Coaching with Confidence

Clare Moore

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I’ve got my prep work

What is it, where does it

come from

Anchoring for confidence

Your confident situations

Lunch

 Coaching  With  Confidence  

My sources of

confidence

Reflection, Summary and Close

Inner Game and Self

Talk

Choosing my Self Talk

Group  Dynamic  

•  Diverse  knowledge  &  understanding      •  Different  rela:onships    •  Varying  levels  of  comfort    •  Individual  styles  and  levels  of  self  awareness  

•  Different  values  and  beliefs    •  Expecta:ons  may  vary  

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My Confident Situations Where  I’m  Confident   Where  I  want  to  be  more  confident  

                               

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Where  does  confidence  come  from?  

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What  does  confidence  look  like?  

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Why  do  we  behave  the  way  we  do?      Neurological  levels    

Source:  Robert  Dilts,  Logical  Levels   7  

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What Drives Behaviour?

 Source  pic:  Paul  MaShews,  People  Alchemy  Ltd.(2008)   9  

My Sources of Confidence

Environment      

Behaviour      

Skills  and  Abili:es      

Values  and  Beliefs      

Iden:ty      

Purpose      

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Anchoring Technique

•  Iden:fy  the  state  you  want  to  elicit  •  Remember,  vividly,  a  :me  when  you  were  in  that  state  

•  Expand  that  memory,  really  be  there  •  Connect  an  anchor  (e.g.  gesture,  picture,  sound)  to  that  state  

•  Repeat  

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Self  Talk  

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Inner  Game  –  Timothy  Gallwey  

Performance  =    Poten6al  –  Interference  

P=  p-­‐i  

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Our  inner  dialogue  

•  Self  1  –  the  ego  mind  or  “teller”  

•  Self  2  –  the  natural  ability  (it  likes  images  and  pictures)    To  play  our  best  game,  we  must  quiet  Self  1  and  let  Self  2  do  what  it  knows  how  to  do  

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Gallwey’s  4  step  process  

1.  Non-­‐judgmental  observa:on  2.  Visualise  the  desired  outcome  3.  Trust  Self  2  4.  Non-­‐judgmental  observa:on  of  the  change  and  

results  

“There  is  no  failure,  only  feedback”  Robert  Allen  

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Choosing My Self Talk Nega6ve  Self  Talk   Replace  With  

 I’ve  got  to…    I  failed…    I  always…    I  never….    I’m  such  a  xxxx    It’s  a  disaster…    I  can’t  do  this  here…    I’ve  never  done  this  before…    

 I  get  to….    I  learned…    On  this  occasion…    On  this  occasion….    I’m  human  and  I’m  learning…    That’s  interes:ng…    I  wonder  how  I  can  do  this  here?    I’ve  faced  new  situa:ons  before..  

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I’ve got my prep work

What is it, where does it

come from

Anchoring for confidence

Your confident situations

Lunch

 Coaching  With  Confidence  

My sources of

confidence

Reflection, Summary and Close

Inner Game and Self

Talk

Choosing my Self Talk