Christy Whitman’s intervieW With Blair Singer · Blair Singer: well I think having it all first...

The ArT of Having it all

Christy Whitman’s

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Christy Whitman, The Acclaimed New York Times Best-Selling Author

A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited abundance

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Having it all is not about striving for perfection, or about living our lives according to someone else’s standards

or expectations (we’ve done that for far too long).

It’s not about working ourselves to a state of exhaustion, spreading ourselves too thin, or trading inner peace and

contentment for outer trinkets of success.

Been there. Done that too.

Having it all simply means having access to all of yourself, in any moment you choose it, and in every

aspect of life that is important to you.

Go here to learn exactly how you too, can “Have it All”’

www.theartofhavingitall.com






4 QueStionS with ChriSty whitman

C: how do you define your it and your all in your life?

Blair Singer: well I think having it all first is predicated on the fact that you know what you want. I think a lot of people end up with the life they don’t want because they

end up doing things they think they’re supposed to be doing things other people expect them to do or things that they’re supposed to have because other people told them as a kid they should have but they should get clear on what it is that they want. Even when you start to get clear on that then you have all the boy stuff that comes up and says you don’t deserve it you’re not smart enough you’re not old enough and all that other crap that gets involved. So the whole concept of getting what you want is a life task in itself that’s why the book you created is so amazingly important because a lot of people will spend a lot of their lives really frustrated not even knowing what they want. Because you and I talked about it earlier I don’t think you can have everything but who wants everything? What you want is what you want and what’s important in your life and what’s important to you and when you get clear about that actually it’s not that difficult to have what you want.

C: What is your core belief about yourself or the universe that allows you to have the experience of having it all?

Blair Singer: I think there is a couple of things and I don’t know if this comes from age experience or having great teachers or mentors but I think that you and I have

discussed this before it’s really about being really present. It’s about being in the moment. As you know one of the things I’ve done in the last couple of years is climbed Mount Kilimanjaro in Canton area which is an amazing experience which you should come to the next year. You can so do it. It was an amazing experience and the fact that you learn that is just one step at a time one breath at a time if you try to look up at the summit you could get really intimidated so don’t do that you focus on where you are at in the whole thing turns into a joyful experience. I think that you’ve got to learn to love the process. Learn to be present and love the process you are in in the moment don’t get so concerned about the summit or both the goal or income whatever





that is because stuff can happen. Whether could come in and we can’t make the summit on this trip because of bad weather or something catastrophic like your tree could fall in your house. There are all kinds of things that could happen but if you are enjoying the process enjoying the sweat and work and highs and lows enjoying all of that there is no way to lose and then you truly are getting what you want because it’s all about the process. I find so many people focused on it whatever it is and if it doesn’t show up the weight it is supposed to be then you are frustrated or are disappointed and your energy goes down but every point along the way is a celebration there is no way to lose. So if something changes okay things can change. I think a lot of that has to do with people like us who were type A we need to have this and your self-worth is wrapped up with what you accomplish. What if you’re so forth was determined by how much you showed up in the moment? How present you really were. Or people walked away from you saying wow I was just with Christy and I feel so much better because I had a conversation with Christie. I don’t know if there was any information I just feel better. You and I know we both have people like that in our lives and even with that how good is that how good of a legacy is that. I think that is the good thing if you were active in goal setting which I am write down your goals follow your processes and all of that stuff but then don’t worry so much about it and focus on the one or two things that are most important, the other goals show up. It’s like you’ve created a vacuum of vortex and all of the other things you want come sucking and but if you focus on something that your spouse wants you to do or your parents told you, you should do for your friends think you ought to do, and there is a lot of struggle there and it blocks the creativity and natural laws of nature that have come to support it.

C: When you are in a place of having it all what is that bottom line essence feeling for you?

Blair Singer: first of all there is no time in that moment. There is no time and there is nothing else going on. When I am climbing Killi with my son I am not thinking

about the mortgage were thinking about my health or thinking about all these other things there is only that moment in time and it’s a very full moment. I had a little discipline that was funny because over the weekend by 12-year-old was playing a state championship football and my wife sometimes get very nervous because he is the place kicker and we think what if he misses.





As we watch I have this mantra I keep saying it’s all good the matter what happens its all good. And it’s kind of a piece all that if you just keep telling yourself that it’s really true it’s all good it’s all lessons they are all valuable so good all up none of it is that unless you make it bad. And I think that is an important thing Mac Newton said to me once the human brain can only hold one thought at a time. So the deal is if you’ve got a negative thought in your mind you can’t just get rid of a negative thought you have to replace it it’s the law of replacement so it’s for me I like myself I like myself I like myself that’s a thought that may not have nothing to do with kicking a field goal but it’s a positive thought. If you can just discipline yourself no matter what little voice cracks going on in your head, just replace that in the moment with an affirmation that positive like I was saying to you earlier the result is almost instantaneous all of the sudden think start flowing into you that what it flow in because you were energetically putting it out. You become your dominant thought. So if your dominant thought is about what could possibly go wrong and even if you are trying to mitigate preventing something from going wrong your still focusing on something that’s going wrong so what happens is if you are going to continue to attract that in your space as opposed to replace it with a completely different thought I am applying for a loan what if I don’t get it I like myself I like myself and you know what that’s all you need to do and what will happen is all of the positive energy will start flowing into you. I think that if I were to sum up all my rambling here I would say this, really having what you want is really being able to focus on one positive thought at a time just one positive present moment at a time and if a person can just do that even with no goal setting you can get what you want because your positive dominant thoughts will take over. I only wish that I have done this when I was 20 years old if I got into this but it’s never too late to have a happy childhood I would say so it’s like you just want to pass it on to your kids you want to pass on to all of your friends and I know how passionate you are about this book and about this message and I am too. I am passionate for you. I wish that more people could really know that the distance between where they are and what they really want is not light years away. It’s not days a way it could be a split-second away it’s just the changing of a thought just for a moment if you can change those together you get what you want. The reason I am passionate about it is because it’s my process to I am not saying I am an expert at it I am not saying I am on it 100% of the time but it’s a conscious thought and the reason I am passionate about it and your book is because I am still working for the process of having what I want getting what I want and every now and then stuff filters and that I don’t want. Okay so how did that get there don’t focus on that I like myself I like myself. Don’t focus on how that got there you’ll end up with more of that. My message to everybody is take a look for what you do have do it daily gratitude exercise





be grateful for what you have and if you think about something all the good things that you’ve got to back track and see how you got that and do more of that. The things that you don’t like stop doing that. It’s an honor to know that we have worked together so many years ago at train the trainer and you built this career and this movement and I think this movement is timely for a lot of people and not only America but around the world. Right now there are a lot of people very frustrated because they don’t have what they want and they think the way they get what they want is outside of themselves rather than inside of themselves and while that is a timeless message it’s timely that you have got a book and you are giving people the step-by-step to be able to do this because it’s very needed. My friend who’s an expedition leader his name is Kevin Shrill and he says the mountain will always teach you something you didn’t expect. The first year my son and I went there and after working at the orphanage which is an amazing experience we climbed it got very sick and had to turn back and that was a big lesson because it taught me a value set I didn’t know that I had in that was the value of love was more important than achieving. A change my relationship with my son and my family forever. By his decision we went back and then the second time we went back we made the summit together we learned about presence and the power of presence. The last time we went I took a crew some friends with us we went up there and it was a whole new experience on leadership and what it means be a leader and how to take people beyond their expectations and the incredible power that people have inside of themselves. Each time it’s a big lesson so I think for you and for everybody find the place that gives you your creativity. Find the place in the environment and context where you can create not compete but just create and be in a create mode where for me when you are above the clouds line up 50,000 feet and God’s living room I call it and you were looking out over there and all of a sudden all the stuff below the clouds doesn’t seem that significant anymore that when you are looking at the stars looking out at night and it feels like the stars are on your arms because you are that close you can actually feel like you’re on a spaceship flying through space. And watching the horizon roll up because of the sun all of these things that are just making you so connected to having a great life and when you see that and have those experiences wherever they are and it could be the experience of watching your son’s kick a soccer ball kick a field goal something like that and in that moment when there is no time in you’re connected to everything spend more time there. Spend more time there.





Right at this moment, no matter how you are feeling, no matter how in debt you might be, no matter how old you are or how much you weigh, and no matter what the condition of your relationships might be, you have the power to re-create yourself and your life exactly the way you desire it to be – and quite frankly, the way you deserve it to be.

Regardless of how big a gap exists between what you want and what you currently have, within you is the ability to effortlessly and joyfully bridge that gap in virtually every aspect of your life.

You can have it all, how you define it, how you want it. You do have the power to create it.

Go here to learn exactly how you can start having it all today!


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