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What was that?

An elderly couple had dinner at another couple's house, and

after eating, the wives left the table and went

into the kitchen.The two gentlemen were talking, and one said, "Last

night we went out to a new restaurant and it was really great. You ought to try it.“

The other man said, "What is the name of the restaurant?“

The first man thought and thought and finally said, "What is the name of that flower you give to someone you love?You know ... The one that's red and has thorns.“

"Do you mean a rose?“"Yes, that's the one," replied the man. He then turned

towards the kitchen and yelled, "Rose, what's the name of that restaurant we went to last night?"

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President Spencer W. Kimball

"We are concerned over the mounting number of divorces not only in our society, but in the Church.

We are just as concerned with those whose families and marriages seem to be held together in 'quiet desperation.‘

The Privilege of Holding the Priesthood," in Priesthood (Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Company, 1981), 4-5.

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Converted Children

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Converted Individuals

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We frequently speak about and highlight marriage as a fundamental unit of society, as the foundation of a strong nation, and as a vital sociological and cultural institution.

But the restored gospel helps us to understand that it is so much more!

Do we perhaps talk about marriage without adequately teaching the importance of marriage in the Father’s plan?

Emphasizing marriage without linking it to the simple and fundamental doctrine of the plan of happiness cannot provide sufficient direction, protection, or hope in a world that grows increasingly confused and wicked.  Worldwide training, LDS.org

Elder Bednar

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Alma 12: 31,32

Basis for marriage

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I Cor 1:9,10Equally Yoked?Marriage is not a contract,

It is a covenant

Marriage Guidelines

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Familiar…The Lord

Husband Wife

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PHWWLO

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 It is not uncommon for a family to come in to see me that has a strong, hard-working, psychologically minded woman at its heart and a weak or abusive or disengaged husband at its periphery.

Nearly always they are having trouble with one or more of the children. It is perfectly clear (at least to me and to the wife) that one of the problems is that the father is not playing his part well.

The temptation, of course, is to become the substitute patriarch in this family, joining with the wife in setting the family's affairs in order.

In such a plan, the father is either ignored or treated as one of the children who has to be reeducated on how to behave in the family circle…

Carlfred Broderick, One Flesh, One Heart: Putting Celestial Love into Your Temple Marriage ( 1986)

Common Problem

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Women, by their nature, are more attuned to spiritual issues.

Spiritual issues are “family focused”

Men are more likely to confuse “emotion” with “the Spirit”

Possible Reasons

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Proverbs 8

Lady Wisdom

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1. BE ABUSIVE2. BE DEFENSIVE3. BE CRITICAL4. BE RIGHT-Always5. BE SELFISH6. BE DISHONEST7. BE UNFAITHFUL8. BE SUPERIOR9. BE CONTROLLING10. BE CERTAIN Morton C. Orman, M.D.

TEN WAYS TO DESTROY ANY RELATIONSHIP THAT MATTERS TO YOU

Ogden NashTo keep your marriage brimmingWith love in the loving cup, Whenever you're wrong admit it, Whenever you're right, shut up!

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Sisters, I testify that when you stand in front of your heavenly parents in those royal courts on high and you look into Her eyes and behold Her countenance,

any question you ever had about the role of women in the kingdom will evaporate into the rich celestial air,

because at that moment you will see standing directly in front of you, your divine nature and destiny.“BYU Devotional, March 2010

Elder Glenn L. Pace

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Elder Holland

Sister Holland and I were married about the time both of us were reading poems like that in BYU classrooms. We were as starstruck—and as fearful—as most of you are at these ages and stages of life. We had absolutely no money. Zero. For a variety of reasons, neither of our families was able to help finance our education. We had a small apartment just south of campus—the smallest we could find: two rooms and a half bath. We were both working too many hours trying to stay afloat financially, but we had no other choice.

I remember one fall day—I think it was in the first semester after our marriage in 1963—we were walking together up the hill past the Maeser Building on the sidewalk that led between the President’s Home and the Brimhall Building. Somewhere on that path we stopped and wondered what we had gotten ourselves into. Life that day seemed so overwhelming, and the undergraduate plus graduate years that we still anticipated before us seemed monumental, nearly insurmountable. Our love for each other and our commitment to the gospel were strong, but most of all the other temporal things around us seemed particularly ominous.

On a spot that I could probably still mark for you today, I turned to Pat and said something like this: “Honey, should we give up? I can get a good job and carve out a good living for us. I can do some things. I’ll be okay without a degree. Should we stop trying to tackle what right now seems so difficult to face?”

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Elder HollandIn my best reenactment of Lot’s wife, I said, in effect, “Let’s go back. Let’s go home. The future holds nothing for us.”Then my beloved little bride did what she has done for 45 years since then. She grabbed me by the lapels and said, “We are not going back. We are not going home. The future holds everything for us.”

She stood there in the sunlight that day and gave me a real talk. I don’t recall that she quoted Paul, but there was certainly plenty in her voice that said she was committed to setting aside all that was past in order to “press toward the mark” and seize the prize of God that lay yet ahead. It was a living demonstration of faith. It was “the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen” (Hebrews 11:1).

So we laughed, kept walking, and finished up sharing a root beer—one glass, two straws—at the then newly constructed Wilkinson Center.BYU Devotional, “Remember Lot’s Wife” 2009