Chapter 10Chapter 10

Skills for Healthy RelationshipsSkills for Healthy Relationships

Types of RelationshipsTypes of Relationships

Relationships – a bond or connection you Relationships – a bond or connection you have with other peoplehave with other people

Types of RelationshipsTypes of Relationships

Family RelationshipsFamily Relationships – involve both – involve both immediate family (Parents, siblings) & immediate family (Parents, siblings) & extended family (Grandparents)extended family (Grandparents)

FriendshipsFriendships – a significant relationship – a significant relationship between two people that is based on between two people that is based on caring, trust & Considerationcaring, trust & Consideration

Types of RelationshipsTypes of Relationships

Community RelationshipsCommunity Relationships CitizenshipCitizenship – the way you conduct – the way you conduct

yourself as a member of the communityyourself as a member of the community

The 3 C’s of Healthy The 3 C’s of Healthy RelationshipsRelationships

Communication Communication CooperationCooperation CompromiseCompromise

The 3 C’s of Healthy The 3 C’s of Healthy RelationshipsRelationships

CommunicationCommunication – your ways of sending & – your ways of sending & receiving messages…these may be receiving messages…these may be through words, gestures, expressions, or through words, gestures, expressions, or behaviorsbehaviors

CooperationCooperation – working together for the – working together for the good of allgood of all

The 3 C’s of Healthy The 3 C’s of Healthy RelationshipsRelationships

CompromiseCompromise – a problem-solving method – a problem-solving method that involves each participant’s giving up that involves each participant’s giving up something to reach a solution that something to reach a solution that satisfies everyonesatisfies everyone

Characteristics of Healthy Characteristics of Healthy RelationshipsRelationships

Mutual Respect & ConsiderationMutual Respect & Consideration HonestyHonesty DependabilityDependability CommitmentCommitment

Six Characteristics in a Six Characteristics in a RelationshipRelationship

TrustworthinessTrustworthiness RespectRespect ResponsibilityResponsibility FairnessFairness CaringCaring CitizenshipCitizenship

Communicating Communicating EffectivelyEffectivelyLesson 2Lesson 2

Communication StylesCommunication Styles

PassivePassive – involves the inability or – involves the inability or unwillingness to express thoughts and unwillingness to express thoughts and feelingsfeelings

AggressiveAggressive – they often try to get their – they often try to get their way through bullying & intimidationway through bullying & intimidation

AssertiveAssertive – involves expressing thoughts – involves expressing thoughts & feelings clearly & directly but without & feelings clearly & directly but without hurting othershurting others

Listening SkillsListening Skills

Active ListeningActive Listening – paying close attention – paying close attention to what someone is saying and to what someone is saying and communicationcommunication

Techniques for Active Techniques for Active ListeningListening

Reflective listeningReflective listening – rephrasing or – rephrasing or summarizing what the other person saidsummarizing what the other person said

ClarifyingClarifying – asking the speaker what they – asking the speaker what they think or how they feel about the situationthink or how they feel about the situation

EncouragingEncouraging – you encourage the – you encourage the speaker by showing you are listening speaker by showing you are listening (nodding your head)(nodding your head)

Techniques for Active Techniques for Active ListeningListening

EmpathizingEmpathizing – showing – showing empathyempathy you are you are able to imagine & understand how able to imagine & understand how someone else feelssomeone else feels

Nonverbal Nonverbal CommunicationCommunication

Body LanguageBody Language – nonverbal – nonverbal communication through gestures, facial communication through gestures, facial expressions, behaviors and postureexpressions, behaviors and posture

Eliminating Eliminating Communication BarriersCommunication Barriers

Image & Identity IssuesImage & Identity Issues Unrealistic expectationsUnrealistic expectations Lack of trustLack of trust PrejudicePrejudice Gender StereotypingGender Stereotyping

Constructive FeedbackConstructive Feedback

Constructive CriticismConstructive Criticism – non-hostile – non-hostile comments that point out problems for the comments that point out problems for the purpose of helping a person improvepurpose of helping a person improve

Resolving ConflictResolving Conflict

Lesson 3Lesson 3

Understanding ConflictUnderstanding Conflict

ConflictConflict – any disagreement, struggle, or – any disagreement, struggle, or fightfight

Interpersonal conflictInterpersonal conflict – disagreements – disagreements between groups of any size, from two between groups of any size, from two people to entire nationspeople to entire nations

Common Causes of Common Causes of ConflictConflict

Power strugglesPower struggles LoyaltyLoyalty Jealousy/EnvyJealousy/Envy Property disputesProperty disputes Territory & spaceTerritory & space

Responding to conflictResponding to conflict

Your primary concern should be your Your primary concern should be your health and safetyhealth and safety

Walking away from a potentially Walking away from a potentially dangerous situation is a mature, healthful dangerous situation is a mature, healthful choicechoice

Conflict ResolutionConflict Resolution

Conflict resolutionConflict resolution – the process of – the process of solving a disagreement in a manner that solving a disagreement in a manner that satisfies everyone involvedsatisfies everyone involved

NegotiationNegotiation – the use of communication – the use of communication and often compromise to settle a and often compromise to settle a disagreementdisagreement

Steps to take when Steps to take when negotiatingnegotiating

Select a time & place suited to working Select a time & place suited to working out problemsout problems

Work together toward a solutionWork together toward a solution Keep an open mindKeep an open mind Be flexibleBe flexible Take responsibility for your role in the Take responsibility for your role in the

conflictconflict Give the other person an “out”Give the other person an “out”

The Mediation processThe Mediation process

MediationMediation – a process in which specially – a process in which specially trained people help others resolve their trained people help others resolve their conflicts peacefullyconflicts peacefully

ConfidentialityConfidentiality – respecting the privacy of – respecting the privacy of both parties and keeping details secretboth parties and keeping details secret

Peer mediatorsPeer mediators – students trained to help – students trained to help other students find fair resolutions to other students find fair resolutions to conflicts & disagreementsconflicts & disagreements