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If you are a believer, married, have children, or not and have pulse, chances are you have

a dream or two spinning around inside you looking for traction. Are you committed toturning your dreams into realities or are you just interested? The difference is this; if you

are merely interested, you do it when its convenient. If you are committed; you make no

excuses. This is the first proverbial fork in the road in this process. Intentionally or not,you will always take one of these forks. Which one will it be?

Dreams presume exciting possibilities; they anticipate that the best of life is not past, butstill ahead. Are you aware that old age sets in when your memories are more vivid than

your dreams?

You are about to experience a synthesized version of a dream development process mywife and I went through one weekend in an old waterfront cottage in Coupeville on

Whidbey Island in Washington State. Our heavenly Father has given me dreams for my

marriage, my family, my career, my kingdom calling and my desires. He has also done

the same for my wife. I am confident He wants to do the same for you. As I look back atwhat I penned that Mothers Day weekend in 2005, I can only conclude that God is as

interested in my dreams as I am. God has enabled many of them to come to fruition whileothers are still unfolding. In addition, He has been faithful in providing me with even

more dreams and visions for the future.

I believe that if we are faithful with what God has entrusted to us, He delights in giving

us the desires of our heart. After all, He implanted those desires there before Adam

realized he was naked and missing a rib.

There are two parts to dreaming when you involve God. The first is faithful, God

honoring stewardship of our time, talents and treasures. Why would God want to bless us

with the desires of our heart if we squander what he has already given us? Would youwant to bless your children if they had a self serving attitude of entitlement? If so, stop

right now and get some solid Christian counseling before you read another sentence. If

you subscribe to the latter, read on! As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.Amen!

The process of bringing clarity and a timeline to each area involves these steps.

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Step 1 Dreaming Your Dreams Slow down and dig deep to discover thedreams that fulfill you

Step 2 Dream Timeline Be realistic, you cant have it all now. Wherein your life timeline is a realistic period your

dreams can become realities.Step 3 Dream Partners You have dreams, so do your spouse and

God. Where are they shared, supported or

sacrificed?

Step 4 Dream Planning A dream becomes a reality when you have a

strategic plan and you act on it.

You will be targeting dreams in five areas; your marriage, your family, your career, your

kingdom calling and your desires.

Dreams for Your Marriage These dreams are the ones you share with your spouse. A

vision of your ideal life together.

Dreams for Your Family These dreams target your children; either with them or for

them.

Dreams for Your Career Dreams here focus on a career path that leads to success and

significance

Dreams for Your Calling God loves you and has a wonderful plan for your life huge!

Dreams for your Desires Dreams of important milestones you would like to achieve,

see, do or visit what revs your engine? Climbing Everest,

shark diving, visit the Coliseum in Rome?

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Dreaming Your Dreams

Pull out all the stops, dont worry about

strategies or priorities now let er rip.

Hint: Tangible targets to aim for and trekafter bring lucidity to your dreams.

Clarity is key!

A DREAMY MARRIAGE

It cant be all bills and kids, and careers.

Design five dreams with your life mate,some near, some for when the kids are

on their own. You had them once; get

them out in the open.

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Dreaming Your Dreams

FAMILY DREAMS

Paint a future picture for your wife and

kids that will energize them whileteaching them that God has a plan for

your family, collectively andindividually. Dream with them and for

them. Lead by example!

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Dreaming Your Dreams

YOUR DREAM JOB

Eighty percent of success is simplyshowing up. What are the milestone

accomplishments and career goals that

will bring about significance andfulfillment in this realm?

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Dreaming Your Dreams

KINGDOM DREAMS

Pay it forward. God wants us to store uptreasures in heaven where moth and rust

cannot destroy. These five dreams call

upon the power of God to accomplishthat will be glory to him, not you. What

are they?

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Dreaming Your Dreams

DESIRABLE DREAMS

Beyond the realm of marriage, family,

career, and kingdom calling are the

dreams that you happily wake up at 3amto think about. Name five fulfilling

dreams that really rev your engine!

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Dream Timeline

Timing is everything; in life and in dreams. For example, if you wanted to sail around theworld on a 40 sloop with kids in pre-school well, you would probably be single again,

right? The Dream Timeline will help you place your dreams in realistic future slots and

identify what needs to pass for those dreams to become reality.

Family responsibilities, career goals, financial constraints or other demands may becurrent barriers that time alone may solve as you maturely manage your time talents and

treasures. Priority management is a major component in maintaining dream viability.

Chip away at the obstacles a little at a time and they fervently diminish. The best time to

plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is today! Even small investmentsin dreams can, over time, pay huge dividends. Invest now!

The following worksheets will divide your dreams into two categories:

1. Those dreams which require change brought about by future transitions to become

viable to pursue.

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2. Those dreams which, with a plan and components in place, can be implemented

right away.

Dreams bring vitality to today with visions of hopeful future experiences.

Dont let your dreams get smothered by worry and things you cannot control. Keep them

alive in your mind, on paper, in conversation with your spouse, your family, your friends,

with God. Like a game of chess, sometimes you have to move a lot of things aroundbefore you can execute a strategic move to bring about a victory. Conscious effort and

patience are success factors required to make dreams a reality.

This exercise will help define a pursuable order to your dreams. Some dreams can becurrently engaged, while others reside in the future.

Dream Timeline

A DREAMY MARRIAGE

Here you will restate the dreams you have for your marriage and decide whether they arepursuable now or at a future time. A dream for the future brings life to tomorrow.

Dream Name 1 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 2 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transition

must first occur? .

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Dream Name 3 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transition

must first occur? .

Dream Name 4 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 5 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream TimelineFAMILY DREAMS

Here you will restate the dreams you have for your family and decide whether they are

pursuable now or at a future time. A dream for the future brings life to tomorrow.

Dream Name 1 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 2 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

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Dream Name 3 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 4 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 5 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transition

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Dream TimelineYOUR DREAM JOB

Here you will restate the dreams you have for your career and decide whether they are

pursuable now or at a future time. A dream for the future brings life to tomorrow.

Dream Name 1 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 2 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

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Dream Name 3 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 4 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 5 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transition

must first occur? .

Dream TimelineKINGDOM DREAMS

Here you will restate the dreams you have for your kingdom calling and decide whether

they are pursuable now or at a future time. A dream for the future brings life totomorrow.

Dream Name 1 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 2 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transition

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Dream Name 3 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transition

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Dream Name 4 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 5 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream TimelineDESIRABLE DREAMS

Here you will restate the dreams you have for your desires and decide whether they are

pursuable now or at a future time. A dream for the future brings life to tomorrow.

Dream Name 1 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 2 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

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Dream Name 3 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 4 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transitionmust first occur? .

Dream Name 5 now, or later? now laterIf later, what transition

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Dream TimelineTOP FIVE DREAMS TO ENGAGE TODAY

On this chart, list the most desirable dream from each category that you can begin to engage today.

Well. What are you waiting for? The rapture!

Category Top Five Dreams for This Season of My Life

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Dream Partners

Dreams can be solo in pursuit, but there is synergy if you are a Christian with a Christianspouse partnering up for your dream journeys. As stated in Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two are

better than one, because they have a good return for their work: God knows we have a

need for a companion to go through life and to help each other realize our dreams.

In this next exercise you and your spouse will be comparing your dreams and be able to

identify dreams you share, dreams where you play the support role for each other and

with God. Invite God into this session and allow Him to speak wisdom and clarity into

your dreams. He is not a God of confusion. He is a God with a purpose for His churchcorporately and for His children individually.

The partner convergence chart below displays the zones and corresponding designators

for your dream positioning and how your and your spouses relate to each others dreams.

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Dream Partner Zone Codes

1 Your and your spouse share this dream

1+ God shares this dreams with you both

2 Your spouse supports but doesnt share this dream

2+ Your spouse supports it, and God shares it with you

3 Its outside your mates limits you really dont want to go there get over it!

3+ Its outside your Gods limits you really dont want to go there get over it!

Dream Partners

Now its your turn to bring yourdreams into a 3-way partnership with

you, your spouse and your God. In this

process you will share your top fivedreams to engage today.

You each have your top five Dreams.Plot them in the respective Zones using

the following designators;

for his dreams use H1/H2/H3/H4/H5

for her dreams use W1/W2/W3/W4/W5

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Dream Partner Clarifiers

1 Your and your spouse share this dream

1+ God shares this dreams with you both

2 Your spouse supports but doesnt share this dream

2+ Your spouse supports it, and God shares it with you

3 Its outside your mates limits you really dont want to go there get over it!

3+ Its outside your Gods limits you really dont want to go there get over it!

Dream Partners

Weaving your today dreams into reality.

Considering your spouses preferences, list your top dream in each category and yourpriority rating you gave them on the converging ovals.

Category /Partner Status

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Dream Planning

Now that you have identified, named and qualified your dreams with your life mate and

your God, its time apply some strategy. This is where you plot your course, identify

obstacles, set a target date and a midway point to evaluate the progress.You will need four Dream Planning worksheets for this next exercise.

The ideal setting for this stage if for you and your spouse to bring your Dream Partners

sheets and link them up in the Personal, Family, Professional & Kingdom realms.

The following sheet will get you halfway to each dream. At that point or sooner, you will

on a fresh sheet, plot out your dream to its target date. Why this way? Because life

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happens while were making plans! The second half will be clearer once you are on your

way.

Even well thought out plans require adjustments that enable you to continue on the path

to achievement. As you stay close to God and each other, dont be surprised if your

dreams build and are better than what you originally thought. Thats how God works, aswe trust him each step of the way, he reveals Himself to us more and the abundant life

Jesus promised becomes a reality. Put your faith in Him and align your plans with His

and hold on tight!

If we are to serve as Christ served, make it your goal to make your spouses dreams come

true first and you will have the marriage of your dreams.

Are you real. Here goes!

Dream Planning

Which realm are you planning in this dream?

Personal Family Professional Kingdom

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A Dream Overview whats it look like?

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Whats in the way of your dream? What can you do to overcome the

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