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Chronic Time Abuse Chicara Mayes Johnny Warren October 13, 2011 Partners In Learning 1 “Ordinary time- management techniques simply don’t help some people. But if you understand the four distinct varieties of time abusers and the inner conflicts that distress them, you can find ways to work more productively together.”
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Chronic Time AbuseChicara MayesJohnny Warren
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“Ordinary time-management techniques simply don’t help some people. But if you understand the four distinct varieties of time abusers and the inner conflicts that distress them, you can find ways to work more productively together.”
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What is Time Abuse? Time abuse is different from time
management Time abuse results from psychological
conflicts Abuse is generated from brittle self-
esteem & unconscious fears You must eliminate the source of the
Abuser’s anxiety
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Four Types of Time Abusers Preemptive People Pleaser The Perfectionist The Procrastinator
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“Let me do it”
Rarest time abuser Compulsively races the clock Often first rate work Stems from being raised in a highly
disruptive environment Seldom considered team players Fails to consider the needs of the group
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Dreams do Come True! People Pleaser Can’t say NO! Commits to unproductive projects Stems from unappreciation of childhood
feelings Puts aside their desires for the sake of
others Time abuse= venting for anger
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“ “All or Nothing” The Perfectionist – Rachel Glee First rate work Must have absolute control Abuser resembles an OCD suffer Fears criticism Emotionally isolated Flooding Technique
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“It can just wait” Resemble perfectionist Stems from being praise too early in
childhood Resents being trapped by unrealistic
performance expectations Refusal is not always the problem Justification for producing inferior work
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How Does this apply to Us
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Hyper Kids Shy Kids Bossy Kids Brown nosers
Groups
Over achiever Bootlicker Perfect Patty Johnny
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Tips for Managing Time Abusers
Promote- Make preemptive feel in control by putting them in charge of other peopleFlood- Expose perfectionists to frequent low doses of evaluationPraise and protect- praises people pleasers for their regular work so they don’t take on others’ work to get praiseAttack the fear of failure- Force procrastinators to confront their fears of failure
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