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Parent WorkshopBullying
Kathy CortesAndrea Grajeda
Overview of the WorkshopIdentify different types and forms of
bullyingWhat is known about the nature
and prevalence of bullying?Implications for bullyingWarning signsWhat can I do as a parent?Additional ResourcesParent-Student Role Play Activity
What is Bullying?Intentional aggressive behavior
including humiliation
Imbalance of power or strength in a relationship
Usually occurs over time
Direct Bullying
Hitting, kicking, shoving, spitting…
Taunting, teasing, racial slurs, verbal harassment
Threatening, obscene gestures
Indirect Bullying
Getting another person to bully someone for you
Spreading rumorsDeliberately excluding someone
from a group or activityCyber-bullying
How common is bullying?Study: national sample of 15,600
students in grades 6-10◦19% bullied others ”sometimes” or more often
◦9% bullied others weekly◦17% were bullied “sometimes” or more often
◦ 8% were bullied weekly◦6% reported bullying and being bullied “sometimes” or more often
(Nansel, 2001; Olweus, 1993)
Gender Differences in BullyingMost studies find that boys bully
more than do girlsBoys report being bullied by boys;
girls report being bullied by boys and girls
Boys are more likely than girls to be physically bullied by their peers
Girls are more likely to be bullied through rumor-spreading, sexual comments, social exclusion
(Nansel, 2001; Olweus, 1993)
Conditions Surrounding BullyingChildren usually are bullied by one
child or a small group
Common locations: playground, classroom, lunchroom, halls, bathrooms
Bullying is more common at school than on the way to/from school
Children Who Bully are More Likely to:Get into frequent fightsBe injured in a fightSteal, vandalize propertyDrink alcoholSmokeBe truant, drop out of schoolReport poorer academic
achievementPerceive a negative climate at
schoolCarry a weapon
Longitudinal Study of Children who Bullied60% of boys who were bullies in
middle school had at least one conviction by age 24.
40% had three or more convictions.
Bullies were 4 times as likely as peers to have multiple convictions.
(Olweus, 1993)
Children who are bullied have:
Lower self esteem
Higher rates of depression
Higher absenteeism rates
More suicidal ideation
Health Consequences of Bullying (Fekkes et al., 2003)
Bullied Not bullied
Headache 16% 6%Sleep problems 42%
23%Abdominal pain 17% 9%Feeling tense 20% 9%Anxiety 28% 10%Feeling unhappy 23% 5%
Possible Warning Signs that a child is being bullied:
Comes home with torn, damaged, or missing pieces of clothing, books, or other belongings
Has unexplained cuts, bruises, and scratches
Has few, if any friends, with whom he or she spends time
Seems afraid of going to school, walking to and from school, riding the school bus, or taking part in organized activities with peers (such as clubs)
Sudden loss of appetite or appears anxious
Takes a long, “illogical” route when walking to or from school
Has lost interest in school work or suddenly
Begins to do poorly in school
Appears sad, moody, teary, or depressed when he or she comes home
Complains frequently of headaches, stomachaches, or other physical ailments;
Has trouble sleeping or has frequent bad dreams;
Suffers from low self-esteem
What should you do if you suspect your child is being bullied?
If your child shows any of these signs, this does notnecessarily mean that he or she is being bullied,but it is a possibility worth exploring. What shouldyou do? Talk with your child and talk with staff atschool to learn more.
1. Talk with your child. Tell your child that you are concerned and that you’d like to help. Here are some questions that can get the discussion going:
What should you do if you suspect your child is being bullied?
Some direct questions:I’m worried about you. Are there
any kids at school who may be picking on you or bullying you?”
“Are there any kids at school who tease you in a mean way?”
“Are there any kids at school who leave you out or
exclude you on purpose?”
What should you do if you suspect your child is being bullied?
Some subtle questions:“Do you have any special friends at school thisyear? Who are they? Who do you hang out
with?”“Who do you sit with at lunch and on the bus?”“Are there any kids at school who you really
don’tlike? Why don’t you like them? Do they ever pickon you or leave you out of things?”
What should I do if my child is bullying others?2. Talk with staff at your child’s school.
Call or set up an appointment to talk with your child’s teacher. Share your concerns about your child and ask the teacher such questions as:◦“How does my child get along with other
students in his or her class?”◦“With whom does he or she spend free
time?”◦“Have you noticed any unusual changes in
the way my child interacts with some of his peers?”
What should I do if my child is bullying others?3. Ask the teacher to talk with other adults who interact with your child at school (such as the
music teacher, physical education teacher, or bus driver) to see whether they have observed students bullying your child.
4. If you are not comfortable talking with your child’s teacher, or if you are not satisfied with the
conversation, make an appointment to meet with your child’s guidance counselor or principal to discuss your concerns.
Bottom line…
If you obtaininformation from yourchild or from staff atyour child’s school
thatleads you to believethat he or she is
beingbullied, take quickaction. Bullying can have serious effects on children.
If, after talking with your
child and staff at his or her
school, you don’t suspect
that your child is being
bullied, stay vigilant to
other possible problems
that your child may be
having. Some of the
warning signs discussed
earlier may be signs of other
serious problems. Share your
concerns with a counselor at
your child’s school!
Parents:
Take Action
!
Interactive Website
Interactive Website:www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov
◦Animated Serial Comic◦Games, polls for tweens◦Advice for tweens◦Resource Kit for adults◦Links to partner groups and activities
Call 1-800-789-2647 or go to www.mentalhealth.samhsa.gov for more information
Parent Role Playing Activity: Bullying
Purpose: copying with or stopping bullying Materials: Parent Power Point, copy and cut as
many scenarios as is needed for every two parents—keep in Ziploc until needed
Gardner’s Intelligences: Interpersonal, Visual-linguistic, Intrapersonal
Procedure:◦ Have parents pair up and take turns acting out
the child and parent roles.◦ Have them discuss in pairs other ways of
dealing with the particular situation.◦ As a group discuss the ideas◦ Make a chart as an added visual.◦ Ideas can be transferred to a handout for
added assistance to parents.
Scenario 1You are walking to school and a gang of older bullies demand your money or something else valuable to you. You are quite frightened and all of the sudden you see you mom. What would you say to your mom? What would your mom say to you?
Scenario 2Someone in your class always makes rudecomments about your best friend and says them loud enough for you and others to hear. It really upsets him/her and you are getting so fed up with it. You also know that your friend is starting to be afraid to come to school because of this situation. You want to get help but you just don’t know where to start. So you come home and sit alone in your room refusing to speak to anyone.
Scenario 3
Paul is continually harassed by bullies calling
him names, making comments about his
mother and cussing his family. They are
pushing him around and generally making his life miserable. Paul is
refusing to go to school and fakes he has a
stomachache only that his parents don’t believe
him.
Scenario 4
Josie comes home after school and runs
to her bedroom. When her little brother comes to get her, she slams her
bedroom door. What has caused Josie
to behave in this manner?
ReferencesFekkes, M., Pijpers, F. I. M., & Verloove-VanHorick, S. P. (2004). Bullying
behavior
and associations with pychosomatic complaints and depression in victims.
Journal of Pediatrics, 144, 17-22.
Nansel, T. R., Overpeck, M., Pilla, R. S., Ruan, W. J., Simmons-Morton, B., & Scheidt, P.
(2001). Bullying behaviors among US youth: Prevalence and association with
psychosocial adjustment. Journal of the American Medical Association, 285, 2094-2100.
Olweus, D. (1993). Bullying at school: What we know and what we can do. NY:
Blackwell.
Olweus, D., Limber, S., & Mihalic, S. (1999). The bullying prevention program:
Blueprints for violence prevention. Boulder, CO: Center for the Study and Prevention of Violence.