in our own work life leaders can become sensitive to the power they have to influence and foster work environments This EO activity will build self-awareness by examining the individuals emotional environment

Use this activity to begin a discussion of how significant it is for leaders to give followers a sense of importance and significance

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1 Overview

A Explain to the individual or group that in order to gain high productivity high creativity or high Quality workers must believe that what they do is important For most people if they believe the task they are doing is not important it is difficult if not impossible to give their full degree of commitment to that task

B Also explain to the group that not only the task must feel valued and Significant but the person doing the task must also feel valued in order to bring out the best performance In addition to the task being imporshytant it is your job as leaders to create the kind of environment that also helps foster a sense of importance in the people doing the job

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2 Objective

The purpose of this exercise is to help you remember from your own storeshyhouse of information and knowledge times when a leader helped create asense of significance or importance in you In addition this exercise will also help you remember times when you did not feel significant or important and the impact that had on your desire to work to your full potential

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3 Give Directions

A Give participants Exercise 1

B Ask the participants to complete the table on the page by filling in speshycific examples of when they felt like a champion or like a chump Ask them to think about specific bosses they have had and what exactly those bosses did to foster feelings of being a champion or chump

C Tell the participants to focus on actions that the boss took related to making them and their work feel important and significant

D Give the group or the individual some examples

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bull To visually represent where to place efforts in order to improve the level of importance that people experience in the workplace

ESTIMATED TIME

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Emotional Intelligence Exercise 2

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This activity will encourage leaders to regard followers as individuals Also it will help leaders know what to give each follower so that they can do their best

Leaders with high EQ have highly developed radar that helps them to sense the feelings and perspectives of others This exercise helps develop that radar by asking the participant to imagine things from the employees perspective

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1 Overview 2 minutes A Explain to the individual or group that it is possible to give certain indishy

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B Also explain that as a leader it is important to manage how much sigshynificance you place on the work of your people It is also important to strive for a sense that all work is important Whether the person is the janitor or the CEO they should be made to believe that their work is significant

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The purpose of this exercise is to think about each person who works for you Then to demonstrate visually (1) how much importance you place on each persons task and (2) how much importance you place on each person doing the task

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B Ask the participants to list each person on their staff and write their name on the Ime to the left of the importance meter

C Ask the participants to consider what they do each day to help that person realize that heshe and hisher task are of importance

D Instruct the participants to draw a line on the meter to the right that would indicate the level of importance they give each person in their group

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G Ask the participants to complete the worksheet Stay available to answer 10-20 minutes questions

4 Debrief the exercise with the following questions 40 minutes A Are your employees filled up or running on empty

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1 Overview 2 minutes

A Explain to the individual or group that emotional intelligence can be translated to behaviors on the job The leader with high emotional intellishygence acts in ways that influence followers Giving followers a strong sense of importance is essential to good leadership Explain that there is no set pattern for the leader to do this instead the leader must hand craft actions that will fuel a sense of importance in hisher employees Also explain that each employee is different and therefore will respond to different actions In order to get the fullest commitment possible from your employees as leaders you must find ways that help each employee to feel significant It is your role as the leader to add fuel to your employees I mportance Meter

2 Objective

The purpose of this exercise is to help you identify specific ways to influence and inspire your followers by bolstering their sense of importance The goal of this exercise is for you to come up with very concrete actions that you think will help your employees feel important because employees who feel important are more apt to be productive and creative However each employee is differshyent and therefore it will take different actions for each employee

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3 Give Directions A Give the participants Exercise 3 B Ask the participants to list each employees name on the worksheet

C After each employees name ask the participant to list a fevv specific actions that the participant could take to contribute to that persons sense of importance

D Instruct the participants to consider two types of actions

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(2) Actions aimed at making the persons tasks have value Especially spend some time considering some of the mundane tasks that emshyployees are asked to do Participants should ask themselves how they could bolster the importance of these tasks

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F Ask participants to complete the worksheet Stay available to answer 15-20 minutes questions

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2 Learn the connection between emotions and productivity and quality

3 Lean how and why the leader should find reasons to express gratitude in the workplace

4 Identify his or her emotions in the workplace and the impact the emotions have on his or her team

5 Develop guidelines for expressing emotions that contribute to the overall producshytivity and quality of the team

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EO 1 Champion or Chump 40 min

EO 4 Rank Order Your Employees 50 min

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EO 3 Adding Fuel to the Importance Meter 55 min

Lunch

EO 15 AGrateful Heart 40 min

EO 16 Gifts 40 min

Break 15 min

EO 9 Coming Through 85 min

Wrap-Up Summary 15 min

FORMAT C-EQ STRATEGIES-2 DAYS

Objectives This two-day workshop gives leaders the basic groundwork about how emotions impact the workplace It also explores how the leaders emotions impact his or her work team and equips the leader with some guidelines for addressing hisher emotions in the workplace In addition this workshop helps leaders to discover their core purpose and vision as it relates to being a leader The participant will

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2 Learn that emotions impact productivity and quality output

3 Discover how and why the leader should find reasons to express gratitude in the workplace

4 Learn how to identify his or her emotions in the workplace and the impact the emotions have on his or her team

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7 Evaluate which beliefs and values contribute positively and negatively to his or her leadership approach

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ESTIMATED TIME

40 minutes

MATERIALS

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RISKDIFFICULTY

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Use this activity to begin a discussion of how significant it is for leaders to give followers a sense of importance and significance

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A Explain to the individual or group that in order to gain high productivity high creativity or high Quality workers must believe that what they do is important For most people if they believe the task they are doing is not important it is difficult if not impossible to give their full degree of commitment to that task

B Also explain to the group that not only the task must feel valued and Significant but the person doing the task must also feel valued in order to bring out the best performance In addition to the task being imporshytant it is your job as leaders to create the kind of environment that also helps foster a sense of importance in the people doing the job

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The purpose of this exercise is to help you remember from your own storeshyhouse of information and knowledge times when a leader helped create asense of significance or importance in you In addition this exercise will also help you remember times when you did not feel significant or important and the impact that had on your desire to work to your full potential

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A Give participants Exercise 1

B Ask the participants to complete the table on the page by filling in speshycific examples of when they felt like a champion or like a chump Ask them to think about specific bosses they have had and what exactly those bosses did to foster feelings of being a champion or chump

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1 Overview 2 minutes A Explain to the individual or group that it is possible to give certain indishy

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B Ask the participants to list each person on their staff and write their name on the Ime to the left of the importance meter

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4 Debrief the exercise with the following questions 40 minutes A Are your employees filled up or running on empty

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F Ask participants to complete the worksheet Stay available to answer 15-20 minutes questions

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OBJECTIVES

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bull To determine exactly what those leaders did to foster certain feelings

ESTIMATED TIME

40 minutes

MATERIALS

Emotional Intelligence Exercise 1

RISKDIFFICULTY

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Use this activity to begin a discussion of how significant it is for leaders to give followers a sense of importance and significance

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1 Overview

A Explain to the individual or group that in order to gain high productivity high creativity or high Quality workers must believe that what they do is important For most people if they believe the task they are doing is not important it is difficult if not impossible to give their full degree of commitment to that task

B Also explain to the group that not only the task must feel valued and Significant but the person doing the task must also feel valued in order to bring out the best performance In addition to the task being imporshytant it is your job as leaders to create the kind of environment that also helps foster a sense of importance in the people doing the job

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The purpose of this exercise is to help you remember from your own storeshyhouse of information and knowledge times when a leader helped create asense of significance or importance in you In addition this exercise will also help you remember times when you did not feel significant or important and the impact that had on your desire to work to your full potential

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3 Give Directions

A Give participants Exercise 1

B Ask the participants to complete the table on the page by filling in speshycific examples of when they felt like a champion or like a chump Ask them to think about specific bosses they have had and what exactly those bosses did to foster feelings of being a champion or chump

C Tell the participants to focus on actions that the boss took related to making them and their work feel important and significant

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ESTIMATED TIME

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1 Overview 2 minutes A Explain to the individual or group that it is possible to give certain indishy

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The purpose of this exercise is to think about each person who works for you Then to demonstrate visually (1) how much importance you place on each persons task and (2) how much importance you place on each person doing the task

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B Ask the participants to list each person on their staff and write their name on the Ime to the left of the importance meter

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4 Debrief the exercise with the following questions 40 minutes A Are your employees filled up or running on empty

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OBJECTIVES

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bull To determine exactly what those leaders did to foster certain feelings

ESTIMATED TIME

40 minutes

MATERIALS

Emotional Intelligence Exercise 1

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Use this activity to begin a discussion of how significant it is for leaders to give followers a sense of importance and significance

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A Explain to the individual or group that in order to gain high productivity high creativity or high Quality workers must believe that what they do is important For most people if they believe the task they are doing is not important it is difficult if not impossible to give their full degree of commitment to that task

B Also explain to the group that not only the task must feel valued and Significant but the person doing the task must also feel valued in order to bring out the best performance In addition to the task being imporshytant it is your job as leaders to create the kind of environment that also helps foster a sense of importance in the people doing the job

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The purpose of this exercise is to help you remember from your own storeshyhouse of information and knowledge times when a leader helped create asense of significance or importance in you In addition this exercise will also help you remember times when you did not feel significant or important and the impact that had on your desire to work to your full potential

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A Give participants Exercise 1

B Ask the participants to complete the table on the page by filling in speshycific examples of when they felt like a champion or like a chump Ask them to think about specific bosses they have had and what exactly those bosses did to foster feelings of being a champion or chump

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ESTIMATED TIME

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1 Overview 2 minutes A Explain to the individual or group that it is possible to give certain indishy

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B Also explain that as a leader it is important to manage how much sigshynificance you place on the work of your people It is also important to strive for a sense that all work is important Whether the person is the janitor or the CEO they should be made to believe that their work is significant

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B Ask the participants to list each person on their staff and write their name on the Ime to the left of the importance meter

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G Ask the participants to complete the worksheet Stay available to answer 10-20 minutes questions

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1 Overview 2 minutes

A Explain to the individual or group that emotional intelligence can be translated to behaviors on the job The leader with high emotional intellishygence acts in ways that influence followers Giving followers a strong sense of importance is essential to good leadership Explain that there is no set pattern for the leader to do this instead the leader must hand craft actions that will fuel a sense of importance in hisher employees Also explain that each employee is different and therefore will respond to different actions In order to get the fullest commitment possible from your employees as leaders you must find ways that help each employee to feel significant It is your role as the leader to add fuel to your employees I mportance Meter

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1 Overview

A Explain to the individual or group that in order to gain high productivity high creativity or high Quality workers must believe that what they do is important For most people if they believe the task they are doing is not important it is difficult if not impossible to give their full degree of commitment to that task

B Also explain to the group that not only the task must feel valued and Significant but the person doing the task must also feel valued in order to bring out the best performance In addition to the task being imporshytant it is your job as leaders to create the kind of environment that also helps foster a sense of importance in the people doing the job

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2 Objective

The purpose of this exercise is to help you remember from your own storeshyhouse of information and knowledge times when a leader helped create asense of significance or importance in you In addition this exercise will also help you remember times when you did not feel significant or important and the impact that had on your desire to work to your full potential

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3 Give Directions

A Give participants Exercise 1

B Ask the participants to complete the table on the page by filling in speshycific examples of when they felt like a champion or like a chump Ask them to think about specific bosses they have had and what exactly those bosses did to foster feelings of being a champion or chump

C Tell the participants to focus on actions that the boss took related to making them and their work feel important and significant

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This activity will encourage leaders to regard followers as individuals Also it will help leaders know what to give each follower so that they can do their best

Leaders with high EQ have highly developed radar that helps them to sense the feelings and perspectives of others This exercise helps develop that radar by asking the participant to imagine things from the employees perspective

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1 Overview 2 minutes A Explain to the individual or group that it is possible to give certain indishy

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B Also explain that as a leader it is important to manage how much sigshynificance you place on the work of your people It is also important to strive for a sense that all work is important Whether the person is the janitor or the CEO they should be made to believe that their work is significant

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The purpose of this exercise is to think about each person who works for you Then to demonstrate visually (1) how much importance you place on each persons task and (2) how much importance you place on each person doing the task

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B Ask the participants to list each person on their staff and write their name on the Ime to the left of the importance meter

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1 Overview 2 minutes

A Explain to the individual or group that emotional intelligence can be translated to behaviors on the job The leader with high emotional intellishygence acts in ways that influence followers Giving followers a strong sense of importance is essential to good leadership Explain that there is no set pattern for the leader to do this instead the leader must hand craft actions that will fuel a sense of importance in hisher employees Also explain that each employee is different and therefore will respond to different actions In order to get the fullest commitment possible from your employees as leaders you must find ways that help each employee to feel significant It is your role as the leader to add fuel to your employees I mportance Meter

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3 Give Directions A Give the participants Exercise 3 B Ask the participants to list each employees name on the worksheet

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A Explain to the individual or group that in order to gain high productivity high creativity or high Quality workers must believe that what they do is important For most people if they believe the task they are doing is not important it is difficult if not impossible to give their full degree of commitment to that task

B Also explain to the group that not only the task must feel valued and Significant but the person doing the task must also feel valued in order to bring out the best performance In addition to the task being imporshytant it is your job as leaders to create the kind of environment that also helps foster a sense of importance in the people doing the job

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B Ask the participants to complete the table on the page by filling in speshycific examples of when they felt like a champion or like a chump Ask them to think about specific bosses they have had and what exactly those bosses did to foster feelings of being a champion or chump

C Tell the participants to focus on actions that the boss took related to making them and their work feel important and significant

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A Explain to the individual or group that emotional intelligence can be translated to behaviors on the job The leader with high emotional intellishygence acts in ways that influence followers Giving followers a strong sense of importance is essential to good leadership Explain that there is no set pattern for the leader to do this instead the leader must hand craft actions that will fuel a sense of importance in hisher employees Also explain that each employee is different and therefore will respond to different actions In order to get the fullest commitment possible from your employees as leaders you must find ways that help each employee to feel significant It is your role as the leader to add fuel to your employees I mportance Meter

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G Ask the participants to complete the worksheet Stay available to answer 10-20 minutes questions

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1 Overview 2 minutes

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2 Objective

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1 minute

3 Give Directions A Give the participants Exercise 3 B Ask the participants to list each employees name on the worksheet

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E What benefit will you receive if you implement these actions

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G When do you intend to implement these actions

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1 minute

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bull To help participants determine influence and leadership strategies that will increase peoshyples sense of importance

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---_

MATERIALS

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1 minute

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employees

C What can you do to elevate mundane tasks

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E What benefit will you receive if you implement these actions

F What benefit will your employees receive if you implement these acshytions

G When do you intend to implement these actions

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SelfmiddotAwareness and Control

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I OBJECTIVES

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bull To help participants determine influence and leadership strategies that will increase peoshyples sense of importance

bull To increase the sense of relationshipbonding that will occur between leader and follower

ESTIMATED TIME

55 minutes

---_

MATERIALS

Emotional Intelligence Exercise 3

Low

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COACHING TIPS

This EO activity is designed to help leaders identify specific ways to influence and inspire followers It is essential for each follower to feel valued The social expertness of leaders

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1 minute

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(2) I wi1 ask Joe to report on the improvements he has made to the operating system at the next staff meeting

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employees

C What can you do to elevate mundane tasks

D What benefit do you derive from writing down specific actions you could take to bolster your employees sense of importance

E What benefit will you receive if you implement these actions

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TRAINERSCOACHS NOTES APPROXIMATE TIME

1 Overview 2 minutes

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2 Objective

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3 Give Directions A Give the participants Exercise 3 B Ask the participants to list each employees name on the worksheet

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