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  • Banish Your Inner Critic

  • Denise R. JacobsUX Night /Cascade SF San Francisco, CA 26 August 2015

  • @denisejacobs

    @cascadesf / #uxnight

    #banishyourcritic

  • Want the slides? Go here:

    creativedo.se/cascadesf-ic

  • Photo by Derek Kearney

    WaitWhat?!

  • Upon a timehttp://www.behance.net/gallery/Once-Upon-a-Time/2918365

  • 29 Junehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/jblndl/3154255478/

  • I was going to be a writer!Photo: Denise Jacobs

  • Instead of creativityPhoto from Flickr.com

  • Destructivityhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/kevygee/3265941065/

  • The voices in my head were mercilesshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4887528060/

  • I totally freaked out

  • I shouldn't be writing thisI misrepresented myself

    I don't know enoughThis should be someone elses book

    Im going to look stupidEveryone will see that Im a fakeWhat if it's not good enough?What if I'm not good enough?

    Noreally!

  • 2 dayshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/fiery-phoenix/8428079916/

  • Worked non-stophttps://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/5827849044/

  • Pushed myself to burn-out

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/4052943367/

  • My internal critical voiceshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/

  • Made this happen

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/8230432077

  • Physical evidence of fearhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/

  • A different kind of fearPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • Internalized criticisms + fears

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/remoto/5313967682

  • = The Inner Critichttps://www.flickr.com/photos/acerriteno/3484093889/

  • F.E.A.R. =

    http://cdnpix.com/show/imgs/7a361666e107cd36656d5a66ea2e4e80.jpg

  • Or

    https://twitter.com/Phishtitz/status/474661495935365120

  • The enemy of creativity

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/richardwinchell/130344669/

  • Creative brainwaveshttp://uniteunderfreedom.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Brain-waves.jpg

  • Know your brainwaves

  • Stress & frustration

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/corneveaux/3248566797/

  • Suppress generative impulses in the brain

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/birthintobeing/11841180046

  • Dampens creative expressionhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8156999698/

  • How to ID your Inner Critichttp://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/

  • Listen for internal critical talkhttp://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/

  • OMG, Im SO busy!

  • I should have done more by nowhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/kharied/3315558702/

  • Theyll find out Im a fraud

  • I dont know enough

    http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/6/66/Einstein_1921_by_F_Schmutzer.jpg

  • (You can be intimidated into this, btw)

  • vs. NAILED IT!https://www.flickr.com/photos/paul-drummond/3946893897

  • Impostor Syndrome Paradox

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/x1brett/2279939232/

  • You will onlyexperience impostor syndrome whenyou are competent and skilled.

    (re-readthis as many times asnecessary.)

  • It needs to be FLAWLESShttp://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/

  • Ill do it tomorrow

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

  • Really, Ill do it tomorrow.

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

  • I will do it tomorrow!

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

  • Feed each other

  • Afflicts ALL of us!

    http://comediansincarsgettingcoffee.com/jimmy-fallon-the-unsinkable-legend-part-2 (@ 8:15)

  • I dont have what these people want to see they want to see a funny guy! Thats not me. - Jerry Seinfeld, Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee, episode

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/13016287284/

  • In order forhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/designandtechnologydepartment/4771136128/

  • You need brain management

  • The goal is to manage anxiety so that our energies are used for the productive and satisfying art of creating

  • rather than the destructive and debilitating art of self-torture. - Clare Warmke, Idea Revolution

  • How do we

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/5445602998/

  • Banish the Inner Critic?

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/4691019168/

  • Eliminate Have to/Should/Must/Ought

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/mythoto/3822942678/

  • Replace with I choose/ I decide/ I willhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/mstry-2525-gst/3312199285/

  • Say NO to Comparisonshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/

  • (Btw, this your new mantra)http://www.spunkysapphire.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/photo-1-e1406074730116.jpg

  • Ask it questions

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/4749432145/

  • Be compassionatehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/wrote/2646295354/

  • Reassign duty

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/shavawnmarie/1326123397/

  • Remember your successeshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/pocait/2847866615/

  • (My personal version)Photo: Denise Jacobs

  • Cop a Power Pose

  • Our bodies change our minds, our minds change our behavior, and our behavior changes our outcomes.- Amy Cuddy, Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are TED talk

  • Breaking the loop

  • Perfectionismhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/

  • Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order. Anne Wilson Schaef

  • The real problem

    http://cuttingthecheese.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/26810560251953842_ede18tng_f.jpg

  • Perfectionists focus on the finished product

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/phatcontroller/3667889959/

  • Rather than the processhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/

  • The Best vs The mosthttps://www.flickr.com/photos/villify/10871945326

  • Amen!https://twitter.com/dickelippe/status/581204005013078016/photo/1

  • Remember egocentricity

  • You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.

    Dr. Maya Angelou

  • Decouple your performance from who you are

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/krissen/6824608878

  • Fear of failure

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717325940/

  • Fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.- character of Cypher Raige (played by Will Smith), After Earth

  • Reframe and embrace failurehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/danielagama_fotografando/4029208908/

  • Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.- Henry Ford

  • And mistakez

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/4498817330/

  • Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore. Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From

  • Humble beginningsTwitter, circa 2006

  • Copy the #fail mastersPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/

    Take steps, #FAIL; Go again!

  • Satisficehttps://www.flickr.com/photos/sleepyvalley/3650673328

  • Be bad/make it uglyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/kpwerker/6051104684

  • Perfection Excellence

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/kaldoche/4771465356

  • Procrastination

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

  • The trick is not self-identifying

    http://20px.com/blog/2013/09/06/a-field-guide-to-procrastinators/

  • Nor administering a dose of

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/13178367583

  • Increase the meaning/value

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/eyeliam/2460475510/

  • Mind Trickshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/5325454434/

  • Dont do it, just get ready toPhoto: Denise Jacobs

  • Structured procrastinationhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/superamit/1043379069

  • Time & Space Trickshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/

  • Eliminate distractions

    From Shit Black Girls Say, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I

  • Ignore to focus

  • Tools RescueTime.com GetConcentrating.com HeyFocus.com

    Browser Extensions Firefox: LeechBlock Idderall Google Chrome: Strict Workflow StayFocusd Website Blocker

    Aids for digital blocking

  • Added bonusHeyFocus.com

  • Airplane/Do Not Disturb mode

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/pieterouwerkerk/699475144/

  • Make it a Sprint

    http://www.flickr.com/photos/lucamascaro/4975166968/

  • Fill a Quota

    https://www.flickr.com/photos/teosaurio/3392883329/

  • Remember this:Photo: Denise Jacobs

  • My storys end?http://www.flickr.com/photos/sonialuna/2942020058/

  • Februaryhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/doug88888/3709856898/

  • #FAILhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/dafnecholet/5374200948

  • #WINNING!http://www.flickr.com/photos/clappstar/6297835482/

  • I wrote my first book!Photo: Denise Jacobs

  • https://www.flickr.com/photos/thatconference/95324