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Banish Your Inner Critic
MakingWeb.no Oslo, Norway 22 September 2016
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Photo by Derek Kearney
Founder + CEO, The Creative Dosehttp://TheCreativeDose.com/
Upon a timehttp://www.behance.net/gallery/Once-Upon-a-Time/2918365
I was going to be an author!Photo: Denise Jacobs
Instead of creativityPhoto from Flickr.com
The voices in my head were mercilesshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4887528060/
I totally freaked out
I shouldn't be writing thisI misrepresented myself
I don't know enoughThis should be someone elses book
Im going to look stupidEveryone will see that Im a fakeWhat if it's not good enough?What if I'm not good enough?
Worked non-stop & burned outhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/5827849044/
My internal critical voiceshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/
Made this happen
Physical evidence of fearhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/
A different kind of fearPhoto: Denise Jacobs
Fears + Internalized criticisms
= The Inner Critic
The enemy of creativity
Stress & frustration
Suppress generative impulses in the brain
Thoughts =https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/9046508025/
Electrical impulses =http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Neuron-matrix.png
Know your brainwaves
Blocks creative expressionhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8156999698/
Self-rebuke will stall your creative efforts.- Shelly Carson, Your Creative Brain
How to ID your Inner Critichttp://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/
Listen for internal critical talkhttp://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/
OMG, Im SO busy!
I should have done more by now
Theyll find out Im a fraud
vs. NAILED IT!https://www.flickr.com/photos/paul-drummond/3946893897
It needs to be FLAWLESShttp://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/
Ill do it tomorrow
Really, Ill do it tomorrow.
I will do it tomorrow!
Meet your inner critic
1) Write down one fear around your creativity
2) Crumple paper into ball Then
3) On 3, throw it!http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-b1-baSAE8ZI/VDM3BbuiaFI/AAAAAAAABKk/l91FBGvSgkA/s1600/IMAGE_437.jpg
Anthing sound familiar?Photo: Denise Jacobs
Youre in good companyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/4610644207/
Afflicts ALL of us!
http://comediansincarsgettingcoffee.com/jimmy-fallon-the-unsinkable-legend-part-2 (@ 8:15)
I dont have what these people want to see they want to see a funny guy! Thats not me. - Jerry Seinfeld, Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee
We need to unleashhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/designandtechnologydepartment/4771136128/
We need brain managementhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/arselectronica/13994747444/
You must be unintimidated by your own thoughts because if you [try to create] with someone looking over your shoulder, you'll never [create]. Nikki Giovanni
How do we
Banish the Inner Critic?https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/4691019168/
You cant outrun the voiceshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/wester/504925076/
Eliminate Have to/Should/Must/Ought
Replace with I choose/ I decide/ I willhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/mstry-2525-gst/3312199285/
You cannot compare your insides to someone elses outsides.
Say NO to Comparisonshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/
You & what you produce is unique
(Btw, this your new mantra)http://www.spunkysapphire.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/photo-1-e1406074730116.jpg
Beat Impostor Syndrome
Impostor Syndrome Paradox
You will onlyexperience impostor syndrome whenyou are competent and skilled.
(re-readthis as many times asnecessary.)
Inner Critic psychology hackshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/insk/3884826712/
Ask it questionshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/4749432145/
Reframe fear of failurehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717325940/
Fear is not real. It is a product of the
thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand
me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.
- character of Cypher Raige, After Earth
Embrace failure and mistakezhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/4498817330/
Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore. Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From
Copy the Fail MastersPhoto: Denise Jacobs
Take steps, #FAIL; Go again!
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.- Henry Ford
Cop a Power Pose
Our bodies change our minds, our minds change our behavior, and our behavior changes our outcomes.- Amy Cuddy, Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are TED talk
Feed each other
Breaking the loop
Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order. Anne Wilson Schaef
The real problem
Perfectionists focus on the finished product
Rather than the processhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/
The Best vs The mosthttps://www.flickr.com/photos/villify/10871945326
Be bad/make it uglyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/kpwerker/6051104684
Embrace the SFDTwitter, circa 2006
Dont let perfect become the enemy of good. Voltaire
The trick is not self-identifyinghttp://20px.com/blog/2013/09/06/a-field-guide-to-procrastinators/
Nor administering a dose of
Procrastinators are NOT lazy
The unknown can be paralyzing
Pro tip: Reframe the unknownhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/jonmelsa/3000222387/
Increase the meaning/valuehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/eyeliam/2460475510/
Mind Trickshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/5325454434/
Dont do it, just get ready toPhoto: Denise Jacobs
Time & Space Trickshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/
From Shit Black Girls Say, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I
Ignore to focus
Browser Extensions (Firefox) LeechBlock Idderall Browser Extensions (Chrome) Strict Workflow StayFocusd Website Blocker
Tools RescueTime.com HeyFocus.com
Aids for digital blocking
Airplane/Do Not Disturb mode
Make it a Sprint
Fill a Quota
Remember thisPhoto: Denise Jacobs
My storys end?http://www.flickr.com/photos/sonialuna/2942020058/
I wrote my first book!
Photo: Denise Jacobs
Which created AMAZING things for me
My own inner creative childPhoto: Deloria Jacobs
Always reaching for perfectionPhoto: Denise Jacobs
The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterdaybut never jam to-day.
It MUST come sometimes to jam to-day, Alice objected.
No, it cant, said the Queen. Its jam every OTHER day: to-day isnt any OTHER day, you know.
from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll
Jam = Reward / Satisfactionhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/macati/2180421766
YOU NEVER GET JAMhttp://www.alice-in-wonderland.net/alicepic/through-the-looking-glass/2book42.jpg
By sharing my experiencePhoto: Deloria Jacobs
Show you there is an alternativehttps://www.flickr.com/photos/buttersponge/4955768144
The creative adult is the child who survived after the world tried killing them, making them grown up.
The creative adult is the child who survived the blandness of schooling, the unhelpful words of bad teachers, and the nay-saying ways of the world. Ursula K. L Guin
By understanding this truth
Youll look at yourself differentlyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/edenpictures/3460562429
Let out all of your ideas
Because, after all
The EndPhoto: Denise Jacobs
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Photo used with permission: http://www.flickr.com/photos/aarronwalter/4629078087/
Clear the pipes: Morning Pageshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/juliejordanscott/4970674253//
Decouple performance from identityhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/krissen/6824608878
So go and disrupt something!
Pushed myself to burn-outhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/4052943367/