Bonifacio, Marizia - Sex-7 Seconds Learning to Feel Sexual Pleasure

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SEX, 7 SECONDS

Learning to feel sexual pleasure

Taboos and Truths


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Copyright © Marizia Bonifacio (2015)

The right of Marizia Bonifacio to be identified as author of this work has been asserted by her in

accordance with section 77 and 78 of the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988.

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system,

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or otherwise, without the prior permission of the publishers.

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criminal prosecution and civil claims for damages.

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Dedication and thanks

I dedicate this book to someone very special:You!

I thank God, Life, the knowledge and wisdom andabove all, the courage, determination and persistence

granted to me for the achievement of this book...with this book, I also would like to thank God theopportunity to be able to reach the people in need...


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About the author

Sex Without Taboos is also a radio program directed to an audience of all ages and social

classes in which Dr. Marizia answers the most disturbing questions and the most controversialissues of the sexual life, speaking openly about any topic without embarrassment. She revealssecrets, clarifies doubts and gives tips on how to improve sexual performance, how to get toknow better your and your partners’ body, increasing your pleasure and your self-esteemthrough sensuality and sexuality.


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Contents

preface

Preface By The Author

Introduction

Chapter 2 - Pleasure, Divine Gift... Getting To Know Your Body And Perceiving The Feelings.

3. Before The Mirror... A Man’s, A Woman’s Body

Anatomy Of Male And Female Genitals

Fantasies

Chapter 4 - Foreplay Techniques

Massage For Couples Lovers

Women Ejaculation

4.1 - How To Excite The Woman’s Body With Hands, Eyes And Tongue

4.2 - How To Arouse A Man With The Eyes, The Hands And The Tongue?

4.3 - Depilation Technique

Chapter 5 - Practice Of Oral And Anal Sex

5.1- Pictures Can Talk More. Do Pay Attention To Learn Correctly

1.2 How To Lick And Suck

1.2 - How To Lick And Suck

1.3- How To Do Anal Sex

1.4 - How To Lick And Suck Ass – Men And Women

1-5 - How To Lick And Suck Dick - Men And Women

Chapter 6 – Technique To Control Your Desires

Chapter 7 – Conclusion

Sex, Explicitly!

Prologue

1. The Prince Got Off Of His White Horse

2. Changing Your Sexual Life Will Change Your Life

3 - Insatiable Women

4. Men Always Want To Have A Harem

5. The Harmony Of Merging Souls

6. Finding New Ways For The Sexual Pleasure

7. Anal Sex – Techniques For The Pleasure

8. Anal Sex – From Theory To Practice


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9. Anal Sex, Is It Good Or Bad?

10. Men Always Want, Women Deny Until They Practise It

11. Father And Mother Don’t Have Sex

12. Excitation

13. Bad Emotional Breath

14. Emotions

15. The Human Being

16. Sexual Compulsion

17. Mutilation Of Love?

B. Exercises Of Mutilated Women

C. Female Genital Mutilation

18. Sexuality And Religion

19. Control Of Sexual Desire

20. Stages Of Life Phases Of Sex

21. Paraphilia

22. Sexuality In The Senior Age

23. Sexual Initiation - The First Time

24. Sex In India

25. Sex, Science And Philosophy

26. The Impact Of Internet On Male And Female Sexual Behaviour

27. Reflection – Victim Or A Perpetrator?

28. Final Considerations

Appendix I

Appendix I-Discovering The Anatomy Of Arousal

1-Female And Male Genitals: Anatomy And Pleasure Map

1. Female Genitals Anatomy (5)

1.2 - Female Genitals Pleasure Map

1. 3 - Male Genitals Anatomy

4- Male Genitals Pleasure Map (9, 10)

2.1 - Exercise To Control Ejaculation Or To Extend Your Pleasure

2.1.1 - Exercise Self-Masturbation And Manual Glans Control

Exercise - 2.1.3 - Self - Masturbation And Manual Perineum Control

Exercise - 2.1.4 - Restart With Your Partner

3. - Pompoir, Gymnastics

Appendix Ii

Faq About Safe Sex

1 – What’s Safe Sex?


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How Can I Have A Safe Sex Actually?

What Are The Stds?

Bibliography

Images And Illustration Credits:


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Preface

Writing this book’s preface is more an honour than an obligation to someone like me, after longyears of dedication to the studies of human reproduction.

In the early 1960s, at the Population Council of Rockfeller Institute in the presence of

Professor Pinckus, main responsible for the development of contraceptives, we discussed which

social consequences would arise from women’s sexual liberation.

The great concern sat on the necessary time for society to absorb the transformation that

would eventually come. Young women were getting rid of the concern of unwanted pregnancy

and were assuming the control of their own sexuality. But how would they educate their

children?

I was surprised for anthropologists’ and sociologists’ warning that those newly released

females should keep to teach their children the same way they learned from their mothers and

that there would be the risk of a liberation period followed by another of strong repression.

In day-by-day with students and with girls that consult me on the internet, or even in the

social environment, I see women that keep being warned against the so-called risks of handling

their sexuality, of getting to know themselves… of touching themselves. It is easier for a young

female to confess having sex than it is to confess masturbating.

Marizia Bonifácio tries to take sexual knowledge to broader audiences. Her book is basically

opposite to that of sex guides on bookstores now. She appeals neither to scientificism nor to

pornography. Her experiences in the office and on the radio made her characterise the key

points of what we call sexual knowledge engineering in a way that takes all readers, especially

females, to build their own awareness.

At the moment, this book tries to break the barriers of a Jewish-Christian culture and penetrate

in the mysterious ways of Islamic sexuality, may my words help this work spread pleasure to

everyone in the world.

Professor Gilberto Santa Rosa

Histology and Embryology professor in Rio de Janeiro State University, former professor of

Brasília University and Federal University of Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.


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Preface by the author

The proposal of this book is to reveal “truths.” It doesn’t deal with anything oral, but it isintended to make known the way to pleasure through sex, the Sexar (to have sex), of theSexercise (sex practice). I’d like to quote Ananga-Ranga: “Love is love, flesh is flesh, body isbodily.” Well, Love is Love and Sex is Sex, however, the sex exercised with someone by whomwe feel sensations of love, can lead to bliss, you just have to allow yourself.

The moral or immoral in sex, I mean about sexual activity developed between a pair, is directlyconnected to what each of the two want, and/or accepts.

It is known that the spiritual aspect should be valued.

Why most of the sacred books, encourages sex without limits between a pair (man and woman).Nowadays what is seen is the unbridled search for variations of pairs. The more partners thebest. It is an incessant search for pleasure, which normally does not happen. And why not? Theprinciple of human energy is the feeling of love. Since the person is not a psychopath, he or sheof course, only will find the pleasure through sexercise if establishing an intimate relationship,and usually this happens when there is a feeling of “love.”

How to have sex?

To succeed, you must understand about kisses, caressing... etc... On studies and research, thebook that surprised me the most and for which I bow, are the Kama-Sutra of Vatsyayana,followed by AnangaRanga the Kalyãnamalla, both Hindus. However, the focus of both booksare directed to the male population, characteristic of the dominant culture when they werewritten, when it was up to men to teach the chosen woman to live through the wedding,everything about sexual pleasure.

The Academicist period directs not to get these important documents of Social Science.Unfortunately, when I wrote the first edition of this book in the summer of 2000, I was onlyguided through my experience of listening to my clients in the office and, of course, reading thebooks considered scientific, abandoning the legacy from the East: India, Japan and China,through the book considered as “treated of love.”

The addition of these treaties and the findings about activity of hormones, erogenous areas,

women’s freedom in social and economic context, adds to a better understanding of the meetingof pleasure by means of sex, allowing the fusion of the mystical and lovely vision for the realityof life.

Although it is known that in the year 2012, these countries also don’t keep the educationalprocess that existed during centuries ago and in times of the internet, all, seek informationthrough different experiences, which do not always contribute to the understanding of sexualpleasure, as a tool for spiritual growth.

My goal is to make the reader understand the sexual pleasure not as a chapter of human life,but an energy that permeates the life of the human being from birth to death, and that each


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person can devote more attention to the study, the reflection and education of the sensorypleasure of moving through sexual or Sexercise (sex is body exercise).

Love is identified with freedom, and considering it objectively, it also has its own laws. Wemust not condemn the volumptuosity, you should understand that it is not a curse, nor is sin as

many religious argues.

However, what cannot be accepted is its excess, the lack of control and disregard to the rapedCHILD, to the young, and even to spouses. Sex has to be learned, because it is the energyinherent in every human being.

The instinct has to be disciplined through spiritual and educational proposals. Makingsexuality a matter of theoretical learning in school would be the ideal way, however, there isstill some distance away that shocks all idealists. Teaching about sex (love) is a humanitarianact of solidarity; it is the opposite of what the insecure cry to be a “private issue.” The eroticismis manifestation of carnal desire and can be learned in lessons also provided through books, in

schools or churches, associations, universities etc.

Learning to use it properly and not in a dichotomist way that put pleasure against religion,spirit against the flesh and virtue against passion.

We must learn how to put together eroticism and conjugality, although the coexistence of thecouple, it is known, leads to a comfort zone, lack of sexual and sensual interest. The KNOW-HOW to keep the passion alive is important to maintain the relationship, and to keep the eyesshining.

The nature of the male differs from the female nature and many men spend most of their lives

watching women as an animal does, without worrying about the differences between them.They may even be considered stupid and foolish, wasting lives and loves, and the benefits thatshould result from the studies. The choices both men and women make about sex are made inorder to have pleasure. Many still ignore the importance of the sense of love, so that the unionis successful and long-lasting.

It is also up to the women, to study the male and female nature, not to incur the male modelstill existing, and prevent wrong choices Kalyãnamalla quotes:

“THE MAN WHO POSSESSES THE ART OF LOVE, AND WHO KNOWS HOW TOPROVIDE A COMPLETE AND VARIED PLEASURE TO A WOMAN, AS LONG AS HE

PROGRESSES IN AGE, MODERATE ITS PASSIONS, AND IT IS NICE TO THINKABOUT IN THE CREATOR, TO STUDY RELIGIOUS SCIENCE AND TO OBTAIN THEDIVINE SCIENCE; THIS LEADS HIM TO THE DISPENSE OF THE SUBSEQUENTTRANSMIGRATION OF SOULS, AND WHEN THE ROMANCE OF HIS LIFE ISPROPERLY TERMINATED, HE GOES WITH HIS WIFE DIRECTLY TO THESVARGA (HEAVEN)”(1)

Thus, it is possible to women and men to learn how to exploit each other in harmony, toperform the more complicated variations in the sexual art/act, and feel, each one, the mostdivine pleasures, provided by the pair.


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Introduction

This work is dedicated to orient beginners in sexual education and also to solve doubts and add

information to those who are already sexually active.

Amongst the various works in the area of human sexuality, the silence on HOW TO FEEL

PLEASURE is still present because many educators who are attached to life-long cultural

values cannot orient with enough clarity and lightness. Thus, the emotional language affects

the transmission of knowledge and puts barriers to the process of telling the sensations of the

body.

One who does not know how to feel has difficulties in teaching how to feel.

Despite all the difficulties in learning about pleasure, we can see that in the last four decades

the media has contributed a lot to spread studies and research on human sexuality. This

information helped to change values including those conceived by the church, which was the

only existent mean for the educational process and that played a fundamental role in

controlling the libido that was emerging in the human society.

That is the way this culture was built and disseminated, passing a model from generation to

generation. A model that was and still is the CAUSE to a lot of suffering to people who havesex and feel nothing or those who besides feeling nothing also get sick in their minds and their

souls.


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Not all pleasure comes from sex, but it is a source of pleasure. So, establishing ethical and moral

values has direct influence on corporal and mental universes and brings a lot of frustration,

which is generally necessary in the process of growing up.

Playing with the feelings is magical. My subtle proposition in this work is to remind that man

and woman should be less of primates and animals and learn how to play with balance.

I intend to show and remind how important it is to review bodily models to establish a new

way of learning, and in consequence, the strength of pleasure is felt.


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Start looking into each other’s eyes.

Feel through the energies as the touches on the body come. Reaching energetic sparks and

sliding on the external body is a swift way and in this book you will find the way to learn how

to feel like that.

Touching more your own body and allowing your partner to touch you is necessary to feel the

strength of sensations.

As to your life-long knowledge, you have always to listen to your inner voice. You will find out

that when you break the aggressive or the physical struggle sex models you will be able to

exercise with the partner and become more sensible and romantic, so you develop a loving kind

of pleasure.


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In every sunrise, light makes its presence to enchant the eyes of those who can already see the

necessary changes under the eyes of the new, which will surely guide new decision-making

during the development of the sexual act and bring pleasure and inner peace to the partners.

Such peace will reflect in all activities, at home, at work and in the various social groups

because of the energy exhaled from the skin, from the body, it affects everyone who are close to

us. That is why it is not unusual to hear sentences such as: “His girlfriend slept using her

panties” or “Her boyfriend slept using his underwear.” When we are not sexually satisfied, we

are unhappy with life and that discontentment spreads to everyone.

In this book you will find information on emotions and the pleasure of the sexual act. It mayhappen, but only if you want to feel it. The sensations are yours and only you may know the

ways to reach the climax, the maximum pleasure. It is important for everyone to know their

own way of feeling and the best form of awakening those nice sensations in their partner.

Not always the paths are clear. Writing about the ways someone can perceive and show

corporal techniques for sex makes me, as a professional of the emotional area, more responsible

and respectful towards human being’s frailty.

Then, I´m doing this in a clear and constructive way.


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Chapter 1 - Cultural evolution

I am beginning a new modality of sexual learning. How do human beings receive informationand keep them in their memories?

It happens through perception. Human beings notice through the five senses: sight, hearing,smell, taste and touch.

Use the sense of silent hearing, as you listen to your own voice express and moan. Or as youlisten to somebody else that brings about nice feelings to you.

Use the sense of seeing to watch yourself and your partner and feel how enchanting it is.

Use the sense of touch to express genuine emotions, such as admiration or care when you feelyour partner’s body.

Use the sense of taste when you kiss, be it a soft or a passionate kiss, and feel the taste of thesaliva mixed with sweat and bodily fluids of another person.

Use the sense of smell to feel what you and your partner smell like; so that you overcome fearsstill existent on your sexuality.

Even after long years of studies, I still have doubts on the human emotions beings have. I learnevery day because learning comes as our lives go by.


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But think how much people suffered until the 1960s because they knew nothing about sex andabout anatomy.

Figure 1

Figure 2

Speaking about anatomy; watch male and female pictures numbers 1 and 2.


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It was not by accident that the free love revolution preached by the hippie movement tookplace. It was necessary so that every concept changed and that women awoke to the looking forpleasure through sex.

The contraceptives also played a fundamental role in women’s liberation to have sex only forpleasure.

Women always noticed the sexual awakening when they first kissed. They felt that chill in thestomach and on their bellies. That also happened to some men.

Because they always had to hold their penis to urinate, men could already feel somethingdifferent when it was erect. Besides, men used to expose themselves in jokes with friends andcollected data on the use of their organ, to eventually find out it was not meant only to urinate.


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There were countless times I thought about sexual initiation: how to learn that, how to learnspeaking with simplicity and loud, with no taboos or in shame.

I concluded that at school we learn various sciences: language, math, history, geography andothers. But nothing is taught on the way we are or on the way we feel.

We learn through our own mistakes and suffering. It may be even worse: we could learneverything from people who are unbalanced and insensitive towards affection, care and love.

That is why I used to dive in profound inner silence and contemplate nature, as if I looked forthe answers to the various doubts… Why? Why? In my world inside I heard the sentence:How will I help? How could I end the veils?

There were days, weeks, months and years in that silence and questioning. Today, relaxed andundressed of those values that stoke in me through what I learned from society, I can expresswithout any fear. I used to worry about being seen or judged by feelings. Now I do not. Mygoal is bigger than that of those people who, deep inside, wish only to keep the veil of mystery.I am aware that I am giving my contribution to humanity as I explain in the way I do, which Iconsider ideal.

Fear makes us criticize, but it stops us from passing knowledge on to others.

In this book I pass on what I heard, saw and felt all life long, having experience and books asmy biggest partners.


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I will start in an intimate way, as if I were teaching private classes. To those who read me, Iwant to say I am glad to have you. I will orient you in a safe and true manner, without anybarriers and restrictions.

Open your heart, your eyes and your ears. Listen to its sounds, pay attention and turn back thebook pages as many times as necessary to understand, because the magic depends only on you.Magic is on your hands.

Prior to this, I commented on the way, the windows (senses) that humans use to notice and tofeel the world. But to have nice intercourse, for unique pleasure, another window is necessary.Six of them are necessary. The sixth window is love.

We will keep reading, learning and smiling… this is class number one.

Sex is a ritual, it is exchange of energies. At the moment you are with your partner to have sex,

give hands, look into each other’s eyes and elevate your thoughts to God, to a bigger power.

Pray and ask for the moment to be filled of constructive energies, so it is blessed by love’smagical power.


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Chapter 2 - Pleasure, divine gift... getting to know your

body and perceiving the feelings.

You were born to be joyful and happy!

One of the ways to be happy or to feel fulfilled is through pleasure. I want to remind you that

the only gift that God left for both males and females was sexual pleasure.

Human beings must enjoy this pleasure equally and regardless of social differences, ethnicity or

religious beliefs. This pleasure depends only on you. Do you want to know how?

Remember keep in mind that everything has a beginning.

Pleasure starts through word exchange, glances, touching hands, hugging, kissing, grabbing

and it is completely obtained in sexual intercourse.

Difficulties for both men and women exist because they learned from their parents, who learned

from theirs. In this forward passing of information nothing was really learned because there

was only silence.

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