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Kim Millhorn 2015-2016 RNPW President Balancing Relationships I invite you to attend the February 15th Rockford Network meeting where speaker, Vicki Hominick will be discussing the Renaissance of Balancing Relationships. To me effective communications is the glue to improve and deepen relationships. Communicating effectively enhances teamwork, decision making and problem solving. A good communicator will develop strong working relationships over time with consistent and dependable behavior. In my career I have observed a broad spectrum of behavior by employees, co- workers, colleagues, superiors and customers. e way people conduct themselves, good or bad, determines how people respond and perform. I’ve seen sales teams pull together under the right motivation built on consistency and honesty and conversely I’ve seen a team completely fracture and become ineffective because of inconsistency and lack of leadership. People don’t like to be let down. A promised day off, a bonus or offering help that is not delivered is a broken promise. If you don’t do what you say you’re going to do your behavior becomes the expected norm and you have lost credibility. To establish credibility your behavior has to be consistent and dependable. Keeping appointments is important. People that back out at the last minute or simply don’t show up have broken a promise. If you have broken a promise there had better be a good reason and you’d better follow through with a swift apology, admit the failure and find another way to resolve the matter. Taking responsibility for failure shows maturity and you will ultimately gain back a level of respect. I believe that returning phone calls is also important because it shows a level of courtesy and interest in the other person. After all, until you return the call you really don’t know what that phone conversation might lead to or what kind of a connection you might make with someone. I am frustrated when business people do not return calls even if it is to say ‘no thank you’. Some businesses even operate with a ‘gate keeper’, someone that is trained to field calls and doesn’t allow anyone to actually speak to a decision maker. Again, a possible connection is lost and I believe it’s a lost opportunity. When meeting with someone listening is another way of showing courtesy and interest. When I began selling advertising I thought it was all about ‘telling’ and it was necessary to cram as much information into a meeting with someone to show my vast knowledge and expertise. I soon realized that effectively communicating is less about talking and more about listening. And when you are engaged in listening you’ll notice a lot of unspoken information being transmitted with body language, gestures and eye movement. If you are really listening you have to make eye contact and remain focused on what is being said and you can’t be working on how you’re going to respond. While in a meeting, I’ve caught myself trying to think ahead and then realize I just missed something that was probably very important. Without engaged listening you’re almost certain to miss the true message. So, I hope that you’ll come to the next Rockford Network meeting on February 15th to listen and learn about balancing relationships. February 2016 | rockfordnetwork.org
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Kim Millhorn2015-2016
RNPW President
Balancing RelationshipsI invite you to attend the February 15th
Rockford Network meeting where speaker, Vicki Hominick will be discussing the Renaissance of Balancing Relationships.
To me effective communications is the glue to improve and deepen relationships. Communicating effectively enhances teamwork, decision making and problem solving. A good communicator will develop strong working relationships over time with consistent and dependable behavior.
In my career I have observed a broad spectrum of behavior by employees, co-workers, colleagues, superiors and customers. The way people conduct themselves, good or bad, determines how people respond and perform. I’ve seen sales teams pull together under the right motivation built on consistency and honesty and conversely I’ve seen a team completely fracture and become ineffective because of inconsistency and lack of leadership. People don’t like to be let down. A promised day off, a bonus or offering help that is not delivered is a broken promise. If you don’t do what you say you’re going to do your behavior becomes the expected norm and you have lost credibility.
To establish credibility your behavior has to be consistent and dependable. Keeping appointments is important. People that back out at the last minute or simply don’t show up have broken a promise. If you have broken a promise there had better be a good reason and you’d better follow through with a swift apology, admit the failure and find another way to resolve the matter. Taking responsibility for failure shows maturity and you will ultimately gain back a level of respect.
I believe that returning phone calls is also important because it shows a level of courtesy and interest in the other person. After all, until you return the call you really don’t know what that phone conversation might lead to or what kind of a connection you might make with someone. I am frustrated when business people do not return calls even if it is to say ‘no thank you’. Some businesses even operate with a ‘gate keeper’, someone that is trained to field calls and doesn’t allow anyone to actually speak to a decision maker. Again, a possible connection is lost and I believe it’s a lost opportunity.
When meeting with someone listening is another way of showing courtesy and interest. When I began selling advertising I thought it was all about ‘telling’ and it was necessary to cram as much information into a meeting with someone to show my vast knowledge and expertise. I soon realized that effectively communicating is less about talking and more about listening. And when you are engaged in listening you’ll notice a lot of unspoken information being transmitted with body language, gestures and eye movement. If you are really listening you have to make eye contact and remain focused on what is being said and you can’t be working on how you’re going to respond. While in a meeting, I’ve caught myself trying to think ahead and then realize I just missed something that was probably very important. Without engaged listening you’re almost certain to miss the true message.
So, I hope that you’ll come to the next Rockford Network meeting on February 15th to listen and learn about balancing relationships.
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Rockford Network of Professional Women Board of Directors 2015-2016President Kim Millhorn - [email protected]
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Appointments Kay King - [email protected]
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Honoring Our LeadersThe YWCA will be hosting its Leader Luncheon XXXV
and honoring Women of Achievement on Monday, March 7, 11:30 am – 1:30 pm at Giovanni’s. Please join The Rockford Network of Professional Women at our tables as we honor our nominee. Since 1981, 58 RNPW members have been honored by the YWCA!
This year, Lindsey Gregg, Owner of Peak Medical Home Care has been nominated for the Business Award. This award honors women in the business and non-profit sectors who make a significant contribution in their field. We’ve been watching as Lindsey has taken Peak to one of the premier home care organizations in our area, opening four locations in the past two years!
This year, the YWCA Leader Luncheon program will feature the inspiring story of Lilly Ledbetter - the woman at the center of the historic discrimination case that inspired the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Restoration Act--her fight for equal rights in the workplace, and how her determination became a
victory for the nation. After years of legal battles, Lilly became the namesake of Barack Obama’s first official piece of legislation as president – the Act for Fair Pay. Today, she is a tireless advocate for change, traveling the country to urge women and minorities to claim their civil rights. If you would like to join us at the RNPW table, you can register online at ywca.org/rockford/leader-
luncheon (tell them you want to sit at the RNPW table) or contact Jocelyn Hare at [email protected] to reserve your spot. Cost is $50 for YWCA Members and $55 for NonMembers.
Educational Scholarships are Coming
In 2015, Rockford Network of Professional Women is pleased to offer one $2,500 educational scholarship. Applicants need to be 23 years of age or older, living in the greater Rockford area, attending college and wishing to enrich their professional lives. Applicants may be a member of RNPW, but it is not a requirement. Scholarships must be used for coursework toward a degreed program.
Complete the application on the facing page and return by March 1st. You may also access the application online at www.rockfordnetwork.org.
Our Membership Directories Are Here!
If you attended our January meeting, you’ve already received your Membership Directory. They will be available again at our February meeting so be sure to pick your’s up!
And, thanks to Mariah, we each have a beautiful RNPW name badge to wear at our meetings!
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Save the Date!Lean In - Women, Work And The Will To Lead by Sheryl Sandberg
We will be discussing the book “Lean In” by Sheryl Sandberg at our March program, facilitated by Zoe Norwood, Adult Services Librarian at the Rockford Public Library. Following is an excerpt from the book to give you a little taste of our discussion:
Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to go through life without being labeled by my gender. I don’t wake up thinking “What am I going to do today as Facebook’s female COO?, but that’s often how I’m referred to by others. When
people talk about a female pilot, a female engineer, or a female race car driver, the word “female” implies a bit of surprise. Men in the professional world are rarely seen through this same gender lens. A Google search for “Facebook’s male CEO” returns this message: “No results found.”
As Gloria Steinem observed, “Whoever has power takes over the noun--and the norm--while the less powerful get an adjective.” Since no one wants to be perceived as less powerful, a lot of women reject the gender identification and insist, “I don’t see myself as a woman; I see myself as a novelist/athlete/professional/fill-in-the-blank.” They are right to do so. No one wants her achievements modified. We all just want to be the noun. Yet the world has a way of reminding women that they are women, and girls that they are girls.
In between my junior and senior years of high school, I worked as a page in Washington, DC for my hometown congressman, William Lehman. The Speaker of the House at the time was the legendary Massachusetts representative Tip O’Neill, and Congressman Lehman promised to introduce me to him before the summer ended. But as the days ticked by, it didn’t happen. And it didn’t happen. Then, on the very last day of the session, he made good on his promise. In the hall outside the House floor, he pulled me over to meet Speaker O’Neill. I was nervous, but congressman Lehman put me at ease by introducing me in the nicest way possible, telling the Speaker that I had worked hard all summer. The Speaker looked at me, then reached over and patted my head. He turned to the congressman and remarked “She’s pretty.” Then he turned his attention back to me and asked just one question: “Are you a pom-pom girl?”
I was crushed. Looking back, I know his words were intended to flatter me, but in the moment, I felt belittled. I wanted to be recognized for the work I had done. I reacted defensively. “No,” I replied. “I study too much for that.” Then a wave of terror struck me for speaking up to the man who was third in line for the presidency.
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Mark Your Calendars Now!February 15th Luncheon MeetingRenaissance of Balancing Relationships with Vicki Hominick, LCSW
We all SAY that our relationships are most important, but we’ve all faced relationship challenges… surly teenagers, disconnected friends, couples who keep repeating the same old arguments or the undermining co-worker. Come and learn six ways you can re-invest in your relationships.
Vicki Hominick, LCSW, has her own private practice for the past 20 years with expertise in women’s self-empowerment groups.
Help Us Help You!The RNPW Nominating Committee wants to showcase
your business. Are you doing great things? Are you a leader in your field? Are you tired of seeing the same people win all the awards while your gifts seem unrecognized? Generate some great FREE press and notoriety by winning a Rockford Chamber of Commerce Business of the Year Award. The annual awards include:
• Woman Business Leader of Tomorrow• Woman Manager of the Year• Woman Business Owner of the Year
But just like the lottery, you can’t win if you don’t play. Contact our committee chair Tonya Thayer Meyer at [email protected] to discuss the nomination process. All nominations are submitted on behalf of Rockford Network.
Renaissance of Balancing Relationships
Monday | February 15, 2016 | 11:30 am Forest Hills Country Club
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But no one seemed to register my curt and not-at-all clever response. The Speaker just patted me on the head--again!--and moved along. My congressman beamed.
Even to my teenage self, this sexism seemed retro. The Speaker was born in 1912, eight years before women were give the right to vote, but by the time I met him in the halls of Congress, society had (mostly) evolved. It was obvious that a woman could do anything a man could do. My childhood was filled with firsts – Golda Meir in Israel, Geraldine Ferraro on the Mondale ticket, Sandra Day O’Connor on the Supreme Court, Sally Ride in space.
Given all these strides, I headed into college believing that the feminists of the sixties and seventies had done the hard work of achieving equality for my generation.
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Member NewsDeanna Watts has begun a new job at Camelot World Travel
as Corporate Account Manager. Camelot World Travel has been Rockford’s travel advisor since 1969 and Deanna is excited to bring her hotel sales background to Camelot and focus on the corporate market to add to the travel experts in that market. Camelot’s leisure department has travel advisors with an average of 30 years’ experience to help those that need vacation planning as well. From business to vacation, Camelot has everyone’s travel needs covered.”
Mary Jo Hare of Servpro of Rockford is pleased to announce that Servpro has been named to Entrepreneur’s “Top 10 Franchise List” for the 7th consecutive year, moving from 7th place to 4th. For the 13th year in a row, Servpro has maintained recognition as #1 in the Restoration Industry. The recognition that the company earns year after year in this prestigious list is confirmation of a commitment to excellence that starts at the top and is evident in the service that each franchisee provides to each and every customer. The team at Servpro of Rockford is proud to be serving our local community. Kay King, [email protected].
CEANCI held its second annual Industrial Technology Business Round Table on January 29th. This event brought over 60 participants together (industry experts and instructors), collaboratively, to work on strengthening our local workforce. Topics covered were items such as Industry related content and technical skills, industry-recognized credentials and certifications; identifying workplace competencies in technology, prioritizing basic skills, thinking skills and personal qualities. Once the industry experts departed the instructors worked on strategies for foundational and occupational skills. Bethany Mead, [email protected].
Feeling stuck with your weight or lack of energy? I specialize in helping women to discover their unique wellness! You see, diets just don’t work and so many times we try what our best friend did and still have no success. I work with you to find out what gives you energy and also what drains you. Together we work to get you feeling your best! I help with foods and lifestyle changes... actually helping you feel good about taking those necessary moments for yourself! Contact me for a FREE consultation. Taunia May, [email protected] or 815-979-7703.
Please join Heartland Hospice and Bickford Senior Living on Thursday, February 25th from 5:00 p.m. - 7:00 p.m. for a Spaghetti Dinner benefitting The Vet Drop-In Center of Rockford. There will be live entertainment by Harlan Jefferson. Cost of the dinner is $5.00 which includes: spaghetti, salad, garlic bread, dessert and drink. To purchase your ticket or for more information call 815-397-7100. We will be collecting paper product donations for the Vet Drop-In Center: plates, silverware, 8 oz. cups, napkins and copy paper. Tammy Christiansen
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CEANCI is excited to announce the “Future Top Chef” competition with some of our area high school Family and Consumer Science students. In order to prepare for the event the instructors will be working with the students in the coming weeks to prepare and perfect their creations. McDonald’s, who is a Unite! partner is allowing the students to work with a crew member behind the lines at 4-5 of their local stores. Unite! competition judges will be at this fun filled evening to rate the creativity, taste and presentation of these “future chefs” sandwiches. Each store will award (2) winners who will be presented with an embroidered “Junior Chef Star” chefs hat! The event will take place the week of February 22nd over several evenings. Family members of the “chefs” will be invited and choose from one of many creations, and..... McDonald’s will treat them to dinner. for more information or questions please contact Beth Mead at 815-921-1650,[email protected].
Are you looking for a new, low-impact, results driven workout? Bootybarre combines Pilates, Yoga and Ballet principles all into one low-impact fun workout. Sign up for the next series of 4 classes Tuesdays at 5:30pm beginning February 16th thru March 8th. $40 for the series of 4 classes - pre-register online! www.fitnessworksrockford.com. Class is taught by Taunia May, pilates/barre instructor and Integrative Nutrition Health Coach. Call with any questions 815-979-7703.
Free Alzheimer’s education programs - The Basics: Memory Loss, Dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease, Tuesday, Feb. 16, 8:30-10 am at Keen Age Center, 2141 Henry Luckow Lane, Belvidere. AND Living with Alzheimer’s disease: for Middle-Stage Caregivers, Saturday, Feb. 20, 10 am-3 pm (breakfast and lunch provided), at Lincolnshire Place, 6617 Broadcast Parkway, Loves Park. Register by calling 815.484.1300. Lynne Koenigsberger
Run your first 5K? How about 10 miles? Tonya Thayer Meyer announced that the United Way of Rock River Valley is presenting the 31st Annual Arny Johnson 10-mile and 5K run to be held on Saturday, April 2, 2016, at Harlem High School in Machesney Park. The 10-mile run starts at 8:30 a.m., while the 5K run starts at 8:40 a.m. Participants can pre-register for the race by runsignup.com and using our online registration or printing the flyer to mail in. Cost is $25 if registered prior to March 21 and $35 after March 21. High school and younger is $15. Don’t know where to begin? Tonya will give you a 5K Beginner Training Plan. Just ask! [email protected] or 815-986-4806.
Tonya Thayer Meyer is seeking volunteers who are interested in supporting the United Way’s Strong Neighborhoods Program by volunteering at the Arny Johnson Race on Saturday, April 2nd. We need people to help with registration for 1 1/2 hours, direct runners on the course or serve food at the food table. Want to help? What about a teenager in your home? Email Tonya at [email protected].
Rockford Network of Professional WomenScholarship Opportunity
n One $2,500 scholarship will be awarded to a woman attending college
n Women 23 years of age or older
n Living in the greater Rockford area
n Must be enrolled in a degreed program
n Applications are available at www.rockfordnetwork.org
n Applications must be postmarked by March 1 and mailed in a flat envelope
nNo electronic applications accepted
n RNPW members and nonmembers are eligible
n Scholarships will be awarded in June
n Money will be sent directly to the school or university
For more information, criteria and application, go to
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We welcome you to become a part of this dynamic group!
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Bowling for Hunger - Join Rock River Valley Pantry for moonlight bowling on Saturday, February 13, 2016, at Park Lanes Bowl, 5318 N 2nd Street, Loves Park, 815 877-6051. It’s a great way to celebrate Valentine’s, or hangout with friends! Night Includes: 3 Games of Scotch Doubles bowling, Shoes, Door prizes, Chinese auction, 50/50 Raffle option, Food and Entertainment.
Check-In: 9:00pm Cost: $20/individual, $40.00/couple ALL proceeds benefit the Rock River Valley Pantry! Fighting Hunger in Our Community! Contact RRVP for more information 815 965-2466. Lori Wallace, [email protected].
Save the Date!~ March 21, 2016 ~
RNPW members will
participate in a book
review/discussion of the
bestselling book
“Lean In” by
Sheryl Sandberg.
