Attitude of Gratitude

W ith Thanksgiving just a few weeks away, I’m reminded of the most important Jewish value my children learned from attending The Solel Preschool—having an attitude of gratitude. That value begins in the preschool, but is carried throughout all

of the Solel community. We teach our children, and try to model ourselves, that we have a choice in how we see life; to focus on the abundance in our lives, be in a place of gratitude and choose to find potential and opportunity in joyful and difficult times. An attitude of gratitude continues to influence my family. We strive to make this our mantra and find the beauty in every situation.

Following my presidential responsibility of “bimah-sitting” during the High Holidays, many people reached out to me to congratulate me on a job-well-done. While the brevity of my speeches and the behind-the-scenes perspective were absolute highlights, I found my family’s experience most impactful: Sitting with my daughter on the bimah, seeing her beam with pride. Seeing my kids sit with their friends in the congregation, exchanging little smiles and waves throughout the service. The High Holidays can be a marathon, but seeing the connection our children have with us and each other during these times reminds me to be thankful for what promise our community and youth hold for our future.

This fall, we have been running our Annual Campaign. This is an opportunity for everyone in our congregation to demonstrate our gratitude for our community. We ask that everyone participate, because when we see everyone donate, we hear your voices say that you’ve enjoyed the rabbis’ sermons, you’ve been inspired by Todd’s music, or simply that you love the Solel community. It’s a vote of confidence and it matters. Having a financially healthy community is an essential component to our longevity. It enables us to make important safety updates like the fire panel we recently installed, as well as supporting our phenomenal staff.

I invite you to go to templesolel.org and click on the “give now” button or simply call the office to make a donation. In whatever way is comfortable to you, please show your support and gratitude for Solel by giving.

We are the role models for the younger generation—the future leaders of our community. May the appreciation we share around the Thanksgiving table, be echoed with an attitude of gratitude each and every day of the year.

Bettina A. Chow Temple Solel Board President

The Mission of Temple Solel is to be a vibrant, inclusive and engaged Reform community, grounded in relationships and deeds,

and elevated by Shabbat and Torah. We see the divine spark in each individual by together:

Warmly welcoming all who enter Nurturing lifelong learning Creating joy through prayer and music Celebrating holidays and sharing life cycles Fostering a love of Israel, and Working for Tikkun Olam – repairing the world

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Friday, November 2, 2018 Shabbat Service 6:15 pm An oneg will precede the service at 5:30 pm. Anniversaries will be announced. Women’s Shabbat.

Saturday, November 3, 2018 Torah Study 9:00 am Shabbat Morning Service 10:30 am During the service Ava Bookspan will be called to the Torah as a Bat Mitzvah.

Friday, November 9, 2018 Shabbat Service 6:15 pm An oneg will precede the service at 5:30 pm.

Saturday, November 10, 2018 Torah Study 9:00 am Shabbat Morning Service 10:30 am During the service Austin Horwitz will be called to the Torah as a Bar Mitzvah.

Friday, November 16, 2018 Shabbat Shira Service 6:15 pm An oneg will precede the service at 5:30 pm. New Member Shabbat.

Saturday, November 17, 2018 Torah Study 9:00 am Shabbat Morning Service 10:30 am During the service Richard Adelson will be called to the Torah as a Bar Mitzvah.

Friday, November 23, 2018 Shabbat Service 6:15 pm An oneg will precede the service at 5:30 pm.

Saturday, November 24, 2018 Torah Study 9:00 am

Friday, November 30 2018 Shabbat Service 6:15 pm An oneg will precede the service at 5:30 pm.

Austin James Horwitz, son of Suzanne Sorof and Jeffrey Horwitz, will become a bar mitzvah on Saturday, November 10, 2018 at 10:30 am. Austin attends Ingleside Middle School and enjoys playing basketball and other sports including flag football,

dancing and music. For his mitzvah project, Austin read to and helped mentor students at Fireside Elementary School and raised money for Hope for Paws, an organization that provides food and shelter for homeless dogs and animals. Austin has 3 rescue dogs at home and this has become a passion of his. Austin plans to continue his mitzvah projects as the school year continues.

Important Office Closure Information! Monday, November 12, 2018

Wednesday, November 21, 2018–Close at 1:00 pm Thursday, November 22, 2018

Friday, November 23, 2018

Ava Helen Bookspan, daughter of Jennifer and Neal Bookspan, will become a bat mitzvah on Saturday, November 3, 2018 at 10:30 am. Ava attends Villa Montessori and enjoys playing volleyball, volunteering, hiking, and reading. For her mitzvah project, Ava spent over 30 hours volunteering at Welcome to America Project (WTAP), HEALing House—Happily Ever After League, and Home Fur Good (animal shelter).

Spin a Little Love Beginning on November 18th, please take a dreidel from the menorah in the lobby and help make the holidays a little happier for someone this season. The red and green dreidels are for our military family. They are also for a large family sent to us by Jewish Family & Children’s Services. Blue and white dreidels are for Temple Solel families who need some help.

Please bring back all items to the Temple Solel office by Sunday, December 9, 2018. Questions? Contact Linda Ribnik, 480.399.4129 or ribnik@icloud.com.

Richard Matthew Adelson, son of Barbara Jean and P. David Adelson, will become a bar mitzvah on Saturday, November 17, 2018 at 10:30 am. Richard attends All Saints Episcopal Day School and enjoys drawing, robot building, D & D, rock music, creating, and video gaming. For his mitzvah project, Richard volunteered with St. Vincent de Paul, collected food and volunteered for St. Mary’s Food Bank, and visited veterans and learned about their service in the U.S. military.

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NOVEMBER ANNIVERSARIES Arthur and Doreen Alexander ............. 39 yrs Arnie and Rochelle Alpert ..................... 4 yrs Harvey and Sandy Belfer ..................... 54 yrs Josh Bendor and Erin Scharff ................. 8 yrs Gary and Wendy Birnbaum ................. 35 yrs Rick and Laura Bistrow ........................ 33 yrs Mark and Jessica Brodie ...................... 12 yrs Bob and Jo Ann Burgess ...................... 26 yrs Irv and Bunnie Cohen ........................... 47yrs Roger and Liz Eisenberg ...................... 41 yrs Andrew and Robin Erlich ..................... 39 yrs Ara and Iris Feinstein ............................. 6 yrs Doug and Laina Freedberg .................. 12 yrs Michelle and Dan Glicksman ............... 19 yrs Jason and Melissa Goldenberg ............ 14 yrs Benjamin and Danielle Gross ................ 5 yrs Geoffrey and Lauren Harris ................... 3 yrs Gary and Shari Horowitz ....................... 9 yrs David and Lauren Kay .......................... 14 yrs Rick and Sharon Keller ......................... 51 yrs

Don and Joyce Krusky...................................... 53 yrs Adam and Mindy Lang .................................... 16 yrs Stuart and Debbie Lanson ............................... 39 yrs Fred and Betsy Lawful ..................................... 27 yrs Jeremy and Elisabeth Lee ................................ 22 yrs Ron and Laura Miller ....................................... 43 yrs Ed and Kathy Perlstein .................................... 12 yrs Keith and Lilach Power .................................... 14 yrs Josh and Erin Rawitch ..................................... 14 yrs Jim and Sheryl Rednor..................................... 29 yrs David and Marilyn Reinherz ............................ 48 yrs Michael and Judy Schaffert ............................. 33 yrs Arlie and Paula Sherman ................................. 67 yrs Alan and Nancy Siegel ..................................... 28 yrs Perry Simons and Melanie Rich ....................... 35 yrs David and Marnee Spierer .............................. 23 yrs Bernie Strass and Arlene Arnpriester-Strass ..... 8 yrs Harvey and Barbara Wasserman ..................... 16 yrs Adam and Joy Weber ...................................... 15 yrs Ben and Kim Weber ........................................ 11 yrs

WELCOME! NEW MEMBERS

Phillip and Gloria Cowen Andrew and Ellen Meltzer and children Eliza and Sam Gene and Linda Montgomery Fred and Audrey Horne Peter and Robin Kraut and children Matthew and Ava

T his month, we celebrate the holiday of Thanksgiving. It is a time to be together with family and friends and to appreciate the many gifts we are fortunate to have in our lives. I am a firm believer in the positive power of gratitude to

reshape our perspectives and place our focus on what we have to celebrate rather than on what we lack. However, as this quote from Jim Rohn illustrates, there can be a slight question as to whether gratitude can cause us to become complacent and lose our drive if we are in a constant state of bliss.

Can we be grateful for the blessings in our lives and still be motivated to strive for more? I think the answer here is ‘yes.’ In fact, as we put our focus on the ways in which we have already received, we open up the gates for more receiving. As Oprah Winfrey says: “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”

The paradox here is that by expressing our gratitude for what we have we signal our subconscious mind that we

are and have more than enough. And this allows us to continue to generate that same kind of positive momentum going forward. By expressing our gratitude,

we experience ourselves as overflowing with blessings and that ends up creating more abundance and joy and success for us. And of course, people around us are drawn to that type of energy as well… which creates even more opportunities to learn and grow and receive. Then we give back in the form of our gratitude and the upward cycle continues.

So, this month and in the months to come, I encourage us all to try to express our gratitude

in as many ways as possible… “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” —William Arthur Ward

In love and gratitude for all the gifts that this community brings,

Todd Herzog Cantorial Soloist

Gratitude and Thankfulness

Discretionary Fund Contributions

Temple Solel thanks everyone for their continued generosity and support of our clergy staff through contributions made to their individual discretionary fund accounts. To avoid any confusion, we ask that you be sure to include the intended rabbi’s full name in the memo portion of your check and/or on any correspondence that accompanies your contribution.

Thank you!

“Learn to be thankful for what you already have, while you pursue all that you want.” —Jim Rohn

A Gratitude-filled Shabbat Shira & New Member Shabbat

Friday, November 16, 2018 at 6:15 pm Join us for an uplifting and musical celebration of Shabbat featuring Cantorial Soloist Todd Herzog and his band, along with Rabbi John Linder. We will also be honoring new members during this service.

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N ovember is my favorite time of the year. Fall is here and the weather is beautiful. The crispness of the air is refreshing and comforting. We survived the summer heat. The craziness for the holiday season hasn’t kicked in completely. There are still free evenings and

time to ponder the lessons of the year before we start a new one. Such a lovely time to reflect on friendship, family, and with Thanksgiving approaching, consider all the blessings for which we should be grateful.

November is also the National Month of Gratitude. A Jewish word for gratitude is hakarat hatov—it means to see the good in the world and to be grateful for what you have. Hakarat Hatov is really bigger than gratitude, it’s recognition for the things we have and the people we sometimes take for granted.

Try these five ways to help teach your preschooler about gratitude this month:

1. Model gratitude in your daily life. Say thank you or discuss the good things that happened in your day.

2. Encourage generous acts. Children love to feel helpful, so give them an opportunity by suggesting they donate a toy, food or clothing to another child in need.

3. Say no from time to time. If a child always get a reward, they may begin to learn that life is about endless rewards. They need to understand that rewards are not something to take for granted.

4. Teach children that things aren’t most important in life. With so much advertising this is a hard concept for children to understand. Talk about less tangible things that you’re thankful for, like being with friends, having good food or having fun with the family.

5. Ask for help around the house. Age appropriate chores can help children develop a sense of thankfulness.

These are some practical ideas for teaching kids to have a more grateful perspective on life. I am sure we could think of many more.

CALLING ALL BUBBES AND ZAYDES Missing your grandchildren? Need to put a smile on your face for the day? Join the Bubbe Brigade. The Solel Preschool is looking for some Bubbes and Zaydes to visit the preschool once a month. You would read to our preschoolers and then have the opportunity to sing with Mr. Todd or play on the playground. If you are interested, please email me at mabloom@templesolel.org.

Mary Ann Bloom Interim Director of Early Childhood Education

Upcoming dates to Remember: November 1: Conferences – No Preschool November 2: Western Tot Shabbat November 7: Mom’s Night Out November 22 & 23: Thanksgiving Break – No Preschool

New Contact Emails In an effort to streamline communication, the following

email addresses are now available for use:

Caring Community ........................... caring@templesolel.org

College Connections ... collegeconnections@templesolel.org

eNUZ items ........................................ enuz@templesolel.org

Temple Solel Library ........................ library@templesolel.org

Membership ............................... members@templesolel.org

Pathfinder ................................. pathfinder@templesolel.org

Men of Solel ............................ menofsolel@templesolel.org

Sisters of Solel ...................................... sos@templesolel.org

Social Action ................... solelsocialaction@templesolel.org

SPPA ............................... preschoolparents@templesolel.org

Temple Solel office ........................... office@templesolel.org

Torah Study Guest Speaker Joshua Holo, Ph.D.

Saturday, November 3, 2018 / 9:00-10:00 am

Temple Solel welcomes Dr. Joshua Holo, Dean of Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion’s Los Angeles campus, who will be speaking at torah study on November 3rd. The presentation will be followed by a special bagel and schmooze with Dr. Holo.

Dr. Holo is the Dean of the Los Angeles Campus and Associate Professor of Jewish History at HUC-JIR/LA. He served as Director of the Louchheim School of Judaic Studies from 2006-2010. Dr. Holo's publications focus on Medieval Jews of the Mediterranean, particularly in the Christian realm. His book, Byzantine Jewry in the Mediterranean Economy, was published by Cambridge University Press in 2009.

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Boker Tov Bistro is open Sundays 8:45 am to 10:30 am as follows:

November 4 and 18

Grab a coffee, enjoy some breakfast, mingle with friends, read a book, play

mah jongg… and build community!

All proceeds from the Boker Tov Bistro benefit the Raker Religious School Scholarship Fund to assist

students with tuition expenses.

Free Babysitting during Erev Shabbat Service on Fridays!

Temple Solel offers Free Babysitting during Erev Shabbat Service on Fridays. (Please note: parents/caregivers must be in attendance in order to participate.) If you have any questions, please email office@templesolel.org.

Phoenix. They are involved in Social Action projects, Temple activities and national activities through the URJ’s youth program, NFTY (National Federation of Temple Youth).

Temple Solel knows the importance of youth groups. They provide excellent leadership opportunities as well as social opportunities for our students, even those in grades 3-5. Never too early to learn how to be a leader!

Check in the “Chai Lights” newsletter for upcoming events for all of our youth groups.

Upcoming Dates to Remember: October 28: Mazel Tots, 10:00-11:00 am November 4: “Demystifying the Jewish Holidays” with

Rabbi Linder, 10:30-11:30 am

Raker Religious School meets 26 times from August to May. We want your student to feel included and knowledgeable within their Jewish identity and Hebrew classes. Please make sure your student’s attendance is consistent. Consistency is key!

L’Shalom

Tobee Waxenberg Director of Raker Religious School

T emple Solel has Youth Groups! Three of them, each focused on building community, leadership skills and friendships. “The Union of Reform Judaism’s youth programs instill a sense of joy, compassion, and pride in being Jewish while nurturing a young person’s

innate desire to make a difference in the world.”

Our Youth Groups:

MSTY (Mini Solel Temple Youth) for grades 3-5. Activities include swim parties, Hanukkah celebrations, Fun Fests, and Social Action Projects. Now that the year has started, short meetings will take place so the students will gradually learn about leadership. Directed by Maryn Herberg.

JSTY (Junior Solel Temple Youth) for grades 6-8. Much like the other youth groups, JSTY provides social and leadership opportunities to our pre-teens and younger teens. They get involved in off campus events as well as social action projects of their own. Our 8th graders have the opportunity to participate in some of the TSTY events, when those events are not part of the national organization, NFTY. Directed by Maryn Herberg.

TSTY (Temple Solel Temple Youth) directed by Brittany Schultz and run by a Student Executive Board is for grades 9-12. TSTY focuses on social events and building relationships through those events with other teens in

Bar/Bat Mitzvah Dates Bar and Bat Mitzvah dates were recently assigned for the fall of 2020 through the spring of 2021 programming year. If your child will turn 11 soon and you haven’t submitted a form to request a date, please send one in for consideration. Fillable forms are available on our website at www.templesolel.org/forms. Questions? Please contact Jelena Santiago, jsantiago@templesolel.org.

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Knitting for a Purpose Wednesday, November 8 at 1:00 pm

The knitting and crocheting ladies of Temple Solel meet to do a mitzvah, have fun, and make new friends, so grab your knitting needles or crochet hooks and give yourself a treat and join us. We supply the refreshments, room, and yarn. Please consider stopping by! Questions? Contact Arlene Bonime at abonime1@cox.net.

Arizona Movie Premiere Tuesday, November 13 at 7:00 pm

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Temple Solel members, Ori and Mirit Eisen, Executive Producers of this film, invite you to join them for the Arizona premiere of “Who Will Write Our History.” For more information about the movie and where to buy tickets, visit https://www.bjephoenix.org/events/2018/11/13/who-will-write-our-history.

Cast and Crew Wanted Open call for cast and crew on Thursday 11/1, 7:00-9:00 pm and Sunday morning 11/4, 9:30-11:30 am for

“A Flag is Born” reading. The script recounts in dramatic fashion the Post-Holocaust founding of what was then called Palestine. Teens and adults are encouraged to participate. Especially needed in the cast is an older teen or young adult male. Rehearsal time will be minimal, and the reading will coincide with Israel Independence Day the evening of May 8, 2019. Please contact Patsy Parker for further

information, pats4949@hotmail.com.

Demystifying the Jewish Holidays

Sunday, November 4 at 10:30 am If you are interested in understanding the core, universal values that flow from the Jewish holidays, come and learn with Rabbi Linder!

Yiddish Club News Starting in November, our Yiddish Club will be named The Al & Irma Feldman Yiddish Club. We appreciate all the effort Dr. Feldman put in to start and lead the club and the work of his wife, Irma did to continue the club after his death. Irma (z”l) understood Al’s love for Yiddish and worked hard to keep the club going. She recognized the importance of the club to the community even though she was not a Yiddish speaker. She was proud she had learned some Yiddish through the club and had become familiar with a variety of songs and expressions. Irma and I had become friends during the four years I was the club’s Yiddish leader. I promised Irma that I would continue the club when she was no longer able to attend meetings due to her health.

We will pay tribute to Al and Irma by sharing stories about them during the last part of our meeting on Monday, November 19, 1:30-2:45 pm. Some of our current members were part of the Yiddish club from the beginning. Others joined throughout the years. Each month we have a bit of Yiddish conversation and learn new vocabulary words. We sing Yiddish songs and discuss what’s new in the world of Yiddish. Selections from Yiddish literature are shared, a Yiddish saying is introduced, and at times we view films or have guest speakers.

Please plan to join us on Monday, November 19, from 1:30 to 2:45 pm at Temple Solel for “A Bisl Yiddish.” Help us keep Yiddish in our lives.

Questions? Contact Sandy Bernoff, slbernoff@gmail.com or via phone call to 480.207.6900.

Downtown Study Group Wednesday, November 7 at 12:00 pm

Engelman Berger, P.C. in Phoenix RSVP to Scott Cohen, sbc@eblawyers.com

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Coordinator of Temple Solel’s Caring Community

It is my pleasure to assume the role of coordinator of Temple Solel’s Caring Community. Since I love to cook and feed people, this is a wonderful opportunity for me to do just that. During my years in NJ, I was very active in my community and involved in several organizations that centered around helping others in need.

The Caring Community’s mission is to support the needs of our congregation who are facing illness, experiencing life challenges, or by simply keeping in touch with our students who are away from home. One of our roles is to provide meals and support for congregants who are ill or in need of assistance.

Our food preparation team is headed by Diane Schoen, who works with volunteers to prepare meals that are delivered to those in need. Joan Matlock heads our Shiva/Bereavement team, whose members are available to offer support and counsel congregants on preparing for Shiva. Our College Connections team, headed by Suzanne Swift and Melissa Gulinson, organizes the sending of care packages to our students away from home three times yearly for Rosh Hashanah, Hanukkah and Passover. Audrey Sobel and several of our volunteers send get well wishes to those that are ill or recuperating from surgery or an injury.

I am looking forward to working with our caring, dedicated volunteers in serving the Temple Solel Community. You can reach out to the Caring Community by calling Edie Bradt in the temple office or by sending an email to caring@templesolel.org.

Art @ Solel Jeanine Korer Art Showcase Continues Through November 30 Jeanine Korer’s oil paintings are featured in the current ART SHOWCASE exhibit in the North Hallway Gallery through November 30. Lively paintings of people and places that evoke a smile are her specialty. Pictures are for sale by contacting the artist: Jeanine Korer, 602.376.2259, jngconnect@aol.com.

iCreate Emerging Youth Artists Group Being Formed Calling all student artists! Contact Tobee Waxenberg, Director of Religious Education, if you are interested in art in any form. We are developing a new program for students to display their work in the North Hallway Gallery March 1 through May 31, 2019. Lots of exciting activities are included, so sign up now. You may also contact Ruthe Jacobs at 480.314.4979 or rujake41@gmail.com.

Yom Kippur Food Drive Thanks to everyone’s generosity, we were able to donate 4,105 pounds of food to Vista del Camino in Scottsdale!

That is 700 pounds more than we donated last year!

A big Thank You to everyone who participated this year.

Temple Solel Endowment: An Invitation to Learn and Pledge

Temple Solel launched an endowment effort in 2009 that resulted in over $1.2 million in endowment funds and led to the successful retirement of Solel’s mortgage debt. The Board of the Temple Solel Endowment Foundation is building on that success and has set another short-term goal of reaching $1.8 million (Chai) by the end of the year. Continued success in raising endowment funds ensures long-term financial stability of Temple Solel for generations to come.

We want to invite you to learn more about this process and to learn about the many options for planned giving including gifts of cash, bequests in wills, gifts of life insurance or securities, donations of retirement plan assets, and more. We are offering two different dates in November so that you can select the date that is most convenient for you:

Sunday, November 11 at 4:30 pm at the home of Dick and Fran Lamden

OR

Wednesday, November, 14 at 5:30 pm at the home of Dr. Mitzi Krockover and Dr. Jacque Sokolov

We sincerely hope that you will attend one of these two dates. If you’re unable to attend or if we should exceed the capacity in the two homes, we’ll be holding additional endowment meetings spring of 2019.

RSVP to Peter Pishko, Temple Solel Executive Director, at 480.991.7414 or ppishko@templesolel.org and please specify which event you will be attending. After receiving your RSVP, we will provide you with the address.

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Sisters of Solel (SOS) kick off event at the Brush Bar was a huge success judging by the happy smiles. Stay tuned for more events to come.

Temple Solel Discount Night Sunday, December 23, 2:05 pm

Discounted Tickets Starting at $45/Seat We have partnered with the Arizona Cardinals Group Sales Team to offer our congregation discounted tickets to a home game this season. Please visit https://arizonacardinals.formstack.com/forms/templesolel to purchase your tickets today. Please note, tickets are placed by best available on a first come—first serve basis. If you’d like to sit with a group, make sure to buy tickets on the same order form. Game is subject to sell out at any time. Complimentary parking will be provided with the tickets.

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The Solel Preschool enjoyed a visit from Carter’s Farm Mobile Petting Zoo to coincide with the “Noah’s Ark” Torah story. The kids (and teachers) loved seeing the animals up close and getting a chance to interact with them!

To register and obtain details for this event, visit:

www.limmudaz.org Email to: info@limmudaz.org

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Which We Live Sunday, December 2, 2018 at 10:30 am

Temple Solel is pleased to host Mark Stern, Assistant Associate Emeritus Professor, ASU, who will speak about the political time in which we live. His presentation will invite questions from the audience.

This presentation examines our current time as a political time. It is from the perspective of how political science views the partisan conflicts of our time, and is not centered on a partisan analysis of our era. It will analyze this political time as an era of intense partisan balance, for the most part an overall balance of non-overlapping party strongholds. It will also analyze the

intense ideological polarization of the political public, a polarization that cuts mainly along partisan lines. Finally, it will place in perspective the substantive policy conflict that divides the body politic at the mass and elite level.

Mark Stern holds a Ph.D. In Political Science from the University of Rochester (1970) and a B.A. from Brooklyn College-C.U.N.Y. (1965). He has published numerous articles on U.S. elections, civil rights and the presidency as well as a book on the presidency and voting rights. He currently holds Associate Emeritus Professor status with Arizona State University and teaches courses independently on U.S. politics, elections and the presidency.

This provocative and interesting program is open the entire community and all are welcome to attend. RSVP to office@templesolel.org or via call to 480.991.7414.

Social Action at Temple Solel On-going projects

StreetLightUSA: Solel volunteers sponsor a Milestone Luncheon each quarter (October 28, February 17, May 5) for girls who have been rescued from sex trafficking. We celebrate their achievements with an awards ceremony, lunch, and gifts for the girls.

Our Second Annual Solel Thanksgiving Meal Project will take place on Sunday, November 18 in the Solel kitchen. The prepared meals will benefit Saving Amy clients who are transitioning from homeless shelters and those in the Solel community in need. This year we will have 2 time slots so you can choose what works best for you. First shift 12:30-2:45 pm or Second shift 2:45-5:00 pm. There will be 8 food prep stations, lots of ongoing clean up, and boxing of meals at the end of the day. To volunteer, contact Rae Rader at solelsocialaction@templesolel.org and say which shift you’d prefer. We are also looking for monetary donations to purchase the food rather than asking that you bring food items to prepare. If you would like to contribute in this way, please donate to the Social Action Fund (please designate donation to Thanksgiving Project).

Spin a Little Love: Each year Solel members generously purchase gifts or gift cards to help military families and others in need in the greater community. Look for our menorah in the temple lobby and take a dreidel with a gift request.

Jewish Family and Children’s Services Annual Holiday Party: for the second year Temple Solel will sponsor the holiday party for kids transitioning out of foster care on Wednesday, December 19 in the evening. Our volunteers will serve dinner and help clean up. Donations for this dinner can be made to Rabbi Linder’s Discretionary Fund (designate donation to JFCS dinner).

Mitzvah Day is Sunday, January 13 with many projects planned. Contact Robert Siamon for more information at rsiamon@gmail.com.

To get involved in any of these projects contact Rae Rader at solelsocialaction@templesolel.org.

Navigating the “December Dilemma”

Sunday, December 2 at 10:00 am Whether yours is a Jewish home with one non-Jewish parent and/or grandparents, the intersection of Hanukkah and Christmas can be tricky to navigate. Learn from our wonderful panel of Eve Danoff, Rabbi Linder, and other panelists. There will be lots of room for questions! Come and learn!

Live Stream Reminder Temple Solel records/live streams Friday Night and Shabbat Morning Services to accommodate family and friends of our community who may be unable to attend in person. While the camera is primarily focused on the Bimah and other areas at the front of the sanctuary, others in attendance may be seen on the live stream and recorded. If you have any reservations about your image being streamed or recorded for others to view, please let someone know so that we may attempt to seat you in an area less likely to be on the live stream and recording. Please note, however, that we are unable to guarantee that your image will not appear. We apologize for any inconvenience and appreciate your understanding.

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Torah Study

Volunteer Recognition Volunteers are an essential part of Temple Solel. We would like to thank the following volunteers for their time, hard work and efforts:

Birthday Calls Arlene Bonime Knitting for a Purpose Frieda Allweiss Arlene Bonime Carol Brillman Jill Loebel Margie Rahilly Beth Sennett Judy Sirkis Debbie Smith Nancy Weinstein

Gift Shop Carol Brillman Nicole Cadle Ruth LeGrand Becky Lieberman Leah Valadez Sue Waldbaum Yahrzeits Cynthia Marcus

Would you like to volunteer at some point in the future? We’d love to have you! Email Edie Bradt,

ebradt@templesolel.org and she’ll add you to the list.

Thank You!

Transgender, gender-fluid, gender-free... Many people today feel that their true gender differs from the one they were assigned at birth. Some people see themselves as both male and female. Others feel they are neither male nor female. And some of us claim an original gender of our own unique making.

Amazingly, this is not a new trend. Gender diversity is a sacred value commonly found in ancient cultures. In Judaism, for example, the Torah begins with the phrase “zachar u’nikevah bara otam”—which means “from male to female, and everyone in between, God created them” (Genesis 1:27). Consequently, classical Jewish texts recognize seven different genders: ish, ishah, androgynos, tumtum, aylonit, saris, and bifney atzmo hu.

The Midrash explains that ish means “man” and ishah means “woman.” Androgynos refers to a person with both male and female characteristics. The Midrash notes that the first human being, Adam, was androgynos. Adam was composed of two bodies, male and female, joined together (Genesis Rabbah 8:1).

Likewise, the Talmud discusses other diverse genders, such as tumtum and aylonit (BT Yevamot 64a-b). It says that Abraham was tumtum—a person of undetermined gender. Plus, Sarah was aylonit—a person who was considered female at birth, but developed masculine characteristics during maturation. Additional genders in Jewish texts include saris, a feminine or infertile man; and bifney atzmo hu, a human being “unto itself.”

Overall, we can be certain that God loves gender diversity because God created so many types of people. Yet at our core, we’re all the same. We all carry b’tzelem Elohim – the imprint of eternity (Gen. 1:27). Next month I will review the book “Torah Queeries,” a collection of queer commentaries on the Torah. Torah Study meets every Saturday morning at 9:00 am in the library. Please come!

Matthew Kozinets

Save the Dates

Monday, December 17, 7:00-8:30 pm at Temple Solel Ilana Kaufman

“A Community of ‘Others’: Jews, Peoplehood, and Justice”

Classes cost $18 per person, per session, and you must register to attend. Learn more and register at

www.valleybeitmidrash.org.

Uri Feinberg Scholar-in-Residence December 7–9, 2018

N o v e m b e r 2 0 1 8 / C h e s h va n - K i s l e v 5 7 7 9 12

Rabbi Linder’s Discretionary Fund A contribution was made by

Lawrence Krupp Thank you for the beautiful High Holiday

services From Rosie Schurz

A contribution was made by Beverly and Alan Wernick

In honor of your moving and meaningful Rosh Hashanah sermon

From Ruth Goldman In memory of Irma Feldman

From the Feldman Family In honor of Helen and Sol Epstein

From Cindy and Mark Brauner From Arnie and Rochelle Alpert

In memory of Phillip Alpert In memory of Gregg Alpert

A contribution was made by Mark and Barbara Stern

A contribution was made by Joan and David Sacks

Thank you for the lovely Holiday Services

From Mary Ann and Pete Bloom Thank you for the beautiful Rosh

Hashanah Service From Don and Reva Levy

A contribution was made by Jerome Hirsch

Thank you for our bimah honor From Steven and Shari Cohen

Thank you for the beautiful heartwarming High Holiday Services

From Ruvane and Clara Grossman In honor of the wonderful High Holiday

Services From Sue Waldbaum

A contribution was made by Harold and June Berkowtiz

Rabbi Langowitz’s Discretionary Fund In memory of Phillip Alpert

From Arnie and Rochelle Alpert Thank you for the Jonah Story

From Pete and Mary Ann Bloom Thank you for the beautiful

heartwarming High Holiday Services From Ruvane and Clara Grossman

In honor of the wonderful High Holiday Services

From Sue Waldbaum From Shari and Steven Cohen

In honor of Maya Abraham’s kindergarten consecration In honor of Jeff and Elaine Chapman’s grandson’s baby naming

Edward and Celia Linder Interfaith Bridge-Building Fund In memory of Celia Shatkin Linder

Jay and Breeann Adleman Judy Alpert Rose Amendola Stanley and Joyce Aronovitch Lon and Ellen Babby Steve and Lisa Banen Myra Baum Harvey and Sandy Belfer Josh and Suzy Berkowitz Pete and Mary Ann Bloom Bruce Berey and Wendy Blum Gary and Phyl Bolno Arlene Bonime David and Faith Boninger Steve Brandwein and Jerry Underdahl Carol Brillman Iris Cashdan Fishman Marvin and Barbara Chassin Wendy Chovnick Bob and Martha Christiansen Al and Rita Cohen Bob Cohen and Dottie Braun-Cohen Larry and Cindi Cohen Scott Cohen and Lois Sayrs Steven and Shari Cohen Steve Cohen Andrew and Amy Cohn James and Allison Collins Avery Crossman Robert and Eve Danoff Mic and Babs Davis David Demaine and Linda Ribnik Judith Dobbs Howard and Judith Donsky Sonny Elfant and Shirley Dubow Ina Raznick and Family Michael and Karin Epstein Sol and Helen Epstein Clem and Nancy Farber Larry and Margo Fink Joe Freeman Fran Garner Lauren Garner Abbey and Toby Goldberg Herb and Judith Gold Jan Carp Matt and Mara Gerst Steve and Terri Ann Greenberg Joel and Phyllis Gurstell Israel and Vandi Hanin Ken and Nadelle Hanover Len and Ellie Harris Sandra Harris Phil and Marilyn Hawkes Mel and Sue Helfand Will and Nancy Heller Judy Isaac

In honor of the Saving Amy event on November 18th

From Lauren Mishlove In memory of Irma Feldman

From Steve Shobin In memory of Arnold Brustin

From Marv and Karen Leff In honor of you, Rabbi Langowitz, being

at Temple Solel From Mark and Barbara Stern

Thank you for your support and guidance

From Rhea and Michael Kowitz Thank you

From Sandra Harris

Cantorial Soloist’s Todd Herzog Discretionary Fund Thanks for the beautiful music

From Pete and Mary Ann Bloom In honor of the wonderful High Holiday

Services From Sue Waldbaum

A contribution was made by Ori and Mirit Eisen

In honor of your presence and music at Temple Solel

From Mark and Barbara Stern In honor of Todd, John and the choir for

elevating and inspiring services From Sandra Harris

In honor of your music and its soul From Ruth Goldman

Thank you for your guidance and beautiful voice

From Michael and Rhea Kowitz

Art@Solel Fund In honor of Ira and Susan Thomas’s 25th

anniversary From Janet and Roger Robinson

In memory of Andrea Goodstein Curtis From Susan and Ira Thomas

Building Beautification Fund In honor of Peter Pishko’s part in the

High Holidays From Sue Waldbaum

Caring Community Fund In memory of Irma Feldman

From Chuck and Diane Plevich From Marvin and Barbara Chassin

In honor of Sue Waldbaum From Susan Goldberg

In memory of Dr. Stanley Bonime From Arlene Bonime

Contributions We appreciate the thoughtfulness of those who support Temple Solel by remembering and honoring their friends and loved ones through their generous contributions.

N o v e m b e r 2 0 1 8 / C h e s h va n - K i s l e v 5 7 7 9 13 Buck and Barbara Johnson Larry and Fern Kane Bob and Ellen Kant Milly Kaplan Richard Kasper Deana Katz Bella Kazen Rick and Sharon Keller Jeanine Korer Ted and Elaine Kort Dick and Fran Lamden Jan Lavitt Fred and Betsy Lawful Marvin and Karen Leff Ruth LeGrand Nelson and Lisa Lerner Sharon and Stewart Levine Sheldon and Bonnie Levitt Sam and Judy Linhart Jeri, Jeff and Cathy Lipsman Ken and Barbara Love Joan Lowell Marshall and Lesley Lustgarten Cynthia Marcus Ron and Laura Miller Leonard and Phyllis Miller Barbara Neuman Stu and Judi Passon Mark and Rachel Podolsky Ellen Posner Peter and Dana Powell Frank and Rae Rader Jeff and Lee Ratterman Norton and Joanie Remes Gail Rineberg Susan Robbins Roger and Janet Robinson Gil and Harriet Rosen Howard and Judith Rosen Jerry and Farol Sax Milton and Gail Scharff Gordie and Jerri Schubert Marc and Tracy Schwimmer Andy and Debbie Seplow Judy Seplow Bill Shaw and Ann Malofsky Paul and Marnee Solon Rick and Judy Spiegel Mark and Barbara Stern Joel and June Strom Richard and Suzanne Swift Saramae Teich Ira and Susan Thomas Marlene Tucker Scott Tucker Jim and Vivian Ullman Leah Valadez Sue Waldbaum Harvey and Barbara Wasserman Jim and Tobee Waxenberg Frank and Becky Weinberg

Jerry Weiner Todd and Mindy Weiss Norman and Nancijoy Weissman Sam and Joan Weissman Bob Ransom and Susan Wine Nancy Wise Shelby and Sybil Yastrow Mike and Ellie Ziegler Ron and Amy Korn Dan and Michelle Glicksman Michael and Tracy Levy Adina Zarchan Rabbi Stephen Kahn Joel and Shelley Wax Beth and Dale Primer Rona Malofsky Alan and Beverly Lavitt Sonny and Cy Levinthal Ira and Laura Singer Bobbi Piell Andrew A. Morrison Pam Kaplan Arnold Malvern Michael and Cheryl Kahn Valley Beit Midrash Byron and Linda Chalem Glenn and Linda Feldman Richard and Marcy Bern David and Jennifer Lamden Patti and Mike Frizin Peggy Cohen Steven and Shelley Galvin Dr. and Ms. Jeffrey Weber Don and Reva Levy Mary Permoda Rabbi Jennifer Marc Schuman Greater Phoenix Jewish Film Festival

Thank you Rabbi Linder for the Friday night birthday honor

From Scott Tucker

Endowment Fund A contribution was made by

Doris Perlmutter

General Fund In memory of Herbert “Bud” Lipner

From The Lipner Family In memory of Rhoda Kern

From Randall Amendola In memory of Gregg Alpert

From Judy Alpert In honor of Jean and Dean Scheinert

From Susan Berk A contribution was made by

Maria Houle In memory of Dr. Louis Klein

From Neal and Barbara Klein From Sandra Mozenter

In memory of Gary Mozenter In memory of Esther Clement In memory of Rosalie Fox

A contribution was made by Michael Kowitz

In memory of Myn Becker From Judy and Herb Gold

In memory of Stephen Rigberg From Leon and Lynne Rigberg

In memory of Judith Shumaker From Joan and Sam Weissman

In memory of Dr. Glen Hait From Irv Cohen

From Stuart Phillips In memory of Laura Anne Phillips In memory of Aaron Phillips

From Linda Weiner In memory of Leopold Breen In memory of Lillian Breen

In memory of Robert Joseph From Fern and Larry Kane

From Stuart and Barbara Schwartz In memory of Rose and Louis Lipschitz In memory of Betty and Joseph Schwartz In memory of Norman Lipton

In memory of Lena Budd From Joan and Larry Pass

In memory of Edward Ross From Francine Schauer

Jane and Bob Podall Library Fund Thank you for the High Holiday Services

From Leslie Kane In memory of Earl M. Lustgarten MD

From Lesley and Marshall Lustgarten In honor of Leo Weber’s bar mitzvah

From Peter Pishko

Levine Youth Group Fund In memory of Batsheva Glaserman

From Stella Kowitz

MAZON Fund In appreciation of Temple Solel

From Diana and Chuck Love

Oneg Fund Sponsors In honor of Ava Bookspan’s bat mitzvah

From Neal and Jennifer Bookspan In honor of Austin Horowitz’s bar mitzvah

From Suzanne Sorof In honor of Richard Adelson’s bar mitzvah

From Barbara Jean & P. David Adelson Contributions A contribution was made by Devon Mogel

The Solel Preschool From Mary Ann and Pete Bloom

Thank you Adam Goldberg for being Jonah In memory of Arnold Brustin In honor of Peter Pishko

Donations received after October 9, 2018 will be printed in the

next issue of the Pathfinder.

Contributions (Cont’d)

N o v e m b e r 2 0 1 8 / C h e s h va n - K i s l e v 5 7 7 9 14 Yahrzeits

Kaddish will be recited on Erev Shabbat on the following dates:

Condolences We Mourn the Loss of:

Harold Leight – father of Charlie Leight Arnold Brustin – brother of Marcia Lang Micki Zatulove – wife of Paul Zatulove

Mathilda Baim John Ball Benjamin Bell Abraham Bodell Jennie Bonime Bessie Boyer Irma Buchsbaum Edwin Buturla Ruth Buturla Hyman Cohen Morris Epstein Stella Epstein

November 2, 2018 Arthur Nagel Duncan Owles Nettie Press Marjorie Rader Leon Rednor Arnold Rosen Julius Vogel Irene Weistrich Norman Woldman Jason Zaks Mark Zessar

Goldie Garrison Marilyn Glass Yetta Hammerman Tibbie Harris Joe Herszkorn Karl Kaufman Seymour Keller Moe Klein Harold Kohn Sol Megeff Fred Nachman Jr.

November 9, 2018

Richard Adelson Albert Apple Martin Berger Sylvia Blaivas Dovi Damari I. Allan Davis Sam Denmark Marsha Friedman Kiev Gitlin Elliott Golden Arno Hammerschlag Virginia Hansen

Madelyn Levitt Lise Mason Ben Miller Herbert Morris Alice Novak M. Martin Rom Esther Kaye Rowe Paul Schlemmer Max Simons Donna Sinuk Max Weisman Leon G Winkelman

Flora Hirsch Henry Hollander Fannie Holtz-Gibbons Carl Imerman Willis Jacobs Donald Jubinville Claire Kasden Morris Kort Harry Lazinsk Howard Levey Bessie Levinson

November 16, 2018

Samuel Bartick Iz Bernstein Yetta Birstein Regina Blumenthal Lena Brandwein Max Brustin John Charney Milo Chozen Renee Denmark Edward Fay Roslyn Feldberg Harry Gold Mollie Goldwasser Rose Grossman Katherine Hoffman Betty Klein

Ann Rednor Mollie Riffer Albert Rosen Ada Scherr Joseph Scult Anna Slavin Max Starkman Stanley Stein Jack Stillerman Arthur Traister Kay Tuber Salle Ugoretz Alvin Wayne Herbert Winograd Dexter Wolfson Max Zuckerman

Sophie Klein Ben Kogan Harry Lacks Evelyn Lasik Edward Lavine Jordan Lipsman Larry Lipsman Albert Lopatin Joseph Lurie Edythe Meilach Jacob Melcher Philip Morris Allan Neuman Celia Ochs Michael Posner John Ransom

November 23, 2018

Morrie Bauer Libby Bencoff Anna Bodker Edna Bookspan Ron Clayman Gayla Crossman Sol Deutsch Hannah Finkelstein Alta Finn Henry Fister Morris Forman Helen Frieden Hazel Garner Oscar Gerson Edward Goldstein

Donna Moore Shirley M. Nadel Milton Podolsky Jeanette Rosen Jayne Sanders Jessica Scherer Abraham Slavin Israel Slogoff James Solomont Ada Starkman Alvin Steinberg Harry Stone Jonathan Weinberger Victor Wilks

Tonda Gorton Betty Gould Dorothy Gould Lewis Gross Dr. Louis Hait Emery Hertz Patricia Kaplan Marc Kaplan Vic Kelly Mort Knazan Daniel Leff Alvin Lipson Lillian Mahler Leo Miller Louis Millman

November 30, 2018

Fred Benderoff Rose Benson Joseph Erwin Berman Richard Bernstein Lena Bofman Ronald Charney Theresa Cohen Susan Cohn Lillian Corson Mary Crossman Sam Engel Pauline Feldman Ruth Fields Louis Fish

Stanley Mintz Jacob Mishlove Harry Raznick Joe Rice Belle Robinson Milton Schultz Ann Shore Gerhardt Shumaker Louis Sokolinsky Rosalie Spiegel Robert Spiegel Jacob Meyer Swersky Harold Udelman Emil Zugravu

Gretl Frank Ellen Gold Danielle Goldberg Vivian Golombuski Nelson Gotlieb Max Hirsch Burton Isaacson Stanley Joseph Mortimer Keats Betty Klein Alger Klein Myrna Levine Diane Lishinsky Sam Litwin Annie Melcher

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Rabbi John A. Linder rabbilinder@templesolel.org x.122 Rabbi Rabbi Emily R. Langowitz rabbilangowitz@templesolel.org x.131 Assistant Rabbi Todd Herzog therzog@templesolel.org x.136 Cantorial Soloist Rabbi Maynard W. Bell Rabbi Emeritus

Administrative Staff

Peter Pishko ppishko@templesolel.org x.124 Executive Director

Tobee Waxenberg twaxenberg@templesolel.org x.123 Director of Raker Rel. School

Noni Clark hclark@templesolel.org x.125 Controller

Joan Giannini jgiannini@templesolel.org x.127 Mbshp. & Emp. Svcs. Manager

Edie Bradt ebradt@templesolel.org x.120 Office Manager

Jelena Santiago jsantiago@templesolel.org x.126 Executive Assistant

Mary Ann Bloom mabloom@templesolel.org x.162 Interim. Dir. of Early Childhood Ed.

Sonya Placencia splacencia@templesolel.org x.135 Preschool Billing & Office Asst.

Kathleen Manahan katmanahan@templesolel.org x.164 Education Assistant

Alberto Mena amena@templesolel.org x.129 Facility Manager

Vojo Stanisic vojo1953@yahoo.com x.129 Custodian

Executive Committee & Trustees

Bettina Chow .......................................................................................................... President Doreen Feldberg ............................................................................ Executive Vice President Lauren Brown .............................................................................. Vice President - Education Pamela Ornstein...................................................................... Vice President - Membership Stephen Slogoff ............................................................................ Vice President - Accounts Andy Abraham ......................................................... Vice President - Trustee Development Richard Lamden .................................................................... Vice President - Development Bobbi Moss ............................................................................................................ Secretary Phil Hawkes ............................................................................................................Treasurer

Shana Abrahams Judy Gold Howard Rosen Larry Cohen Rebecca Goldberg Tracy Schwimmer Larry Fink Rhea Kowitz Brian Weinberger Leon Gavartin Rae Rader TSTY: Benjamin Siamon

Gift Shop News

Return Policy The temple will cheerfully accept any

returns for store credit only. Thank You!

Our Gift Shop is one of the best-kept secrets in the valley. Come and see what we have to offer—items change with the Jewish holidays and seasons.

We have Bar and Bat Mitzvah presents, amazing tallitot from Israel at different price points, and much more.

Don’t forget baby gifts, wedding presents and even a beautiful mezzuzah. We also have jewelry to meet your every want and need and lovely hostess gifts.

The Gift Shop is open several times during the week. Please call the temple office at 480.991.7414 before you stop in so that we may be able to assist you.