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Madeleine Albright

United States Secretary of State1997-2001

someone, somewhere along the way took the time

Portrait by Timothy Greenfield Sanders

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Madeleine Albright

“No successful person ever got to where they are on their own. They succeeded because someone, somewhere along the way, took the time to help them. That’s what makes mentoring so invaluable. In my experience, mentoring can especially benefit young women, because it helps instill the confidence they need to succeed based on hard work and knowledge. There is plenty of room in the world for mediocre men, but there is no room for mediocre women.”

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Madeleine Albright

“I have benefited from a great number of mentors in life and have learned a lot from cross-generational exchanges. Increasingly, I find myself learning and drawing inspiration from young people who are coming together to demand the right to study without having to wear a flak jacket. As the poet Robert Frost once wrote, ‘Now when I am old, my teachers are the young.’”

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AmbassadorMelanne Verveer

Co-Founder of Seneca Women and Executive Director of Georgetown University's

Institute for Women, Peace, and Security

pay it forward

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Melanne Verveer

“Mentoring is one of the gifts we can give to ourselves. I have never met a mentor who didn’t tell me that she got more than she gave in mentoring. In many ways, mentoring is paying forward investments that were made in us -- giving back.”

“Over the last many years, I’ve been involved in developing mentoring programs, particularly at the State Department. When I traveled overseas and had a little extra time, I would visit with the mentees and ask them what they got out of the mentoring program in which they had participated...

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Melanne Verveer

… they would tell me that they received so much in terms of their personal development… that the experience was transformative in many ways. Then, they would say, what they really learned was the fundamental lesson of mentoring. They too wanted to pay their experience forward, and many went on to established mentoring programs in other countries.

They learned the greatest lesson in mentoring: to pay their experience forward.”

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Rachel Simmons

New York Times Best-Selling Author and Educator

seek connection with women

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Rachel Simmons

“Women have always helped me along the way. I wouldn’t be where I am today if it were not for women older than I am who opened doors for me... and now I try to repay that in working with younger women all around me.”

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Rachel Simmons

“I think the biggest challenge facing young women today are all the opportunities that they have - because young women are particularly vulnerable to wanting to be all things to all people… the desire to do everything for everyone can be crippling for young women and can actually have the reverse effect that all of this freedom and these opportunities originally intended.”

Mentors will never be all things to you; a mentor may be guide, confidant, critic, editor, advisor, coach, friend, reference - but they do not have to be all these things rolled into one.

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Professor Patricia King

Georgetown Law School

mentoring is elusive; it can’t be prescribed or

contrived

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Patricia King

“I believe both mentors and mentees benefit from a mentoring relationship. Mentoring is however, an elusive term. Typical definitions focus on mentoring as a process for the informal transmission of knowledge, social capital, and psychosocial support perceived by the recipient as relevant to educational, work, career, or professional development. It typically involves informal communication over a lengthy period between a person who has relevant knowledge and wisdom and a person who is thought to have less.”

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Patricia King

“I am an older African American female professional who did not have this form of mentoring in a professional environment. I like to think that if I had enjoyed such a relationship, I would be more confident, possess more sophisticated communication skills, and be less stressed. I am sure the absence of such a mentoring experience is not unique especially for many girls and women of color… Over a lifetime, I have learned that mentoring has many forms and takes place in a range of relationships.”

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Dean EmeritusJudith Areen

Executive Director & CEO of the Association of American

Law Schools

value yourself

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Judith Areen

“How do you teach women to negotiate: I often say to women beginning their career in law teaching that if you don’t value yourself and what you are contributing, who will? I found as a Dean for fifteen years that the men on the faculty were used to negotiating their salaries and the terms of their contract; most women, on the other hand, did not. I made sure the women on the faculty knew this as a way to encourage them to not hide their lights under a barrel.”

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FCC CommissionerMignon Clyburn

find the unconventional

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Mignon Clyburn

“I immediately cite the contributions of a dear friend and professional confidant Mrs. Marjorie Amos-Frazier, an African American (female) trailblazer, who made history when she was elected both to the Charleston County Council and the South Carolina Public Service Commission. She would earn her high school equivalency much later in life, but through hard work, political savvy, and an unwavering commitment to public service, Mrs. Frazier broke multiple glass ceilings even without the standard academic credentials. What I learned from being in her company was that the most successful and valuable contributors in our society often do not look like or fit the conventional, societal stereotypes or norms...

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Mignon Clyburn

… On any given Sunday, elected officials (including a President or two) or persons simply down on their luck would grace her doorstep, and, with the same degree of passion and respect, she would help them all. Some may simply label these as ‘soft skills’ because Mrs. Frazier showed boundless compassion - but how she leveraged personal and political connections to effectuate change was nothing short of masterful. She never compromised when it came to her core values, she had a reputation as a skilled negotiator and I saw in real time, how one can disagree without being disagreeable.”

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Mignon Clyburn

“Do not fret. Your most painful experiences will help you deal with the trials of today. That old adage ‘what does not kill you makes you stronger’ is incredibly accurate. You will get over the current hurt/disappointment. The memory of it will serve you well in the future.”

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Susan Molinari

Vice President of Googleand Former

Member of the U.S. House of Representatives

from New York

answer the call to the service of others

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We all need mentors and confidants. Women, in particular, often draw strength from the ability to connect, seek and share advice,

and partner. Women, students and school leaders alike, cull inspiration, onus, and self-actualization from their sense of

connection to a greater community beyond themselves.

This process, when modeled for students, helps young women learn to engage with one another in a spirit of professional or

personal formation and growth.

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If girls need to see this and feel it, we need to model it for them with a variety of mentors in our own lives.

We need to show them and share with them the value and importance of mentors.

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Personal Advisory Board or Personal Board of Trustees

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What messages did you hear from these women?

To what degree, do you have these people in your own life, in order to model for the girls in your charge/school?

Who will fill these seats at your table?

How are you sharing this and modeling it for your girls?

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Corie Fogg serves as the Director of Curriculum and Professional Development at Stone Ridge School of the Sacred Heart. Prior to this, Corie worked at Woodside Priory School where she taught in the Upper School, coached softball, and wrote University of California approved curriculum for the English and

History Departments. She served as Academic Dean and Site Director for the Johns Hopkins University Center for Talented Youth summer program. Previous to her time at Woodside Priory, Corie taught at

the Fay School and Hudson High School. Corie was an Upper Level Question Writer for the SSAT during its 2012-2014 revision. She serves on the Head’s Visiting Council at the Williston Northampton School and has presented at a range of national conferences on teaching and school leadership. This spring,

Corie partnered with Rachel Simmons to write the Educator’s Guide to Enough As She Is, Simmons’ most recent text. Inspired by her own mentors, Corie values authenticity in relationship, tries to model

lifelong learning for her students, and remains ever-mindful that ‘to whom much is given, from [her] much is expected.’

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Meg Frazier has strived to know and meet the whole student where she is and inspire her tobelieve in herself throughout her career as a teacher, administrator, coach, mentor, and advisor.

It has been her goal to build a resilient and capable student in the sea of over-parenting andperceived high stakes game of college admission in the Washington, D.C. and now Londonindependent schools for nearly three decades. She has taught history, Spanish, English andcoached basketball and soccer over the years. Her administrative roles include Director of

College Placement (St. Andrew’s Episcopal School), Academic Dean (Georgetown PreparatorySchool), and Upper School Head (Stone Ridge School of the Sacred Heart). It is from her mother’s

example as an elementary school educator that she witnessed the power of modeling life-long learning the importance of taking time with students and colleagues. As of August 2018, she is the

Headmistress at the Marymount International School London where she is guiding girls ingrades 6-12 in their academic, spiritual, creative, and social growth.

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Eve Grimaldi joined the Georgetown Visitation Administrative Team in 1985 as Dean of Students, School Nurse, and Attendance Keeper. She has over 32 years of administrative experience at the high

school level in mentoring, working on policy, external relations, creating grassroots organizations with students, and overseeing discipline at all levels. She loves her job more every year, having found paths

to compliment students’ duties through serving others in a mission based environment. She feels success in listening to students’ concerns, acting on improvement, and serving through example. In the

evenings, Eve works at Georgetown Law School on the Innocence Project and answers multiple prisoner concerns. She presently serves on three Boards, coaches Special Olympics, and registers for yearly

courses on “The Law, The Courts and Private Schools” in an endless attempt to keep ahead of the game.