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Counseling Grief Why students need it and counselors must use it! By Charlie Piper

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Counseling GriefWhy students need it and counselors must

use it!By Charlie Piper

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PreviewWhy grief counseling?

What are the stages of grief?

Grief does NOT affect everyone!

What type of atmosphere should be maintained?

Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?

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Why grief counseling?

As Baker and Gerler (2004) state:

“because they lack experience and their cognitive development is incomplete, children and adolescents often respond to the death of loved ones and contemporaries maladaptively and may manifest inappropriate responses in school” (p. 119).

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Why grief counseling?

So the other question is…will a student really be affected by a death?

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What are the stages of Grief?

According to Dr. Kubler-Ross (five/six stages):

• Denial (and isolation)• Anger• Bargaining• Depression• Acceptance• Hope

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What are the stages of Grief?

Denial (Isolation)Anger

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What are the stages of Grief?

Bargaining

Depression

• Pleas• Mood Swings• Frustration

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What are the stages of Grief?

"It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on Earth and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it were the only one we had." ---Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

"Optimism is a cheerful frame of mind that enables a tea kettle to sing though it's in hot water up to its nose." ---Unknown

Acceptance

Hope

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Grief does NOT affect everyone!

What about the students who have NOT lost loved ones…yet?

• Prepare lesson plans for all students

• Initiate preventive classroom opportunities • Read stories about dealing with grief

• Let each student share how they feel • Listen to songs

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Grief does NOT affect everyone!

Yes, but what about the ones affected?

• Utilize intervention counseling

• Group counseling

• Create memory books

• Discuss the stages of grief

• Be a role model!

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What type of atmosphere should be maintained?

• Safe and open

• Truthful • One that allows laughter

• One that allow rituals

• An understanding climate

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What type of atmosphere should be maintained?

Stay engaged in activities:

• Write letters to the deceased

• Discuss ways to help others

• Share information about funerals

• Draw pictures of happy times

• Remember a funny situation with a loved one

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Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?

The simple answer is…

UHH, YEAH!!

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Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?

Technology encompasses many things

Computer use

• Sites about other students dealing with grief

http://kidscopewithgrief.comhttp://kidsaid.comhttp://amandathepanda.org

• Are these kids tech literate?

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Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?

Lastly, remember to use technology with personality

Which reminds me of a story

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Feelings

Write down how you felt after hearing my story

So what can you do about those feelings?

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The Everyday Visuals - Dance and Holler on Vimeo.mht

http://www.vimeo.com/2024437

What in that video replicates what was presented today?

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