ATTITUDE BUILDING

By

Dr. Seema Shah

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LEARNING ABOUT EACH OTHER

Who am I? This talk is based on Workshops and

sessions in STTPs, college,

Publication in conferences and journals

discussions with academicians

some experimentation.

Who are You? Background Qualification Experience Pre requisite

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BEFORE WE BEGIN……..

Agenda Importance of

Attitude Benefits of positive

attitude Consequences o

negative attitude Steps for building

positive attitude

You can at any time in the session: Interrupt Comment Share

Your expectations from the program?

ATTITUDE BUILDING\ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING.FLV

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Attitude is Everything.

IT IMPACTS

EVERYTHING

YOU DO.

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FOR ME, ATTITUDE CAN BE DEFINED AS ONE WORD…LIFE.

• It makes an incredible difference in your LIFE.

• It can be a powerful tool for positive action.

• It can be a poison that cripples you.

• It dictates whether you’re living life or life’s living you.

• It determines whether you’re…

ON THE WAY or IN THE WAY.

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WHAT IS ATTITUDE?

Attitude is a state of mind Your attitude is your mind-set It is the way you look at things mentally Attitudes are evaluative statements It expresses individuals positive or negative

feeling about the same object.

Can attitude be learnt? Is attitude contagious?

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How do you recognize attitude?

What are things in your control/ not in your control which affect your attitude?

Impact of negative attitude. Let us brainstorm and list some killer

statements which indicate negativity. How do you feel when you are on the receiving end?

Benefits of positive attitude.

Who controls your attitude?

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NEGATIVE ATTITUDE TRAITS

ANGRY NEGATIVE BODY LANGUAGE, DEFENSIVE, CONFRONTING OTHERS, WORDS THEY USE, CAN’T ADMIT MISTAKES, WON’T FORGIVE, JEALOUSY, CRITICAL OF EVERYTHING & EVERYONE, ANTI EVERYTHING, MISTRUSTFUL, UNCOOPERATIVE, PROBLEM ORIENTED, HOSTILE TO HAPPINESS

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IMPORTANT CHARACTERISTIC OF ATTITUDE

> Attitudes affect behaviour> Attitudes are invisible > Attitudes are acquired> Attitudes are pervasive> Attitudes & Belief> Attitudes & Values

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EGA

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BRAINSTORM ACTIVITY

I feel I have a ……………… attitude because …………….

I like being with people who have a ……………………. Attitude because …………………..

One thing I like about my friend is ……………………………………………………

If I could teach my friend one thing it would be …………………………………..

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“You can make yourself happy or make yourself miserable, the amount of work is the same.” – Don Juan

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Your attitude reflects YOU.

Focus on the POSITIVE.

Your Setbacks can be Setups for even greater opportunities.

Be committed to change!

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List some negative assumptions.

Transform them into positive assumptions.

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Your choices TODAY impact your successes TOMORROW.

Happiness is Your’s to create.

Build your attitude from the INSIDE out.

Watch what you say to yourself.

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“Ability is what you are capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” – Lou Holtz

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The BAGGAGE you carry shapes your attitude. “IF-only?”;

“What-now?”; “What-if?” The root causes of bad attitude are-Low Self Esteem, Stress, Fear,

Resentment, Anger.

Toss the BAGGAGE and lighten the load.

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Change your attitude with a change in PERSPECTIVE. Give

yourself permission to love and forgive.

See Failure as an Event.

Don’t Take it Personally.

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WORD SEARCH GAME

In groups, having following attitude: All positive All negative More positive, few negative More negative, few positive

Observers and participants will discuss the reactions and responses.

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“FAILURES” WHO MADE IT BIG...

• Harrison Ford was told early in his career by a studio exec that he’d never make it as a leading man...he didn’t have “it.”

• In high school, Michael Jordan was cut from the basketball team.

• Thomas Edison failed 6000 times before the light bulb.

• Charles Schwab was dyslexic and almost flunked out of Stanford after failing English twice.

• Vanessa Williams was de-crowned Miss. America and has become a an award-winning African-American actress.

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Every failure, obstacle or hardship is an opportunity in disguise. Success in many cases is failure turned inside out. Eliminate the negative attitude and believe you can do anything. Replace 'if I can, I hope, maybe' with 'I can, I will, I must.”

Mary Kay AshFounder of Mary Kay Cosmetics

empire

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HOW DO YOU RESPOND TO FAILURE?

I’m such an IDIOT! I’ll never try THAT again!

What can I learn from this

experience?

OR

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ACTIVITY

Positive sharing

How do you like some one praising/ appreciating you?

Could you also appreciate your friends?

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EIGHT ACTION STEPS TO BUILD POSITIVE ATTITUDE.

VIII. Start your day with a positive attitude.

I. Change focus, look for the positive.

II. Make it a habit of doing it now.

III. Develop an attitude of gratitude.

IV. Get into a continuous education programme.

V. Build a positive self-esteem.

VI. Stay away from negative influences.

VII. Learn to like the needs that need to be done.

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•Your attitude is YOUR responsibility… Start managing your emotions.

•Change your perspective.

•YOU determine the value of YOUR life experiences.

Life is 10% what happens to YOU and 90% how YOU respond

to it.

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You must have VISIONS, GOALS and PLANS to turn attitude into action.

Lack of VISION will make you lose.

Develop a complete GAME PLAN.

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BE PREPARED to take action BEFORE a situation occurs. Victory lies on the other

side of each challenge…

KEEP THE FAITH.

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Self-coach through AFFIRMATIONS.

I AM somebody. Yes, I CAN.

Visualize SUCCESS.

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•Count your blessings daily.

•Get proper rest and exercise.

•Set aside personal time with family and close

friends.

•Help someone less fortunate.

•Read and listen to motivational books and

tapes.

•Motivation is not permanent.

•Reflect on your victories – things you’ve

forgotten that were special.

•Create an upbeat, positive greeting.

Motivation…

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MIRROR ACTIVITY

1. Leaning forward in chair2. Leaning back in chair, arms folded3. Resting chin in both hands4. Resting chin on your knuckles5. Yawning6. Smiling7. Frowning8. Smiling and nodding9. Rubbing your temples10. Glancing at watch11. Looking around the room12. Tapping fingers on the table

Discuss your reactions.

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HANDOUT

How powerful is nonverbal communication? Do we all interpret nonverbal messages in the

same way? Why or why not? What is the “correct” interpretation?

What are some things we can keep in mind regarding the messages we send nonverbally?

What are some nonverbal signals we may use in times of conflict that adversely affect resolution?

What are some nonverbal signals that would indicate a willingness to work toward resolution and collaboration?

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Hang Around Positive People

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Build Your OWN “A – Team”

Network with like-minded individuals…shared values

are the foundation.

Use your Partnerships!

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Our tools will help YOU create

REAL SYNERGIES

REAL PARTNERSHIPS

REAL ATTITUDES!

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ACTIVITY

Write a positive happiness message for each of your friend in a group

What is your reaction when you get this happiness message?

Make a new friend.

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Embrace change…it’s inevitable.

Develop a “Whatever-It-Takes” attitude.

Take your time…change doesn’t happen overnight.

Keep your long-term goals in mind.

Brainstorm: What is the one thing you can change in yourself?

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No matter what you do in life, if you have a positive attitude, you’ll always be100%

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A = 1T = 20T = 20I = 9T = 20U = 21D = 4E = 5

ATTITUDE = 100

ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING!

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Make a difference in the life of someone else and be self-

fulfilled.

We can all find the time to GIVE BACK.

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UNLESS YOU ARE ON CONSTANT GUARD NEGATIVES CAN SLIP IN TO YOUR MIND WHICH MAKE YOUR MIND TIME SPEND ON DIFFICULTIES RATHER THAN ON OPPORTUNITIES

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IF NEGATIVE FACTORS STAY AROUND FOR A LONG TIME THEY WILL BE REFLECTED IN YOUR DISPOSITION THE POSITIVE MAY BE STILL THERE BUT MAY BE OVERSHADOWED BY THE NEGATIVE

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HAVING A (+) IMPACT ON (-) PEOPLE

BE A POSITIVE EXAMPLE

LISTEN BUT SET LIMITS

HELP THEM DIAGNOSE IT

FOCUS ON BEHAVIOR APPROPRIATE USE

OF PRAISE ENCOURAGE THEM HELP THEM SET

GOALS

DEPERSONALIZE MISTAKES

HELP THEM BE SUCCESSFUL

COACH OR MENTOR THEM

DIRECT TO PROBLEM SOLVING

USE “I” STATEMENTS APPEAL TO THEIR

PRIDE GIVE THEM MORE

RESPONSIBILITY

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AIDS TO COMMUNICATION

Listen Actively Relax Observe body language Develop interest in others interests Ask for clarification Plan what you are going to say

Tailor words to person Determine the best timing Determine the best place Why is the conversation necessary

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Which is the one single quote you can think of to convince your friend to become positive?

How do I create a positive environment around me? In what ways can I make my friends feel positive?

What is the best gift I can give my parents after completing my education?

What quotes can keep you going on the path to success by ensuring that you continue to be motivated and positive to achieve your goals?

What is the first step to achieve success?

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SUMMARY AND ACTION PLAN

What is the five important things that I have learnt today?

What are the two things I am going to do to change my attitude?

In what two ways can I help my friend to keep up a positive attitude?

THANK YOU

For your time

For participation in the session

For being a learner

For the work you do everyday!!!!!!!

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