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DISCIPLINE“OK, here are your options:jump and discover the joyof flight, or don’t jump and I’ll kick your butt out of the tree.

What kind of teaching is this?

3 R’s of punishment:

1. RESENTMENT

2. REVENGE

3. RETREAT

Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make a child do better, first we have to make them feel worse.

Children do better when they feel better!

TYPES OF PARENTING or TEACHING:

• Permissive:– Freedom without order– No restriction, rules – No consequences

Creates a manipulative personality, aggression,and independence.

TYPES OF PARENTING or TEACHING:

• Authoritative (Democratic):– Mutual Respect– Cooperation– Freedom with Order

Creates a self disciplinedchild who is responsiblefor own actions.

TYPES OF PARENTING or TEACHING:

• Authoritarian

• External Control

• Punishment

• Order without freedom

WHY DO CHILDREN MISBEHAVE?

•A misbehaving child is a discouraged child. Why?

MISBEHAVIOR:• Is based on a child’s mistaken

interpretation of how to find BELONGING & SIGNIFICANCE

4 GOALS OF MISTAKEN BEHAVIOR:

1. Attention2. Power3. Revenge4. Give-up

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ATTENTIONOTHER BEHAVIORS

KEEP RULES SHORT & SIMPLE

1. Be nice to teacher and classmates

2. Raise hand to speak

3. Walk in halls

CLASSROOM DISCIPLINE…

Be silent or whisper

• Resist giving attention to the disruptor– “Someone is disturbing the class”

• Move closer, place hand on shoulder

•Involve them!!!

• Talk privately– “What can I do to get your help?”

ALWAYS REMEMBER:

•MISTAKES R WUNDERFULL OPPERTUNITEEZ 2 LERN!–Recognize your mistake–Reconcile “I’m sorry”–Resolve: Focus on solutions rather than blame.

Solution to All Misbehavior:

Spend special timeWith the child eachday!

Solution to Attention Problems:

• Ignore if possible• Give attention when good• Redirect• Logical consequences• Choices

Solution to Power Problems:

• Withdraw• Cool off• Problem solve together• Win cooperation• Act

4 Steps for Winning Cooperation:

1. Get into child’s world • Check it out

2. Show understanding3. Share your feelings4. Find a solution

together

Solution to Revenge Problems:

• Withdraw from revenge cycle• Win child over• Solve the problem• Take away items they could

destroy• Apologize if needed

Solution to Inadequacy Problems:

• Avoid pity• Encourage & train• Create small

successes• Don’t give up

Believe that children are basically GOOD!

Make sure the message of LOVE always gets

through:

TIMING:

•It is impossible to solve problems at

the time of CONFLICT!

LISTEN FIRST:•Children will listen to you after they feel listed to.

NATURAL & LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:

• NATURAL: Simply happen naturally– No coat = cold

• LOGICAL: Are decided upon and imposed by parents or teachers

LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:

• One needs to be:– Firm– Calm– Positive toward

child

No laughing at…

No teasing or humiliation

No threatening

No frightening

3 R’S OF LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:

1.RELATED2.RESPECTFUL3.RESONABLE

                                                     

TIME OUT: An alternative to spanking.1. Gives child time to calm down & time

to think about the correct way to act.2. Child is moved away from others –

an effective consequence.

Only use if child is out of control, hurting others or destroying things.

TIME OUT GUIDELINES:• Choose a location that is dull and away from

others. • Use time out immediately after misbehavior

occurs.• Length of time = 1 minute for each year of

age.• Don’t’ talk to child until afterwards (Make

sure they understand the “WHY”).• Reward good behavior after time out, as soon

as they do something positive.

DISCIPLINE STEPS:1. Redirect2. Check it out3. Speak to the child about the

problem4. Give choices5. Use logical or natural consequences6. Use time out if still out of control

CLASSROOM DISCIPLINE:• Have rules and remind

them often

FORBIDDEN DISCIPLINE ACTIONS:

•No spanking

No picking children up

No insults

No swinging children