Conflict Resolutionwith

Family or Friends

Win -Win Solutions

Edited by:

Teresa Griffin, Oak Canyon Junior High

and students Annie Madsen, Lindsay Clegg

Definitions

Conflict: Two people disagree on something.

Conflict Resolution: Resolves conflicts in a positive way, by

understanding others point of view.

Win-Win Conflict Resolution: A compromise so everyone will win. Avoids competition and arguing.

What Doesn’t Work to Resolve Conflicts?• Yelling, • Refusing to work

out the conflict,• Name calling, • Hitting, • Most Passive and

Aggressive Behaviors.

3 Behavior Styles used in

Relationshipsto resolve conflict

1.Aggressive2.Passive 3.Assertive

Aggressive BehaviorMy rights are more important

than other people’s rights!

My Attitude: “I’m never wrong”

“Everyone should be like me”

Passive BehaviorI consider others rights, not my

own.

I don’t express my true feelings,

and always agree with others.

Assertive Behavior Win-Win attitude -- Everybody

wins something

I listen to others, but still stand up for myself.

Lose-Lose: The Downward Spiral You Lose ---- Other Person Loses

Lose-Win: The Door-Mat You Lose --- Other Person Wins

Win-Lose: The Bulldozer You Win - Other Person Loses

Win-Win: The All You Can Eat Buffet You Win - Other Person Wins

Win-Win

Solutions

Lose-Lose “The downward spiral”

This is when nobody wins and the conflict is not solved.

Win-Lose“The Bulldozer”

One person wins,

the other loses.

You Win - Other Person Loses

Lose-Win“The doormat”

One person wins, the other loses.

You Lose --- Other Person Wins

Win-Win“The All You Can Eat Buffet!!”--

Each person gets what they want!

Both people win and the conflict is resolved!

Goldilocks and Three Bears Conflict

In order to solve problems, you will need to be able to

see things from several points of

view! Can you do it?

Eskimo or Indian?

Young or OldWoman?

What do you see? Anything else?

Brainstorm all possible solutions to solve problems using win-win

solutions Think of any and all possible ways to solve the

problem so that everyone will win something and be happy!

Evaluate later NOT NOW

Do not criticize any suggestion until it is time to evaluate and make a decision.

Hug O’War by Shel Silverstein

I will not play a tug o' warI'd rather play a hug o' war,

Where everyone hugsInstead of tugs

Where everyone gigglesAnd rolls on the rug,

Where everyone kissesAnd everyone grins

And everyone cuddlesAnd everyone wins.