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  • Banish Your Inner Critic

    MinneWebCon Minneapolis, MN 25 April 2016

    Denise Jacobs

  • @denisejacobs#minnewebcon @MinneWebCon


  • Want the slides? Go here:

  • Photo by Derek Kearney


  • Founder + CEO, The Creative Dose

  • Upon a time

  • 29 June

  • I was going to be an author!Photo: Denise Jacobs

  • Instead of creativityPhoto from

  • Destructivity

  • The voices in my head were merciless

  • I totally freaked out

  • I shouldn't be writing thisI misrepresented myself

    I don't know enoughThis should be someone elses book

    Im going to look stupidEveryone will see that Im a fakeWhat if it's not good enough?What if I'm not good enough?


  • 2 days

  • Worked non-stop & burned out[email protected]/5827849044/

  • My internal critical voices

  • Made this happen[email protected]/8230432077

  • Physical evidence of fear

  • A different kind of fearPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • Fears + Internalized criticisms

  • = The Inner Critic

  • F.E.A.R. =

  • Or

  • YES! (and)

  • The enemy of creativity

  • Stress & frustration

  • Suppress generative impulses in the brain

  • Thoughts =[email protected]/9046508025/

  • Electrical impulses =

  • = Brainwaves!

  • Know your brainwaves

  • Blocks creative expression

  • Self-rebuke will stall your creative efforts.- Shelly Carson, Your Creative Brain

  • How to ID your Inner Critic

  • Listen for internal critical talk

  • OMG, Im SO busy!

  • I should have done more by now

  • Theyll find out Im a fraud

  • vs. NAILED IT!

  • It needs to be FLAWLESS

  • Ill do it tomorrow

  • Really, Ill do it tomorrow.

  • I will do it tomorrow!

  • Meet your inner critic

  • 1) Write down one fear around your creativity


    2) Crumple paper into ball Then

  • 3) On 3, throw it!

  • Anthing sound familiar?Photo: Denise Jacobs

  • Youre in good company[email protected]/4610644207/

  • Afflicts ALL of us! (@ 8:15)

  • I dont have what these people want to see they want to see a funny guy! Thats not me. - Jerry Seinfeld, Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee[email protected]/13016287284/

  • We need to unleash

  • We need brain management


    You must be unintimidated by your own thoughts because if you [try to create] with someone looking over your shoulder, you'll never [create]. Nikki Giovanni

  • How do we

  • Banish the Inner Critic?[email protected]/4691019168/

  • You cant outrun the voices

  • Imposition Mentality

  • Eliminate Have to/Should/Must/Ought

  • Replace with I choose/ I decide/ I will

  • Comparison Syndrome

  • You cannot compare your insides to someone elses outsides.

  • Say NO to Comparisons

  • You & what you produce is unique

  • Establish boundaries

  • (Btw, this your new mantra)

  • Beat Impostor Syndrome

  • Impostor Syndrome Paradox

  • You will onlyexperience impostor syndrome whenyou are competent and skilled.

    (re-readthis as many times asnecessary.)

  • Inner Critic psychology hacks

  • Ask it questions

  • Be compassionate

  • Reassign duty

  • Reframe fear of failure


    Fear is not real. It is a product of the

    thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand

    me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.

    - character of Cypher Raige, After Earth

  • Embrace failure and mistakez

  • Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore. Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From

  • Copy the Fail MastersPhoto: Denise Jacobs


    Take steps, #FAIL; Go again!

  • Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.- Henry Ford

  • Judgment Dread

  • Remember egocentricity

  • Cop a Power Pose

  • Our bodies change our minds, our minds change our behavior, and our behavior changes our outcomes.- Amy Cuddy, Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are TED talk

  • Feed each other

  • Breaking the loop

  • Perfectionism

  • Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order. Anne Wilson Schaef

  • The real problem

  • Perfectionists focus on the finished product

  • Rather than the process

  • The Best vs The most

  • Be bad/make it ugly

  • Embrace the SFDTwitter, circa 2006

  • Satisfice

  • Remember:

  • Perfection Excellence

  • Dont let perfect become the enemy of good. Voltaire

  • Procrastination

  • The trick is not self-identifying

  • Nor administering a dose of[email protected]/13178367583

  • Procrastinators are NOT lazy

  • The unknown can be paralyzing

  • Pro tip: Reframe the unknown

  • Increase the meaning/value

  • Mind Tricks[email protected]/5325454434/

  • Dont do it, just get ready toPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • Structured procrastination

  • Time & Space Tricks

  • Eliminate distractions

    From Shit Black Girls Say,

  • Ignore to focus

  • Browser Extensions (Firefox) LeechBlock Idderall Browser Extensions (Chrome) Strict Workflow StayFocusd Website Blocker


    Aids for digital blocking

  • Added

  • Airplane/Do Not Disturb mode

  • Make it a Sprint

  • Fill a Quota

  • Remember thisPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • My storys end?

  • February

  • #FAIL


  • I wrote my first book!

    Photo: Denise Jacobs


    Which created AMAZING things for me

  • Disturbing dreams

  • My own inner creative childPhoto: Deloria Jacobs

  • Always reaching for perfectionPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterdaybut never jam to-day.

    It MUST come sometimes to jam to-day, Alice objected.

    No, it cant, said the Queen. Its jam every OTHER day: to-day isnt any OTHER day, you know.

    from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll

  • Jam = Reward / Satisfaction


  • By sharing my experiencePhoto: Deloria Jacobs

  • Show you there is an alternative

  •[email protected]/9220121158/

    The creative adult is the child who survived after the world tried killing them, making them grown up.

  • The creative adult is the child who survived the blandness of schooling, the unhelpful words of bad teachers, and the nay-saying ways of the world. Ursula K. L Guin

  • By understanding this truth

  • Youll look at yourself differently

  • Let out all of your ideas

  • Because, after all

  • The EndPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • My upcoming book!

    Banish Your Inner Critic

    Get on the list!

    Identify and Eliminate Mental Blocks to Unleash Creativity

  • THE CREATIVE DOSE A Creativity + Innovation Collective

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  • And finally[email protected]/2609974180/