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• Covenant relationships form the basis for all Covenant relationships form the basis for all other human relationships: trust, love, other human relationships: trust, love, arguing, serving, others-centeredness, faith, arguing, serving, others-centeredness, faith, perseveranceperseverance

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• A covenant involves the whole person, A covenant involves the whole person, binding 2 parties together in permanent and binding 2 parties together in permanent and unconditional unityunconditional unity

• God created a covenant with Abram that was God created a covenant with Abram that was contingent only upon God keeping his wordcontingent only upon God keeping his word

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• Covenants are reconfirmed, not renegotiatedCovenants are reconfirmed, not renegotiated

• They take precedence over every other They take precedence over every other human relationshiphuman relationship

• Covenants are not contingent upon the other Covenants are not contingent upon the other person person measuring upmeasuring up to some standard to some standard

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How does Jesus treat the church?How does Jesus treat the church?

How Does Jesus Treat the Church?How Does Jesus Treat the Church?

How does Jesus treat the church?How does Jesus treat the church?Loves her unconditionallyLoves her unconditionallyPut her interests above his/serves her regardless of Put her interests above his/serves her regardless of

expectationexpectationSees her as she can be & sets her free to become itSees her as she can be & sets her free to become itHelps her grow/become pure and holyHelps her grow/become pure and holyProtects herProtects herProvides for herProvides for herNever walks away from herNever walks away from her

Love

• Seeks the best interests of the Seeks the best interests of the other person- if though it may other person- if though it may be undeserved- and even if it be undeserved- and even if it causes sacrifice to do socauses sacrifice to do so

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• HeadshipHeadship

• SubmissionSubmission

Covenant CollateralCovenant CollateralSubmit to Submit to one anotherone another out of out of reverencereverence for for

Christ.Christ.Wives, Wives, submitsubmit to your husbands as to the Lord. to your husbands as to the Lord.

For the husband is the For the husband is the headhead of the wife as of the wife as Christ is the Christ is the headhead of the church, his body, of of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now which he is the Savior. Now as the church as the church submits to Christsubmits to Christ, so also wives should submit , so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything to their husbands in everything - Ephesians 5:21-24 - Ephesians 5:21-24

• Submission=Submission= hupotasso: a hupotasso: a continuing continuing attitudeattitude of willful subordination of of willful subordination of one’s desires, wants and needs to one’s desires, wants and needs to anotheranother

• Others-centeredOthers-centered

• Submission isSubmission is

• MMutualutual

• Under and based on CUnder and based on Christhrist ((out of reverence forout of reverence for))

• Involves HInvolves Headshipeadship


How does the Church submit to Jesus?How does the Church submit to Jesus?


How does the Church submit to Jesus?How does the Church submit to Jesus?Seeks to please him in all thingsSeeks to please him in all thingsObeysObeysTrusts and respectsTrusts and respectsPraises and speaks well ofPraises and speaks well ofLooks to Jesus as a providerLooks to Jesus as a provider

• Headship is:Headship is:

• PPositionalositional

• IImitativemitative of Christ of Christ

• Involves rInvolves responsibilityesponsibility notnot rights rights


……the LORD God called to the LORD God called to the manthe man, , “Where are you?”- Genesis 3:9“Where are you?”- Genesis 3:9

On that day the LORD made a covenant On that day the LORD made a covenant with Abramwith Abram- Genesis 15:18- Genesis 15:18

• Headship is not:Headship is not:

• InequalityInequality• DomineeringDomineering• Unreasonable- it’s not about Unreasonable- it’s not about

expectations, but servingexpectations, but serving• UnilateralUnilateral

• Headship is responsibility and Headship is responsibility and serviceservice

Covenant CollateralCovenant CollateralSubmit to Submit to one anotherone another out of out of reverencereverence

for Christ.for Christ.Wives, Wives, submitsubmit to your husbands as to the to your husbands as to the

Lord. For the husband is the Lord. For the husband is the headhead of the of the wife as Christ is the wife as Christ is the headhead of the church, of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands wives should submit to their husbands in everythingin everything - Ephesians 5:21-24 - Ephesians 5:21-24

• In everything??In everything??

• In everything??In everything??

• LLoveove and obedience to Jesus are and obedience to Jesus are the limitersthe limiters

• What if he’s not a good man? What if he’s not a good man? (cf. 1 (cf. 1 Peter 3:1)Peter 3:1)


Husbands, love your wives, Husbands, love your wives, just asjust as Christ Christ loved the church and loved the church and gave himself upgave himself up for for her her to make her holyto make her holy, cleansing her by , cleansing her by the washing with water through the the washing with water through the word…word…

• The measure of a man is not what The measure of a man is not what he gets, but what he giveshe gets, but what he gives


……and and to present her to himselfto present her to himself as a as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and or any other blemish, but holy and blameless- vs. 25-27blameless- vs. 25-27


The head of the church sacrificed his The head of the church sacrificed his desires in order to serve the church- in desires in order to serve the church- in order that his bride could become all order that his bride could become all that she was created to be. that she was created to be. And in the And in the end, he blessed himself by putting her end, he blessed himself by putting her firstfirst


The actions and attitudes of my wife are a The actions and attitudes of my wife are a direct result of the qdirect result of the qualityuality of my love for of my love for herher

……just as Christ just as Christ loved the church…loved the church…

Domineering Wimpy

Prideful, arrogant, Prideful, arrogant, unwilling to listen, unwilling to listen,

disrespectfuldisrespectful

Afraid, conflict-averse, Afraid, conflict-averse, swayed by swayed by

opinions/emotions opinions/emotions rather than truthrather than truth

Results inResults in: resentment, : resentment, poor choices, acting poor choices, acting

like a fool, angry like a fool, angry children, hindered children, hindered

prayersprayers

Results inResults in: lack of : lack of respect, poor choices, respect, poor choices, resentment, children resentment, children

gone wild gone wild

DiagnosisDiagnosis: Repent: Repent DiagnosisDiagnosis: Repent: Repent


In this same way, husbands ought to love In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his loves his wifewife loves loves himself…himself…


……After all, no one ever hated After all, no one ever hated his own his own bodybody, but he feeds and cares for it, just , but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body…members of his body…


…“…“For this reason a man will leave his For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one wife, and the two will become one flesh.” flesh.”

This is a profound mystery—but I am This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church… talking about Christ and the church…


……However, each one of you also However, each one of you also mustmust love his wifelove his wife as he loves himself, and the as he loves himself, and the wife wife mustmust respect her husbandrespect her husband- vs. 28-- vs. 28-3333


She Needs He Needs- Love

- Security- Protection- Provision

- Honesty and Openness- Conversation/Emotional

Support- Family Commitment

- Respect- Intimacy

- Recreational Companionship- Individuality

-Her to be attractive for him/ attracted to him

- Words of encouragement- Wisdom

Covenant CollateralCovenant CollateralNow Sarai, Abram's wife, had borne him Now Sarai, Abram's wife, had borne him

no children. But she had an Egyptian no children. But she had an Egyptian maidservant named Hagar; so she said maidservant named Hagar; so she said to Abram, "The LORD has kept me from to Abram, "The LORD has kept me from having children. Go, having children. Go, sleep with my sleep with my maidservantmaidservant; perhaps I can build a ; perhaps I can build a family through her" – Genesis 16:1-2family through her" – Genesis 16:1-2


Who sinned?Who sinned?


Who paid the price?Who paid the price?

Covenant CollateralCovenant CollateralAs he was about to enter Egypt, he said to As he was about to enter Egypt, he said to

his wife Sarai, "I know what a beautiful his wife Sarai, "I know what a beautiful woman you are. When the Egyptians woman you are. When the Egyptians see you, they will say, 'This is his wife.' see you, they will say, 'This is his wife.' Then they will kill me but will let you Then they will kill me but will let you live… live…

Covenant CollateralCovenant Collateral……Say you are my sister, so that I will be Say you are my sister, so that I will be

treated well for your sake and my life treated well for your sake and my life will be spared because of you”- Genesis will be spared because of you”- Genesis 12:11-1312:11-13


Who sinned?Who sinned?


Who paid the price?Who paid the price?

• When covenant partners When covenant partners compromise covenant compromise covenant responsibilities, there’s always responsibilities, there’s always ccollateralollateral damage damage

Takeaways:

• What about the roles in marriage What about the roles in marriage bother me? Why? How do I bother me? Why? How do I reconcile that with what God reconcile that with what God clearly teaches in scripture?clearly teaches in scripture?

Takeaways:

• Do I show respect towards my Do I show respect towards my husband? Even when he’s not husband? Even when he’s not who he needs to be? who he needs to be?

• Am I willing to serve and to trust Am I willing to serve and to trust that God will work in his heart that God will work in his heart while I serve?while I serve?

Takeaways:

• Do I understand the responsibility Do I understand the responsibility God places on me in Headship? God places on me in Headship?

• Do I sacrifice myself and my Do I sacrifice myself and my desires for the sake of my wife and desires for the sake of my wife and family?family?

Takeaways:

• Am I a spiritual leader for my Am I a spiritual leader for my family?family?

• Do lean towards domineering? Do lean towards domineering? Wimpiness? Will I repent? Wimpiness? Will I repent?

Takeaways:

• For men and women: what For men and women: what damage have I caused because of damage have I caused because of covenant compromise? Will I covenant compromise? Will I repent and make a change?repent and make a change?

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