Basic Relationships - Social Psychology 222 - Liberal Arts & Humanties

Basic RelationshipsDefinitions – Concepts - Perspectives

Copyright: 2007 - used by permissionSocial Psychology 222Social Psychology 222

“Hook Up”

Cultural/Casual…1. A specific time when two people meet to join in

– together – for a mutual event, or, 2. Two individuals from diverse backgrounds form

a cheap / easy intimate relationship, or...3. An epiphany moment - a time - when a certain

couple are shaking hands and - at that time - suddenly realize that they are ‘equallyoked.’

- Slang Dictionary/Urban Words- Slang Dictionary/Urban Words

“Morality” • ..Morality.. (consciousness of morals) is a

valuable ‘personal’ belief code, that are based on..

• ..a set of strong spiritual values, that…• ..affects attitudes, motives, and so therefore..• …effecting an individual’s trademan’s skills,

appropriateness of behavioral patterns, and the upholding (social) mores, ethical, and legal societal standards.

- Word Meanings / Philosophy- Word Meanings / Philosophy

“Positive Regard”• Also, “unconditional positive regard” • Means: …complete acceptance, love, favor

towards of an individual – especially applicable to the ‘equallyoked’, also...

• …parents who devotedly and deliberately teach their children a ‘clear’ sense of ‘civil identity’ in a multicultural society with respect for the child’s future is having a ‘positive regard’ for their child.

- Word Meanings / Psychology- Word Meanings / Psychology

“Soul-mates” A couple who engage their very first sexual

mutual sex encounter together and their baby is born out of that time are truly “Soul-mates”1 and,..

..that couple bonds with each other, falls deeply in love, and is the happiest they have ever been in their entire lives – being with each other are “Soul-mates”2 and,…

..as a couple who are ‘married’ and truly “equallyoked” i.e., of the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ “civil-identities.” 3 are life time “Soul-mates.”

- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

“Endogamy” Endogamy means, “In-marriage” – and is when

an individual according to his/or her own social customs1…(Comment: this may be actually more like community [psychosocial] health, i.e., a recognized social mores or even an actual practiced religious ‘law’)….

….marries another individual within his or her own cultural2 “Social group”*.

*Note; a “Social group” may be a village, a tribe, a sect or cult, a geographic region, or in contemporary times - a de facto ‘Civil identity’.

- Sociocultural Anthropology- Sociocultural Anthropology

“Intimacy”

• “Intimacy”, Latin: Intimus, “innermost”• The process of “..stating or making known”

one’s innermost thoughts and thinking, moral values, and emotional feelings, and...

• …sharing something from the inside... • …genuine intimacy in human relationships

requires dialogue, honesty/transparency, vulnerability, and mutual reciprocity.


“Sharing” of…

• Vision & Mission in life.1

• Activities of Daily Living & Routine.2

• Reflection of meaning of life & Devotion to duty.3

• God, Religious Beliefs & Spiritual Values.4

• Family life & Friendships.5

• Good Health & Preferred Enjoyments.6

- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies

“Life Partner”• A “Life Partner” refers to a lifetime, romantic

and very close “mate”. A couple who are true ‘life partners’ are indeed ‘equallyoked’.1

• It is true that ‘life partners’ usually develop strong platonic relationships as a mutual serious long term goal together.2

• ‘Life partners’ may base their relationship on moral/or immoral grounds whether married/ monogamously or widowers/widows and/or divorcees/celibate.3

- Introduction to Social Psychology- Introduction to Social Psychology

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“Equallyoked”• Equallyoked, (is pronounced, Eek quel ee yoak‘d)

and is when a couple-who believe in, bonds with, and marries one other purposefully of the same (or nearly the same) ‘Civil identity’* thus are multi-cultural society, ‘equallyoked’1.

• * ‘Civil identity’ is a Social Psychology term -describing a collective of features concerning an individual’s present ethnicity, political party membership, race and color, religious membership, disability/handicap, age group/ generation, sexual orientation and marital status.2



Also, ‘equally yoked’Also, ‘equally yoked’

“Civil Identity”• Ethnicity: Scandinavian-American • Political Party: Libertarian• Race: Anglo Color: Light complexion• Religion: Fundamental Christian• Disability: None Known• Gender: Male Sexual Orientation: Heterosexual• Marital Status: Single/Never marriedCouples who share: the same (or very similar) ‘civil

identities’, recognize, identify with, bond with and marry - living in a multicultural society are considered to be ‘equallyoked’.1


An Example:

“Equallyoked”

• The term 'Equallyoked' (also, equally yoked) …

• “Equally” - means “alike” 1, in a “balanced” manner, “the same” or to “the same” degree of, etc

• “Yoked” - means (Latin; jungere ‘to join‘) 2, something fastened around the neck to join together, …burdened with.

in history:• May have evolved from synonyms, with meanings, such

as: Equitably, Fairly, Justly3

Sentence: “They were an ‘equally yoked’ couple from families of just ordinary means.”

- Word Meanings - Etymology- Word Meanings - Etymology

(also, ‘equally yoked’)(also, ‘equally yoked’)

..a Social Phenomena• A couple (usually a heterosexual dyadic) who

are of very similar or the same ‘Civil identity’ 1

• Any couples who are bonded together and who are of the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ Civil identities…2

• A marital couple who marries-with their backgrounds related to their ‘Civil identities.’ 3

- Sociology 101:Social Phenomenology- Sociology 101:Social Phenomenology

- Introduction to Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology- Introduction to Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

Social Perspectives“Equallyokedtarians” are those people-who are

‘equallyoked’ yet having varying points of views* about marriage:1

* Liberals: a couple marrying one another while sharing in vague beliefs, i.e., explained as the same ‘spirit’ or attitude about some issue.

* Moderates: marrying one another r/t ‘very similar’ civil identities-close enough for them.

* Conservatives: marriage between two people who share the same or fairly ‘equal’ ‘Civil identities’. 2



“Unequally yoked”

- An Internet Search/ Cartoon

“Coupling up”….• Nonequallyoked

• Couples who do recognize equallyokedtarianism as a social mores and yet for their own ulterior motives still choose to violate social mores as an rash option.1

• Unequallyoked• Couples who are naïve, thus inadvertently demonstrate

opposition to equallyokedtarianism-a social mores.2

• Anti-equallyoked• Couples who are a bit mentally/emotionally disturbed

and are deliberately active against proper socialization, contrary to equallyokedtarianism and social mores,3


……in a ‘hook up’ culturein a ‘hook up’ culture

“Un-equally Yoked”

• Inequitable - • Unjust, an injustice.

• Iniquious - • Unrighteous, a sin.

• Inequality - • Unfair, imbalanced.1

- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies

II Corinthinans 6:14-18II Corinthinans 6:14-18

“Boundaries”

• I will not wait for anyone.1

• I will halt unequal relationships.2

• I will not idealize others.3

• I will conduct my life by inspired truth.4

• I will assert against any disrespect.5

• I will abide in social ethics and laws. 6

- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal StudiesAlpha & Omega

“Love” is a… ..a conscious, meaningful, and focused

attention towards a ‘special’ mate1 and, ..a person with whom love is shared; a dearly

beloved; truly an ‘equallyoked help meet’, a ‘heterosexual’ love mate2 and,

..a ‘feeling’ of warm personal attachment or deep affection for, as for a sweetheart, or as for a an ‘equallyokedtarian’ spouse.3


“Equallyoked”• The term 'Equallyoked' (also, equally yoked)

probable came about from the Bible – wherein Jews marrying Jews, Muslims marrying Muslims, Christians marrying Christians, etc, etc, etc.1

• It is a phenomena that exists in all multicultural societies-peoples of the same de facto ‘Civil identity' marrying one another for reasons of self-esteem, religious beliefs, and preserving the integrity of their family identity-for abiding in social mores (contributing to) community health.2

- Word Origins/Philosophy- Word Origins/Philosophy

(also, ‘equally yoked’)(also, ‘equally yoked’)

- Sociology 101- Sociology 101

Dyadic: Social Psychology Equallyokedtarians are of interest to social

psychologists because they represent dyadic groups of the same ‘Civil identity.’1

Couples who primarily choose to bond and marry together ‘because’ they are the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ Civil identities, among other reasons, may contribute to marital longevity - staying together for a lifetime as * evidenced.2

The measured ‘self esteem’ of individuals of a marital couple who marry with backgrounds related to their own ‘Civil identities’ are worthy of marital satisfaction studies as well.3


Why “Equallyoked”?• Motives - a couple who are ‘equallyoked’ may do

so for a variety of reasons-some of which include: • Beliefs about life, self-image, truth and God, death, etc.

• Bonding for long term love, romance, and sex. • Marriage, family/children, and financial goals.1

• Self esteem – individuals with a clear sense of self-marrying someone of a ‘like’ civil identity.2

• Family identity – to maintain the integrity and the longevity of the extended family identity.3

• Social mores – a preserved cultural standard in a multicultural society for the sake of community health.4- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

Social Mores: +|Social Mores: +|--“Equallyoked”

• Good self-esteem• Spiritual maturity

• a high level morality• Social resilience• Stable family values• Quality of relationship• Financial security

“Unequally yoked”

• False self-image• Drug abuse implicated• Immaturity/immorality • Lying/deception• Fun over facts• Destruction of family

lineage- Social Psychology / Self and Identity- Social Psychology / Self and Identity

Pronunciation: “Eek quel ee yoak‘d tar ee ins” 1. Definition: - are any individuals, who by choice,

i.e., purposefully choose to bond with and marry another of the same (or very nearly the same) ‘Civil identity’*, within any culture are called, ‘Equallyokedtarians’ – couples, ‘equallyoked’.2

*Recall: a ‘Civil identity’ - describes a collective of features about a person’s present: ethnicity, political party membership, race and color, religious membership, disability/ handicap, age group/ generation, proper sexual orientation, and marital status.3


…….are couples who are .are couples who are ‘equally yoked’‘equally yoked’“Equallyokedtarians”

“Social Mores”The term ‘Social Mores‘* refers to….

• “Social” meaning - to associate in a social way, i.e., “folkways”, socializing, socialization 1,

• “Mores” - concerns that of moral codes, mental health values, standards, spiritual ideologies 2.

• *Also, customs, proper conduct/etiquette, health

behaviors/positive norms, healthy lifestyle. 3

Use in a Sentence: “Their family abided in good social mores that reflected their sense of integrity.” 4

- Word Meanings - Etymology- Word Meanings - Etymology

..a Public Health Issue As a Public Health Issue, Equallyokedtarianism as a

social mores – is a phenomena observed amongst the most conservative segments of a multi-cultural society.1

Marriage Family and Child Psychology addresses the Self-esteem of the individuals who are (or aren’t) equallyoked as an important issue in mental health/ emotional health, and naturally, self-preservation, as well as of the integrity of their family identity.2

As a Civil Rights issue, justice of the peaces-as civil servants who perform marriage ceremonies attaching a signature may be held responsible as attesting to the competence (or incompetence) of the individuals present while performing marriages considering community (psychosocial) health matters.3

- Introduction to Public Health- Introduction to Public Health

“You ‘be’ the Man”Boys ‘become’ Men when

they:• Follow you when you walk

out.• Call you back when you

hang up.• Hug you when you punch

him.• Kiss you when you nag.• Watch chick-flicks with you.

• Tolerate crying over love stories.

• Hand you the remote control.

• Pass on boys-night just to listen to your rantings.

• Don’t flare up when you give car directions.

• Says “I’m sorry” and tells you he needs you.1

- Ecclesiastic 9:9 of the Holy Bible- Ecclesiastic 9:9 of the Holy Bible

……thethe Alpha-male Alpha-male..

An “Unpreferred”–Yoked… A Couple:

• One very fat weight – one very skinny weight• One very poor income – one very rich income• One is very ‘sociable’ – one is very ‘homebody’• One talks very fast – one talks very slow• One very tall in height – one very short in height• One highly educated – one lowly educated• One ill mannered – one well mannered1

- The True Phenomenology of “Opposites Attract”- The True Phenomenology of “Opposites Attract”

“Social Forces” Equallyokedtarians are the most targeted social

groups for destruction by world tyrannical powers there is in global multi-culturalism.1

Degradation of people’s ‘self esteem’ comes from the of demise of family and destruction of individual “Civil identity” by the powers that be2 in order to attain and maintain (political) governmental rule.

The empowered liberal: media, public education, and multicultural secularism perpetuates …cultural confusion’ - and in such, thereby ruining the individual identities of a country’s peoples.3

- Concepts in Social Psychology- Concepts in Social Psychology

“Un-equally Yoked”

• Out of place priorities.

• Misused gifts.

• Unconfessed sin.

• An unforgiving spirit.

• A wrong association.

• Killing God for secularistic pleasure.1

- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal StudiesAlpha & Omega

…an “Art and Science” Couples-who are bonded together and who are

“equallyoked help meets”- amongst a class are worthy of study-not unlike those who aren’t.1

…the study of theoretical equallyokedtarianism as an ‘social science’ (and) an ‘art’, and as a inquiry into biologic “wholesomeness.” 2

A couple who becomes engaged - with intension of preserving the integrity of their family identity related to their backgrounds and related to their ‘civil identities.3

-The Humanities & Biopsychosociocultural Sciences-The Humanities & Biopsychosociocultural Sciences

Pastoral Counselor

- Word Meanings / Theophilosophy- Word Meanings / Theophilosophy

Alpha & Omega

• An educated/trained Pastor specialist in…• …Psychological therapies and…• …Mental disorders and unequally yoked

coupling (e.g., a malsuited couple, etc.,) ..• ..combining moral spirituality, ethical practical

problem solving, progressive legal decision making, and personal

‘informed’ choices.1 …relate to equallyokedtarianism.

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““Be ye not unequally yoked…” Be ye not unequally yoked…” II Corinthians 6:14II Corinthians 6:14

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1.) What is the origin of the term “Soul-mate? How is it significantly related to Social psychology? Marriage, Family, Child Psychology?2.) How has the social sciences become involved in the investigation of practiced social mores, i.e., people that ‘hook up’ and who are ‘equallyoked’? 3.) What U.S. studies in Sociology pertain to tribes, sects or cults, and de facto ‘Civil identities’? ..where around the world, what countries?

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