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Dr. Dave M. Jenkins, DMin, LMFT
Decoding The Self
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The Self
• Who are you?
• What is your purpose?
• Where are you going?
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The Self
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There are five parts of the self.
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Part I
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FamilyInfluence
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Family
• Source of culture and ethnicity
• Gender identification
• DNA
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FAMILY INFLUENCE
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Part II
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Memories
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Memories
• Past behaviors & experiences
• Emotions and thoughts
• Dreams and failures
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MEMORIES
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Part III
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Values &
Beliefs
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Values and Beliefs
• Where do they come from?
• Do they change?
• Are they dependent on situations?
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VALUES & BELIEFS
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Part IV
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Character
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Character• It’s how others see you
• The sum of your behavior
– Your behaviors become patterns
• Your patterns become habits
–Your habits become character
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CHARACTER
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Part V
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Goals & Dreams
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Dreams and Goals
• What good are goals?
• Why have them?
• They’re motivators!
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GOALS & DREAMS
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This is what we look like when we have gaps in our life or feel incomplete.
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Values &
Beliefs
Goals & Dreams
Character
FamilyMemories
Where they overlapand intersect, you will find the Essenceof who you are, your SOUL.
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We never stop growing.This is a complete self.Every part overlaps and informs the other.
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Everyone has a unique self.
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Two complete selves that overlap; also known as a marriage.
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Conclusion
• Define the heck out of yourself.
• Focus on internal changes
• Avoid reacting from an emotional position
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Conclusion
• Act from a position of character based on values and beliefs that are consistent with our goals and dreams without shame, guilt or regret
• Learn forgiveness; it releases you from the
past to pursue your dreams