Dont be a child injunction

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Don’t be a Child Injunction

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This is another injunction handed out by parents, in their child ego state, feeling threatened by having their child around.

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Don’t be a Child Injunction

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Prepared By Manu Melwin JoyResearch Scholar

School of Management StudiesCUSAT, Kerala, India.Phone – 9744551114

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Don’t Be a Child

This is another

injunction handed

out by parents, in

their child ego

state, feeling

threatened by

having their child

around.

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Don’t Be a ChildInstead of wanting the baby right out of way, the Child in the parent says: “ There is only room for one kid around here – and that is me. But I will put up with you, so long as you behave like a grown up instead of a child”. This may be reflected later on by verbal messages like “You are too old to …..” or “Big boys don’t cry”.

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Don’t Be a Child

Don’t be a Child is also give out

by parents who were never

allowed to be child like

themselves and feel

threatened by child like

behavior. They may have been

reared in times of depression

or in a stern home where

worth and value were related

to doing.

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Don’t Be a ChildSometimes, eldest or only child give themselves this injunction. Seeing Mother and Father arguing, an only child may decide: “The only other person around here is me. So I must be the cause of the fight. Therefore, it is up to me to do something about it. I did better grown up quickly so I can take charge.” An eldest child may decide similarly that she is responsible for her younger brothers and sisters.

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Don’t Be a ChildIf you feel awkward relating to

children, you probably carry

Don’t be a Child. The same is

probably true if you stiffen up

when you are at parties or in

similar fun situation among

other adults. “Don’t have fun”

and “Don’t enjoy” are

sometimes listed as variants of

Don’t be a Child.

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Don’t Be a ChildFor sure, we don’t need to be in our child ego state in order to have fun or enjoy. But if you decided as child that having fun and enjoying were things children did, and that you were supposed to be a solemn little grown up, you may well rubber band to that decision when the chance arises of having fun at your present age.

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Don’t Be a Child

In some families, if you are

having too much fun you are

labeled lazy or sinful. There

may be a magical belief that

if you feel so good,

something bad will happen.

So the way you magically

ward off evil is to not feel so

good.

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Thank You

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