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Kiva

From Finland (high knowledge). 90% in use. Advendence based (-40%). Program is for the whole group (pre-emptive).

One in ten children get bullied

The effect of bullying can be lifelong

Sadly of all:the joy of life can be gone.66

Bullying?Bullying?

1.1.BullyingBullying happens intentionallyhappens intentionally

2.2.Bullying happens repeatedlyBullying happens repeatedly

3.3.The bully is often stronger than the The bully is often stronger than the victimvictim

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Types of bullyingTypes of bullying

VerbalVerbal: insults, call names, laugh at: insults, call names, laugh at RelationalRelational: exclusion, ignoring, gossiping: exclusion, ignoring, gossiping MaterialMaterial: steal stuff / destroy: steal stuff / destroy Physical: Physical: spitting, hitting, kicking, pinchingspitting, hitting, kicking, pinching

DigitalDigital: through Internet or phone: through Internet or phone

- - CChildren rarely only bully digitalhildren rarely only bully digital

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Who are bullied?

Anyone can be bulliedAnyone can be bullied

Especially childeren who are Especially childeren who are

differentdifferent•ShyShy•InsecureInsecure•Or a lack of self esteemOr a lack of self esteem

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• You need a group to bully• Bullying is a problem of the group• You need the whole group to solve the

bullying.

Bullying is a process of Bullying is a process of the whole groupthe whole group

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Judge bullying, not the childJudge bullying, not the child Make it clear that you do not accept Make it clear that you do not accept

bullyingbullying Explain that you want to help stop Explain that you want to help stop

bullying.bullying.

Approach bullyApproach bully

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The bullying is not your faultThe bullying is not your fault;;try not to think about ittry not to think about it, you may , you may feel sad butfeel sad but together we're going to together we're going to do something about the bullyingdo something about the bullying..We support and help youWe support and help you;; together together we stop the bullyingwe stop the bullying..

Approach bullied childApproach bullied child

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““In the end, we will remember not In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” (silence of our friends.” (Martin Martin Luther King)Luther King)

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We’re doing KiVa together!

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The protocol against The protocol against bullying, the Peelhorstbullying, the Peelhorst

Important: Important:

Increase Increase happiness and wellbeinghappiness and wellbeing

Pedagogic culturePedagogic culture

All teachers are All teachers are responsible for all responsible for all pupils pupils

There are 3 School rulesThere are 3 School rules Teachers give the Teachers give the

preview behavior preview behavior (respect, talking, (respect, talking, listening,explaining listening,explaining social situations)social situations)

Close cooperation with Close cooperation with parentsparents

All teachers work together. When All teachers work together. When there is a problem all teachers will there is a problem all teachers will take the problem seriously. The take the problem seriously. The cooperation is very nessecerry. It is cooperation is very nessecerry. It is our shared responsibilityour shared responsibility

All teachers work togetherAll teachers work together

3 rules at school3 rules at school

1.1. Pain isn’t nicePain isn’t nice

2.2. You have to let others work and playYou have to let others work and play

3.3. Be carefull with your things and the Be carefull with your things and the things of the othersthings of the others

attention to social-emotional attention to social-emotional developmentdevelopment

To recognize and express own emotionsTo recognize and express own emotions To recognize emotions by the other To recognize emotions by the other

childrenchildren To learn social and personal skills and To learn social and personal skills and

learn to use them in a good waylearn to use them in a good way To learn saying: STOP, if they find that To learn saying: STOP, if they find that

the other child is going to far in teasingthe other child is going to far in teasing

When there is bullyingWhen there is bullying

The child asks a teacher to help when it’s The child asks a teacher to help when it’s necessarynecessary

In case of bullying it is allowed to tell onIn case of bullying it is allowed to tell on Teachers take bullying seriouslyTeachers take bullying seriously Teachers brings both groups together Teachers brings both groups together

and speak with them. and speak with them. Problem-solving is necesseryProblem-solving is necessery Good agreement will be made.Good agreement will be made.

Work togetherWork together