Breaking up is Hard to DoAdvice on how to end a relationship

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What not to do…•Don't tell your friends before you break up.

▫This is between you and your boyfriend or girlfriend. Plus you don’t need the added pressure from others wondering “Did you break up yet?”

•Don't post it on Facebook.▫Changing your relationship status from “In a

relationship” to “single”. If you post it, then everybody gets to comment on it, and that’s not fair.

•Don't text or email it.▫When it comes to break ups, text messages suck.

It’s cold and unnecessarily disrespectful.

Know why you’re breaking up1st – Ask yourself why it is you want to break up.

•You really need to know why you're doing this, because if someone is breaking up with you, the first question you always ask is, 'Why? Did I do something wrong?'“

•If you've started to like someone else, that's OK. Or if you just don't feel the same way you used to, that's fine too.

•You can't blame yourself for falling out of love. But still, don't be mean. Make sure you treat the other person with respect.

•If the person you're dating hasn't respected your feelings -- or worse, has been aggressive or violent -- you have more than enough reason for wanting out.

Break up in Person

•Once you know why you want to end the relationship, be honest with yourself. And then be honest when you talk with them -- privately, face-to-face.

•Know that no matter how gently you handle the breakup, you're going to hurt the other person's feelings. That's something you need to accept.

•When you say, 'I don't want to be with you anymore,' you know before you say it -- if you have a heart -- that you're going to be hurting someone. You also know that you'd never want to be on the receiving end of what you're about to dish out.

Make it Stick•Even if your former boyfriend or girlfriend

gets emotional, you have to stick with your plan.

• •It's not a negotiation. You're going into this

conversation to let your boyfriend or girlfriend know that you are leaving the relationship

•Listen respectfully to what they have to say. Then, move on.

• If you're getting out of an abusive relationship, take extra care of your safety. Make sure you have a friend with you whenever you might run into your ex. Block the person from calling, emailing, and posting on your Facebook page. Ask your parents, teachers, and guidance counselor for help so you don't get into a dangerous situation.

•Remember, it's fine to be single! It's much better be on your own, happy, than with someone who's bad for you.

How to Handle being Dumped

•When someone breaks up with you, it can be tough to handle. It's like someone has just busted a huge hole in your heart. It's OK to feel sad. It's OK to cry.

•Just about everyone gets their heart broken sooner or later. Most people get over it in time and go on to have other healthy relationships.

•And remember all the healthy relationships you already have -- with your friends and family. Hang out with them and do some things that you enjoy. Friends can go a long way to help you feel like yourself again.

• If you're really devastated and just can't get over it, you definitely need to ask for help.

• If you're feeling really depressed -- you cannot sleep, you're not eating -- talk to somebody you trust.

A Learning Experience

•All experiences in our lives are learning experiences, and relationships are part of those experiences.

•Take away from the relationship what you learned about yourself, and yourself in relationships.

•When you decide to enter in to the next relationship, you will be more equipped to ensure that it will be healthy and happy.