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Hi Friends!

Discrimination lies at the

root of many of the worlds

most pressing human rights

problems. No country is

immune from this scourge.

Eliminating discrimination is

a duty of the highest order.

Navi Pillay, United NationsHigh Commissioner for Human

Rights

All human beings are born free

and equal in dignity and rights.

These first few famous words

of the Universal Declaration of

Human Rights established 60

years ago the basic premise

of international human rights

law. Yet today, thefight againstdiscrimination remains a daily

struggle for millions around the

globe, especially in India.

In a country where existence

and survival are the only goals

of an average citizen, no one

has the time or the inclination

to think about human rights.

Human rights are being flouted

every day, every hour, every

minute and every second aroundour country in myriad ways by

almost everyone. However, the

so-called intelligentsia would

prefer to talk about the global

achievements a few Indians are

making or how India has kept

its head above waters during

the global economic downturn

or how we are on our way to

achieving the 2020 vision. There

are sexually abused, molestedor raped, children are abused

or forced into commercial sex

or child labour, minor girls are

married off to rich old men or

sold off or married off with a

huge dowry. Kidneys are being

sold without the knowledge

of gullible people, consumers

get a raw deal for purchase of

products of low quality, lonely

senior citizens are murderedfor money, many lives are lost

due to the callous attitude

and treatment by the medical

fraternity, several instances of

abuse of the public by the police

abound and countless cases lie

unresolved in the courts well

the list is endless.

is hesitation in most quarters

to talk about the pathetic plight

of a substantial population that

lives without any awareness orconsciousness about human

rights. Excepting a few lawyers

and social activists and a few

odd mavericks like me, it is

taboo to discuss the ills that

affect our country, because it is

believed that we are selling out

our country to the world.

At the macro level, human

rights have taken a beating

in innumerable incidences

of crime. Everyday a child is

subjected corporal punishment

by a teacher somewhere in the

country or a woman is abused

by her husband or in-laws.

Gender and caste inequalities

are rampant, leading to clashes

and skirmishes. There are

instances galore where women

Doodles

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At the micro

level, lack of civic

accountability and

awareness and

disrespect for human

rights lead to all

kinds of everyday

nuisance to the

general public. You

cannot protest if a pandal is

erect in the middle of the road

to accommodate a funeral

gathering or a religious event. If

there is blaring music round the

clock that disturbs you in every

possible way, you have to keep

silent; otherwise you would be

branded as coming in the way

of religious sentiments of the

people. People can cross the

roads everywhere and anywhere

and two wheelers and cyclistscan move on the road in any

manner without following traffic

rules. If your child is subjected

to ill treatment by teachers in

school you have to keep mum. If

garbage is thrown in or around

your premises, you have to

look the other way. And worst

of all, there are several good

Samaritans who interfere in your

life offering unsolicited counsel,

or expressing the denigratingways they think about you and

your family. You have to contend

with the cantankerous auto

driver or the vegetable vendor

who would swear and use the

choicest invectives for reasons

you do not know and make

you look like a criminal. Then

there are the notorious public

servants who treat you like dirt

if god forbid, you are at their

mercy, requiring some statutory

formalities to be completed..

The Indian citizen goes through

the quagmire of everyday living

without a thought about Human

Rights. After all, we are living

and breathing every day, so what

the hell!

Ciao

Swati Amar

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CONTENTS

LIVE WITHTHE MOODS OF INDIA

You (th) Are the Master of the Game

Our Regular Features

Editorial....................................................24

Quizzeria ................................................ 26

Jest for Laughs ........................................27

Canteen Banter .......................................32

For your Eyes Only ................................. 33

Our Regular Features

Beauty Bistro ............................................11

Beauty Speak .......................................... 13Health and Fitness Clinic ..........................21

Salt n Pepper Corner .............................35

Cook n Smile ..........................................36

Jaggi Vasudev ......................................... 44

Just Ask Brinda ........................................45

Souls Core ..............................................46

STETHOSCOPESTETHOSCOPEIs your childIs your childdifficult?difficult?

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WHY ARE INDIAN MOTHERS AFRAID?

TThe birth of Adit i was a dream come true for Jayshreehe birth of Aditi was a dream come true for Jayshreewho had always wanted a daughter.who had always wanted a daughter.


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There are myriad dreams and

hopes. But what is the reality

today?

India is in the throes of a

cultural and social revolution.

Unlike western countries

where premarital sex and

relationships are accepted

as part of their culture, Indiansociety still has not accepted

these trends. However, with

the society opening up for

free interactions among men

and women, a lot of social

problems such as transient

relationships, premarital sex in

schools and colleges, abortions

and suicide among young girls,

crime against women and most

no stone unturned to give her

daughter the best opportunities

for education and a career of her

choice.

Jayshree is not alone in weaving

such magnificent dreams about

her daughter. A vast majority of

urban middle class women have

fond dreams for their daughtersof the new millennium. It is on

the strength of this dream that

Indian mothers and in fact,

parents proceed relentlessly

against all odds to give their

daughters the best education

their family kitty can permit,

sometimes even more, by

availing huge loans.

As she gazed at the tender

little bundle lying beside her,

tears welled up in her eyes. A

beautiful dream unfolded in her

mind as she visualized how

she would bring up her tiny

daughter. Of course, Jayshree

would revel in adorning her

beautiful doll with the choicest

selection of exquisite garments,inundate her play room with

dainty dolls and cute little

toys, take her out to beautiful

gardens and frolic around with

her in the cool beach waters.

But more than anything else,

her doll would grow up to be a

well-accomplished, educated

global woman of influence

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pampering by parents ) who

lose their balance and get into

personal problems and in the

process draw their families into

the quagmire. Their focus is lost

and so are their most productive

years. The rest of their lives isspent in emerging out of these

emotional entanglements and

rebuilding their lives.

Picture this scenario-

Asha is a ten year old girl who

wants to have everything her

way. She often threatens her

mother that unless she gets what

she wants, she would run away

importantly, unscrupulous men

using this liberal ambience and

advanced technology to foster

dubious associations with girls

by misleading them, are on the

increase. And the dreams come

crashing down.

On the one hand there are

focused girls who make full

use of the opportunity provided

to them by their families and

society and rise up to the

expectations reposed on them.

There are also girls who, in

the process of savouring the

newfound freedom and trust, (

often misconstrued by most as

from home or jump out of their

balcony. Her anxious mother

always capitulates. Asha is a girl

who is sent to the best school

in the city in a comfortable

air-conditioned car. Her father

purchases all the materials that

can facilitate her education.

Both parents are broadminded

and do not impose any control

on her that might cause her

stress. They try to infuse some

discipline too, but Asha is too

obstinate and adamant to follow

any instructions or suggestions.

Vaidehi goes one step further.

She picks up fights with hermother at the drop of a hat. There

are times when she even throws

whatever comes to her hand at

her petrified mother who does not

know how to deal with her. Vaidehi

has been having an affair with a

boy who is interested in joining

the films. Her mother tried to

caution her, but to no avail. So that

became the reason for constant

skirmishes. A couple of years later,

her boyfriend ditched her when

he got a good offer for a film. Not

having done well in her studies,

Vaidehi had to take up a job in a

nursery school and eventually get

married to another man whom

she did not love. Today she is a

quiet woman, who talks less and

repents. But she can never get

back the years that could have

been spent in pursuing good

education, which her parents were

willing to give her.

Ganga is different. She is a

cool sort. For her flamboyant

lifestyle, whatever money her

parents supply her with is just

not enough. She has her own

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a position to judge anybodys

personal life, simply because the

older generation has not been

through it. According to him we

are a repressed society. If the

incidence of HIV+/AIDS is high

in Tamilnadu it is not because ofthe change that is happening in

the culture. If you believe that a

flamboyant culture is the cause

of this trend then the incidence

must be higher in cities like

Mumbai and Delhi, the hot and

happening metros, and not in

Chennai! We continue to wallow

in the ostrich syndrome. We

think that we are bringing up our

children correctly. In our greedthat our children would grow up

the way we want, we are being

over-protective, which is not

healthy for their growth.

Geeta Nambissan, a teacher

from Mumbai opines that

children should be accountable

for their behaviour to their

families. Today, children are

exposed to so many things and

people and may not be mature

enough to understand who or

what is right or wrong for them.

Also, adolescents have the

urge to experiment. Parents

should keep a tab on their

children not by way of monitoring

but generally through casual

conversations. I feel that open

channels of communication

between children and parents

would help avoid a lot ofproblems. I make it a point to

know every single movement of

my children. I too inform them

about my whereabouts.

While Geeta would not mind

her daughter going out with

groups of friends, she does not

believe that girls can stay over in

their friends place. They have

institution of marriage, these girls

would not qualify, if the cat was

let out of the bag? Parents are all

the time concerned about what

would happen to her future? So

families go about agonizing and

handling traumatic situations inquiet ways trying to sort out the

lives of their beloved daughters.

Says advocate K.Sumati from

Chennai, Women today have

great potential and are extremely

capable, but highly confused

about what they want. It is as if

they initiate a problem but do not

know how to complete it. They

do not know their destinationwhen they start their journey.

Girls today are highly intelligent

and unbelievably talented. But

they do not realize that the

earlier generation has also

worked hard and has been

responsible for the freedom that

they enjoy today. Every bit of

freedom we enjoy today, every

kind of respect we command,

are the fruits of the wars fought

by our earlier generations of

women, in the face of indignities.

We may be fighting for the nth

time but they were the ones to

start the war for the first time.

After all their efforts, even if we

commit a small blunder, we will

be talked about for generations

to come.

Actor Madhavans views on

relationship problems aredifferent, I dont think we are in

Maya on the other hand fell

for Dilips charm and constant

wooing. After romancing with him

during her entire college years,

in the process, faring just about

average in her studies, she had

dreams of happy matrimony. Shewas shocked when Dilip left her

for another girl. Out of sheer guilt

and frustration she jumps from

the top of a building and dies.

Of course there has been a lot

of media hype about incidents

such as the woman who

murdered her husband of seven

days during their honeymoon in

association with her paramour,who shockingly was an illiterate,

alcoholic auto driver. What is

painful about this incident is

that the woman was educated

and financially independent and

could easily have left her home

to be with her boyfriend, sparing

the life of another innocent man.

We have read enough and more

about the ex-model Geetanjali

Nagpal or several incidents

of girls from the small and big

screen attempting suicide due to

failed relationships.

These are all true stories of girls

belonging to educated, middle

class families. The irony is that

such incidents never emerge

from the confines of the homes

simply because no parent can

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to inculcate this kind of honesty

in our children since childhood

so that they do not exploit any

relationship or are not exploited.

If they are hurt, no one is more

miserable than the mothers.

Says Geeta, We too have had

our share of attractions and it is

fine as long as it remains in that

level. Serious romance needs

thinking, along with parents; but

not during the teenage. Children

need to talk it over. I am sure

parents will understand and

accept if everything is going

to be fine between two mature

adults in love.

While the middle class

worthless acquaintances without

her keeping vigilance over them.

Both women agree that attraction

towards the opposite sex is

normal during adolescence.

Dr.Rekha feels that it adds

meaning, colour and motivation

to our lives. But it is ourresponsibility to explain all this to

our children, be their best friend

and help them set their priorities.

A romance can be painful if

it is understood as a life-long

relationship by one of the

partners. I think both partners

should be very clear about the

position that each has in the

others life. We as mothers have

to get back to their homes or

hostel on the same day rather

night, she says. She does not

encourage dating either.

Dr. Rekha Saraswat, Professor

of Political Science in a PostGraduate college for girls in

Meerut and the editor of The

Radical Humanist says, I dont

think our daughters should be

accountable because we have

given them opportunities or

funded their education. We give

them opportunities because we

love them. Accountability is not

a conscious duty but a natural

by-product of our caring for eachother, keeping each others

happiness in mind. No mother, I

think, ever does anything for her

child to get anything in return.

I have not built such a

relationship bond in my family

where a mother allows her

son or daughter to do or not do

a particular thing. I learnt from

my father to discuss things

democratically, all the pros and

cons of every situation and then

take ones own decision so that

each person is responsible for

his or her own decisions later on.

We believe in building intellectual

relationships with people.

Geeta permits her daughter to

interact freely with the opposite

sex. I too have many men

friends. Right from my childhoodI grew up with my brothers

friends and there were no issues.

But there has always been a

clear dividing line. So what works

for me, works for my daughter

too. Dr. Rekha too feels that

interacting freely is not a fear

and because of the democratic

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instance was the death of a ninth

standard boy who was instigated

by an Orkut friend to hold his

breath and try to die. When

the mother and grandmother

of the boy entered his room,

the boy had died and the eerie

laughter from the voice chat was

enquiring, Are you dead yet?

Several such incidents relating to

the net communities are lessons

to families to make the children

aware of the perils of such

friendships with strangers in the

cyber and the real world, which

has also destroyed many lives of

young women.

Finally, everything boils down to

open channels of communication

among family members, mutual

trust and faith that will keep our

daughters away from falling

prey to dubious people and

circumstances.

Actor Madhavan says, My sister

and I have come from a family

that has given us the freedom to

choose our partners and we are

continuing to lead happy lives.

Our intention has not been to

hurt anybody by choosing our

own partners.

There is no substitute for

qualities like compassion,

kindness, loyalty, honesty,

dedication and commitment.

Parents must encourage the

youth to incorporate thesequalities in their lifestyles,

whichever lifestyle they adopt,

because these qualities are

part of any world culture. With

the speeding up of the society,

we are definitely going to have

repercussions on relationships. If

these qualities are incorporated

into each persons lifestyle, a

healthy society is a possibility.

Rekha succinctly explains the

situation that society must deal

with, if it were to ensure that the

scourge of relationship problems

that is catching up among

the vast youth populace does

not emerge as an intractable

issue. Today a woman faces

greater danger of interference

in her privacy because of the

use of mobile and the Internet,

because in our society we

are still at a stage where we

are technologically advanced

but culturally and emotionally

traditional. Our men and women

have learnt to use the latest

instruments of communication.

They tend to enjoy this new

found freedom. But our mencontinue to treat the woman as

an object of possession and not

as an equally respectable friend

or colleague with her individual

identity. But the matter of greater

surprise is the fact that even

women consider themselves as

different from men. They need

to be pampered and taken care

of as delicate partners, which

makes them vulnerable in theeyes of unscrupulous elements.

If a woman commands respect

as an individual without an overt

show of feminine delicateness,

there are lesser chances of her

vulnerability being exploited?

Geeta recounts heinous events

related to Internet communities

that rocked Mumbai a few

years back. The most shocking

grapples with the Pandoras

Box, society abounds with

the loss of productive young

lives, due to their inability to

contend with failed relationships

and deceit. According to Dr.

Rekha, incidents like suicides

happen because children find

no emotional support outside

their new found relationships.

I think it is each mothers

responsibility to be her childrens

best friend. They need to have

a fall back, a support system.

Life is a continuous process of

erring and revising, of learning,

experimenting and adventuring.

I will not like to continue to

be their crutch or delay their

growing up into matured self-made individuals, equally proud

and confident of their abilities

and short comings. I will always

be ready and by their side to

help them out of precarious

situations whenever they need

my shoulder, never criticizing

them or ridiculing their wrong

decisions. In a world ridden with

competition and conflicts, which

are natural, the only personwho is not in competition with

the child is the mother. She has

to be the childs moral support

always.

Geeta too feels that when a

relationship fails the child is

emotionally low and is looking

for anchor. The mother can

encourage the child to talk and

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Mouthing Beauty

It is often believed that beauty

deals with the face, skin and

body weight. Most women and

men stop at that. However,

dealing with your mouth,hands and feet should be as

important a part of your beauty

regime as your focus on the

other aspects of your grooming

and hygiene, if not more. Many

a face has been launched in the

movies and modeling circles

only because of a beautiful

smile. Today dentistry not only

deals with treatment of dental

problems but also cosmeticdentistry, which need not be

restricted only to film stars and

models. A beautiful mouth is an

asset and adds to your beauty

and self confidence. A beautiful

smile can last forever.

Our teeth are the most durable

part of our body and today

the notion that as you grow

older you will lose your teeth

has been proved wrong. A

combination of awareness,

simple prevention and amazing

technological advances have

made it possible to save

or replace diseased teeth,

prevent decay and aesthetically

remodel them.

Our teeth are the most heavily

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mouth begin producing acid,

which may eat away at the

enamel of your teeth. The

damage is done quite quickly,. If

fact, it stats as soon as you stop

eating. The physical act of eating

is a form of self-cleansing of the

teeth. In addition, we produce a

gallon of saliva a day, which has

a washing effect on our teeth.

colony of bacteria and food

debris that not only gives you

the worst breath of the day, but

if its not removed, will produce

acid that dissolves tooth enamel,

infects the gums and leads to

periodontal disease and bone

loss.

Ten to fifteen minutes after

eating, the bacteria in your

miracles of cement, dentin, pulp

and enamel are under constant

assault. We chew with them at

least three times a day, use them

as an extra hand, nutcracker, ice

crusher and for assorted other

tasks that would make yourdentist shudder.

But their most dangerous enemy

is the platoon of bacteria living in

our mouth. There are about three

hundred different types of germs

that call your mouth home. Some

of them are beneficial and can

help the body produce vitamins,

generate enzymes to help you

digest food and reduce the levelof harmful bacteria in the oral

cavity.

The troublesome bacteria are

referred to as plaque by dentists.

Plaque is invisible but you may

recognize it as morning mouth,

Thats the familiar white film that

collects on the teeth overnight

when your saliva, turned off

while you sleep, can no longer

rinse it off. It is actually a sticky To be continued..


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over your lips to give you soft

lips.

4. To make your lips soft, you

can try applying extract of

beet root or pomegranate.

Try not to bite your lips or wet

them with your tongue. These

Winter Care Home CareTips

1. Eye: If the body heat goes

up, your eyes will become

puffy . If you can get hold of

pure castor oil, try to put one

or two drops every morning

and wash your eyes to reduce

heat.

2. Lips: Apply petroleum jelly on

cracked lips. Or you may get

chap stick and keep applying

over your lips whenever thy

feel dry. Several flavours are

available . If you go for ones

with a strawberry flavour

etc, you will achieve the

double purpose of keeping

your lips dry and giving an

appearance of having applied

lipstick. Chapstick will prevent

dryness and cracking of lips.

Remember to remove lipstickwhen you go to bed. Those

who believe in natural home

care can apply ghee, butter

or coconut oil over their lips

every now and then.

3. You can also think of applying

honey. Honey can be mixed

with butter and applied. Or

you can mix a little honey with

the white of an egg and apply

habits will cause harm to your

lips.

5. Face: To prevent dryness of

the face you can apply liquid

paraffin over your face and

stay for ten minutes. Take a

half ta spoon f liquid paraffin

, rub over your face and wash

off or you can decided to

leave it over your face, Theskin absorbs liquid paraffin

due to its moisture content.

You also get solidified

paraffin which you can apply

according to the instructions.

Normally in beauty parlours,

they use this. You can also

decided to rub coconut oil or

olive oil on your face before a

bath.

To be continued..

Beauty

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as an isolated problem today.

Excerpts from an interview withMadhavan:

My sincere request tothe youth of today is

Remember there are no

exceptions to this dreaded

ailment. Even the most innocent

looking, young person could be

a carrier of the virus. Therefore

it is very much important totake precautions and prevent

yourselves from acquiring this

infection in any manner. We

must all remember that an

entire generation is at stake. If

you do not want to be a nation

of countless HIV infected

people like Africa, appropriate

abstinence and protection is the

only way out.

I suggest the following as themost important steps to be taken

for prevention and control of HIV/

AIDS:

First and foremost, do not treat

the subject as taboo, because

if you do so, you are alienating

yourself from the problem and

you will not equip yourself with

appropriate knowledge about

HIV/AIDS.Encourage teaching about HIV/

AIDS in colleges and schools

because that is the time when

the youth start experimenting.

Parents should be open to their

children and discuss all issues

candidly with them. They should

also caution their children about

the possibilities of acquiring

E

very mans life is

a fairy-tale writtenby Godsfingers, Hans

Christian Andersen

rightly said. Given the

present ambience of

global exposure and a

plethora of opportunities

for advancement in myriad

fields, young India is poised

for a momentous take-off

at the world level. At this

point in time, it makes senseto strive to emerge from the

shackles that hinder us from

advancing to this vantage

position. It is in this context that

Eves Times brings to you the

voices of prominent Chennaites

who voice their impressions and

views on the beauty of living a

useful and productive life.

Actor R. Madhavan, known as Maddy

to his fans, is one person from the realm

of cinema who is devoted to the cause of

HIV/AIDS in a big way. On the occasion of

World AIDS Day Madhavan offers a special

message to the youth on how to be responsible

to themselves and to the society which is

reeling under the devastating impact of this

Affliction of the Millennium. Millions of

people all over the world are being

affected by HIV/AIDS during

their most productive years,

a problem which the world

cannot over look. We also

have to tackle the difficulty

of supporting young

widows and their

children who are left

behind, debilitated

due to the infection

and in penury.

Nobody can

treat HIV/AIDS

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the infection and help them

understand the importance of

abstinence till marriage.

The youth should remember

that it is not a fad or style to get

tested and experiment with what

may result in detriment to them.

They should concentrate on

achieving their goals, and avoid

getting distracted.

When you come across

persons with AIDS, do not

think that they have been in

some way responsible for their

predicament. That it the first

step to remove stigma from

the society. Nobody goes out

of the way in search of a life

threatening disease. Please,

also get educated about the

actual ways and means of how

the virus spreads. Education will

go a lot way in our acceptanceof persons living with HIV/AIDS

and help us dispel the habit of

keeping such people at arms

length.

Organizations are awakened to

this ailment and are doing their

jobs well, spreading the message.

But what is really needed is a

change in the mindset of the

society and the people. Wemust stop joking about HIV/

AIDS or treating it as taboo. We

must all learn to live with this

affliction just as we are dealing

with polio, chicken gunea etc.

Ex communication is worst form

of discrimination to those who

are already suffering. Let us all

awaken to facts about HIV/AIDS

and not turn a blind eye to it.

Amidst hectic schedules, actor

Trisha found the time

to launch into an

intense thinking about

HIV/AIDS. This is her

message to the youth:

It is very crucial

for everyone to get

educated and be

knowledgeable about

HIV/AIDS, irrespective

of their economic status,

age, gender, caste or creed.Everyone should know what

causes it and what is best way of

prevention. The most important

attitudinal change that needs to

be infused is our approach to

those affected by HIV/AIDS. We

should not treat them like they

have a contagious disease or as

if they are outcasts. We should

learn to live with them. Also, we

must understand that there is

a difference between HIV+ and

AIDS. Lets all take a pledge on

World AIDS Day that we will get

educated and learn to coexist

with those affected by HIV/

AIDS and in whatever

little way we can, to

contribute to society.

Also, remember,

prevention is better

than cure.


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AActor Vikram, throughctor Vikram, throughhis reel and realhis reel and reallife, has time and againlife, has time and againconveyed importantconveyed importantmessages to fi lm lovers,messages to film lovers,youth, families and theyouth, families and thepublic at large. Vikrampublic at large. Vikramhas proved that arduoushas proved that arduoustoil, perseverance,toil, perseverance,patience, endurance,patience, endurance,fait h, hope and abovefaith, hope and aboveall dedication andall dedication andcommitment to work arecommitment to work arethe essential ingredientsthe essential ingredientsof success. Vikramof success. Vikramstands testimony to thestands testimony to thefact t hat nothing comesfact that nothing comeseasy in li fe, as someeasy in life, as someyouth tend to believe.youth tend to believe.His total dedicat ionHis total dedication

TOWARDS A WORLD SANS AIDS

THE BEST

AMMUNITION

AGAINST

PREVENTION OF

HIV/AIDS IS

COMMUNICATION


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to his profession hasnot only unearthedhis latent potential,creativity, talent and

skills, but also motivatedhim to innovate andexperiment with differentendeavours relatedto his profession. Thisquality has enabled himto endure as a reigningstar for several years in ahighly competit ive field.Vikrams beliefs aboutleading a peaceful andhealthy life are quitesimple and pragmatic.

If you look at all that is

happening around us, including

serious health ailments such

as HIV/AIDS, and given the

fast pace at which the world is

moving, people are just rushing

to work and back.. we find that

we are not spending enough

time with our family, especiallyour children, which may be one

of the causes of these unhappy

developments. Recently I saw

a sticker on a car that said, Did

you hug your child today? It

made me wonder how beautiful

this line is and what a powerful

meaning it conveys.

The irony is that we are working

hard and we do everything

for our family, but we arenot demonstrative about our

love. It is important that the

father spends quality time with

the child, same goes for the

husband and wife. In such a

situation, there is no need for

the spouse to look elsewhere

for affection. By quality time I

mean that the husband and wife

must spend some time alone

going out to eat, or take a

walk. The husband can get

flowers or little gifts for his

wife and children to show

that he cares. Similarly

the father and the children

should spend time together

doing things, playing

games. This is true for a

woman too, especially for a

workingwoman.

However, most of us rush

to work, slog, and come

back bone tired and go to

bed. We rise up early next

morning and the whirlwindstarts again. Today, there

is a need to take off at

least once a year for a

holidayit could be for a

month or a week or at least

four to five days-- and visit

a beautiful place where

there are no distractions like the

TV, computer or phone. The time

must be spent in doing things

together as a family. A lot of

bonding takes place during this

time. Also, we get an opportunity

to reinvent, understand and

communicate with one another.

I ensure that our family gets to

spend such a holiday every year

without distractions.

On a parting note, Vikrams

message to the people is, It is

important for every one of us to

accept people living with HIV/AIDS and love them, providing

them care and support. As an

actor, I consider it my duty to

be a part of the awareness

campaign for social issues.

There is a wrong belief among

some people that HIV/AIDS

happens to other people and

that they are immune to it.

This belief leads to a careless

and casual attitude towards

prevention and control of HIV/

AIDS. An actor must take the

message to the public to be

careful and not take it lightly.I feel that celebrities such as

actors, sportspersons and all

people in the public eye should

take it upon themselves to be

champions for the cause of

HIV/AIDS. It is also the duty of

every citizen to take part in the

campaign and do whatever they

can in this regard. Moreover, my

prayer is that people should be

goal-oriented in life. Remember,it is the duty of every one of us

to be cautious and ensure that

we can keep away from HIV/

AIDS. And dont forget, being

faithful to the spouse will give

us everlasting happiness. Let us

all take these steps earnestly.

After all, it is for the benefit and

happiness of everybody in our

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acts before he thinks. Whenever

things do not go his way hestarts yelling loudly, calling

people names, and will even

hit other kids. This behavior is

not limited to any one particular

place. In fact, Sachin will act

wildly like these both at home

and in public.

Do any of these kids sound

familiar to your own? Do the

above behavior scenarios remind

you of your own childrens strong

willed actions? If your child or

children resembles any of the

above two examples, then fear

not because you are certainly not

alone. Such children can also

be more amazing in hundreds of

ways, if we can remember to call

upon a reservoir of coping tools.

Here are a few to keep in mind:

Childs Temperament

Think in terms of your childs

temperament and then reacts to

behavior instead of responding

emotionally or instinctively

to what you perceive as his

motives. Try to see your

childs behavior as part of her

hardwiring.

Objective Attitude works

In the midst of a tantrum, it can

be hard to remain calm. But

this is exactly what will serve

you best. When your child acts

out, stand back and become

as neutral as possible. Your

response is the most effective if

it comes from the thinking part of

your body, not the feeling part.

and then the next moment he

may suddenly turn very angry

and defiant. The smallest

things tends to set him off,

especially unexpected changes,

food he doesnt like, or having to

go somewhere with her parents.He literally throws temper

tantrums every half hour or so.

Does this sound like your kid?

Lets look at little Sachin as

another example. Sachin is

a nine-year-old, a very bright

kid that lives in a great family

setting with wonderful parents.

The problem with him is that he

has a very short fuse and often

Parenting the difficult child,

a name coined by Dr.

Stanley Tureck in his best-selling

book, Your Difficult Child, is

challenging for any parent, even

the most patient.

Would you say that your child

is difficult to handle? Well, it

may be a bit reassuring, but you

are not alone. Many children,

especially toddlers can be

extremely strong willed when it

comes to behaving nicely.

Take six-year-old Rahul for

example. One second Rahul

is very sweet and cooperative,

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power struggle is to use activelistening. Provide short time-

outs for misbehavior, 10 minutes

maximum. Discontinue physical

punishment to prevent or break a

negative cycle that could lead to

abuse, resentment and feelings

of worthlessness.

Establish Routines

Establish regular routines and

a clear structure for your days.

Help him plan for good behavior

by discussing upcoming

activities, what he will encounter

and how to behave. For serious

behavior problems, begin to

seek help for your child at

an early age. Diagnoses and

interventions that work may take

some time.

By Shailja Mehta

on her own limited perspectiveof the world, trying to quiet fears

and frustrations that we all have

to some degree or another.

Spend time with yourchild

Provide many opportunities for

active, physical play. Find time

every day to listen to him talk

about something that interestshim. Dont jump in with your

opinion; just listen! Help him

find a group where he can feel a

sense of belonging (sports team,

drama group, etc.). Let him know

he is an important part of your

family and community. Find an

opportunity every day to tell him

that you love him. Be a good role

model in your patience, support

and listening.

Learn new parenting skills and

try them out until you find what

works for you

Present a united front in all

of your interactions with the

child. Have just a few rules but

enforce them consistently. Avoid

arguments and power struggles.

The best way to defuse a

Dont Take It to heartA challenging child can be quite

physically and verbally abusive.

When youre walking around

hearing I hate you! or have a

scratch on your face, its hard not

to take it personally. But try to

remember your child is not trying

to punish you. Dont ask, Why

is he doing this to me? Think

about behaviors, not motivations.

Concentrate on how your childwont put on her shoes, not that

she wants to make you late for

work.

Read Patterns

It may be helpful to keep a log

of your childs difficult behaviors

so you can start to see patterns.

Does it occur at a particular

time of day, under certain

circumstances? Is your childhungry, tired, transitioning to a

new place? The more specific

you can be about what triggers

your child, the more easily you

can sidestep the minefields.

Take Care of Yourself

A challenging child can deplete

your energy, and make a

tired parent feel hopeless anddepressed. If possible, join a

parenting support group where

you feel safe talking about your

parenting situation. Take help of

the extended family, parents, in

laws, siblings etc so you can get

plenty of rest and time away.

Most of all, try to remember

your child is not being bad on

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The first and most important

test is to rule out the male

factor is by doing a semen

analysis. Once this is done, thefemale partner is commonly

evaluated by clinical history and

examination, hormone analysis,

ultrasound and wherever

feasible hysterolaparoscopy.

The latter has now become a

gold standard in diagnosing a

variety of conditions.

What are the common causes

of infertility in the male?

Men may have a variety of

conditions which hamper their

semen quality and production.

Some of these conditions

are anti sperm antibodies,

genito-urinary infections,

viral infections like mumps,

varicocele, maldescent of testis

and genetic causes. These

may result in poor semen

quality and production or mayproduce obstruction at various

levels in the male reproductive

system. A good clinical history

and evaluation of hormones

(LH, FSH, serum testosterone

and thyroid tests) aided by

a Doppler examination or

ultrasound when necessary

may help in diagnosis and

treatment. When evaluated

properly a good conclusion

can be reached regarding the

fertility status of the man.

Do fibroids, affect conception?

Yes, they may affect the fertility

status as well as obstetric

outcome depending on their

numbers, size and location.

For example, fibroids located

in the uterine cavity called as

sub-mucous fibroid, directly

interfere with implantation

and placentation. Very large

fibroids located in the muscular

layer of the uterus (Intra-mural)

also interfere with conception

and pregnancy outcome.

Whenever the diagnosis is

made in an infertile woman,

care should be taken regarding

the removal of these fibroids

since it influences future fertility.

Dr. Priya

When you have planned to

start a family and have

not conceived for a year or more,

it is time to look into the matter.

Our new feature on frequently

asked questions in infertility

will help dispel many myths

and clarify doubts regarding

conception among many couplesaspiring for a baby.

Apart from special features

on health , our regular health

column, Stethoscope will have

experts from different fields

answering your queries. W are

happy to announce Dr. Priya

Selvaraj, MD MNAMS MCE,

Assistant Director, G.G. Hospital,

Chennai will answer queries

on obstetrics & gynecology

and assisted reproductive

technology. Send your questions

to [email protected] or

[email protected] or

to our office address.

What are the preliminary

investigations that are essential

to unearth if one should decide

to go for treatment for infertility?

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Depending on your familyhistory -- your genetics -- andthe way you eat and exerciseto create this energy deficit,your body may decide to getconservative and drop your

metabolic rate to try to holdonto body weight. Some ofus seem to have inheritedthis tendency more thanothers.

So how do wePunch thePaunch?Dont Despairnow!

One way oftackling thesituation is toresort to simplemethods that willhelp burn fat fast. Youwill be surprised to knowthat even foods can helpburn your fat!

Foods that are high in protein

Health and Fitness Clinic

Wouldnt it be nice if youcould eat whatever you

want, blow off working out andstill fit in your skinny jeans? Itmay not be possible, but youcan indeed speed up your

metabolism in your body thatburns calories.

A fundamental mistake indieting is the belief that eatingless will lead to fat loss.Scientific evidence suggeststhis to be entirely WRONG! Thehuman body adapts to sucha level that when it senses ashortage of food it respondsby dramatically decreasingthe metabolic rate, the rate at

which calories are burned inthe body, in order to preserveenergy and ensure survival.The irony of the situation isthat when you need to losefat and severely restrict yourfood intake it fires the samemechanism in the body whichwas meant to preserve caloriesrather than burn calories!

Moreover as you age, yourmetabolism slows down, chiefly

because you lose around a halfpound of muscle each year.If you dont use the muscle,it atrophies. That translatesinto burning about 400 fewercalories each day, which couldmean gaining a pound a week!

The body normally burns a mixof carbohydrate, as glucose,and fat for fuel. How much ofeither depends on your physicalactivity and if, or what you

have eaten recently. Whenyou use more energy than youtake in from food and drink,the body burns stored fat andcarbohydrates, and then evenprotein, to fuel your everydayactivities even if you are notexercising

Thats what happens whenpeople starve of course;the body starts to eat itself.

and fiber are the best kinds of

food to eat if you want to burnfat fast. Fiber slows digestionand makes you feel fuller.This is so important in burningfat and reducing cravings,especially for foods loadedwith sugar. Did you know thatit takes more energy to digestprotein than it does to digestfat? So the more protein youeat the more calories your bodyburns.

Foods that are rich in VitaminC have the properties ofacting as fat burners. Limes,lemons, oranges, grapefruitand vegetables like, broccoli,cabbage, celery, carrot,watermelon and apple fall intothis category. Broccoli andcabbage contain high quantitiesof calcium and vitamin C, andis also fibrous. What vitamin

C does it dilutes the fat and thusrenders it less effective. It alsobecomes easier for such fat tobe flushed out of the system.Pectin is found in apples andmost fresh fruits. This substanceis said to be able to limit the fatthat is absorbed by the cells.In addition to this, pectin helpsin the absorption of watery

substances. The reaction of thewatery substances on the cellsmakes it release fat deposits.

If you are serious abouttightening your belly, start bychanging your choice of food.There are other important thingsyou need to know. More in thenext issue!

Your Fight Fat Friend!

PUNCH THE PAUNCH


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BJP PROPOSES, RSSDISPOSES

RSS sarsanghchalak Mohan

Bhagwats reiteration that none

of the four Delhi-based second-

generation leaders of the BJP

was in consideration for the

position of the saffron partyspresident ship provides clear

indication that L.K. Advanis

coterie is fast losing its grip. In

fact, misinterpretation of most of

the developments within the BJP

has been deliberately done over

the last few months to give more

time to Advani, whose tenure as

leader of opposition in the Lok

Sabha may also come to an end

shortly. But it appears now that

the RSS has conveyed to Advani

that he should announce his

retirement plan with a specific

date. This concession has been

granted keeping in view Advanis

long service to the party.

In politics, even playing God is

easy. Or devil, as the saner ones

amongst us would choose to say.

MENTAL BUDGETS HELPWINNING DIET BATTLES

According to researchers,

Parthasarathy Krishnamurthy

The World Toilet Organization,

attempts to mainstream the

culture of cleanliness and

raise global awareness about

sustaining sanitation activities.

Its founding day is celebrated as

World Toilet Day every year.

From Teachers Day, Childrens

Day to Mothers Day, Fathers

Day, then Valentines Day,

Friendship Day and now Toilet

Day. It looks like there are

occasions to mark all the 365

days of the year. Schools will

soon be teaching the same

instead of our good old Sunday,

Monday, Tuesday

Kanchana. Rao

from the University of Houston

and Sonja Prokopec from

ESSEC Business School France,

one can rein in overeating by

setting a mental budget, Journal

of Consumer Research reported.

By doing so, the report said, at

the very least, it allows you to

keep track of how you are doing

with respect to your goal.

Yet, another discovery in the

field of dieting and fitness! No,

dont rush to that restaurant to

celebrate, get started on that

mental budgeting instead.

ICONIC FIGURES CAN BE

SHOWN SMOKING, HEALTH

MINISTRY NODS

The health ministry is ready

to allow the depiction of iconic

characters with their favorite

poison stick.

Hang on, I thought that the

statement was smoking banned

from silver screens or other

statements to that effect just

a while ago, wasnt it? The

sensible thing would be to

merely read such statements

and not absorb them for whoknows, before you turn the

page, another statement could

be issued banning the blessed

things!

CELEBRATE WORLDTOILET DAY

An NGO with a 151 men

organization from 53 countries,

BREAKING NEWS

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You are not responsible for what people think about you.

But you are responsible for what you give them to think about you

Keep Smiling


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Hi Friends!We live in the epoch of extremeconsumerism. In fact, weare consumed by this veryphenomenon at best. In thecadence of the modern 21stcentury, were victims of the retailmarket that has taken over ourlives. Were dependent on themfor food, clothes, groceries, andeven the newspaper! Sometimes,(more often than not) we feel like

hapless consumers whose voiceis being stamped out by theunreasonable price-rates thrownat us along with the inadequatequality--a shocker--(at this point,Im NOT talking about instant rip-offs at the Sarojini Nagar Marketor Janpath in New Delhi, whenyou purchase a raggedy T-shirtfor 150 bucks only to realizeits true value lies less than 70bucks. Hawkers are ALLOWED

to cheat you. Its called licensedcheating, and youre SUPPOSEDto bargain. Youll only beconsidered an absolute airheadto not bargain). Anyway, Imtalking about swanky brandedretail outlets that were inventedto cater to the bourgeoisie,where consumers have no optionbut to stick to the overpricedrate marked on the price tag.These consumers construe

that the large quantity of doughdoled out towards their purchaseautomatically guarantees themexemplary quality. But no, theyremistaken.

Gone are the days where there isvalue for money for consumers.In fact, retail outlets make a

juicy profit at the expense ofthe naive consumers, mostof whom are oblivious to the

Retail Rights?

cons of globalization, whichinclude illegal profit-makingby manufacturing goods ofsubstandard quality. Ha, whocares if defective electricalappliances cause the death ofsomebody?

The materialism is abysmal(has always been, and willalways be), but the lack ofrespect is unpardonable. It justbears testimony to the fact thata persons life is equated toa certain percentage of profitacquired from selling a defectiveproduct. Which is revolting.

And no number of laws, I tellyou, can rectify this disgusting

phenomenon that looms likea miasma of disaster over thisglobal village. It requires anattitudinal turnover. And thisvery statement is incrediblyfutile, considering that anattitudinal turnover has not been

accomplished despite fruitlessbut earnest attempts, in thelast century, when it comes toscruples and principles (in fact,it has only worsened in thisdepartment), and probably willnot happen in the next couple ofcenturies.

Until next fortnightNamrata

Editor, TeenMag


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It has become one of my dearest friends

In fact we are friends from time immemorial

I cannot pinpoint the exact moment

But it sure was uncomfortable

Floating in the amniotic fluid

And then being cut loose and rudely slapped

On my so very tiny and tender bottom!

Next I crept and crawled in all sorts

Of places in a spirit of adventure

Hurting myself in the process and

Was painfully poked by well-meaning hands

Thus reacquainting myself with my friend!

My teen years were also ignoble

My body had a mind of its own

Much to my consternation and grief

And the unkind remarks passed

By peers and family were quite painful.

FRI ENDS FOREVERFRI ENDS FOREVEROnce in a lifetime, you find a friendWho touches not only your heartBut also your soul

Once in a lifetime, you discover someoneWho stands beside you, not over youOnce in a lifetime, you find someone,Who loves you for what you are

Friends are very special peopleWith whom we can be ourselves,Bare our souls and unravel our thoughtsEndearing mortals we can talk with,Laugh with, hope with and believe withBlessed are those who revel in the warmth ofTrue Friendship!

Coming of age was another milestone

I had to leave the nest and fend for myself

Fumbling and bungling finally led me

To my first job where I had to jump hoops

To prove my worth, Oh so painfully!

Now I have found my equilibrium and family

But my dear friend drops in quite frequently

As pleasure and pain are but the two sides

Of the same coin which is life and one

Invariably follows the other relentlessly!

Old age is no picnic and brings ailments

You are often alone and helpless

It is pretty much painful to move around

Yet you manage counting your days

Praying incoherently but consistently!

Yes, pain is my dear friend

Much loved and embraced fondly.

We can endure an extra pound of pain farmore easily than we can suffer the withdrawal

of an ounce of accustomed pleasure.- Sydney

J Harris

Bina Gupta From Brooklyn

Originally

[email protected]

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PUZZLING WAYS TO

TORMENT YOUR FRIENDS!

Cool friends? Lets get their

brains cracking, at least

whatever little they seem to be

endowed with. Here goes:

1. Two cyclists approach each

other on a straight road,

pedaling at 15 kms an hour.

When they are 30 kms apart

a horsefly alights on one

bicycle, then dashes off to the

He gathers 49 stubs If he

smokes one cigarette every

three-quarters of an hour how

long will his supply last?

4. If three cats can kill three rats

in thee minutes, how long will

it take a 100 cats to kill a 100

rats?

5. Which is correct: 8 and 8 are

15 or 8 and 8 is 15?

6. It is legal for a man to marry

his widows sister?

7. The archaeologist who said

he found a silver coin market

649 BC was either lying or

kidding. Why?

other. It shuttles back and forth

between the two at 20 kmsan hour until the riders meet.

How far has it traveled?

2. Can you give in five seconds

three numbers which give the

same total when added as

when multiplied together?

3. A tramp finds himself out of

cigarettes. He casts about

for stubs, having learnt that

seven stubs make a cigarette

practically as good as new.

Quizzeria?

Teasing and tickling your gray cells is said to improve your brain

power. So go ahead and play with the numbers and check for

yourself if you have it in you to vanquish number puzzles with ease!

Happy Sudokuing!

Brain Teaser

9

6 7 8

3 8 4

2 8 6

5 7 3

1 4 9

6 2 3

7 6 9

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Mandu Mohan : My mobile bill,

how much?

Call centre girl: Sir, just dial123to know current bill status.

Mandu Mohan : Thats dumb!

Not CURRENT BILL, my

MOBILE BILL.

Friend: I got a brand new Ford

IKON for my wife! Sardar: If you give me the

address, I will go there sir.

Mohan got an sms from his girl

friend: I MISS YOU

Mohan replied: I Mr YOU!

After finishing MBBS Mohan

started his practice. He checked

the first patients eyes, tongue

and ears with the aid of a torch

and finally said, the torch is

okay.

Mohan: Oye, What will happen if

electricity was not discovered?

Sohan: Nothing, we must watch

TV in candle light.

Mohan on an airplane going

to Mumbai. During landing he

shouted: Bombay ... Bombay

Air hostess : Be silent please.

Mohan: Ok: Ombay. Ombay

Teacher: What is common

between JESUS, KRISHNA ,

RAM, GANDHI and BUDHA?

Mohan: All were born on

government holidays...!Sir: What is

the difference

between an

Orange and

an Apple?

Mohan:

The color of

Orange is

orange, but the

color of Apple is not APPLE.

Mohan: Wow! Thats an

unbelievable exchange offer!

Teacher: Which is the oldest

animal in world?

Mohan: ZEBRA

Teacher: How?

Mohan: Bcoz it is Black & White

Judge: Dont you have any

sense of shame? It is the third

time you are coming to court.

Mohan to judge: You are coming

daily, dont you have any

shame either ?

Question: Should women have

children after 35?

Smart Mohan replied: No! 35

children are more than enough!

Mohan attending an interview in

a Software Company.

Manager: Do you know MS

Office?

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Ans

1. Twenty kilometers. Since the

two cyclists were traveling

at 15 kms an hour and were

originally 30 kms apart,when they met they had

been on the road for an hour.

Accordingly, the fly traveling

at 20 kms an hour, covered

20 kms regardless of how

complicated its path.

2. 1,2,3

3. Six hours. The 49 stubs make

seven cigarettes, but each of

these when smoked is good

for a new stub. Thus thereare seven additional stubs;

therefore eight cigarettes.

4. Three minutes. It takes each

cat three minutes to kill each

rat.

5. Neither , 8 and 8 are still 16.

6. Only dead men have widows.

7. How did anyone know Christ

was coming in 649 years?

4 9 1 3 2 8 7 6 5

7 8 5 1 4 6 2 9 3

6 3 2 7 5 9 4 1 8

5 7 8 6 1 3 9 2 4

2 4 6 9 8 5 1 3 7

3 1 9 4 7 2 5 8 6

8 2 3 5 9 4 6 7 1

9 5 7 8 6 1 3 4 2

1 6 4 2 3 7 8 5 9

Brain Teaser Answer

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The book is first-class and a must-read for all as itbrings to light the respect that women command intodays era. Nischinta and Debashish have brought usto an era of command-the era when women commandrespect, an era when women seek a place forthemselves by their hard work Dr.Kiran Bedi IPS(Formar UN Civilian Police Advisor to the SecretaryGeneral)

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Aproverb of school years, oftrepeated as the bottom line

of diary pages, seen as the titleof moral stories, placards holdthese words high above heads.Yes high, so high that it seems

to go beyond human capacityof absorption and practice. Oureyes open wide always, only inthe eleventh hour, whether it isSeptember eleventh or twentysix eleven. Eyes open wide sadlynot in realization but fear. Thereaction is to eradicate terrorismbut the definition for terrorismis self defined! To some it isPakistan, to others it is a religionor a fanatic cult. It even could be

something that is often repeatedin press or heard a lot at homeand around. Communicationwhether visual or verbal hasundergone a vigorous trainingand can easily influence brainswhen in a vulnerable state likethe Mumbai incident. The mostfearful thing is fear itself. Forwhen in fear we know not whatwe do and reasoning becomes acoward.

Tomorrow as you head to thegym or set out to begin

your workout,

think aboutthe world aroundand become aware of theintegral part played by you. As

you warm up your hands andlegs be thankful that you stillhave them and put them togood use. As you rotate yourshoulders and swing your hipsremember how important the

joints are for any movementto take place. We need toconnect in good alignment

and understanding,along withexercising. We needto understand ourown body, acceptwhat we cannot

change and worktowards changing what we can.The body works only in unison.Addressing a particular part toshape up or tone is not possiblewithout the help of the rest of thebody. The six pack is possibleonly if you put your mind to it andcontrol your taste buds. For theabdominal crunch to take placethe legs need to be stable andthe neck should not be doing the

job of the torso. An observationof the body itself is a lesson onunity.

The strength that we womenachieve should be channeledto go beyond a mere rampwalk. How many of our hourglass figures are actuallyprepared to soil their handsor toil for their own families letalone society. Let us all worktowards achieving a bomb of

a body packed with positiveenergy ready to be released atthe hour of need and not blastinnocence with hydrogen bombsout of uncultured cowardice...!

CHEERS! TO ALL YOU BOMBSHELLS

Vijaya Rao

we need to communicate straightwithout any prejudice. Distortionin joint or thought leads todisaster.

Warming up before your workouts is very important to avoidinjuries. Never jump on to thetreadmill and start sprinting rightaway like the way we jump toconclusions at times withoutanalyzing or reasoning! Afterwarm up we can begin ourcardio, strength or flexibilitytraining etc. See that yourexercises are done under properguidance and knowledge andare specific to your capacity.The need of weight reduction,

weight gain, or strengthening orlengthening the muscles mightbe varied but the one commongoal should definitely be goodhealth. Whether it is your ownmental and physical health or thesocietys unless there is unity inwork, achievement will only be asigh of impossibility. Might is notright if the goal is not healthy.

Thinkand think in unison.

This is the only way to tackleterrorism. Remember, thosewho strike do so out of fearand insecurity. Terrorists are

those who live in terror. It isthose who fail and

give up in lifewho commitsuicide.To live weneed to bebalanced

in mindand strongin body.Gatherstrength andget strongerthrough unity,acceptance


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Youth comes but once in alifetime Longfellow.

Young India is surging forward

in the international arena with

great gusto enriching the talent

pool with its immense intellectual

prowess and creative wealth.

Today, if our voice echoes in the

global corridors as a force toreckon with, it is thanks to the

immense contribution of young

Indians in various fields. Eves

Times is happy to announce a

serial for and about the youth

from one of the prominent youth

leaders in our country, Karti

Chidambaram. In this issue Karti

shares his random thoughts

about sixty years of Indian

independence. Over to this

suave and savvy youth icon:

We are a young country even

though sixty years seem a long

time in human life. Despite

Indias long and envious

historical background, we are

still a very young country. One

must accept that perhaps the

lofty expectations we have had

But at the same time, we feel

frustrated by the pace of our

own democracy. Today the

political parties, the press,

the judiciary, NGOs and other

pressure groups all exert their

influence on public decisions.

This constant pulls and tugs

definitely slow down the pace ofour decision making. We cannot

wish away this democratic

process. We must learn to live

with this constraint. We must

engage in debate, dialogue and

find a way to work and to take

decisions.

According to me, India will

never be a tiger. It will always

be an elephant. There will be

days during which the elephant

will laze around in the pond,

spraying water on itself; there

will be days when it will gently

pat the passers-by with its trunk;

there will be days when it will

meander in the fields; there will

be days when it will sit still and

will not budge; there will be days

when it will carry a heavy load

happily and there will also be

days when it will break into a

downhill run, when it will exhibit

strength by uprooting trees or

trample upon those around it

and will run amok. We must just

learn to live with the moods of

India, with pride, fierce loyalty

and unity.

for our society and

country have not been

realized in sixty years.

It will be foolish to

complain and say that

nothing works here.

Of course, things can

be a lot better, more

egalitarian and a lot

more transparent but

at the same time it is

also necessary for us

to cherish and appreciate what

s right about India.

The change of power from one

regime to another has always

been absolutely smooth and

totally constitutional. There

is and will always be a clear

demarcation of the role of

the military in India. The

disciplined Indian military

has always subjected itself to

civilian authority. The Indian

electorate is known for making

informed choice when selecting

its leaders. The elections have

always reflected the mood of

the people. Political structures

who by popular motion werevoted to power , if they did

not abide by their promises or

were found to be floundering,

have been shown their place at

various times by the electorate.

This aspect India must be truly

cherished. This is the nature

of India and its people who are

far wiser than its sixty year of

existence.

LIVE WITH

THE MOODS OF INDIA

You (th) Are the Master of the Game


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This is a real test given by the Human

Relations Dept. at many of the major

corporations today. It helps them get better

insight concerning their employees and in their

prospective employees.

Its only 10 Simple questions, so grab a pencil and

paper, and answer truthfully

1. When do you feel your best..

A) in the morning

B) during the afternoon and early evening

C) late at night

2. You usually walk...

A) fairly fast, with long steps

B) fairly fast, with little steps

C) less fast head up, looking the world in the

face

D) less fast, head down

E) very slowly

3. When talking to people you....

A) stand with your arms folded

B) have your hands clasped

C) have one or both your hands on your hips

D) touch or push the person to whom you are

talking

E) play with your ear, touch your chin, or

smooth your hair

4. When relaxing, you sit with...A) your knees bent with your legs neatly side

by side

B) your legs crossed

C) your legs stretched out or straight

D) one leg curled under you

5. When something really amuses you, you react

with...

A) big appreciated laugh

B) a laugh, but not a loud one

C) a quiet chuckle

D) a sheepish smile

6. When you go to a party or social gathering

you...

A) make a loud entrance so everyone notices

you

B) make a quiet entrance, looking around for

someone you knowC) make the quietest entrance, trying to stay

unnoticed

7. Youre working very hard, concentrating hard,

and youre interrupted...

A) welcome the break

B) feel extremely irritated

C) vary between these two extremes

8. Which of the following colors do you like

most...

A) Red or orange

B) black

C) yellow or light blue

D) green, dark blue or purple, white, brown or

gray

9. When you are in bed at night, in those last few

moments before going to sleep you are....

A) stretched out on your back

B) stretched out face down on your stomach

C) on your side, slightly curled

D) with your head on one armE) with your head under the covers

10. You often dream that you are...

A) falling

B) fighting or struggling

C) searching for something or somebody

D) flying or floating

E) you usually have dreamless sleep

F) your dreams are always pleasant

CANTEEN BANTER CANTEEN BANTERteenmag

Know your

personality


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have I jumped into another

planet? Looks like I have

turned to a wallflower. How do

I get people to notice me?

Maya, Chennai

Hey just relax. You cannot get

people notice you overnight. It

takes time. Most importantly,

just be yourself. Mingle with a

lot of people and make friends.

If you are a person of the type

you really claim to be, in no time

they will notice all your qualities.

Chennai is not like Mumbai.

Southies are conservative and

once they like you they will warm

up to you. Needs patience and

being the kind of person you are

I am sure it is a piece of cake for

you to achieve this. All the best

and welcome to Chennai!

This is a fun column, a friendly

exchange between you and

your favourite Trisha. If you feel

like opening out your heart to

someone, perky and young

Trisha is willing to lend you a

helping hand. You can ask her

anything under the sun but

this column is meant only forthe teensADULT ALERT!!!!

I am an outgoing and

vivacious schoolgirl who

has moved to Chennai from

Mumbai. In my old school in

Mumbai, I was quite popular

and had a lot of friends.

Since I joined the school in

Chennai, it looks like I need

to hone my people skills or

For Your Eyes Only..Trisha


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POINTS:

1. (a) 2 (b) 4 (c) 6

2. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 7 (d) 2

(e) 1

3. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 5 (d) 7

(e) 64. (a) 4 (b) 6 (c) 2 (d) 1

5. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 3 (d) 5

(e) 2

6. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 2

7. (a) 6 (b) 2 (c) 4

8. (a) 6 (b) 7 (c) 5

(d) 4 (e) 3 (f) 2

(g) 1

9. (a) 7 (b) 6 (c) 4

(d) 2 (e ) 1

10 (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 3(d) 5 (e) 6 (f) 1

Now add up the totalnumber of points.

OVER 60 POINT: Others

see you as someone

they should handle

with care. Youre seen

as vain, self-centered,

and who is extremely

dominant. Others mayadmire you, wishing they

could be more like you, but dont

always trust you, hesitating to

become too deeply involved with

you.

51 TO 60 POINTS : Others

see you as an exciting, highly

volatile, rather impulsive

personality, a natural leader,

whos quick to make decisions,

understanding, someone wholl

always cheer them up and help

them out.

31 TO 40 POINTS: Others

see you as sensible, cautious,

careful & practical. They seeyou as clever, gifted, or talented,

but modest. Not a person

who makes friends too quickly

or easily, but someone whos

extremely loyal to friends you do

make and who expects the same

loyalty in return. Those who

really get to know you, realize it

takes a lot to shake your trust in

your friends, but equally that it

takes you a long time to get overif that trust is ever broken.

21 TO 30 POINTS: Your friends

see you as painstaking and

fussy. They see you as very

cautious, extremely careful, a

slow and steady plodder. It

would really surprise them

if you ever did something

impulsively or on the spur

of the moment, expecting

you to examine everythingcarefully from every angle

and then, usually decide

against it. They think t his

reaction is caused partly by

your careful nature.

UNDER 21 POINTS:

People think you are shy,

nervous, and indecisive,

someone who needs looking

after, who always wants

someone else to make the

decisions and who doesnt

want to get involved with anyone

or anything! They see you as

a worrier who always sees

problems that dont exist. Some

people think youre boring. Only

those who know you well, know

that you arent.

though not always the right

ones. They see you as bold and

adventuresome, someone whowill try anything once, someone

who takes chances and enjoys

an adventure. They enjoy being

in your company because of the

excitement you radiate.

41 TO 50 POINTS : Others see

you as fresh, lively, charming,

amusing, practical, and always

interesting, someone whos

constantly in the center of

attention, but sufficiently well

balanced not to let it go to

their head. They also see

you as kind, considerate, and


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Can I make fried snacks

using olive oil? My family

likes to eat a lot of fried stuffand I have decided to change

over to olive oil, at least for

frying snacks. Since we are poor

eaters, I dont mind spending

for olive oil. Also, I would like

to know if Virgin olive oil is the

best for cooking purposes. After

frying, can we re-use the left

over oil? Can we add a spoon

of ghee or butter to olive oil to

enhance the taste of dishes likePongal etc.? Will it make any

difference to the taste?

R. Mohini, Chennai

It is better to avoid using olive

oil to deep fry snacks as it is

composed of mono unsaturated

fats. For deep frying, a little

saturated fat is required to arrest

outside moisture when the

temperature goes up to about300 degrees centigrade. This

ensures that the crispness of

the snack is maintained. It is

better to use refined peanut or

groundnut oil for deep frying,

and use sunflower oil, which has

less saturated fats, for normal

cooking.

If you can afford it, it is advisable

to use Virgin olive oil for salads

and normal cooking as it is not

refined and is filled with nutrients

as well. These nutrients are lost

in cooking at high temperatures.

Deep frying is best avoided.

However, if you need to do so,it is better to use oil sparingly

so that it does not get left over.

Reusing oil causes oxidation

and can turn it rancid. Oil may

be reused in dishes like poriyal,

which do not require high

temperatures for cooking.

When preparing Pongal, do not

add ghee along with the oil.

Instead add a teaspoon of ghee

on top after the dish is cooked to

enhance its taste.

We make paneer at home by

curdling fresh milk. Can we use

milk that gets curdled to make

paneer? Once I tried this, when

the milk got spoilt, I filtered and

made paneer and made malai

kofta out of this, but I had to

suffer from a huge stomach

upset. What use can we make of

milk that gets curdled?

Vanaja Venkatraman

The best way to test the state

of curdled milk is to taste

it to ensure that it is not sour or

bitter. If you feel it is less curdled,

you can add some more vinegar

or lime juice to it. Then strain it

to make paneer. Use the whey to

knead soft chapatti dough. The

paneer can be used to prepare

koftas and cutlets.

Another way to use curdled

milk is to add a little sugar, and

heat it well to make therittupal.

Alternatively you could add

roasted rawa or khoya to make

halwa.

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Chickent Jalfrezi

You can use leftover roast chicken

to make a quick and tasty meal.

Ingredients

Mustard oil 1 tsp

Vegetable oil 3 tbsp

Large onion chopped finely 1

Garlic cloves, crushed 3

Tomato puree 1 tbsp

Tomatoes, peeled and chopped 2

Ground turmeric 1 tsp

Cumin seeds, ground tsp

Coriander seeds, ground tsp

Chilli powder tsp

Garam masala tsp

Red wine vinegar 1 tsp

Small red (bell) pepper, chopped 1

Frozen broad beans 1 cup or 125gm

Cooked chicken, cut into bite- 500 gms

Sized pieces, Salt to taste, Fresh coriander (cilantro sprigs for garnishing

Method

Heat the mustard oil in a large frying pan set over a high heat for about 1 minute until it begins to smoke.

Add the vegetable oil, reduce the heat and then add the onion and the garlic. Fry oil, garlic and onion

until they are golden.

Add the tomato puree, chopped tomatoes, turmeric, ground cumin, ground coriander, chilli powder,garam masala and vinegar to the frying pan. Stir the mixture until fragrant.

Add the red (bell) pepper and broad beans and stir for two minut until the pepper is softened.

Stir in the chicken and salt to taste. Simmer gently for 6-8 minutes until the chicken is heated through

and the beans are tender. Serve garnished with coriander sprigs.

Recipe of the Fortnight

Cook n Smile Easy Recipes

From the Recipes ofSumati Ramkumar

Slurping a hot cuppa soup is all

that is needed to sizzle up your

lives on a cool, wintry day or on

a rainy day. And if you can add

a little bit of health potion and

your tender loving care into the

soup, then your familys health is

made! Happy Souping!

BROCCOLI SOUP

Ingredients

Broccoli 1

Crushed pepper tsp

Salt to taste

Milk cup

Method

Cut the broccoli into small florets

and wash them thoroughly. Cook

the pieces in water with salt till

they become tender . Cool and

then grind in a mixie the water.

Just before serving heat it again

and add the milk and crushed

pepper and serve.


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From the Recipes of Sumati Ramkumar

Slurping a hot cuppa soup is all that is needed

to sizzle up your lives on a cool, wintry day or

on a rainy day. And if you can add a little bit

of health potion and your tender loving care

into the soup, then your familys health ismade! Happy Souping!

BROCCOLI SOUP

Ingredients

Broccoli 1

Crushed pepper tsp

Salt to taste

Milk cup

MethodCut the broccoli into small florets and wash them

thoroughly. Cook the pieces in water with salt

till they become tender . Cool and then grind in a

mixie the water. Just before serving heat it again

and add the milk and crushed pepper and serve.

PALAK SPRING ONION SOUP WITH SWEETCORN

Ingredients

Palak 1 bunch

Spring onion

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