BODYLANGUAGES

BODYLANGUAGES

BODYLANGUAGES

SexualInterest/EmotionalAttractionDoubt/Defensivecuriosity

Shyness/ModestyEnjoyinghercompany&displayingfeatures

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ATTRACTION

HEAD/HAIRTOSSBytossingherhairawomanisessentiallysaying:"lookatmeandmysuitability.Iamhappy,confidentandveryhealthy!"

LIPNIBBLEUsedbythesubmissivefemaletoindicateinterestinthedominantpotentialpartner.(Orduringdeepthought)

HAIRSTROKEAwaywomencomfortthemselves.Flirtatious&invitingguytodoso.Itsalsoacasualwayofexposingherneckawellknownerogenouszone.

NECKSTROKEMenareattractedtosoftsmoothfemaleskinandtheneckisthemostsociallyacceptabletodisplay.Theneckisalsoaverysensitivepartofthefemalebodyandtouchingitstimulatesagentle,soothingandlovingsensation.

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ATTRACTION

KNEEPOINTINGUsedtoindicatethepersoninwhichsheiscurrentlyinterested.Theouterlegsalsopresentabarriertootherswhomayintrude.

THEWOMBGESTUREApowerfulturnonforsomemen.HerhandsarecreatingaframeforherVagina.Spellingoutwhat'sonhermind.Sayingthisareaofmybodyisavailablefortherightman!"Itisaconfidentsignalindicatingaggressivesexualavailability.

THESHOEDANGLETranslateditsays:ByhalfslippingoffmyshoeI'mindicatingthatIamrelaxed,comfortableandmaybewillingtoundressfurther."

OBJECTTOUCHING/STROKINGWineglasses,tableornaments,sunglassesandpensarecommonobjectsusedfortoying.Itsindirectlysayingstrokeme.

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ATTRACTION

THECLOSERLOOKTranslatedmeans"You'reworthacloserlookandIwantyoutoknowI'mlooking."thewomanhasalsoopenedhermouthwithahintofthe"I'mreadytobekissed/You'vetakenmybreathaway"gesture.

THECLOSERLOOKThisismostoftenusedbyawomanwherethemaletargetisafairdistanceawayorwhereshewantsabsolutelynodoubtaboutwhatisonhermind.

THELIPLICKIfawomanplaceshertongueatthecornerofhermouthandthensensuallylicksherupperlipsheconsciouslyorsubconsciouslywantsyoutoknowshe'sgettingveryinterested.

IMWIDEOPENIfshe'sjustbeenonafivemilehikeitmaywellbemoreaboutcomfortthansexuality.Itisbelievedtoindicatethatawomanisopeningherlegstoindicatesexualwillingness.

BODYLANGUAGES

ATTRACTION

PARTEDLIPSThisisoftenthefinalsignalinaprogressionindicatingthatphysicalcontactcannowtakeplace.Womenseekingasexualpartnerchooselipstickthatisextremelyclosetothecolouroftheirlabiaornipples

DILATEDPUPILSOurpupilsdilatewhenwereenjoyingavieworfeelingsexuallyaroused.Pupilsalsodilatewhenit'sdarkersoperhapsthatswhycandlelightdinnersaresoromantic.

WRISTDISPLAYMostpeopleusuallywalkwiththeirwristsfacingthesidesoftheirbodyasawayofprotection.Women,whenintoamanwillslowlystartshowinghimglimpsesoftheirwristsandthemoretheylikethemthelongertheglimpseswilllast.

WRISTDISPLAYWomenattractedtoaguywillputthepurseclosetohimasopposedtohidingitsomeplacefurtheraway.Orstartsoftlytouchingtheirpurseastheytalktotheguy.Strongerconnectionmeansshelltellhimtoholditorgetsomethingfromit.

BODYLANGUAGES

HANDSANDARMGESTURES

HANDSCLENCHEDTOGETHERAfrustrationgesture,signallingthatthepersonwasholdingbackanegativeattitude.Thegesturehasthreemainpositions.Thepersonwouldbemoredifficulttohandlewhenthehandsareheldhigh,thanhewouldbewiththepersonwhomhandsrestingonthedeskposition.Likeallnegativegestures,someactionneedstobetakentounlockthepersonsfingerstoexposethepalmsandthefrontofthebody,orthehostileattitudewillremain.

STEEPLINGHANDSAconfidentorknowitallattitudeRaisedSteepleUsedwhensteeplerisgivinghisopinion.LoweredSteepleUsedwhensteeplerislistening

THUMBDISPLAYSThisisadoublesignal,beingthatofadefensiveornegativeattitude,(armsinpockets)plusasuperiorattitude(displayedbythethumbs).Thethumbsdenotestrengthofcharacterandego.

BODYLANGUAGES

HANDSANDARMGESTURES

GRIPPINGHANDS,ARMS&WRISTSSuperiority/ConfidenceGestureUsedbytheRoyalFamily&peoplewhofeelauthoritative.HandGrippingWristGestureAsignaloffrustrationandanattemptatselfcontrol.TheUpperArmGripThefurtherthehandismoveduptheback,themoreangrythepersonhasbecome.Thisiswherethesentencegetagoodgriponyourselfcomesfrom.

DISGUISEDARMCROSSGESTURESHighlysophisticatedgesturesusedbypeoplewhoarecontinuallyexposedtoothers.Thisgroupincludespoliticians,salespeople,televisionpersonalitiesandthelikewhodonotwanttheiraudiencetodetectthattheyareunsureofthemselvesornervous.

BODYLANGUAGES

HANDSANDARMGESTURES

Auniversalgesturesignifyingthesamedefensiveornegativeattitudealmosteverywhere.Itiscommonlyseenwhenapersonisamongstrangersinpublicmeetings,queues,cafeterias,elevatorsoranywherethatpeoplefeeluncertainorinsecure.

Thefullarmcrossgesturethepersonhasclenchedfists,itindicatesahostileanddefensiveattitude.Thepersonusingthisgestureclusterhasanattackingattitude,asopposedtotheperson.

Thefullarmcrossgestureissometimestooobvioustouse,thisisasubtlerusedversion.apersonmaybeastrangertothegrouporislackinginselfconfidence.

Thefullarmcrossgesturethepersonhasclenchedfists,itindicatesahostileanddefensiveattitude.Thepersonusingthisgestureclusterhasanattackingattitude,asopposedtotheperson.

BODYLANGUAGES

HANDS,PALMSANDARMGESTURES

Palmfacingupisusedasasubmissive,nonthreateninggesture,reminiscentofthepleadinggestureofastreetbeggar.Personbeingaskedtodosomethingwillnotfeelpressuredhere.Palmfacingdownwardsisasignofimmediateauthority.Thepersonrequestedtodosomethingwillfeelthattheyhavebeengivenanorderandmayfeelantagonistictowardsyou,dependingonyourrelationshipwiththem.Thepointedfingerforcesauthorityandisoneofthemostirritatinggesturesthatapersoncanusewhilespeaking,particularlywhenitbeatstimetothespeakerswords.

GloveHandshakeTheglovehandshakeissometimescalledthepoliticianshandshake.Theinitiatortriestogivethereceivertheimpressionthatheistrustworthyandhonest,butwhenthistechniqueisusedonapersonhehasjustmet,ithasthereverseeffect.Thereceiverfeelssuspiciousandcautiousabouttheinitiatorsintentions.Thegloveshouldonlybeusedwithpeopletowhomtheinitiatoriswellknown.

BODYLANGUAGES

HANDS,PALMSANDARMGESTURES

WristHoldUsedoshowsincerity,trustordepthoffeelingtowardsthereceiver.Thehigherthelefthandupthearmthemorefeelingbeingtransmitted.ElbowGraspTransmitsmorefeelingthanthewristhold,andtheshoulderhold.(acceptablebetweenfriends&relativesotherwiseisadominatingactwithintent)

Theshoulderholdandtheupperarmgripenterthereceiverscloseintimatezoneandmayinvolveactualbodycontact.Theyshouldbeusedonlybetweenpeoplewhoexperienceacloseemotionalbondatthetimeofthehandshake.(acceptablebetweenfriends&relativesotherwiseisadominatingactwithintentthehigherthelefthand).

PainInTheNeckApersonwhousesthiswhenlyingusuallyavoidsyourgazeandlooksdown.Thisgestureisalsousedasasignaloffrustrationoranger.ForgetfulnessIfheslapshisforeheadhesignalsthatheacknowledgesbutisnotintimidatedbyyourhavingmentionedhisforgetfulness,butwhenheslapsthebackofhisneck.Henonverballytellsyouthatyouareliterallyapainintheneckforpointingouthiserror.

BoredomGestureitisasignalthatboredomhassetinandhissupportinghandisanattempttoholdhisheaduptostophimselffromfallingasleep.InterestedEvaluationGestureShownbyaclosedhandrestingonthecheek,oftenwiththeindexfingerpointingupwards.upwards.Shouldthepersonbegintoloseinterestbutwishtoappearinterestedthepositionwillalterslightlysothattheheelofthepalmsupportsthehead.

BODYLANGUAGES

HANDS,PALMSANDARMGESTURES

CollarPullDonewhenapersonisfeelingangryorfrustratedorsweating.FingersInMouththefingersareplacedinthemouthwhenapersonisunderpressure.Whereasmosthandtomouthgesturesinvolvelyingordeception,thefingersinmouthgestureisanoutwardmanifestationofaninnerneedforreassurance.

EarRubAnattemptbythelistenerto'hearnoevil'.Thisisthesophisticatedadultversionofthehandsoverbothearsgestureusedbytheyoungchild.Othervariationsarerubbingthebackoftheear,pokedrillingitorbendingtheearforward.NeckRubThepersonscratchesaboutfivetimes.SignalsdoubtoruncertaintyItsaysImnotsureIagree

NoseTouchThisgestureisasophisticated,disguisedversionofthemouthguardgesture.Usedbothbythespeakertodisguisehisdeceitandbythelistenerwhodoubtsthespeakerswords.EyeRub'Seenoevil'saysthewisemonkey,andthisgestureisthebrain'sattempttoblockoutthedeceit,doubtorliethatitseesortoavoidhavingtolookatthefaceofthepersontowhomheistellingthelie.

TheMouthGuardoneofthefewadultgesturesthatisasobviousasachild's.Thehandcoversthemouthandthethumbispressedagainstthecheekasthebrainsubconsciouslyinstructsittotryandsuppressthedeceitfulwordsthatarebeingsaid.Sometimesthisgesturemayonlybeseveralfingersoverthemouthorevenaclosedfist,butitsmeaningremainsthesame.Ifthepersonlisteningdoesit,theythinkyouarelying.

BODYLANGUAGES

HANDS,PALMSANDGESTURES

NegativeThoughtsWhentheindexfingerpointsverticallyupthecheekandthethumbsupportsthechin,thelistenerishavingnegativeorcriticalthoughtsaboutthespeakerorhissubject.Thischinstrokinggestureisthesignalthatthelistenerismakingadecision.

SizingEachotherConsideringthattheyarebothturnedatanangleawayfromeachotherandthelowerhalvesoftheirbodiesarerelaxed,itwouldbereasonabletoassumethatthesetwomalesareunconsciouslyevaluatingeachotherandthatanattackisunlikely.Theirconversationmaybecasualorfriendlybutacompletelyrelaxedatmospherewillnotexistuntiltheirhandsonhipsgesturesceaseandopenpalmgesturesareused.Ifthesetwomenhadbeendirectlyfacingeachotherlikethetroublebrewingimagewiththeirfeetplantedfirmlyontheground,afightwouldbelikelytooccur.

BODYLANGUAGES

BODYGESTURES

BODYLANGUAGES

BODYGESTURES

MaleVersionofAnkleLockisoftencombinedwithclenchedfistsrestingonthekneesorwiththehandstightlygrippingthearmsofthechair.FemalVersionofAnkleLockvariesslightlythekneesareheldtogether,thefeetmaybetoonesideandthehandsrestsidebysideoroneontopoftheotherrestingontheupperlegs.

ThisisthenormalcrossedlegpositionusedbyEuropean,British,AustralianandNewZealandculturesandmaybeusedtoshowanervous,reservedordefensiveattitude.Whenthecrossedlegsgestureiscombinedwithcrossedarms,thepersonhaswithdrawnfromtheconversation.

BODYLANGUAGES

BODYGESTURES

Thislegcrossindicatesthatanargumentativeorcompetitiveattitudeexists.Thepersonwhohasahardandfastattitudeinanargumentordebatewilloftenlocktheintoplacewithoneorbothhands,usingthemasaclamp.Thisisasignofthetoughminded,stubbornindividualwhomayneedaspecialapproachtobreakthroughhisresistance.

Claspingandsqueezinghandstogetherisaselfpacifyinggesture.Apersonwhodoesthisisuncomfortable,maybeevennervousorfearful.Hestryingtoassurehimself,Everythingsgoingtobealright.

Choppingisforemphasis,andisusuallyauthoritative.Apersonwhochopshasmadeuphismindandisnotlikelytochangeit.

Whenpeoplelieitputsthemintoasignificantstressrelatedcondition.Stresstriggersthebrain'sneedfornicotine.Thisalsoprovidesamuchneededpausefortheliartocollecttheirthoughtsandestablishtheircomposure.Finally,thesmokeitselfisascreenandnonsmokersinparticularwillbedistracted.

Thisisoftenalastresortoftheliar.Inshorttheyaresaying,"Thisisnolongeranythingtodowithus/me.Ican'tsayanythingmoreforbothofuswillknowthatIamlying."Thepalmsareheldupindicatingaformofhonestybutthisisactuallyanacknowledgementthattheobserverhasa"righttodoubt".

BODYLANGUAGES

BODYGESTURES

HandsOverCrotchMakesmenfeelmoresecurewhenthey feel threatened.

CupBarrierThisarmbarriersaysno.

CupBarrierShesnowopentoideas.

HeadRestingonThumbEvaluationboredomcluster.

Womensperipheralvisionmeansnevergettingcaught;MensTunnelVision alwaysgets caught

Thisistheattentionstance.Showingneutralattitudewithnocommitmenttostayorgo.

TheCrotchDisplayUsedbymachomenortoughguystogiveanaggressivepersona.

TheScissorsMeansnocommentbuthesnotleaving.Meanssameforwomen,plusaccess

TheLegTwineShy,timidpeopleusethis.