DIRECTIONS TO YEO’S BUILDINGBy car AYE, exit by Alexandra Road (towards Telok Blangah Road). Turn left into Telok Blangah Road and turn left into Telok Blangah Street 31.

By Public transport Take MRT to Harbourfront Station. Go to bus stop (no. 4) beside Harbourfront MRT Station (Exit C). Board bus services 10, 30, 57, 61, 97, 100, 143, 166.

Newsletter of the Buddhist Fellowship • April - June 2010 Address: 2 Telok Blangah Street 31 Singapore 108942 • Tel: 6278 0900 • Fax: 6278 0102 • Email: info@buddhistfellowship.org • www.buddhistfellowship.orgOffice Hours: Mon-Fri: 10am - 8pm, Sat-Sun: 10am - 5pm • Closed on Public Holidays FREE shuttle bus from Vivo City, check website for details.

MICA (P) 186/05/2009

HIGHLIGHTS

EXCO Members: President: Henry Baey • VP - Administration: Bita Seow • VP - Members Affairs: Angie Monksfield • VP - Public Affairs: Yap Kheng Guan • VP - Resource Development: Jerry Ong • Hon Secretary: Poh Mui Hoon • Hon. Treasurer: Luar Ling Ling • Committee Members: Jayson Goh, Lim Ai Ling, Poh Joo Tung, Tikki Gee, Henry Yeo, Teo Yew Thong, Wong Tai Wee, Vera Santiboon, Luis Tirtasanjaya

General Manager: Wang Pei Chong • Centre Manager: Ho Eng Chin • Centre Administrator: Hoh Wai Ling • Public Relations & Communications Executive: Kumudu Amarasingham

EVENTS6 May 2010 Executive Club: ‘A Fishy Story By

Kenny Yap20 - 22 May 2010 Vesak Musical: ‘Expectations!’12 - 20 Jun 2010 Executive Meditation Retreat with

Ajahn BrahmSUNDAY TALKS9 May 2010 What is the aim of Buddhist meditation? Can you see your past lives in meditation? by Ven Rathanasara16 May 2010 How to react when Buddha is attacked? Buddhism and Religious

Harmony by Ven Rathanasara23 May 2010 TBA by Dr Wong Yin Onn 30 May 2010 What should a Buddhist do in the

event of a crisis in life? By Ven. Rathanasara

MONTHLY INDONESIAN SERVICE16 May 2010 Do you believe in reincarnation by

Bie Lee20 Jun 2010 Buddhists’ songs discussion & review by Charlie LianACTIVITIESTue, 7.30 - 9.30pm Sutta Discovery Wed, 7.45 - 9.30pm Wednesday Dhamma TalksThu, 2.30 - 4.30pm KKH Children Ward EntertainmentFri, 2.15 - 4.30pm Visit to Ren Ci Nursing HomeFri, 8 - 9pm Group Meditation Sun, 11am - 12.30pm Rahula College Sun, 1.30 - 5pm Sunday Youth Service 1st Thu of the month Executive Club 7 - 9.30pm 4th Sat of the month Visit to Geylang East Home for 3 - 6pm the Aged1st Sun of the month Club Meditation at Fort Canning 6.45 - 8am 2nd Sun of the month Family Club Meditation 9.15 - 10.30am

Services Bedside Support Group • Ehipassiko Chanting GroupSingles Again Club • Counselling ServicesLegal Advisory Services • Marriage Solemnisation

(Please refer to www.buddhistfellowship.org for more details)

Spiritual Patron: Ven. Ajahn Brahmavamso

Advisor Patron: Mr Low Teck Suan

Patrons: Dr. Ang Beng Choo Dr. Tan Choon Kim Mr Yeo Guat Kwang

EXECUTIVE COUNCIL 2010

Front Row (seated) Jerry On g, Poh Mui Hoon, Jesilynn Luar Ling Ling, Henry Baey, Angie Monksfield, Bita Seow, Yap Kheng Guan

Back Row (standing) Tikki Gee, LIm Ai Ling, Jayson Goh, David Wong Tai Wee, J.T. Poh, Luis Tirtasanjaya, Teo Yew Thong, Lim Hock Seng

Not in the picture Dr. Henry Yeo, Vera Santiboon

WE HAVE MOVED!

WHERE PASSION AND PURPOSE MERGED-AGM ON 28TH MARCH 2010By Kumudu Amarasingham

It’s a delicate and chaotic fusion of blues, greens and oranges at the Buddhist Fellowship – especially if you happen to come on a typically busy Sunday, gone extra crazy with an Annual General Meeting (AGM) on schedule.

For those unfamiliar with BF and its (ever-evolving) ways; the blues were the executive committee members, who were (at least on that day) asked to don their blue BF t-shirts. The greens were the staff – to which I was the latest addition (so new in fact that I hadn’t had time to get myself a proper green t-shirt like any self-respecting BF staffer!). The yellows were our amazing volunteers, whose sunny hued clothes well matched their general disposition.

Come Sunday and the Buddhist Fellowship premises turn into quite a frenzy of activity: kids’ dhamma school, youth groups and dhamma sessions for adults, in addition to various other community development projects. Sunday 28th March had added significance – the 2010 AGM was also on the agenda.

From a personal perspective (and to be very honest) I was a little disappointed that my very first article for the Buddhist Fellowship newsletter would be about an AGM. I mean, an AGM? I came here all fired up to serve the dhamma, and hopefully write glowing eulogies about it – and here I was being called upon to write about constitutional amendments and all the nitty gritties associated with some (albeit high profile) meeting?

Life is full of lessons, and I was about to learn my first (of many no doubt), as a staff member at BF. While the greatest way to serve the dhamma is to live it as best we can – to work towards its propagation and preservation in society is equally important – indeed the two are inextricably linked. This AGM I was supposed to write about was not just any old meeting: it was a living, breathing example of people who had made it their mission in life to serve the Buddha and his timeless message. And the “nitty gritties” were very much a part, one might say a vital part, of that preservation. And so of course the “nitty gritties” were discussed: various constitutional amendments were made, figures presented, opinions sounded and heard. New executive committee members were voted in. Angie Monksfield ended her dynamic and fruitful presidency, with her place being taken by the equally committed and able Henry Baey.

Many paid tribute to Angie’s commitment to Buddhism, and in particular to the Buddhist Fellowship (which she helped found over twenty one years ago), while also commending her resilience and strength of character.

Speeches were made, people welcomed, reports read.

Meanwhile what did I do? Well I just observed.

These were human beings, on the path to freeing themselves from the bonds of samsara. They had, no doubt, some amazing qualities, and their fair share of faults, like everyone. Regardless, what was really touching about this was the palpable passion for the teachings of the Buddha in each one of them, and their unity towards a common goal. The Buddha had reached out through time, as he so often does through the dhamma, and touched them irrevocably with his message of peace, love and liberty from all bondage. This they wanted to share with their fellowman.

For those who want to serve that Great Teacher who lived more than 2500 years ago, through living his word and serving other travellers, the Buddhist Fellowship offers one of the best platforms I’ve ever come across, thanks to the people behind it.

Pioneer BF member, Mr Upul Rodrigo registering.

Members posing questions to Exco

Treasurer, Jesilynn Luar explaining the financial reports.

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28th March 2010

NEW PRESIDENT HENRY BAEY'S ACCEPTANCE SPEECH @BF AGM

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

Like many of you, I am a also a “seeker”. A seeker of that “Truth” that explains who I really am, my purpose in this life and what I must do. In my practice and guided by the Dhamma, I have found my answers. I have therefore much to be truly grateful for. For this reason, I stand before you willing and ready to serve. To serve to make a difference in the life of another.

With humility, I therefore Thank You for giving me the opportunity by electing and placing your trust in me as the next President of the Buddhist Fellowship. I humbly accept the responsbilities placed on me and will discharge them to the best of my abilities.

Like many of you, Ajahn Brahm has and continue to inspire me with his teachings. He has brought many of us to Buddhism and we are eternally grateful to him. After years of listening and observing him, I am sure you will agree with me that he is one monk who truly walk the talk. We have heard earlier in the year of criticism thrown at Ajahn and I know I can speak for most of us by saying that we have own own eyes to see, ears to hear and heart to know how well attained he is. We wish him many years of GOOD Health and Happiness and may he continue to guide us along this wonderful path of Happiness and Goodness. This path of hurtless-ness and Peace. Thank you Ajahn Brahm from the bottom of our hearts.

Over the past 4 years (and of course even before that), Angie Monksfield had played a pivotal role in the growth and success of BF in reaching out to the English speaking Buddhists. She has done much for BF in particular and Buddhism in general, inspiring many lay Buddhists to take their religion more seriously. We have also much to thank her for.

Having served at BF for a several years, I would also wish to thank the Exco members, BF Staff and many of the wonderful volunteers and BF supporters and not forgetting PES for helping me learn and make progress in the work I do at BF.

From the middle of this month, we will be having our services and activities at our new rental premise (Yeo's Building). The building is older and not as new as what we now have at PES. However, we will be working hard at coming to an agreement to build our own building. There is much to do and we look forward to your support to make our own BF Building a reality. Most of us are volunteers and as such we are always in need of “willing hands” to join us.

For the next 2 years, I look forward to building bridges within BF to make BF even more relevant to the lives of our members. Let us not just come to BF just to listen to talks and go home, but for BF to become a community of spiritual friends, encouraging and helping each other.

I also wish to build bridges with the wider Buddhist community, always keeping the bigger picture in mind. Our tradition may be different, but we share the same Dhamma and of course the Teacher. We are willing to work together the way the Buddha would expect us to.

We will also continue to reach out to the other Faiths to create harmony and understanding for the well being of our people, community and nation.

Thank you again and may all of you be Well and Happy!

Henry Baey, an ovo-lacto vegetarian, 52. He is the Group Managing Director of Ameri-can International Industries Group of Companies. He has been a member of the Bud-

dhist Fellowship since 2002 and has been on the Executive Committee from 2008. As an Exco member, he is a mentor for the Buddhist Fellowship Youth overseeing the develop-ment, direction and guidance of the youths.

He was educated in ACS, Hwa Chong JC and Washington & Lee University (USA). besides being in the Buddhist Fellowship, he is also on the Singapore Prison’s Board of Visitors and has been leading a team of volunteers to the Cheshire Home for many years. He is an ac-tive Freemason, a member of the Vegetarian Society of Singapore, The Singapore Lodge Theosophical Society, SAFTI Alumni Association and The Singapore Scout Guild. He was awarded the President’s Scout Award in Singapore in 1976 and Omron Delta Kappa award in the USA in 1983.

Both his two sons are currently serving their National Serviceand his daughter is studying in a sencondary school. He regularly does yogic breathwork and meditates. For cardio-vascular exercise, he jogs. He will be taking over the position of President from Ms. Angie Monksfield with effect from 28th March 2010.

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ANGIE CHEW MONKSFIELD’S MESSAGE OF THANKS

Dear Members.

Buddhist Fellowship, in its 22nd year, has helped mould the Buddhist landscape in Singapore. We also have a more mature program offering, a professional organisation structure and system in place. Our success has largely been due to the inspiration from our Spiritual Patron, Ajahn Brahm, and the amazing teamwork that existed between the Executive Council, staff and volunteers. I feel privileged and also humbled to be working with incredibly qualified, talented and committed people in the Executive Committee who have served wholeheartedly. I would like to offer special thanks to them: Jerry Ong, Yap Kheng Guan, Wong Tai Wee and Bita Seow, Jesilynn Luar, Poh Mui Hoon, Lim Ai Ling, Henry Baey, JT Poh, Henry Yeo, Jayson Goh, Lim Soon Huat, Matthew Rickard, Tikki Gee.

With a membership exceeding 4,000, we need (and are fortunate) to have a professional team to serve the membership and conduct outreach programs in the community.

We have since appointed Mr Wang Pei Chong to be the General Manager to manage the day-to-day operations of the Buddhist Fellowship while the Exco focuses on strategy and governance. In his team is I would like to thank Ms Ho Eng Chin, the Centre Manager, who spearheaded the setting up of proper administrative procedures four years ago, Ms Hoh Wai Ling, Program Executive, for her ever patient and friendly persona in serving the members. I would like to thank Eng Chin and Wai Ling for their dedication and professionalism. I would like to thank Skye for volunteering her services in keeping our financial records in good order. I would also like to thank Albert for his term services for organising and activating the PROs at all the major events, the IRCC Inter-faith Dialogues and most recently, the 21st Anniversary Dinner. I would like to take this opportunity to welcome our new staff,Kumudu, who has joined us to undertake the Communications role.

Our success in humanitarian and community efforts over the twelve months, have been largely due to Pei Chong, with help from Matthew, Sabrina, Skye and Soon Huat. Now, our Community Outreach portfolio include regular programs at the Geylang Home for the Aged, Ren Ci Nursing Home, KK Children Hospital and Communicable Disease Centre to cheer up the sick, aged and children. My sincere thanks to them.

Through his persistence, we were also able to break new grounds in launching an English Buddhist counselling program at the Changi Prison with a team of 6 volunteers offering Dhamma talks based on Ajahn Brahm’s book, “Opening The Door of Your Heart”. I was privileged to kick off this program on 13th of March 2010 to give a talk to a group of eight inmates serving long jail terms. Buddhist Fellowship is the second group to offer Buddhist counselling in Singapore prisons. His effectiveness has thus led the Exco to appoint him as the GM of BF.

Having been a nomadic organisation for more than 10 years, it has come the time to have a permanent home. We are now at the juncture of committing to a joint-development of a building with the Yeo’s clan where they will provide the land and we construct the building. Hence, the reason for our relocation to the Yeo’s Building next month.

We currently have $1 million in our Building Fund and would need another $4 million. With a membership of 4,000, we are optimistic that the members will share in this vision and will offer their support to fulfil this decade old dream! $4 million translates to an average of $1,000 per member.

We are grateful to Poh Ern Shih, in particular, Mr and Mrs Lee Boon Siong for renting us the premises in this beautiful temple for the last three years. Establishing ourselves here has enabled us to enhance the Buddhist presence in the West coast whereas most other Buddhist organizations locate themselves in the East.

I have now served 4 years as the President and it is time for me to hand over the leadership. This is proof that BF’s success has been due to the collective teamwork of many capable talents. I am confident that our next President, Henry Baey, with the continuing excellent teamwork, will take BF to greater heights. I look forward to serving under his leadership as a Vice President.

Let us all work with Henry and this new team of Exco members for the benefit of Buddhism in Singapore and to bring happiness to an even larger community!

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A TRIBUTE TO ANGIE MONKSFIELD, A BUDDHIST ACTIVIST AND REFORMER

By Low Teck SuanAdvisor Patron

During my recent trip to Singapore, it was a great blessing to be able to attend several Sunday services and the recent AGM of the Buddhist Fellowship. While in Australia, although I received regular updates through the website of BF about its activities and news, nothing is more touching than being here in the presence of the many devoted Dhamma sisters and brothers who made things happened at BF.

Because of a family commitment, I sadly missed attending the auspicious occasion of BF’s 21st anniversary celebration. However, I was immersed in full Dhamma joy when I read the speech of Angie at the 21st anniversary dinner, tracing the history of BF back to the days of BGF and how this Dhamma sapling which was almost uprooted at one point, has been nurtured and transformed through the years to become a full grown Bodhi tree standing strong and tall, providing a place of spiritual refuge for many of our sisters and brothers in Singapore.

The growth of BF is phenomenal and has made positive impact on the Buddhist landscape of Singapore. It is not just the membership number; more significant are the quality of the general membership, the professionalism of its leadership team, its many social engagement projects and the courage to embark on groundbreaking reforms in the way Dhamma is being taught and practiced. In the 60s and 70s, educated English speaking intellectuals had hard time finding a decent Buddhist Centre where they can relate to for learning of the Dhamma. Philanthropists who were supportive of the Buddha Sasana and had wished to offer financial assistance were weary to make donations due to the poor image and lack in professional management of many Buddhist Centres then. Then, there was little engagement in mainstream social or community projects, and the Buddhists were looked upon as a timid, withdrawn and non-committal community when it comes to expressing opinion on national issues. The transformation of BF in the last decade has changed all that perception as is evident from the professional makeup of its leadership team, the profile of its general membership compromising mostly young English educated intellectuals, the many humanitarian projects undertaken, the establishment of Brahm Education Centre, the pro-family Sunday services attracting devotees of all ages and above all, making representation on behalf of the Buddhist community on national and social issues. BF has set a fine example for the Buddhist community in Singapore and has become a catalyst for reform so much needed to change the general image of Buddhism here.

The leadership and inspiration for this reform was initiated and executed by Angie Monksfield as far back in 1999. Over a decade, Angie has been instrumental in conceptualising, planning, organising and mobilising many groundbreaking

reforms and projects that transform BF from an “old boys club’ to a vibrant and perhaps the most progressive and contemporary Buddhist organisation in Singapore. Today, BF sets the high standard for professional management and good governance, providing a role model for the larger Buddhist community to emulate. Angie has been able to galvanise, inspire and attract many young well educated professionals to step forward to serve in the management committee of BF.

Bodhicitta is not the usual high sounding, unattainable rhetoric that we so often hear and read about in many stories and legends of Bodhisattvas. For Angie, Bodhicitta is rooted in a simple wish to just want to share with every sentient being something she knew is good and which she has benefited - the noble teaching of the Buddha. Just like a mother would want to share with her children whatever is good that has benefited her. This is sufficient motivation for her to sacrifice much of her time and energy to making sure that there is a Dhamma Centre conducive to the young and old, families with young children to come learn the noble teaching from qualified teachers who can deliver the noble messages in simple living languages.

At the recent AGM, Angie has requested for a break to step aside from the Presidency of BF after almost a decade of active contribution at the leadership level, having served both as VP and President. However, she has kindly consented to remain as a Vice-President to provide wise counsel from her past experience to the newly elected Executive Committee for 2010 – 2012. Angie has helped trained and nurtured a strong team of younger leaders to pass on the Dhamma torch at BF and the younger team is taking the inspiration from her to excel beyond the high standard set by her in the past. This augurs well for Buddhism in Singapore and for that I salute the devotion, passion, courage, sacrifices and compassion of Angie, so similar to the qualities of Visakha, a chief female lay disciple of the Buddha.

MR LOW TECK SUAN

FOOTNOTE

The story of Visakha is the most delightful one among all the stories of the early Buddhist women.

Visakha was a person of great charm and independent spirit. She had certain poise and calm authority around her. She had a mind of her own and believed in her convictions. Though her family, on either side, was wealthy she ran a business of her own independently. She was known as an able manager and an effective communicator.

Visakha was the first female lay disciple of the Buddha and also the chief female lay benefactor of the Sangha. The Pubbarama monastery which she dedicated with love and reverence to the Sangha was one of the favorite places of stay of the Buddha in the later 25 years of his life.

She was well respected in the Sangha for her wisdom, generosity and for her managerial skills. She took charge of the Bhikkhuni Sangha (Order of the Nuns) and managed it efficiently. She was authorized to arbitrate the issues and disputes that arose among the nuns; and between nuns and monks.

The Pali Canon enumerates a number of discourses imparted to her by the Buddha, on a variety of subjects.

Visakha lived a long life. It is said she retained her poise, youthful charm; and sharp inquisitive mind even in her later years. Visakha is truly one of the most remarkable persons of the early Buddhist era.

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FAITH PERSPECTIVES ON INTERFAITH ENGAGEMENTOrganised by Buddhist Fellowshop / Telok Blangah IRCC Interfaith DialogueBy Lawrence Ting

I had the opportunity to attend the Interfaith Dialogue - "Faith Perspectives on Interfaith Engagement" organised by Buddhist Fellowship (BF) and the Telok Blangah Inter-Racial and Religious Confidence Circle (IRCC) on 30 Jan 2010 at the Civil Service College. The themes for the dialogue were "Faith Perspective on Racial & Religious Harmony" and "One Thing I Value Most about My Faith and One Thing I Struggle With." The objective was to facilitate sharing of the perspectives on interfaith engagement from the major religious groups, and featured religious leaders from Buddhism, Taoism, Hinduism, Islam and Christianity. The Guest of Honour (GOH) was Mr S Iswaran, Senior Minister of State for Trade & Industry Education.

The opening address was delivered by our president, Ms Angie Monksfield, who represented Buddhism in the dialogue. She shared that religious diversity is similar to lifestyle diversity, reflected by differences in the choice of food, clothing or cars. Happiness within a religion comes from practicing well and focusing on its true essence. While religions may have different practices and beliefs, most share a common pursuit of peace, happiness, compassion and love. She also shared her experiences of a recent trip to Myanmar where she was touched by the generosity and sense of gratitude of the Myanmese villagers who offered a lavish lunch for the guests despite having so little and living mainly on rice and vegetable. On Buddhism, Angie shared that the one thing she valued most was the ability to investigate and seek the truth without having to rely on blind faith, and she related the story in the Kalama Sutta to illustrate this point. The one thing which she expressed concerned with in Buddhism was the overshadowing of the true essence of Buddhism by rituals and forms.

Brother Bruno Saint Girons representing the Catholic Church commented that he was impressed with the balance and harmony between religions in Singapore, which was not manipulated by politics. He shared that the interpretation of beliefs can change over time and some may have been taken out of context, especially if manipulated by politics. He viewed all people as pilgrims on the path to seek the truth and that every religion has a treasure to share with people.

Mr K. Rajamanikam representing Hinduism gave an overview of Hinduism, and alluded that Hinduism can also be viewed as a philosophy. He shared that there were many ways to look at the truth, and even Hinduism teachers do not all agree with each other. On interfaith engagement, he shared that Hinduism valued respect for other beliefs as it was believed that religious practice was individualistic, and different religions are just ways to see the Divinity. However, he raised concerns with conversions by Christianity.

Mr Mohamad Imran representing Islam shared that a wide spectrum of views exist even within Islam, and no two religions are the same. He believed that all religion originated from a single source of divinity. He also shared that Islam preached compassion and justice, and being inclusive. However, social-political forces can influence and drive the interpretation of religious views to the detriment of harmony.

Master Chung Weiyi shared on the origins and beliefs of Taoism, focused on embracing all, living in harmony and finding a balance in things. He gave an example of how the oceans can be so vast and deep only by accepting the water from rivers, streams and even rain.

During the Q&A session, the key takeaways were that we should

understand the context and intention of religious text or rituals, as some may not be relevant in present times; we should focus on the true meaning of a religion, and not be overly fixated with rituals or superstition; and we should encourage interfaith engagement to reduce stereotyping and misunderstanding, even though it may be sensitive and sometimes uncomfortable. Sister Angie concluded with the story of the violin player to illustrate that just as how the beauty of the violin depended on the player, the beauty of a religion depends on how well a person practice within their chosen religion.

In his closing speech, the GOH observed that all religions seemed to share a common thread of searching for the truth. However, he sees the challenge not arising from ideology, but from how we apply that in our daily life, i.e. idealism versus pragmatism. He shared that the key to harmony is in building trust and understanding, recognising any problems and being courageous in dealing with it. He ended by commented that the government in Singapore is secular and does not side any religion. Rather, the focus of the government is to help foster trust and ensure that there is sufficient common space (eg. schools, offices, community centres) which does not get eroded over time.

Soracco singers, Calvin and Jacqueline with other

volunteers jazzing things up

Left to right : Brother Bruno Saint Girons, Mr K. Rajamanikam, Ms Angie Monksfield, Mr Mohamad Imran, Master Chung Weiyi

Mr S. Iswaran , the Guest of Honour during the IRCC event.

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RETREAT BY AJAHN CATTAMALO (9 - 12 JANUARY 2010)By Hoo Hui Kim

Wowee! To hear that Ajahn Cattamalo was holding a retreat in the Buddhist Fellowship in Singapore was enough to make me sing and dance in the rain. Off went my registration form the very day I received the advertisement in my email. And I cajoled and begged our BF administrators to let me have the honour of offering breakfast dana to Ajahn for the 3 days that he was here.

I knew it would not be easy for me as I have a little eight-month old Rahula to look after, so I signed on only as a stay-out retreatant. And crossed my fingers!

Ajahn’s programme started at 530am with morning chanting and meditation, and he had his breakfast at 7am. So it turned out I had to wake up at 4am every morning to prepare the food, express milk for little Rahula and rush off to BF to lay out the breakfast table. It didn’t help that Rahula woke up and yelled for attention 2 or 3 times a night, so it meant that there was little shut eye for me!

For those of you who have never attended an early morning meditation in BF, I can assure you the experience is unforgettable. In the cool and darkened Dharma Hall, Ajahn is silhouetted by the golden shine of the candles behind him. All the retreatants sit quietly in pin-drop silence. In those precious few moments, there is only peace. Even now whenever I am asked to recall a peaceful moment of my life, early morning meditation comes to mind.

Throughout the retreat, I was impressed by my fellow meditators who sat for long hours in the pursuit of controlling their minds. How often do religions try to convert the unconverted, forever looking outside the religion when the real gem is within the fellowship itself. It struck me that it is here, here that the real fellowship exists. In our common struggle, there is understanding. In our silence, walls and veneers break down. All of a sudden, it didn’t matter who you were, what you wore, what race you are, what you are like, you have become an inspiration, an unspoken encouragement, facing the same struggle as I. And without the power of speech, courtesy is emphasized through our actions. A little nod of the head, a wave to give way, a smile here, a bow there, suddenly there is harmony, a lift of the heart, all unspoken. So it isn’t a wonder that at the end of the retreat, when we are allowed to chat our heads off, firm friendships have already been sealed! All without a word!

Another of my favourite moments is late at night when most retreatants have gone to bed, when one or two die-hards will continue to meditate late into the night. And when I decide to peel my eyelids awake to join them, the camaderie is never stronger. Just you and me, mate, whoever you are. You are just a dark figure in the flickering candlelight. I might not know your name, but thank you for staying on. Thank you for accompanying me. I applaud your determination. Now I just hope I don’t start snoring!

As the hours rolled by and the minds got stronger, the collected energies made the Dharma Hall a really blissful place to stay in, an oasis for our hearts and concentration became easier. It became such that one step into temple grounds was enough to drop the mind into a mild state of mindfulness. And it really helped that Ajahn sat with us during our meditation sessions. As one retreatant put it,‘When Ajahn says sit he means sit! If the monk sits with us, it makes us less likely to wander off to laze!’ She meant physically wandering off, of course, but it was so with our minds as well.

In addition to coaching us with Dharma talks, Ajahn also found time to give two public talks and one to the BF youth group. In

all his talks he spoke seriously and honestly, never shying from teaching even when the concept was profound and what he said stimulated our minds to reflect on the Dharma.

Ajahn even answered the most important question of all: What is the purpose of life? The purpose of life, Ajahn said, is liberation. What are you liberating? A mind. What are you liberating it from? Suffering. It is not your mind, it is not your suffering but the mind needs to be liberated from it. I was also delighted to hear him touch on a topic which I find is often neglected. It is the concept of right intention. Know your intentions, Ajahn said, know why you say what you say, why you think like you do, why you act like you do. Often we don’t really understand or don’t want to know what makes us tick. In our daily lives, we are running all the time, not stopping to look into the causes and conditions of our words, thoughts and deeds. If we run all the time, we cannot see. Retreat time is a precious opportunity to stop running, finally.

At the closing of the retreat, the air was zinging with energy as Ajahn chanted the blessing. Yes, I found myself thinking, the closing is always the sweetest.

So thank you, Ajahn, for answering our questions thoughtfully, for agreeing for more guided meditation when we asked for it, for your equanimity, for your integrity and honesty, for teaching us not to compromise our ideals. So come, my friends, those of you who have not had the opportunity to attend any retreat yet, please come and try. Try it out for yourself and find your mind purer than you have ever seen it before. Even though I could not meditate for long stretches at a time ( you would often catch me rushing home to tend to little Rahula), I am already grateful to Ajahn, to my fellow retreatants, to the tireless helpers in BF, to BF itself. What price those few precious minutes of concentration, the tiny snippets of joy, the one or two cool breaths of calm. I am already grateful.

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Of Tiger Woods, Dr. Buddha and Being EnoughBy Kumudu Amarasingham

March 30, 2010: Ajahn Brahm hit the nail, spot on, yet again.

We know this monk simplifies and brings to life profound teachings. He calms the weary and worn, makes everyone smile and generally exudes a jolly presence that is infectious to say the least. He reminds us that the Buddha’s doctrine, though it speaks of suffering, is really about being happy: truly happy – once and for all.

All well and good, but what did this happy monk actually preach? And did we hear the message beneath the laughter and jokes? How is it that he awakens us to such a degree that he touches the depths of our very soul –sometimes without us even knowing it? His last talk in Singapore was titled, “Happiness without addictions”. It could well have been, “Happiness under any circumstance” or “always happy”.

In true Buddhist style (and without sounding the least bit boring or gloomy) he began with the ‘why?’ of unhappiness. After all, as he said, people take to addictions because they feel unhappy or unfulfilled.

In a word, he explained that people were unhappy basically because they didn’t feel they were enough: good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, witty enough, rich enough – whatever.

Then, (this time in true Ajahn Brahm style) he gave a very practical tip to help each other out of this uncomfortable feeling of “not being enough”. The same “not being enough” that brings so much pain and causes so much strife in individuals and ultimately in society.

Ajahn Brahm said we help ourselves and each other by completely accepting both ourselves and the people we love, not to mention anyone we happen to meet anywhere – just as they are.

Moreover, we need to let people, especially those close to us, know that we love, accept and admire them.

“If a person doesn’t find inner happiness, no amount of wealth or fame will suffice,” said the much loved Ajahn, citing Tiger Woods recent hullabaloo (what with his sex addiction and infidelities coming to light) as an example. “When there is no inner happiness, people take to all sorts of addictions: be it drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling or any other reckless pursuit”.

He advised parents (above all) to ensure that their children felt loved and worthy through constant praise and encouragement if they wanted them to stay away from addictions. He also called

on them to encourage honesty in their kids by showing them they would be cherished no matter what mistakes they made. “If they come to you with a confession about something ‘bad’

they did, first say ‘thank you for being honest with me’”.

Likewise, he called on couples to give each other more positive re-enforcement (say nice things to each other) than negative, adding that the positive comments should outweigh the negative by at least three to one. Also on the couples note, he told both women and men that the most attractive trait to the opposite sex was confidence and a relaxed carefree attitude, that showed you were comfortable with yourself – much more so than good looks, money or degrees.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t look like Kate Moss or Brad Pitt or you’re not as rich as Trump! Develop self-worth through genuine loving kindness to yourself and those around you and people will automatically flock to you – irrespective of what you look like or how fat your wallet is! This is not just therapeutic baloney, but a fact that has been proven many times over by charismatic and charming women and men who are not technically good looking or otherwise ‘qualified’.

Similarly, everyone, even the worst criminal, has something beautiful and positive about them. “There are no bad people, only people who have done bad things”. Anybody could be transformed through love and acceptance. Ajahn Brahm said the prison wardens of the prisons he visited often asked him to come back because, according to those prison officers, none of the inmates who attended his classes ever came back to jail. They all changed and went on to make constructive contributions to society.

To digress a little, Buddhism says the root of pain is ignorance and its complete removal is the only permanent cure. True, but what do we do in the meantime, while we’re still stuck in ignorance? How do we begin to remove this veil of ignorance? Being kind to ourselves and each other is a great way to start!

Animatedly recalling the story of a boy who had come bottom of his class when he (Ajahn Brahm) was a school teacher, he said he decidedly cheered the forlorn lad up by pointing out that he

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had sacrificed himself (akin to a Boddhisattva), by taking the lowest place so that no one else would have to go through the infamy. He then pronounced him, “Bodhisattva of the year!”

He added to this the story of another young boy who was kicked out of school because he couldn’t even pass grade one. He was then ordained as a monk, being no good at anything else, and he later went on to become both enlightened, and a highly acclaimed and sought after teacher (though he could never remember chanting and had to tap into one of his previous births as a monk to help with that aspect of his duties).

While getting across the intended message, this story also directs us to something beyond the obvious. It points to the interesting and encouraging fact that enlightenment is not ultimately an intellectual achievement or realisation. Conventional IQ measurements are redundant when it comes to that infinite realm called nirvana: because, no matter how ‘intelligent’ we may be, that wisdom is so much vaster and deeper than our tiny minds can ever grasp.

True insight is not the product of intellectual analysis alone, but rather is gained by quieting the always analytical and critical mind, enough to see its real nature: that is Samadhi or concentration followed by Vipassana or insight.

The so-called “stupid” boy’s mind was so pure and calm; he was able, as a monk, to attain enlightenment much faster than most rocket scientists would! This is not to say the intellect is totally unnecessary – you need to be smart enough to see that this impermanent world cannot give you true happiness, and hence take to meditation or spirituality in the first place!

Not everyone has the time or inclination to study the dazzling depths of Buddhism to that degree however (though we will all be drawn to it sooner or later). What we all want now, no matter whom or what we are, is basic peace of mind and happiness – for ourselves and our loved ones.

For this, as for almost everything else, “Dr. Buddha” (as one of Ajahn Brahm’s friends cleverly called the great Teacher) has the prescription. In Ajahn Brahm’s words, open the doors of your heart completely; first to yourself and then to all around you. Love yourself, love all beings – and let them know it.People, rich or poor, black or white, suffer more from heart-break and from the aches within, than from any physical pain, said Ajahn. Heal yourself, and help heal others, through sincere and open acceptance and support.

In addition, as Ajahn Brahm said in answer to a question about stress: when the load gets too heavy and you’re feeling the pressure, just put it down – mentally. Why carry work, home and all the unending chores everywhere with you? Focus on what you’re doing in the moment – whether it’s work or play

– and put the other stuff out of your mind. That way, not only do we eliminate stress – because we’re present and focused we actually do a better job at whatever we’re doing.

Ajahn Brahm’s first talk at Yeo’s school auditorium on 30th March 2010.

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Bringing Cheer to Ren Ci Nursing Home on 19th February 2010by Pan Shixuan & Pauline Tay Siew Kim

"Chinese New Year means different things for different people. Few, however comprehend the significance behind the red packets, mandarin oranges, and food we generously share among each other. As our teacher Ajahn Brahm taught, “Giving is an expression of love.” And for me, it is a rare privilege to be able to share my time at the Ren Ci Nursing Home during the holiday season.

On the sixth day on the lunar calendar, a group of like-minded people came together at Ren Ci Nursing home to sort out CNY goodie bags for the nursing staff and residents who were living there. The “God of Wealth”, volunteers together with a portable karaoke machine was pushed into the 7 wards to liven up the otherwise dull spirits of the residents.

Generous sponsors (Leung Kai Fook Medical Co, ZTP Ginseng Birdnest Pte Ltd, Luna Yap, Jerry Ong, Dr Henry Yeo, Jayson Goh, Wong Tai Wee, Angie Monksfield, Lawrence Ting, Shirley Tan and Janet Saw) made possible the hong baos and goodie bags.

Ever so often, an old folk would peer into the bag with happiness. Some of the resident's comments were "We are so so happy", "We are very grateful", "Who has given us so many goodies and ang-pows?", "Can you take out the items for me", "Oh, cup noodle is my favourite".

As many of them were abandoned by their families and had few possessions, this simple form of kindness meant the world to them. Therefore, I was deeply touched when one poor old uncle who was dubbed as the “Smiling Buddha” by the nurses offered to share his bag with me. “Smiling Buddha” is a stroke patient paralyzed from neck down, has lived at the nursing home for years. He befits his nickname due to his ability to carry a smile on his face even in times of physical pain and agony. I was extremely moved by his kind generosity for he was a man with fewer possessions than I have, but yet was eager to share whatever little he had with me.

Overall, Ren Ci Nursing Home is a wonderful place to volunteer. I take pleasure in working with some of the cheeky and lively elderly folks. Some of them enjoy playing Black Jack and Bingo Lotto, while others love to sing. Just bring along a kind, compassionate heart- and you are ready to mingle with them. Do come along and share your love.

Bedridden but still able to express joy

The volunteers who made the event a success

Volunteers who receive as much joy as they give.

NOTEBF would like to thank all sponsors,

donors, well-wishers and volunteers

in making the event enjoyable and

meaningful. Volunteers who would like to

know more on how they can contribute

their time every Friday afternoon, please

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NOTE - Next StepProject Nargis was initiated when the Cyclone Nargis devasted the delta region Myanmar in May 2008. The objective of this project is to deliver aid to the cyclone victims of Myanmar. The funds collected were spent on the various humanitarian/relief initiatives such as the distribution of food and necessity items, donations of ploughing machines/dynamo, renovation of the village monastery/community hall and construction of a village primary school.

Nargis Step 6 is scheduled for Jul 10. The objective of this mission is to participate in the opening ceremony of the primary school in Chaung Gyi Village. More information would be available soon via email. Please contact Pei Chong at peichong.wang@buddhistfellowship.org to register your interest.

NARGIS STEP 5 : MY FIRST TRIP TO MYANMARBy Dhiyann Ong (8 years old)

My dad shared with me on his meaningful trip to “Project Nargis Step 4”; a humanitarian trip organised by Buddhist Fellowship which made me so inspired that I wanted to go to Nargis Step 5.

I was told that if I really wanted to practice compassion, I must go there to experience it for myself and to be mentally prepared for the village's conditions and learn how to swim.

With my days being packed with tuition, I did not have time to learn swimming so as a safety precaution, we went to Beach Rd's army shop to buy the life jacket.

The objective of this trip was to go to Chaung Gyi Village, in Myanmar, to help the villagers build a school. This village was badly affected by the Cyclone Nargis in May 2008.

On 15 January 2010, I went to Myanmar with my parents. I was feeling very excited and could not wait to see how nice Myanmar was. We arrived at Changi airport and saw Pei Chong. We were the first few volunteers to reach the airport and helped Pei Chong to unload the bags of blanket and clothing from a truck and checked in the trolleys. We waited for others to assemble at the counter and and was surprised to find a total of 13 other volunteers that turned up.

Most of them went for their breakfast after check in but I went to bookstore. When we boarded the plane, I sat between Marinda and Bee Cheng. We played games and read books. I had so much fun on the plane.

When we reached Myanmar airport, we picked the 30 over bags and loaded them onto the truck .We arrived at the hotel and rested for about one to two hours then went for dinner on a boat-restaurant. The food there was yummy yummy. Next, we went to the supermarket to buy bottles of water and went back to the hotel.

The next day, we took a boat to the village but I didn't wear my life jacket as the boat is big and looked safe. Along the river near the village, our boat was grounded. It became stuck half-way due to the low tide. Some other small sampan came to our rescue by pushing our boat out of the low tide. I was surprised to see people passing by using bamboo to make a raft. I felt lucky as we had a proper boat. We finally reached the village and paid our respect and offerings to the Venerable. We saw some school students and they were very happy that we came to help them build the school.

Together with them, we passed bricks from the boat to the construction site and celebrated the ground breaking ceremony. The old school was in very poor condition. Part of the roof was damaged and the blackboard for teaching was in very bad condition. The children were so cute, they crowded around me and my friend, Yi Ping. They saw our camera and wondered what is was.

I really feel very lucky to live in Singapore with a nice home and school.

Those kids had fewer things but they were so happy and cheerful. Yesterday Pei Chong emailed and invited me to join the July trip and I am really looking forward to it. I am so excited now!

Angie Chew Monksfield participating in the ground opening cer-emony of the Primary Construction project

Project Nargis 5 team members posing for a photograph at the construction site. The school will be opened in July 2010!

VIPASSANA MEDITATION: YOUR BODY AS AN LABORATORYby Evelyn Lim

It was difficult to keep still. At times, the pain on my back intensified to an excruciating level. It was as if someone had stuck a dagger into a single blade on the lower right. It would have take a physical movement to help ease the pain. Yet, I was not supposed to move. I had to keep my back straight for at least one hour.

Any major physical movement would disrupt the practice of focus and concentration acquired through anapana. Breathing in, breathing out, I sat on the meditation cushion. I was only required to observe any physical sensation. So this was how it was like for most of my sittings for a continuous 10 days. I was in confinement for the most part, cut away from almost all forms of external communication with others. I was on a Noble Silence Goenka Vipassana Meditation Retreat from Dec 1 to 12, 2009.

Vipassana Meditation Retreat StayI felt as if I was a prisoner. While the retreat would appear to sound like a tropical resort stay because it was on St John’s island (south of the main island-city of Singapore), our living facilities were located in a prison camp built since 1955. The camp was a confined area, with enclosing wire fences and barbed wires. Historically, St John’s Island was a quarantine station for leprosy cases and a penal settlement for political prisoners and ringleaders of secret societies. (Rumors of the island being haunted still circulates today!)

Upon arrival, each of us were allotted bed and seat numbers. We were not free to choose where to sit or sleep and were told to keep out of certain areas. Males and females were not allowed to mix. We were also asked to sign sheets of paper to declare and affirm that we would not leave or make any attempts to leave during the ten days that would follow.

There was a whole bunch of rules to comply with during the Goenka Vipassana Mediation Retreat I attended. Here were some that I had to live by:- Wake up at 4 a.m.- Only two meals a day; breakfast and lunch.- No meals after 11 a.m.- Simple vegetarian food.- Dormitory living quarters. Shared bathroom facilities only.- No forms of physical activity (yoga, exercise) allowed.- Noble Silence (More explanations below in the article). Oh yes, it felt like torture camp all right!

We were expected to follow the stipulated schedule for the day. Sittings were throughout the whole day, save for meal breaks and about an hour’s break for personal stuff. Hence, bathing or doing laundry were only restricted to certain times of the day.

I was in good humor even whilst I sat on the toilet trying to ease my constipation and swatting mosquitoes away (not allowed to kill them due to taking the Buddhist precept) at the same time one day. Additionally, I found myself having to ignore the sight of lizard fecal droppings, worms scurrying across the pavements and all kinds of insects on the ground; just to stay sane.

Practicing Noble SilenceNoble Silence simply means no communication with anyone, save for questions for the teacher (daily limit of 5 minutes). Hence, no handphone, laptops or any communication device allowed. We were advised not to look at others nor make gestures. I spent a good part of my time looking downwards or away from others in order to avoid exchanging glances. No reading of any kind or writing were permitted as well.

Why practice Noble Silence? Why were we not allowed to talk for a continuous ten

(The campsite on St John’s Island lies beyond the hill)

(Barbed wires on the fences in the surrounding background)

(Where I slept for 10 days)

days? The whole idea was to allow a period of inner exploration. We were meant to be in deep “surgical operations” of the mind. Usually in constant chatter, our minds were to be given less input during our 10-day stay. If we were allowed to talk, there was the possibility of us being affected by our interactions with other meditators. We might start comparing our sitting experiences with others, for one. And we were on a meditation retreat supposedly to reduce our mental suffering and not to add to our baggage!

My initial fears were largely unfounded. The two weeks before the actual day arrived, I almost wanted to cancel out. What terrified me most of all was the thought that I would go insane if I was going to be made to investigate my mind, without the permission to express myself externally to anyone for that many days. However, throughout my stay, I was surprised that nothing of that sort happened. I was mostly calm. Except for the pain that I was observing during sittings. Even hunger pangs that I expected to experience were hardly there!

The Body as A Laboratory We are encouraged to examine things at the experiential level with equanimity. Intellectual knowledge is not wisdom. To understand natural laws, we start with what we already have and can truly know – our physical bodies. Hence, the method is largely a scientific mind-matter approach.

The Vipassana practice of meditation involves a careful scanning of every part of the body and observing sensations with equanimity. Equanimity simply means non-attached observation of the reality of the present moment. It refers to using the balance of the peace of mind; that is with neither cravings or aversions.

When we are feeling miserable, angry or upset, we are in suffering. To be fully liberated from all forms of negativity, we need to address the root of our suffering rather than merely dealing with it at the symptomatic level.

Much of our suffering arises from cravings or aversions. If we observe very carefully, cravings and aversions first start with bodily sensations. Sensations are either pleasurable or painful. But both forms of sensations have essentially the same characteristics – that of arising and passing. Nothing stays permanent! Sensations have an ever-changing nature.

The technique assists in the ending of past suffering and the ceasing of new ones. It does not require any of us to believe in myths, supernatural forces or an external God. Its usefulness can be felt in our everyday lives. In fact, Goenka describes Vipassana as an art of living and ultimately, an art of dying.

In his talks, Goenka explains that the practice of Vipassana is the essence of the path of Dharma (the path to Truth). It is a non-sectarian universal way to understanding the true nature of things. However, he acknowledges that while he has already excellent results, the method that he uses is not the only way to the Truth. Instead, Goenka encourages students to find out experientially if the method works out for them. He also advises against simply taking on a religion based on blind faith and devotion.

“The Buddha never taught a sectarian religion; he taught Dhamma – the way to liberation – which is universal.” — S.N. Goenka

Youth leader Teo Heng Bin (centre, with parents) left Singapore for further studies in Melbourne’s Monash University. His father, Chiang Wee shares his thoughts in this poem.

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" Wishing You Well - an open-hearted message

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by Mr Teo Chiang Wee

We are drifters blown by the winds of Kamma,

We are learners led by the streams of Dhamma.

Destined to attract not by chance,

Destined to depart not by choice.

The path we take is guided by tested faith,

The path we end is minded by choices made.

Rejoice as you move forth to the next milestone,

Rejoice as we stay tuned to our hearts’ connect.

Wishing you well in this new journey,

Wishing you enough in this real pursuit.

Under the Bodhi tree is where our wisdom

grows,

Under the Bodhi tree is where our freedom

glows.

YOUTHS “BLISS OUT” MEDITATION CAMPBy Tan Jun Xian

Meditation and youths. What do these two seemingly strange bedfellows have in common? While, it seems like a lot, given the enthusiasm of the BF Youths in organising their second BFYouths “Bliss Out” Meditation Camp. The camp was organised with the aim of building a solid foundation in meditation for the ‘newer’ youths, as well as reigniting the spark of Dhamma-seeking in the more ‘experienced’ youths.

This time, the meditation group was deliberately kept small and the setting made intimate, in order to provide a conducive atmosphere for each retreatant to cultivate. But youths being youths, we had a sleepover on Thursday evening, without the “dreaded” noble silence, for us to fellowship and get to know one another well before the austerities (read no mobile phones, pagers or beeping devices) set in. I personally had great fun interacting with my fellow retreatants like Metta and Amanda

We enjoyed ourselves busily setting up the foodstuff, snacks corner and retreat schedule. We concluded the Thursday night sleepover with a brief relaxation meditation before turning out the lights, and turning in.

Friday morning rose bright and a little cloudy and an atmosphere of introspection started to pervade the Dhamma Hall as noble silence fell on us. Slowly, the youths got up to wash up, and some had a little rest before breakfast began. Seated together in a circle, we recited the meal-time reflection:

This meal before us is the compassion of so many. With gratitude we take this precious gift of health that we may practise the Dharma.

Those who brought us this meal, be well and happy. Those who worked hard for this meal, be well and happy.

Soon, Bro Piya Tan, our meditation ‘master’ for the day arrived and we gathered around him to receive our instructions for the day. Bro Piya started by asking, “Who here is new to meditation?” to gauge the depth of meditation we could take. Most of the hands went up. Bro Piya then proceeded to introduce the breath meditation to us from stages one and two, concluding with an advice to “review your practice.” Being the consummate master of meditation he is, the first session lasted for only 20 minutes, a far cry from the fearful one hour meditations that most of the youths were expecting. Within that brief 20 minutes, many of the youths started to notice the monkey-like nature of the mind – “Woah, I didn’t know I thought so much,” “I have difficulty concentrating,”

Were some of the comments given during that first session. Slowly but surely, Bro Piya introduced the third and fourth stages of the breath meditation, before moving on to teaching us other relaxation techniques. By lunch time, many of us were more rested than we had ever been in a long time.

After lunch, Sister Ratna Lim, Bro Piya’s wife, taught us walking meditation, as well as loving-kindness meditation. Soon, the whole Dhamma Hall was filled with youths pacing up and down mindfully, focussing on the experience of contact with the carpeted floor.

After a short break, we had our scheduled interviews with Bro Piya, where he worked personally with each retreatant on their meditational and personal challenges. During that period, the other youths quietly waited for their turn, each abiding in the

peaceful atmosphere of our Dhamma Hall.

After dinner, we gathered round Bro Piya for a Sutta Study on the Five Elements. Bro Piya made this quite ‘cheem’ sutta relevant to us by inviting each retreatant in turn to choose an element out of earth, water, fire, wind and space. Each of us then had to reflect on the qualities of the element we chose. For example, Earth is solid and stable; I like to be as solid and stable in my emotions. Space is all encompassing; I like to be as spacious and kind as I can to every sentient being I see. So as time tickled mindfully past us, it was soon time to head to sleep.

It was a rainy day on Saturday morning. We got used to the early bell at 7:00am and soon began our day with the chanting of our usual meal reflections. This morning, Bro Teoh Ren Shang came to speak to us on “Divine Love.” Divine not in the sense of a god-being, as we Buddhists do not worship Her, but divine in the sense of the beauty and elevation of the meditative states that Bro Ren Shang touched on, the Brahmaviharas. In his talk, Bro Ren Shang reflected that metta, or love, shouldn’t be shackled by our objective knowledge, but should be allowed to sink into the level of our emotions.

After his sharing, we concluded with another relaxation exercise, with time with piano music specially played in the background. Ahhh, it was relaxing to say the least.

In conclusion, I’d like to share some interesting that happened at the end of the retreat. After two days of bliss and meditation, Bro Yew Thong brought in a counsellor who was planning to conduct a workshop on youth issues with the BF Youths soon. She asked each of us questions like “What problems are you facing now? What difficulties do you face in your family or amongst your group of friends?” Now, that question struck me as odd because try as I might, I could not find a single problem in my life! What a taste of Nibanna that was. And that’s after only two solid days of bliss, bliss, bliss. Now that, is BFY Bliss Out Meditation Camp 2010.

PS: A million thanks to our food-providers, Aunty Winnie, Sister Vera and Aunty Hong Eng. Our BFY Mentors Uncle Henry Baey and Bro Jayson Goh for being there to support us. And our chaperons Perry and John Lee! I would also like to thank Sis Bita for her wonderful sharing after Friday night meditaton (: We would not have survived without you all!

Metta, Jun Xian & Amanda hamming it up

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LEAVING POH ERN SHIH WITH A HEARTFELT THANK YOUby Kumudu Amarasingham

Saying Thank you is more than good manners. It is spirituality. – Alfred Painter

Being quite of the same mind as Alfred Painter, Buddhist Fellowship arranged a very special Thanksgiving service for the owner and volunteers at Poh Ern Shih temple, on Sunday 11th April: the last service BF would be holding there before they move to their new premises at Yeo’s building.

It began with the epitome of spirituality, Yap Kheng Guan leading those gathered for this very special event in a meditation that ended with, in true Buddhist style, loving kindness towards all beings.

The rest of the service saw thoughts of love and gratitude being turned into action. Yap K G started with an insightful talk about how the Buddha gazed upon the Bodhi tree for one week after his enlightenment, just to show his gratitude towards the tree that gave him shade and shelter during his journey towards Enlightenment.

He advised that we should stop taking things for granted and begin feeling more thankful towards pretty much everything - from the bus driver that got us to our destination to the farmer that grew the food we ate that morning.

Then turning to the matter at hand, he spoke in glowing terms of both Buddhist Fellowship’s landlord for the past three years, owner of Poh Ern Shih temple, Lee Boon Siong, Connie (his wife) and the temple volunteers’ – with their kind and unfailing hospitality.

Even in my short stay here I’ve noticed the kindness of these amicable and cheerful people, with regard to meals and everything – especially on Sundays when we are choc-a-block full of activities and people. Their patience with our exuberant and sometimes quite noisy youth is also worth commending.

Yap then invited the guest of honour, Lee Boon Siong, owner of the Poh Ern Shih temple, where the Buddhist Fellowship had been located for the past three years, to speak. Stating that Poh Ern Shih also does some (amazing) work for the elderly, the handicapped and drug addicts, in addition to the free meals and other temple services they provide, Lee said they could always use more volunteers in all departments.

He then presented a beautiful token of appreciation to Buddhist Fellowship President Henry Baey, who returned the gesture in kind with a hand stitched portrait of Kuan Yin, Goddess of Compassion.

Buddhist Fellowship’s immediate past President and current VP, Member Affairs, Angie Monksfield, followed with a presentation on gratitude and forgiveness. She then

highlighted an important point through this: as much as we are and should be thankful to those who help and nurture us, we should also be grateful to those who put us through tough times – because it is often through them that we learn our greatest lessons and grow.

She also noted that while formerly the drug of choice had been opium, today it was money: saying people were addicted to money and material things, and didn’t know how or when to say “enough”.

Angie led the way for Jerry Ong, our passionate and active VP, Resource Development, to also thank Lee and apologise for any inconveniences caused in the moving out process: especially with regard to a slight delay in giving notice due to small hold-ups in finalizing things with the new landlords at Yeo’s.

Current President, Henry Baey then ended on the note that we as Buddhists shouldn’t “pass the buck” but should all work together to propagate the dhamma, adding he felt very grateful to be in the position and able to serve.

He spoke about how he too was inspired to tears sometimes, especially by the dhamma, as Lee had been that morning, and said the path to enlightenment could be lonely, but it felt good to know others were treading alongside, albeit at different paces.

No matter how eloquent or wise the adults, kids always steal the show with their innocence and charm, and this was no different. Sending everyone on a wonderful dhamma ‘high’, almost akin to a jhana, were the Rahula kids, with their heart-rending song about the value of the Buddha and the dhamma. Kudos to the teachers who managed to get them to perform after just half an hour of practice!

Sadhu! Sadhu! Sadhu!

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James Khoo teaching the kids on filial piety

Rahula kids enjoying themselves.

Celebrating March birthdays : Darren

Ang, Ang Siu Poh, Tang Peng Yee, Andrew

LeeRahula kids enjoying their first talk at Yeo’s Build-

ing on 18th April 2010.

A VISIT TO AN OLD LADY - MY ADOPTED “GREAT-GRANDMOTHER”By Tara Toh (9 years old)

Some days, I visit an old lady that stays on her own in a small flat. We call her “Madam Yow”. Mommy says she is nearly 80 years old and does not have any relatives. Mommy “adopted” Madam Yow as her grandmother and that makes her my great-grandmother!

Her flat is very old and it does not have any bedrooms. It is like a small square with everything in it and she sleeps on the floor! Mommy told me there are many old people like Madam Yow that live in those apartment blocks.

During the recent Chinese New Year, Mommy brought me there to “拜拜”. We brought some cookies to her as we had many as gifts from relatives and friends. She was smiling broadly as she ate the cookies. She said the “love-letters” were her favorite.

Each time we visit, I know she feels happy and thinks that someone is there for her and that there are people who are still

caring for her.

She has a very old sewing machine at home that is operated by hand. People will give her loose pieces of cloth and she will sew things out of them. Mommy often asks her to sew items so that she can help her “sell” them for cash. Once, she sewed a pouch for me and I thought it was FABULOUS!

By helping her, it involves me in offering time and effort and helps me practice kindness and compassionate towards someone who needs more help.

I enjoy visiting her as I can be kind by caring for others.

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IN PURSUIT OF FAMILY MINDFULNESS By Bita Seow

“Mindfulness”, “Focus”, “Concentration”, “Stillness”, “Breath”, “Sensation”, “Letting Go”, .... the list goes on.

These are words typically used with the Buddhist practice of “Meditation”. But how does a child interpret these words…. Have you ever wondered? - I have, and these are what some kids say when asked.

“Sleeping time”

“Close my eyes”

“Sit still, do not move”

“Count breath”

“…. I see lots of colours, bubbles”

“…. (adult) wants me to shut up. I am too noisy.”

“Random thoughts”

“Daydream”

“Punishment”

Of the many responses I received, what struck me most was the view that “Meditation” is a form of “Punishment”. The children shared incidents where adults use this as discipline or as an exchange for good behavior. I could see & feel “dukkha” in the children. It is unfortunate and it is sad.

The adults, seemingly with good intentions, have delivered it in a manner that did not reap the desired consequences of the practice. On reflection, some adults may have thought it was an innovative tool of discipline – if so, I believed they have succeeded.

The children I heard from were perturbed with the mention of “meditation”.

At the same time, I felt sorry for the Buddhist practice. There was the sense that if something is not actively done by adults alike; we may lose a young generation of Buddhists who may grow up detesting the practice because they feel it is a chore, a punishment. That’s not what I want to see… not what I want my children to grow up into… and I am certain many of you feel likewise.

I am a mother and I try to practice as a Buddhist. Over the past years, I have worked with the young at Sunday schools as well as at the Singapore Prisons as part of dana service. It pains me to see this situation.

I recalled the process & inception of the “ClubMed” brand – Club Meditation is a group meditation exercise to bring together like-minded practitioners to support one another in a regular practice. This idea of a supportive group was conceived together with Matthew Rickard in 2008. Since then, “ClubMed Sunrise @ Fort Canning” and subsequently the Friday meditation sessions followed suit.

With this motivation, the idea of “ClubMed Family” was seeded in 2009.

It has since conducted 4 successful months of family group meditation sessions from January this year. With the help of Henry Yeo, Lily, Ang Beng Choo, and many other volunteers, we have introduced creative ways of practicing mindfulness for families. The sessions are peppered with yoga, stories, music, tips and good-natured sharing to keep one and all inspired! The smiling faces we see at the end of each session and then the repeated ones each time tell us we have done it right! We will continue to learn & improve along the way, only with your determination and support.

Part of my philosophy with children is this term close to my heart - “SAVE” which means “what the child Say & how the child Act, reflects the child’s Views that are Embedded in his mind. In turn, this affects how he feels hence the motivation of his actions & words.

I confess I am an imperfect parent and I am not enlightened yet. Everyday is a learning experience for me, especially with my 2 young ones (9 & 11 year-olds). I try to give them a Buddhist environment. Over the years, I have devised & experimented with creative practice of mindfulness for children. My family has also been benefitting from a good support of community of Buddhist practitioners in Buddhist Fellowship and around the world. The only way to succeed in pursuit of happiness is to practice “Letting Go” and to put in the consistent determination & “Right Effort”.

I know the conditions are right at Buddhist Fellowship.

I remembered Ajahn Brahm’s words, “When is the future made? The future is made RIGHT NOW. Don’t put till tomorrow what you can do today.” Rather than seeing the wasting of beautiful Dhamma and Buddhist practices, I am motivated and determined to find ways in which our children will no longer call meditation a punishment.

Together with “ClubMed Family”, I am doing something to help our next generation. Are you?

Will you give up trying even if your children complain? Are you not inspired yourself towards the Buddhist practices and yet do nothing about it?I am sure not.

May all families be well & happy. See you soon at a “ClubMed”.

Next sessions :-ClubMed Sunrise @ Fort Canning ~ every 1st Sunday 6.30am

It’s really too early for me

MEET OUR MEMBER, VENNY MULYANA

This issue of “Meet our Member” features one of the ladies from the Buddhist Indonesian community. She is Venny Mulyana, wife of Luis Tirtasanjaya Lioe who is the leader of the Indonesian group at Buddhist Fellowship.

The number of Indonesian Buddhists in Singapore is quite large. Through a mailing list “Indonesian Buddhist Community in Singapore (IBC-Sing)” and its facebook group, there are about 400 and 200 registered members. About 100 come to BF for regular service and some attend the services in other temples. Currently, about 40-50 people are active in BF and often involved as volunteers in BF events such as Vesak and Ajahn Brahm’s talk. About 10 of them are also currently active as BF Public Relation Officer (PRO).

1) When did your search in Buddhism begin ?I was born in a Buddhist family. Both my grandfather and my father were very active in a temple at my hometown, but they never forced me and my siblings (one elder brother and one younger sister) to go to the temple. I attended a Buddhist Sunday school in that temple during my Primary school, but after I went to a Catholic school where my peers were mostly Catholic or Christian. I enjoyed going there as I always received a small gift from the church every time I attended the service, and this made me happy as a kid.

My parents did not have any objections with me going to the church. After a few months, I decided to join my brother who was attending the Sunday school in the temple. However, after some time I became bored and decided to stop and for almost 2 years, I did not attend any Sunday service.

I had to “come back” to the temple when I was in the high school. My school was a government school where we were given the option of studying a religion of our choice outside school. I took Buddhism where the weekly 1-hr class was conducted in my temple. The lessons included basic Buddhism and required us to attend the service as well. From this, I gained confidence in Buddhism and decided to choose this path as my way of life.

On top of that, what my parents did as Buddhists made me more comfortable and confident in choosing this path. As I mentioned earlier, my parents never forced their children to go to temple or choose Buddhism. They even hardly taught us any Buddhist doctrines or theories. But what they did spoke louder than what they said. They were very active in the temple, did a lot of social work in helping other people, chanted regularly and meditated both at home and in the temple. We had a Guan Yin (Avalokitesvara) statue at home – and most importantly, they demonstrated good conduct by keeping the five precepts. This became a living example for me how Buddhism is the right path in leading my life. 2) How did your search in Buddhism landed you at Buddhist Fellowship ?My husband (Luis) was the one who brought me to Buddhist Fellowship (BF). Before we were married, we were on a long distance relationship. When I came to Singapore to visit him, he brought me to attend Sunday service at BF. The first time I attended the service, I could feel the differences from the services I attended in Indonesia. The chanting was very short and majority of time was spent on the Dharma in Singapore. I am happy with this arrangement, as I can learn more about the Dharma in BF service. After we were married, I moved to Singapore in December 2008, I have been regular to BF

and became a member. 3) How has Buddhism helped in your different roles as a mother, wife and career woman ?As a career woman, I feel that Buddhism gives me a spiritual strength in living a working life. Especially when I worked in Indonesia as a production planner, the tight production deadline and complex management of the process often made me stress. But when I went to the temple and listened to Dharma talk on the weekend, I felt very peaceful and released from the stressful emotion accumulated during the weekdays. This has recharged me to work more productively and let go of unnecessary burdens in my mind.

As a wife, Buddhism also helped me in managing healthy relationship with my husband in many aspects. One of the most important aspect is the sense of trust between husband and wife. Knowing both of us are Buddhists who always try our best to keep the 5 precepts, we feel secure that each of us will not do something foolish that can destroy our family life (e.g. breaking the third precept) and we will always be guided by right view in leading our family life. I can’t say from my experience about the role as a mother since I am not a mother yet, but I believe aligning family values to the Buddhist values is always the wisest choice for me to build a happy family.

Although we are still young couple and people may say that we have yet to taste the hardship of marriage life, Buddhism gives us confident that we will always be able to overcome those obstacles and grow as a happy family.

4) Do you think parents should expose their children to their religion or leave them to their own devices and let nature takes it course ?Learning from what I experienced from my parents, as a child I learned Buddhist values through their conduct before I learnt Buddhism in a more formal way. Which is why the manifestation of the Buddhist values in our daily conduct is very important as the exposure of one’s religion to children always start at home and from what the parents do. So personally, I am not in favour of the idea of forcing children, or choosing for them a particular religion. However, we can still introduce them about our religion as sometimes they will need guidance to understand certain things, but the final decision of what religion to choose is still in their hands. 5) What aspect of Buddhism do you find the most relevant and useful to you?Besides all the values that I have mentioned above, one of the Buddha’s teachings which has become my habit from young is “Ehipassiko”. That we should not merely believe in what other people say, what tradition say, and many more, but instead we should inquire and verify them and most of the time experience them for ourselves. This has helped me to be more grounded and solid in making decisions, and usually lead to good results. I find this teaching very useful in all aspects in my life. Thank you.

ExecutiveMeditation Retreat

Buddhist Fellowship’s Signature Event, the Executive Meditation Retreat will be held this year at the Le Meridien Chiang Rai Resort, that provides a rustic and calm setting. To view the resort: http://www.starwoodhotels.com/lemeridien/property/overview/index.html?propertyID=3160

To secure your place, please submit the registration form with full payment. Retreat is for members only. If you are not a member yet and wish to join in the retreat, please sign up as a member.

Address: 9 Chwee Chian Road, Singapore 117488 Tel: (65) 6278 0900 Website: www.buddhistfellowship.org

5-Day Meditation & Fun Retreat: 12 - 16 June 2010

$810 (twin sharing, breakfast, lunch or dinner, tea break) *

Single supplement: $400 Child below 4 years old : FREE Child between 4 - 12 years old: $250 Child above 12 years old: $580

Optional Counselling Sessions & Workshops, Spa treatment, day tours to Elephant Village and Hill Tribes will be o�ered. More details will be provided later

5-Day Meditation & Silent Observance Retreat: 16 - 20 June 2010

$810 (twin sharing, breakfast, lunch, tea break) * Single Supplement $400 Child above 12 years old: $580 Children below 12 years are NOT allowed

7 precepts will also be observed

Combined 9-Day Retreat: 12 - 20 June 2010Start with the Meditation & Fun Retreat and complete with a more spiritual Silent Observance Retreat. Price $1,390

Due to the smaller capacity of the hotel and to avoid disappointment, please register early and purchase your own air tickets to Chiang Rai or Chiang Mai.

Transport will be provided from Chiang Mai International Airport (2.5 hours from Chiang Rai) and Chiang Rai International Airport for arrivals by 4 pm. If you are departing from Chiang Mai International Airport, please book a �ight after 5 pm. For departures at Chiang Rai International Airport, please book a �ight after 3 pm.

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