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Banish Your Inner Critic Denise R. Jacobs Port80 Conference Newport, Wales 16 May 2014

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Your inner critic is an unconscious deterrent that stands between the seeds of great ideas and the fruits of achievement, keeping you stuck by telling you you’re just faking it, that others have more talent, that you’ll never achieve the success you seek. Let's take a look at ways to banish your inner critic to give you the mental space and energy to let your true talents emerge.

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Banish Your Inner Critic Denise R. Jacobs Port80 Conference Newport, Wales 16 May 2014

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O hai!

Photo: Derek Kearney

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Upon a time… http://www.behance.net/gallery/Once-Upon-a-Time/2918365

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29 June http://www.flickr.com/photos/jblndl/3154255478/

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Instead of creativity Photo from Flickr.com

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Destructivity http://www.flickr.com/photos/kevygee/3265941065/

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The voices in my head were merciless

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I totally freaked out

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I shouldn't be writing this I misrepresented myself

I don't know enough This should be someone else’s book

I’m going to look stupid Everyone will see that I’m a fake What if it's not good enough? What if I'm not good enough?

No…really!

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2 days http://www.flickr.com/photos/fiery-phoenix/8428079916/

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Pushed myself to burn-out

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Worked non-stop https://www.flickr.com/photos/53611153@N00/5827849044/

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My internal critical voices http://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/

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That happened.

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Physical evidence of fear http://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/

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A different kind of fear Photo: Denise Jacobs

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Internalized fears & criticisms

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The Inner Critic http://www.flickr.com/photos/lance_mountain/2849396572/

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Troll under the bridge

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F.E.A.R. =

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(Also, F.E.A.R. = F*ck Everything And Run)

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The enemy of creativity

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Creative brainwaves http://uniteunderfreedom.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Brain-waves.jpg

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Know your Brainwaves

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Stress & frustration

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Suppress generative impulses in the brain

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Dampens creative expression

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How to ID your Inner Critic http://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/

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Not that hard, right?

http://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/

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“OMG, I’m SO busy!”

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“I should have done more by now…”

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“They’ll find out I’m a fraud”

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“I don’t know enough”

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/6/66/Einstein_1921_by_F_Schmutzer.jpg

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(vs. Dunning-Kruger effect)

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Impostor Syndrome Paradox

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“It needs to be PERFECT”

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psst: Perfectionists focus on the finished product…

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Instead of the process http://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/

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“I’ll do it tomorrow…”

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“Really, I’ll do it tomorrow.”

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“I will do it tomorrow!”

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Feed each other

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In order for http://www.flickr.com/photos/designandtechnologydepartment/4771136128/

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“The goal is to manage anxiety so that our energies are used for the productive and satisfying art of creating…

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…rather than the destructive and debilitating art of self-torture. “ - Clare Warmke, Idea Revolution

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How do we…

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Banish the Inner Critic?

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Eliminate Should/Must/Ought

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Say NO to Comparisons http://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/

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Ask it questions

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Be compassionate http://www.flickr.com/photos/wrote/2646295354/

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Reassign duty

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Remember your successes http://www.flickr.com/photos/pocait/2847866615/

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(My personal version) Photo: Denise Jacobs

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Maintain perspective http://www.flickr.com/photos/daikrieg/1294053038/

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*WHATEVER*

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Cop a Power Pose

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Breaking the loop

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Perfectionism

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The real problem

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Remember egocentricity

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Decouple your performance from who you are

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Fear of failure

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“Fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” - character of Cypher Raige (played by Will Smith), After Earth

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Reframe failure

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And mistakes

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(maybe even embrace them)

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“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” - Henry Ford

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Copy the #fail masters Photo: Denise Jacobs

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Fail in private http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959867550/

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Do it again http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/

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Satisfice

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Remember humble beginnings

Twitter, circa 2006

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“Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore.” – Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From

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Procrastination

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The trick is not determining which you are…

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Nor administering a dose of

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Increase the meaning/value

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Mind Tricks https://www.flickr.com/photos/32135758@N02/5325454434/

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Don’t do it, just get ready to Photo: Denise Jacobs

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“Structured procrastination” https://www.flickr.com/photos/superamit/1043379069

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Time & Space Tricks http://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/

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Eliminate distractions

From “Shit Black Girls Say”, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I

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Tools RescueTime.com GetConcentrating.com HeyFocus.com

Browser Extensions Firefox: LeechBlock Idderall Google Chrome: Strict Workflow StayFocusd

Digital Aides

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Airplane mode

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Make it a Sprint or Quota

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Remember this:

Photo: Denise Jacobs

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My story’s end? http://www.flickr.com/photos/sonialuna/2942020058/

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February http://www.flickr.com/photos/doug88888/3709856898/

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#FAIL

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#WINNING! http://www.flickr.com/photos/clappstar/6297835482/

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I wrote a book! Photo: Denise Jacobs

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http://browse.deviantart.com/?q=brainwaves&order=9&offset=120#/dqc6w7

And created something AMAZING

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Bad dreams

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“The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterday—but never jam to-day.”

“It MUST come sometimes to ‘jam to-day’,” Alice objected.

“No, it can’t,” said the Queen. “It’s jam every OTHER day: to-day isn’t any OTHER day, you know.”

— from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll

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You never get Jam

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By sharing my experience Photo: Deloria Jacobs

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Show you there is an alternative

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You’ll look at yourself differently

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Let yourself create those imperfect, yet amazing ideas

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Because, after all…

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The End

Photo: Denise Jacobs

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