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Banish Your Inner Critic
Denise R. JacobsUX Night /Cascade SF San Francisco, CA 26 August 2015
@cascadesf / #uxnight
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Photo by Derek Kearney
Upon a timehttp://www.behance.net/gallery/Once-Upon-a-Time/2918365
I was going to be a writer!Photo: Denise Jacobs
Instead of creativityPhoto from Flickr.com
The voices in my head were mercilesshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4887528060/
I totally freaked out
I shouldn't be writing thisI misrepresented myself
I don't know enoughThis should be someone elses book
Im going to look stupidEveryone will see that Im a fakeWhat if it's not good enough?What if I'm not good enough?
Worked non-stophttps://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/5827849044/
Pushed myself to burn-out
My internal critical voiceshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/
Made this happen
Physical evidence of fearhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/
A different kind of fearPhoto: Denise Jacobs
Internalized criticisms + fears
= The Inner Critichttps://www.flickr.com/photos/acerriteno/3484093889/
The enemy of creativity
Know your brainwaves
Stress & frustration
Suppress generative impulses in the brain
Dampens creative expressionhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8156999698/
How to ID your Inner Critichttp://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/
Listen for internal critical talkhttp://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/
OMG, Im SO busy!
I should have done more by nowhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/kharied/3315558702/
Theyll find out Im a fraud
I dont know enough
(You can be intimidated into this, btw)
vs. NAILED IT!https://www.flickr.com/photos/paul-drummond/3946893897
Impostor Syndrome Paradox
You will onlyexperience impostor syndrome whenyou are competent and skilled.
(re-readthis as many times asnecessary.)
It needs to be FLAWLESShttp://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/
Ill do it tomorrow
Really, Ill do it tomorrow.
I will do it tomorrow!
Feed each other
Afflicts ALL of us!
http://comediansincarsgettingcoffee.com/jimmy-fallon-the-unsinkable-legend-part-2 (@ 8:15)
I dont have what these people want to see they want to see a funny guy! Thats not me. - Jerry Seinfeld, Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee, episode
In order forhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/designandtechnologydepartment/4771136128/
You need brain management
The goal is to manage anxiety so that our energies are used for the productive and satisfying art of creating
rather than the destructive and debilitating art of self-torture. - Clare Warmke, Idea Revolution
How do we
Banish the Inner Critic?
Eliminate Have to/Should/Must/Ought
Replace with I choose/ I decide/ I willhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/mstry-2525-gst/3312199285/
Say NO to Comparisonshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/
(Btw, this your new mantra)http://www.spunkysapphire.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/photo-1-e1406074730116.jpg
Ask it questions
Remember your successeshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/pocait/2847866615/
(My personal version)Photo: Denise Jacobs
Cop a Power Pose
Our bodies change our minds, our minds change our behavior, and our behavior changes our outcomes.- Amy Cuddy, Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are TED talk
Breaking the loop
Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order. Anne Wilson Schaef
The real problem
Perfectionists focus on the finished product
Rather than the processhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/
The Best vs The mosthttps://www.flickr.com/photos/villify/10871945326
You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.
Dr. Maya Angelou
Decouple your performance from who you are
Fear of failure
Fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.- character of Cypher Raige (played by Will Smith), After Earth
Reframe and embrace failurehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/danielagama_fotografando/4029208908/
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.- Henry Ford
Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore. Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From
Humble beginningsTwitter, circa 2006
Copy the #fail mastersPhoto: Denise Jacobs
Take steps, #FAIL; Go again!
Be bad/make it uglyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/kpwerker/6051104684
The trick is not self-identifying
Nor administering a dose of
Increase the meaning/value
Mind Trickshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/5325454434/
Dont do it, just get ready toPhoto: Denise Jacobs
Time & Space Trickshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/
From Shit Black Girls Say, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I
Ignore to focus
Tools RescueTime.com GetConcentrating.com HeyFocus.com
Browser Extensions Firefox: LeechBlock Idderall Google Chrome: Strict Workflow StayFocusd Website Blocker
Aids for digital blocking
Airplane/Do Not Disturb mode
Make it a Sprint
Fill a Quota
Remember this:Photo: Denise Jacobs
My storys end?http://www.flickr.com/photos/sonialuna/2942020058/
I wrote my first book!Photo: Denise Jacobs
Which created AMAZING things for me
The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterdaybut never jam to-day.
It MUST come sometimes to jam to-day, Alice objected.
No, it cant, said the Queen. Its jam every OTHER day: to-day isnt any OTHER day, you know.
from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll
Jam = Reward / Satisfactionhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/macati/2180421766
YOU NEVER GET JAMhttp://www.alice-in-wonderland.net/alicepic/through-the-looking-glass/2book42.jpg
By sharing my experiencePhoto: Deloria Jacobs
Show you there is an alternativehttps://www.flickr.com/photos/buttersponge/4955768144
The creative adult is the child who survived after the world tried killing them, making them grown up.
The creative adult is the child who survived the blandness of schooling, the unhelpful words of bad teachers, and the nay-saying ways of the world. Ursula K. L Guin
By understanding this truth
Youll look at yourself differentlyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/edenpictures/3460562429
Your imperfect, amazing ideas
Because, after all
The EndPhoto: Denise Jacobs
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