Be SMARTer Than Your Resistance—Success in Goal-

Setting

What you will learn today

SMART goal-setting MicromovementsHow we get in our own way

SMART ways to manage your resistance

SMART Goal Setting Specific Measurable Action-oriented Realistic Time-bound think in terms of

“micromovements”

Barriers to Success--How do we get in our own

way? The voice of NO, inner critic Goals too big Not asking for help and support Faulty thinking such as “I just ran out

of time to do that” –the deception of “procrastination.”

Fear—frozen “en garde.”

SSelf-deprecatingMMicromovementsAAlone (+Allies, Aligned)

RRationalizing procrastination

TTerrified

Self-Deprecation“Negative self-talk”Belittling or undervaluing oneself; excessively modest.

Having a tendency to disparage oneself Latin deprecatus, past participle of deprecari “to

avert by prayer,” from de- + precari “to pray.” To pray against (as an evil).

Why would you pray against yourself!? “This person is unworthy and bad; please do not

let them be successful. Amen.”

Micromovements“Join Chamber of Commerce”

occurs after:Make initial contact (phone, stop-in, email)

Read information packetDetermine cost vs benefitAsk follow up questionsWrite check Mail check

AloneWho knows about your specific goals?

Who are you making yourself accountable to?

Are you reaching out when you become afraid and uncertain?

Are you picking the brains of professionals?

AlliesFirst step of the journeyExamine your circle of influenceWho needs to be kicked out?

Naysayers, abusers, pessimistsWho should to be invited in?

Professionals, cheerleaders, avid supporters, holders of information

Who can mentor or inspire you? Guidance from beyond

AlignedWhat is your cause?Why are you doing what you are doing?

What great gifts do you have to offer the world?

Moral and spiritual compassFaith, purpose, hope

Rationalizing Procrastination

Instead of “I ran out of time today,”

try “This action intimidates me

and makes me feel overwhelmed. What do I need to do about it?”

TerrifiedI’d think so! Whatever has stopped you in

your tracks is very scary! Most people you know wouldn’t choose to do it in a million

years! Fear is limbicIt’s that physiological terror that lets you

know you’re alive and want to stay that way.“What we are looking for is not so much the

meaning of life, but the experience of being alive.” --Joseph Campbell (whether we know it or not!)

Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway—Susan Jeffers, PhD

Bravery--heroes are not fearless. They are brave.They also wear 400 pounds of armor.

Or they have magic powers.

All we really need is an ego of steel and an army of emotional tools to protect it.

Thank you!