Beyond Networking: Building Meaningful Relationships and Collaborations

Jean Anderson, SCLSStef Morrill, WiLS

Why are we talking about this?

Personal History Exercise

● Where did you grow up?● How many siblings do you have and where

are you in the order?● What was the most difficult or important

challenge of your childhood?

The Clicking

● Similarity● Complementarity● Reciprocal Attraction● Competence● Proximity: Being where you are● Disclosure (vulnerability)

BIG CONCEPTS

Small Tips

1. Build trust

2: Be Genuine

Big Concept 4

3. Be vulnerable

APPLICATION

ASSIMILA

TION

LEAST

DISCLOSURE

MOST

DISCLO

SURE

Phatic statements: I’m fine. How are you?

Peak statements: I was hurt when you said that she is the most talented.

Factual statements: I’m a librarian.

Evaluative statements: I liked that movie.

Gut level statements: I miss you.

The Vulnerability Spectrum

October 2012

4. Cultivate Self-Awareness

I Didn’t Say You Were

Stupid.

5. Look at the whole picture

Rewards Cost

Outcome

6. Foster respect

7. Be Grateful

1. Build trust

8. Build Trust

Questions?

Resources

● Click: The Forces Behind How We Fully Engage with People, Work, and Everything We Do by Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman, 2010

● The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace by Gary Chapman and Paul White, 2010

● Building Collaborative Communities - an Essay by Scott London● The Power of Vulnerability, TED Talk by Brene Brown● Daring Greatly by Brene Brown● Know More about Building Community Collaborations (webinar) from

4/25/14 with Shawn Brommer, SCLS.● Overcoming the Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni

Thank you!

Jean Anderson Continuing Education & Multitype Consultant

South Central Library Systemjean@scls.info; 608-246-5613

Stef MorrillDirector

WiLSsmorrill@wils.org

608-263-2773