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Transcript of Dont be a child injunction
Don’t be a Child Injunction
Prepared By Manu Melwin JoyResearch Scholar
School of Management StudiesCUSAT, Kerala, India.Phone – 9744551114
Mail – [email protected]
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Don’t Be a Child
This is another
injunction handed
out by parents, in
their child ego
state, feeling
threatened by
having their child
around.
Don’t Be a ChildInstead of wanting the baby right out of way, the Child in the parent says: “ There is only room for one kid around here – and that is me. But I will put up with you, so long as you behave like a grown up instead of a child”. This may be reflected later on by verbal messages like “You are too old to …..” or “Big boys don’t cry”.
Don’t Be a Child
Don’t be a Child is also give out
by parents who were never
allowed to be child like
themselves and feel
threatened by child like
behavior. They may have been
reared in times of depression
or in a stern home where
worth and value were related
to doing.
Don’t Be a ChildSometimes, eldest or only child give themselves this injunction. Seeing Mother and Father arguing, an only child may decide: “The only other person around here is me. So I must be the cause of the fight. Therefore, it is up to me to do something about it. I did better grown up quickly so I can take charge.” An eldest child may decide similarly that she is responsible for her younger brothers and sisters.
Don’t Be a ChildIf you feel awkward relating to
children, you probably carry
Don’t be a Child. The same is
probably true if you stiffen up
when you are at parties or in
similar fun situation among
other adults. “Don’t have fun”
and “Don’t enjoy” are
sometimes listed as variants of
Don’t be a Child.
Don’t Be a ChildFor sure, we don’t need to be in our child ego state in order to have fun or enjoy. But if you decided as child that having fun and enjoying were things children did, and that you were supposed to be a solemn little grown up, you may well rubber band to that decision when the chance arises of having fun at your present age.
Don’t Be a Child
In some families, if you are
having too much fun you are
labeled lazy or sinful. There
may be a magical belief that
if you feel so good,
something bad will happen.
So the way you magically
ward off evil is to not feel so
good.
Thank You
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