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Becoming BeritBerit Frydenlund McMillan
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Daddy Number 11. ................................................... 1
Daddy Number 22. ................................................... 5
Mummy3. ................................................................ 11
Story Interlude4. ..................................................... 13
The Darkening Years5. ........................................... 17
Visiting Granny6. .................................................... 23
Daddy Number 37. ................................................. 27
Husband Number 38. ............................................. 35
Emergence9. ........................................................... 39
Southport Renewal10. .............................................. 43
Time for College11. .................................................. 47
Hello, World12. ......................................................... 51
Frydenlund Reunion13. ........................................... 53
Lime Street Station14. .............................................. 57
A New Life15. ............................................................ 59
Reflections16. ........................................................... 61
1
1DADDY NUMBER 1
At a private nursing home in Widnes, Lancashire,
in northwest England, on March 5, 1946, my twin
brother and I made our way into the world fifteen
minutes apart—ladies first, of course. We were the
only children born to Biorn and Alma Frydenlund.
Our parents named us Berit and John. Since my father
was Norwegian, one child was endowed with a Nordic
name, the other with a good, solid English handle.
I don’t remember my father. The tale goes that we
lived in England until we were six months old when the
young family sailed to Norway, there to live with our
bestemor, “grandmother.” It wasn’t to be a happily-ever-
after lifetime. The tale also goes that, about two years
later, my mother took John and me and disappeared
from Norway, returning to England.
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My first real memories see me at about four years
old. By this time, we lived on the northwest coast of
England, in Southport, where John and I were to spend
the rest of our childhood. I remember living in a house
on Southbank Road that had a hairdressing business in
the front part. Next door was the Tabernacle Church.
John and I must have been a handful because I recollect
that we were in reins (a very common sight in busy
cities back then). As we walked down the Eastbank
Street Bridge towards home, John and I would silently
signal each other as only twins can. Then we would
bolt down the hill at breakneck speed. It always took
my mother by surprise; she would drop the leather
straps of the reins, and off we’d go! It was great fun
for us but certainly quite scary for our mother, who
was only too aware of the danger of heavy traffic on
the main road.
Nearby was a sweet shop. I remember going in
there using ration coupons. I also recall the end of
rationing when we could choose whatever we wanted!
Cadbury’s and Fry’s chocolate come to mind, also
chocolate Smarties, which were like M&M’S. There
began my lifetime love of chocolate.
Soon, we were almost five and were ready for school
at Linaker Street Infants’ School. I loved my teacher,
Ms. Randall, and story time.
3BECOMING BERIT
It was during this time that I first remember meeting
my maternal grandmother, Dorothy Webb. When she
arrived at our house, I had no idea who this imposing
person was, and I was terrified of this haughty lady
with the slightly too large upper teeth and the severe
pageboy hairstyle.
On this occasion, she brought me a doll. I seem to
remember that she emphasized the great expense she
had experienced to procure this beautiful toy. I think
she became angry or behaved in a disturbing way
because right in front of her, I threw the doll down.
There it lay, its face irreparably smashed. Granny’s
response to that was swift and damning! This little
four-year-old was derided as being out of control, a
spoiled ingrate, etc! Really, I was afraid, reacting to her
meanness. In retrospect, I think it was a rather brave
and apt action!
Another memory I have from that time concerns
a hospital stay. I had suffered from frequent abscesses
in my ears since I was ten months old. These days, I’d
probably be diagnosed with allergies, but back in the
late ’40s, there was little knowledge of allergies. My
hearing was also quite impaired.
Anyway, since John and I were twins, we shared the
fate of having our tonsils and adenoids removed. One
morning, we were told there would be no school for us
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that day. My mother took us to the Promenade Hospital
and duly deposited us in the children’s surgical ward
where we undressed and were put into bed. We had
no idea what was happening, but other children were
there, so I guessed we would be fine.
The following day, a gurney was wheeled into the
ward, and a child was popped on each end and wheeled
away. Sometime later, back they came, the patients fast
asleep and rather floppy. One of them was John.
Pretty soon, it was my turn. I don’t remember
being afraid, but we were certainly unprepared.
I do remember waking up back in the ward, and I
remember the ether mask being lowered over my face
in the operating theatre. I have no memory of being
visited by my mother. That was how it was; parents were
encouraged not to visit—it might upset the children.
After we returned home, we ate soft food and
sucked on sweet lozenges prescribed by the doctor.
By now, I had forgotten my early days and all my
Norwegian relatives including my father, whom my
mother had apparently divorced. My “daddy” was Robert
Cooper, who became my mother’s second husband. In
my memory, we were a nuclear family of four: Mummy,
Daddy, Berit, and John—or Beritandjohn, as we were
collectively called. Our surname was now Cooper.
5
2DADDY NUMBER 2
There were happy times during the only years I
ever felt part of a family. I remember lovely outings
to Southport’s Hesketh Park, Botanic Gardens, the
local dunes and beaches, and Peter Pan’s Funfair
& Amusements where my daddy would treat other
children to rides too. We took a holiday to Cemaes
Bay on the island of Anglesey, North Wales. It was to
be the only holiday I had until I was sixteen. Once we
travelled by car to visit our great-grandparents, whom
I instantly adored. Granny and Grandpa Pim lived
in Farnworth near Widnes. On other occasions, we
went by steam train, which was always great fun. We
had to go via Liverpool, passing WWII bomb sites on
the way. Hearing the words “bomb damage” meant
little to me, but I knew it was something with sad and
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serious associations by the tone of people’s voices who
commented on the huge piles of rubble.
We moved around quite a lot during the years
between our ages of five and nine. We changed schools
frequently, which was a trial for me as I was quite shy.
John made friends more easily. I admired him for
that, but I have to admit to some jealousy too. We
lived in several towns and in different areas around
Southport.
Lostock Junction, near Bolton, was our home for
a while. John and I enjoyed a freedom that many
children don’t have anymore. There was a stream near
our house where we’d wade and fish for tiddlers or
tadpoles.
In the village was a weir spanning the river, beside
what may have been a textile mill. One day, some
kids dared one another to walk across the weir. Of
course, John volunteered, and I stood terrified, glued
to the spot, while I watched him walk carefully across
successfully. He was king of the village kids for as long
as we lived there.
Schooling took place at a local private school run
by two ladies who I believe were sisters. All the students
were in one room, the youngest at the front of the
class. I cannot say I was particularly happy there. One
day at recess, I hit my brother, got scared, and hid up