Decoding The Self
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Transcript of Decoding The Self
Dr. Dave M. Jenkins, DMin, LMFT
Decoding The Self
The Self
• Who are you?
• What is your purpose?
• Where are you going?
The Self
There are five parts of the self.
Part I
FamilyInfluence
Family
• Source of culture and ethnicity
• Gender identification
• DNA
FAMILY INFLUENCE
Part II
Memories
Memories
• Past behaviors & experiences
• Emotions and thoughts
• Dreams and failures
MEMORIES
Part III
Values &
Beliefs
Values and Beliefs
• Where do they come from?
• Do they change?
• Are they dependent on situations?
VALUES & BELIEFS
Part IV
Character
Character• It’s how others see you
• The sum of your behavior
– Your behaviors become patterns
• Your patterns become habits
–Your habits become character
CHARACTER
Part V
Goals & Dreams
Dreams and Goals
• What good are goals?
• Why have them?
• They’re motivators!
GOALS & DREAMS
This is what we look like when we have gaps in our life or feel incomplete.
Values &
Beliefs
Goals & Dreams
Character
FamilyMemories
Where they overlapand intersect, you will find the Essenceof who you are, your SOUL.
We never stop growing.This is a complete self.Every part overlaps and informs the other.
Everyone has a unique self.
Two complete selves that overlap; also known as a marriage.
Conclusion
• Define the heck out of yourself.
• Focus on internal changes
• Avoid reacting from an emotional position
Conclusion
• Act from a position of character based on values and beliefs that are consistent with our goals and dreams without shame, guilt or regret
• Learn forgiveness; it releases you from the
past to pursue your dreams