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Basic Needs the need for direction &
hope… self-worth consisting of the need for love & purpose
There exists… “deep longings in the human heart for relationship and impact”… which can only be met in life with Christ
What Makes Us a Better People Helper? (A Framework)
Spiritual Issues/Concerns
Physical/Biochemical
Emotional
Relational
What Makes Us a Better People Helper?
1. Psychological Stability(emotional stability, openness- vulnerable- not labile or volatile)
2. Love for and interest in people (warm, caring, genuine person with a real interest in people and their welfare- Mt:14:14)
What Makes Us a Better People Helper?
3. Self-Awarenesss4. Some life experiences
5. Appropriate distance and boundaries
6. Ability to maintain confidentiality
7. Ability to know when you are over your head
Questions to Ponder Of all the relational
qualities that make us better people helpers, Which ones are most important? What strikes you most about the relational character of Jesus?
I. Most Effective
Counselor Skills Warmth -John 4
Caring, respect, sincere, non-smothering concern… regardless of the person’s actions or attitudes
I. Most Effective
Counselor Skills Genuineness
not phony or superior, open, sincere… honesty without cruel confrontation… (a soft answer turns away wrath), being congruent
I. Most Effective
Counselor Skills EmpathySensitive and able to
communicate understanding of the person’s thoughts, feelings, values, beliefs, inner conflicts… to “feel with”, especially at the beginning is most helpful
Studies Show:
No particular form of therapy works better than another… but those 3 make a difference
Studies Show: Warmth,
Genuineness, & Empathy- especially at the beginning- has been proven to foster healing better… lack of these= worse
*** Relationships Heal***
Studies Show: Warmth-
Genuineness- Empathy… create safety… Everything else is impossible without it
Questions to Ponder
What is the goal of counseling? How have you been helped? What do you hope to see happen?
The test...NOTE:
A man goes to a psychologist, and they decide to start witha Rorschach test. She's shown the first picture and sees a man and a woman making love at the beach. In the second, a man and a woman making love in a hot-tub. The third has a man and a woman making love in a park. In all of the pictures, the man sees a couple making love.
After the test, the psychologist looks over her notes and says, "You seem to have a preoccupation with sex." The man replies, "You're the one with the dirty pictures."
II. Goal of
Counseling: A. Self
Understanding… to help person
get a true picture of what is going on within them and the world around them...
II. Goal of
Counseling: B. Communication
… to learn how to communicate feelings, thoughts, attitudes- effectively and accurately...
II. Goal of
Counseling: C. Learning &
Behavior Change… to encourage the
person to “launch out” and practice new behavior… thru instruction, modeling, trial/Error...
II. Goal of
Counseling: D. Self-Actualization…to develop
greatest potential thru power of Holy Spirit towards spiritual maturity… (“Christ-actualization”)
II. Goal of
Counseling: E. Support
… to encourage, pray for, make contact, enlist help, “walk alongside”...
III. Techniques of
Counseling A. Attending
(undivided attention)
1: eye contact
2. posture
3. gestures
III. Techniques of
Counseling B. Listening1. Have awareness2. Be nonjudgmental3. Be quiet4. Seek understanding* advice giving &
talking prevents sharing & safety
III. Techniques of
Counseling C. Responding1. Leading2. Reflecting3. Questioning 4. Confronting5. Informing6. Interpreting7. Support/encrge.
III. Techniques of
Counseling D. Teaching
...by instruction, example, information
III. Techniques of
Counseling Also… one of the
most powerful learning tools to use: immediacy responses… focus on the here & now
The Process of Therapy
Not linear- like layers of an onion
Specific Issues:
What do you want to focus on?
(anger, anxiety, depression, crisis, infidelity,substance abuse, etc.)