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Domestic Violence AKA: Relationship Abuse Interpersonal Abuse Intimate Partner Violence Family Violence Slide 2 Slide 3 What is it? Domestic refers to relationship Blood, Marriage, Residence, Intimate Partners Violence refers to harm Physical, sexual, emotional Any attempt to impose my will on another human being is an act of violence - Mahatma Ghandi Slide 4 Listen to The Voices Video: When Love Hurts and/or Video: Battered Hearts And/or Dramatic Reading www.theraveproject.com www.restoredrelationships.org Slide 5 Power & Control Domestic Violence is NOT (Myths we believe) An anger management issue A small problem that only affects a few people Caused by substance abuse Happening somewhere else, not in my church Domestic Violence IS Hidden, happening here, even in my church ALL ABOUT POWER & CONTROL Slide 6 A Definition Domestic Violence: A pattern of behaviors used to establish control over another person through coercion, fear, intimidation, emotional abuse, social isolation, or other methods, which often (not always) includes the use of, or the threat of, physical or sexual violence Slide 7 A hierarchical relationship in which one person seeks to dominate and impose his/her will on another; using various means to maintain control. Slide 8 A mutual relationship expressing value, dignity and respect toward one another. Though not lived out perfectly, equality is the shared goal. Slide 9 What About the Children? Behavior, Social and Emotional Problems Aggressive/ antisocial Depressed/anxious Cognitive and Developmental Problems Lower assessments (verbal, motor, etc) Limited problem solving Long Term Impacts As Adults Higher DV involvement as adults PTSD/risk factors/premature death Slide 10 The Way of our Lord Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves In your relationships with one another, have the same attitude of mind Christ Jesus had: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death even death on a cross! - Philippians 2: 3- 11 Slide 11 Two Kinds of Power The kingdoms of this world place their trust in whatever coercive power they can use over others The power of the sword By CONTRAST, the Kingdom of God refuses to use coercive power over others, choosing instead to rely on a power shown in humble, self-sacrificing love The power of the cross Transforming, Ultimate Power = The Cross Slide 12 Why do Churches Care? We are a light to the world We are not representing Christ well when abuse exists in our communities Our marriages are a reflection of Christ and the Church We are one body When one part hurts it hurts the whole body We are called to love and to care for one another Slide 13 Slide 14 Signs Take Notice Unexplained bruises or injuries Absences from work or school Low self-esteem lack of confidence Trouble identifying feelings and expressing needs Fear of conflict gives in easily Self Blame Making excuses Slide 15 How Can Churches Help? Be a Safe Place, a sanctuary from abuse Understand Abuse Dynamics Speak Out! Its OK to talk about it here Listen, Listen, Listen! Two ears; one mouth You dont need all the answers Point to resources Provide walk-alongside support Be available over time Slide 16 Top 10 Checklist for Churches Do you offer a listening ear? Is there abuse information in the restroom? Do you partner with the local shelter? Is abuse discussed in youth group? Do you make appropriate referrals? Is abuse discussed in pre-marital counseling? Do you realize the importance of spiritual resources? Do you offer ministry opportunities for those who have received care to give back? Do you hold those who abuse accountable? Slide 17 Resources for Churches Restored Packet for Churches: www.restoredrelationships.org www.restoredrelationships.org RAVE Religion and Violence E-learning: www.theraveproject.com www.theraveproject.com Faith Trust Institute: www.faithtrustinstitute.orgwww.faithtrustinstitute.org Safe Church Ministry: www.crcna.org/safechurchwww.crcna.org/safechurch SCM: A Church Leaders Role Wheels; Survivor Stories; Etc Slide 18 DV Continuum of Care 1 2 34 5 67 8 9 10 Level of Danger Guarded General RiskElevated Significant RiskExtreme Severe Risk Symptoms Occasional incidents of belittling, name calling, and truth twisting. May believe partner is caring but feels like walking on eggshells. Frequent incidents involving yelling, screaming, hitting, stalking, making threats. There is isolation from friends and family and fear of partner. Frequent incidents of being beaten physically and verbally, threats with a knife, gun or some other weapon, strangulation, or destroying property. Fear of death from partner. Level of Care MinimumModerateMaximum Goal of Care Offer the one victimized education and counseling resources so that she or he can learn about DV and be proactive in thinking about safety Safety is a priority. Education about DV and counseling resources are needed, as well as a safety plan so the one victimized is empowered, knowing how to get to safety. Safety is the top priority. This is a dangerous situation. Offer resources to help the one victimized get to a safe place like a shelter. Help from police is recommended to gather belongings. Slide 19 What can WE do? From what weve heard today: What would we like to see in our churches? What are possible next steps for action? What are we willing to do? Slide 20 Questions? Thank YOU!