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  • Banish Your Inner Critic

    MakingWeb.no Oslo, Norway 22 September 2016

    Denise Jacobs

  • @denisejacobs#makingweb

    #banishyourcritic

  • Want the slides? Go here:

    Creativedo.se/makingweb-ic

  • Photo by Derek Kearney

    WaitWhat?!

  • Founder + CEO, The Creative Dosehttp://TheCreativeDose.com/

  • Upon a timehttp://www.behance.net/gallery/Once-Upon-a-Time/2918365

  • 29 Junehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/jblndl/3154255478/

  • I was going to be an author!Photo: Denise Jacobs

  • Instead of creativityPhoto from Flickr.com

  • Destructivityhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/kevygee/3265941065/

  • The voices in my head were mercilesshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4887528060/

  • I totally freaked out

  • I shouldn't be writing thisI misrepresented myself

    I don't know enoughThis should be someone elses book

    Im going to look stupidEveryone will see that Im a fakeWhat if it's not good enough?What if I'm not good enough?

    Noreally!

  • 2 dayshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/fiery-phoenix/8428079916/

  • Worked non-stop & burned outhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/5827849044/

  • My internal critical voiceshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/

  • Made this happen

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/8230432077

  • Physical evidence of fearhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/

  • A different kind of fearPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • Fears + Internalized criticisms

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/remoto/5313967682

  • = The Inner Critic

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/acerriteno/3484093889/

  • F.E.A.R. =

    http://cdnpix.com/show/imgs/7a361666e107cd36656d5a66ea2e4e80.jpg

  • Or

    https://twitter.com/Phishtitz/status/474661495935365120

  • YES! (and)https://www.flickr.com/photos/willsan/3780293130

  • The enemy of creativity

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/richardwinchell/130344669/

  • Stress & frustration

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/corneveaux/3248566797/

  • Suppress generative impulses in the brain

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/birthintobeing/11841180046

  • Thoughts =https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/9046508025/

  • Electrical impulses =http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Neuron-matrix.png

  • = Brainwaves!http://uniteunderfreedom.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Brain-waves.jpg

  • Know your brainwaves

  • Blocks creative expressionhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8156999698/

  • Self-rebuke will stall your creative efforts.- Shelly Carson, Your Creative Brain

  • How to ID your Inner Critichttp://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/

  • Listen for internal critical talkhttp://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/

  • OMG, Im SO busy!

  • I should have done more by now

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/automania/126698126/

  • Theyll find out Im a fraud

  • vs. NAILED IT!https://www.flickr.com/photos/paul-drummond/3946893897

  • It needs to be FLAWLESShttp://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/

  • Ill do it tomorrow

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

  • Really, Ill do it tomorrow.

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

  • I will do it tomorrow!

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

  • Meet your inner critic

  • 1) Write down one fear around your creativity

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/quinnanya/5788826472/

  • https://www.flickr.com/photos/dhinson/1290445055/

    2) Crumple paper into ball Then

  • 3) On 3, throw it!http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-b1-baSAE8ZI/VDM3BbuiaFI/AAAAAAAABKk/l91FBGvSgkA/s1600/IMAGE_437.jpg

  • Anthing sound familiar?Photo: Denise Jacobs

  • Youre in good companyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/4610644207/

  • Afflicts ALL of us!

    http://comediansincarsgettingcoffee.com/jimmy-fallon-the-unsinkable-legend-part-2 (@ 8:15)

  • I dont have what these people want to see they want to see a funny guy! Thats not me. - Jerry Seinfeld, Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/13016287284/

  • We need to unleashhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/designandtechnologydepartment/4771136128/

  • We need brain managementhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/arselectronica/13994747444/

  • https://www.flickr.com/photos/nrbelex/2247397943/

    You must be unintimidated by your own thoughts because if you [try to create] with someone looking over your shoulder, you'll never [create]. Nikki Giovanni

  • How do we

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/5445602998/

  • Banish the Inner Critic?https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/4691019168/

  • You cant outrun the voiceshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/wester/504925076/

  • Imposition Mentalityhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/bethscupham/7328405210

  • Eliminate Have to/Should/Must/Ought

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/mythoto/3822942678/

  • Replace with I choose/ I decide/ I willhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/mstry-2525-gst/3312199285/

  • Comparison Syndromehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/kharied/3315558702/

  • You cannot compare your insides to someone elses outsides.

  • Say NO to Comparisonshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/

  • You & what you produce is unique

  • Establish boundarieshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/thisisawakeupcall/5595296868/

  • (Btw, this your new mantra)http://www.spunkysapphire.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/photo-1-e1406074730116.jpg

  • Beat Impostor Syndrome

  • Impostor Syndrome Paradox

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/x1brett/2279939232/

  • You will onlyexperience impostor syndrome whenyou are competent and skilled.

    (re-readthis as many times asnecessary.)

  • Inner Critic psychology hackshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/insk/3884826712/

  • Ask it questionshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/4749432145/

  • Be compassionatehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/wrote/2646295354/

  • Reassign dutyhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/shavawnmarie/1326123397/

  • Reframe fear of failurehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717325940/

  • http://culturecatch.com/files/images/after-earth.jpg

    Fear is not real. It is a product of the

    thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand

    me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.

    - character of Cypher Raige, After Earth

  • Embrace failure and mistakezhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/4498817330/

  • Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore. Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From

  • Copy the Fail MastersPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/

    Take steps, #FAIL; Go again!

  • Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.- Henry Ford

  • Judgment Dreadhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/jdlasica/12825451433/

  • Remember egocentricity

  • Cop a Power Pose

  • Our bodies change our minds, our minds change our behavior, and our behavior changes our outcomes.- Amy Cuddy, Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are TED talk

  • Feed each other

  • Breaking the loop

  • Perfectionismhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/

  • Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order. Anne Wilson Schaef

  • The real problem

    http://cuttingthecheese.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/26810560251953842_ede18tng_f.jpg

  • Perfectionists focus on the finished product

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/phatcontroller/3667889959/

  • Rather than the processhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/

  • The Best vs The mosthttps://www.flickr.com/photos/villify/10871945326

  • Be bad/make it uglyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/kpwerker/6051104684

  • Embrace the SFDTwitter, circa 2006

  • Satisficehttps://www.flickr.com/photos/sleepyvalley/3650673328

  • Remember:

    https://twitter.com/dickelippe/status/581204005013078016/photo/1

  • Perfection Excellence

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/kaldoche/4771465356

  • Dont let perfect become the enemy of good. Voltaire

  • Procrastination

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

  • The trick is not self-identifyinghttp://20px.com/blog/2013/09/06/a-field-guide-to-procrastinators/

  • Nor administering a dose of

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/13178367583

  • Procrastinators are NOT lazy

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/code_martial/4145914957

  • The unknown can be paralyzing

    http://hub.salford.ac.uk/energymonitoring/wp-content/uploads/sites/7/2012/01/known-knowns1.jpg

  • Pro tip: Reframe the unknownhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/jonmelsa/3000222387/

  • Increase the meaning/valuehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/eyeliam/2460475510/

  • Mind Trickshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/5325454434/

  • Dont do it, just get ready toPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • Structured procrastinationhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/superamit/1043379069

  • Time & Space Trickshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/

  • Eliminate distractions

    From Shit Black Girls Say, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I

  • Ignore to focus

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/massimobarbieri/3998455558/

  • Browser Extensions (Firefox) LeechBlock Idderall Browser Extensions (Chrome) Strict Workflow StayFocusd Website Blocker

    Tools RescueTime.com HeyFocus.com

    Aids for digital blocking

  • Added bonusHeyFocus.com

  • Airplane/Do Not Disturb mode

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/pieterouwerkerk/699475144/

  • Make it a Sprint

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/lucamascaro/4975166968/

  • Fill a Quota

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/teosaurio/3392883329/

  • Remember thisPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • My storys end?http://www.flickr.com/photos/sonialuna/2942020058/

  • Februaryhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/doug88888/3709856898/

  • #FAILhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/dafnecholet/5374200948

  • #WINNING!http://www.flickr.com/photos/clappstar/6297835482/

  • I wrote my first book!

    Photo: Denise Jacobs

  • https://www.flickr.com/photos/thatconference/9532425040/

    Which created AMAZING things for me

  • Disturbing dreamshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/agroffman/4613265988

  • My own inner creative childPhoto: Deloria Jacobs

  • Always reaching for perfectionPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterdaybut never jam to-day.

    It MUST come sometimes to jam to-day, Alice objected.

    No, it cant, said the Queen. Its jam every OTHER day: to-day isnt any OTHER day, you know.

    from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll

  • Jam = Reward / Satisfactionhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/macati/2180421766

  • YOU NEVER GET JAMhttp://www.alice-in-wonderland.net/alicepic/through-the-looking-glass/2book42.jpg

  • By sharing my experiencePhoto: Deloria Jacobs

  • Show you there is an alternativehttps://www.flickr.com/photos/buttersponge/4955768144

  • https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/9220121158/

    The creative adult is the child who survived after the world tried killing them, making them grown up.

  • The creative adult is the child who survived the blandness of schooling, the unhelpful words of bad teachers, and the nay-saying ways of the world. Ursula K. L Guin

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/theburiedlife/2167001643/

  • By understanding this truth

  • Youll look at yourself differentlyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/edenpictures/3460562429

  • Let out all of your ideas

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8115237421/

  • Because, after all

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/aoberg/9652158212

  • The EndPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • My upcoming book!

    Banish Your Inner Critic

    Get on the list! DeniseJacobs.com/InnerCritic

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    Photo used with permission: http://www.flickr.com/photos/aarronwalter/4629078087/

  • And finally

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/2609974180/

  • Clear the pipes: Morning Pageshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/juliejordanscott/4970674253//

  • Decouple performance from identityhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/krissen/6824608878

  • So go and disrupt something!

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/bcymet/3564484236/

  • Pushed myself to burn-outhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/4052943367/