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Being Single Isnt So Bad

*1 Cor. 7:32-38 -32

But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the thingsof the Lordhow he may please the Lord.

33But he who is married cares about the things of the

worldhow he may please his wife.34

There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The

unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and inspirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the worldhow she may please her

husband.35

And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what isproper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction.

36But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of

youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry.37

Nevertheless he who stands steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but has power over his

own will, and has so determined in his heart that he will keep his virgin, does well.38

So then hewho gives herin marriage does well, but he who does not give herin marriage does better.

My StoryPeople have come to me in the past asking for advice about relationships and findingthe right person. As an 18 year old college student, I cant honestly say that I have much

experience in this area. Besides school dances and small get-togethers that Ive had with a few

girls, I have never dated a single girl or been in a serious relationship. Its not that Im a totalrecluse to the opposite gender, nor am I a sex craved teenage guy looking for a good time. Im

simply a man seeking Gods will and praying that one day Ill meet the right person to hopefully

stay with for a long time. Although Ive hoped and prayed this for years, Ive come to realize

that instead of praying for the one that I pray for His will. What exactly is His willthough? Let me rewind just a little bit so I can explain. Like millions of other people, I wanted,

hoped, and prayed continually that I would find the one; someone who could fill my void of

loneliness. Seeing friends and couples around me pressured me into finding someone I could, in

a sense, call my own. Being the third wheel seemed unfair and even a little humiliating. Evenknowing that my parents had gotten married at a young age troubled me into thinking that I

needed to find someone. For some people, it was easy to pick up anybody and call their

boyfriend or girlfriend. For others not so much. I felt less than what God had made mebecause I couldnt seem to find someone who felt an intimacy with me. It took years before I

realized that this isnt something I should be trying to control. Rather its an area of my life that

should be surrendered to God. Not only was I not seeking His will but I was attempting to findsatisfaction in something that only He can fulfill. Like all things in our lives, we need to devote

ourselves to prayer and seek what Christ wants us to do in that particular situation. Our ultimate

goal must be to seek Him and serve Him to the best of our abilities; something that I wasnt

doing at the time. Even to this day Im by no means perfect in this area but I try to be. Ive

come to understand that its not a relationship that will fill my void of loneliness but rather itsGods unfailing who will. Only He knows all the things Ive done, good and bad, yet is still

there for me. Its no lie that I still want to meet an amazing girl who I can be with fora longtime, but I recognize that God should be by ultimate motivation, not a worldly entity thats here

today and gone tomorrow.

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Grace To YouSome of you are in the condition of singleness though you are positive you

don't have the gift. You are not married and you don't like it. You are divorced and you don't like

it. You are widowed and you don't like it. You really need a partner.

Nonetheless, in the current state that you are in you must understand the benefits that come to

you if only for the short term. I believe that if you are single and you don't have the gift and yourlife is as it should be before God, that God will fulfill your desire. Until then, you don't want to

rush into anything, until then you can enjoy the benefits of being single. For those of you whom

God has blessed with the gift of singleness, these are the very principles which make yoursingleness so wonderful.

Reasons Why Its Good To Be Single

1) Relationships/Marriage dont fix all our problemso Reasons for relationship

Satisfy sexual desire

Fill a void - i.e.: loneliness2) Pressure on your mind and bodyo Difficulties of life to worry about

Job School Family Relationship w/ Christ

3) Pressure/Problems of a Relationshipo Stress of being pure in intimacyo Dealing with your partners sin as well as your own

Anger

Selfishness Stupidity Commitment Dishonesty Forgetfulness Pride Deception Self-Centeredness Lust Etc.

4.) Relationships are NOT eternal

5.) Allows for full, undivided service to God

o We should be without concern and anxiety freeo The supreme desire of our hearts should be to serve and please the Lord

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There are benefits to being single if you can handle it. If you have the gift, if you're old

enough, if for the time you are single, look at these benefits as blessings from God.

>> It should be understood that God loves us more than anyone or anything could ever love us.God fulfills us more than any worldly thing can and He wants us to have the same intimacy with

Him. Even in spite of what we have done in our lives, Christ still loves us and accepts us for

those things. But since we are on this world, most of us seek to find a person that will accept usand relate to us on many levels. As such, we should be fully devoted to God and seek His will

for where we should go when considering relationships. We cant simply ask for the right

person to appear in front of us one day. No. We are called to pursue His wisdom and have thefaith and patience to wait for the right person to come into our lives.

The answer to loneliness is Jesus Christ; a close intimate relationship with Jesus cansolve loneliness!Skip Heitzig