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AVOID CONVENIENCE BUT
BE COMMITTED TO YOUR
SPOUSE AND MARRIAGE
It is not about what you get in the marriage
but about what do you bring into this
marriage. A major problem in any marriage
is lack of commitment.
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What kind of committed person
are you?
1. There are basically two kinds
of persons in life.
2. There are the CONVENIENCE
PEOPLE and the COMMITTED
PEOPLE.
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CONVENIENCE PEOPLE These are emotional based. They are
ruled and controlled by emotions . They like doing the easiest things. Other aspects about them include:
When I feel good then I will do it. They are controlled by moods. Do I
want to do it? Have selfish mindset.
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Look for excuses.
Outwardly influenced
Quit during the tough times.
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COMMITTED PEOPLE
These are character based and make their
decisions out of character. They want to
do what is right? Other aspects about
them:
When I do it then I will feel good.
They are controlled by priority and
doing things
right, and have servanthood mindset
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Life & lips agree.
Look for solutions.
Inwardly influenced
Continue during the tough times.
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This is the difference between those
marriages that last and those that break-
up.
Please understand this: The break-ups
are not because their marriages have
more severe problems. Marriages break-
up because the couple is looking for a
way out instead of a way to keep it
together. There will always be some kind
of excuses.
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Always look at the kind of person you can
become.
You cannot go back and make a brand
new start. But both of you can start now
and make a brand new end.
Don’t focus on where you have been
but on where you intend to take your
marriage.
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Look at where you are right now.
Begin to focus on the right direction.
This will bring about a great marriage
and great relationships.
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Be a person of character.
Character is the ability to carry out a
good resolution long after the mood in
which it was made is past. Follow
through on your decisions. Don’t wait
until you feel like doing it but do it and
then you will start feeling better about
doing it.
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You don’t quit because you are committed.
Feelings follow commitment.
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If your marriage relationship is going
sour, then your commitment is weak.
It is very easy to see that you or your
spouse has changed. There are certain
issues you could not have undertaken
without involving your spouse. If you
have changed, then your spouse would
also change. The commitment has
eroded.
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Be honest enough to recognize and
acknowledge this fact. Be willing to do
something about it.
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HOW DO I RENEW OR CREATE COMMITMENT TO MY
SPOUSE?
You must make a Character Commitment.
Remember those things that you committed to your spouse. Do you do them?
Ask your spouse to keep on reminding you about those things as a way of refreshing your thoughts. By the way, women have a very high memory of what they were promised. A man can easily forget.
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You must focus on what is right in your
marriage.
If you are always focusing on what is
wrong then you will never be able to
build on the strong points.
Spouses who only focus on what is
wrong usually fall apart.
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You must begin now doing things together.
People who do things together will grow
close together. This is a good sign of a
healthy marriage.
People who do not will not grow close
together. The distance between them will
continue increasing and there will be a lot of
suspicion and tension will grip into the
marriage.
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You will only do things together as you
set apart time for each other. Be there
for each other. Set times to be together.
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You become other person focused.
Put all your efforts in your spouse. Focus on
how to build your marriage relationship. Make
the most of all the opportunities to enhance
your marriage.
You must constantly and consistently try to
please your spouse. Pleasing your mate must
be your main goal in life outside of serving
God.
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You must become patient and tolerant.
Most couples rush and tear each other. We
must learn to be tolerant and accommodative
to each other.
Let’s not forget what God has done in
forgiving us.
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You must continue to verbalize your
commitment to one another.
Let your spouse hear you say how
committed you are to them and vice
versa.
Talk to each other about what each one
is doing and if there are solutions that
the other spouse can give.
Say with love and meaning, not with a
mechanical format that has no meaning.
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You have to:
REMEMBER THE DAY YOU MADE A
COMMITMENT TO YOUR SPOUSE
YOU CAN RECALL YOUR MARITAL
JOURNEY AND
YOU CAN RENEW YOUR COMMITMENT
TO YOUR SPOUSE.
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REMEMBER THE DAY YOU MADE A
COMMITMENT TO YOUR SPOUSE. You
need to RECALL YOUR MARITAL
JOURNEY.
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It is not a marriage of convenience but
one of commitment. Apparently in life, it
appears that you stay with spouse longer
than any other person. Be fully
committed to her/him and enjoy the rest
of your lives together until death
separates you.
BE FULLY COMMITTED AND YOU WILL
ENJOY YOUR MARRIAGE.
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