Biblical RelationshipsBiblical Relationships

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Part 3Part 3

Role of the HusbandRole of the Husband

Eph 5:25-33Eph 5:25-33

The Failure of the ManThe Failure of the Man

1) The Problem of Indifference1) The Problem of Indifference2) The Problem of Self 2) The Problem of Self Absorbed ArroganceAbsorbed Arrogance

3) The Problem of Avoiding 3) The Problem of Avoiding AccountabilityAccountability

4) The Problem of Prosperity4) The Problem of Prosperity

1 Cor 7:3, 1 Cor 7:3, ““Let the husband fulfill his Let the husband fulfill his

duty to his wifeduty to his wife, and , and likewise also the wife to her likewise also the wife to her

husband.”husband.”

Three Divine rules designed to Three Divine rules designed to produce virtue in marriageproduce virtue in marriage::

1. Husbands love your wives, Eph 5:25.1. Husbands love your wives, Eph 5:25.

2. Wives obey your husbands, Col 3:18.2. Wives obey your husbands, Col 3:18.

3. Husbands and wives forgive each 3. Husbands and wives forgive each other as Christ forgave us, Eph 4:32.other as Christ forgave us, Eph 4:32.

1 Peter 3:7 KJV, 1 Peter 3:7 KJV, “Likewise, you husbands, dwell “Likewise, you husbands, dwell

with with themthem according to according to knowledge, giving honor unto the knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, wife, as unto the weaker vessel,

and as being heirs together of the and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be grace of life; that your prayers be

not hindered.”not hindered.”

God’s design for marriage God’s design for marriage gave the husband the gave the husband the

authority in the relationship authority in the relationship but does not mean the but does not mean the woman is an inferior woman is an inferior

creature; it is just God’s Plan creature; it is just God’s Plan for our protection and for our protection and

happiness.happiness.

The man exercises that The man exercises that authority through leadership authority through leadership

rather than tyranny. rather than tyranny.

1 Cor 11:3, 1 Cor 11:3, “But I want you to “But I want you to

understand that Christ is the understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the head of every man, and the

man is the head of the man is the head of the woman, and God is the head woman, and God is the head

of Christ.”of Christ.”

1 Peter 3:5-6, 1 Peter 3:5-6, “For in this way in former times the “For in this way in former times the

holy women also, who hoped in holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own being submissive to their own husbands; just as Sarah obeyed husbands; just as Sarah obeyed

Abraham, calling him lord, and you Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do have become her children if you do

what is right without being what is right without being frightened by any fear.”frightened by any fear.”

The authority of the husband The authority of the husband is designed to enforce divine is designed to enforce divine policy, to protect, care for, policy, to protect, care for,

and cherish the wife in and cherish the wife in marriage, (marriage, (rather than to rather than to

change her personalitychange her personality), and ), and be a spiritual leader.be a spiritual leader.

The Self Sacrificial / Virtue The Self Sacrificial / Virtue Analogy to Marriage, Eph 5:25Analogy to Marriage, Eph 5:25::

The Self Sacrificial / Virtue The Self Sacrificial / Virtue Analogy to Marriage, Eph 5:25Analogy to Marriage, Eph 5:25::

Husbands must possess at least Husbands must possess at least three characteristics to make a three characteristics to make a

marriage successful: marriage successful: Virtue-Love, Virtue-Love,

Spiritual Self-Esteem (SSE),Spiritual Self-Esteem (SSE),A Sense of Responsibility.A Sense of Responsibility.

Without impersonal love the Without impersonal love the husband cannot fulfill this husband cannot fulfill this command to love his wife. command to love his wife.

Success in marriage Success in marriage demands that impersonal demands that impersonal

love be developed prior to love be developed prior to marriage, if possible. marriage, if possible.

The Sanctification Analogy, The Sanctification Analogy, Eph 5:26Eph 5:26::

The Sanctification Analogy, The Sanctification Analogy, Eph 5:26Eph 5:26::

Sanctification means being set Sanctification means being set apart. The Believer is set apart apart. The Believer is set apart to an eternal union with Christ, to an eternal union with Christ, just as the wife is set apart from just as the wife is set apart from

her family to enter into a life her family to enter into a life long union with her husband.long union with her husband.

Purification = the husband is to Purification = the husband is to take away the sins of his wife by:take away the sins of his wife by:

Purification = the husband is to Purification = the husband is to take away the sins of his wife by:take away the sins of his wife by:

1) Protecting her soul from sins 1) Protecting her soul from sins and sinning.and sinning.

Purification = the husband is to Purification = the husband is to take away the sins of his wife by:take away the sins of his wife by:

1) Protecting her soul from sins 1) Protecting her soul from sins and sinning.and sinning.

2) Not holding her sins against 2) Not holding her sins against her.her.

Purification = the husband is to Purification = the husband is to take away the sins of his wife by:take away the sins of his wife by:

3) Not making her pay for her 3) Not making her pay for her sins, and sins, and

Purification = the husband is to Purification = the husband is to take away the sins of his wife by:take away the sins of his wife by:

3) Not making her pay for her 3) Not making her pay for her sins, and sins, and

4) Covering her sins from 4) Covering her sins from exposure to the world.exposure to the world.

Col 3:19, Col 3:19, “Husbands, love your wives, “Husbands, love your wives, and stop being bitter against and stop being bitter against

them.”them.”

The Purification Analogy, The Purification Analogy, Eph 5:27Eph 5:27::

The Purification Analogy, The Purification Analogy, Eph 5:27Eph 5:27::

Just as Jesus Christ is the Just as Jesus Christ is the Shepherd or Guardian of the Shepherd or Guardian of the

believer's soul, so the believer's soul, so the husband is the shepherd and husband is the shepherd and guardian of the wife's soul. guardian of the wife's soul. 1 Peter 2:25; cf 1 Peter 3:1. 1 Peter 2:25; cf 1 Peter 3:1.

The Self-Esteem Analogy, The Self-Esteem Analogy, Eph 5:28Eph 5:28::

The Self-Esteem Analogy, The Self-Esteem Analogy, Eph 5:28Eph 5:28::

Just as he takes responsibility Just as he takes responsibility for the health and care of his for the health and care of his

own body, the husband in SSE own body, the husband in SSE provides for his wife’s provides for his wife’s

physical and spiritual health physical and spiritual health and care. Gen 2:24and care. Gen 2:24

He is the provider for his He is the provider for his wife, not the other way wife, not the other way

around. This virtue comes around. This virtue comes from his own SSE; his from his own SSE; his

effectiveness in exercising effectiveness in exercising his authority in marriage.his authority in marriage.

The Logistical Grace Analogy, The Logistical Grace Analogy, Eph 5:29-30Eph 5:29-30::

The Logistical Grace Analogy, The Logistical Grace Analogy, Eph 5:29-30Eph 5:29-30::

The husband is to provide for The husband is to provide for all the logistical needs of his all the logistical needs of his wife, (wife, (not necessarily all her not necessarily all her wants and desireswants and desires), before ), before

providing for his own needs providing for his own needs and desires.and desires.

The Unity Analogy, The Unity Analogy, Eph 5:31Eph 5:31::

The Unity Analogy, The Unity Analogy, Eph 5:31Eph 5:31::

A “mama’s boy” will never be A “mama’s boy” will never be able to fulfill his responsibility to able to fulfill his responsibility to care for his wife because he will care for his wife because he will always want his MAMA to take always want his MAMA to take care of him and eventually the care of him and eventually the

misguided precept of “mama” is misguided precept of “mama” is transferred to the wife.transferred to the wife.

Authority, by means of virtue Authority, by means of virtue love, must recognize the love, must recognize the

privacy, freedom and privacy, freedom and magnificence of the woman as a magnificence of the woman as a responder, so that from her own responder, so that from her own

free will she will respect her free will she will respect her husband and lovingly obey her husband and lovingly obey her

lord and master. lord and master.

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Biblical Relationships, Part 3Biblical Relationships, Part 3

The Role of the HusbandThe Role of the Husband

Eph 5:25-33; 1 Cor 7:3; 11:3; 1 Peter 3:5-7Eph 5:25-33; 1 Cor 7:3; 11:3; 1 Peter 3:5-7   

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