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Assertiveness
Chapter 15
Q=on Quiz
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Assertiveness in Principle and Practice
• Assertiveness is a way of life that influences our interactions with others and our approach to dealing with problems/injustices that we perceive to be true ©.
• Grid-see pp. 192-193--Q
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Becoming Assertive
• Where do you fit?• To determine if you
are responding assertively in a particular situation, ask yourself if you are part of the problem, or the solution.
• If we are unable to manage our affect, we are more likely to behave passively or aggressively.
• If we are unable to manage our behavior, we are more likely to behave passively or aggressively.
• If we are unable to manage our cognitions, we are more likely to behave passively or aggressively.
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Changing Affect to become Assertive
• We need to identify and change the thoughts that underlie negative emotions.
• When negative emotions interfere with assertive behavior, we need to learn how to turn on positive emotions.
• Change techniques: relaxation, exercise, change techniques in chapter 9
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Changing Behavior to Become Assertive (Q)
• Change techniques from chapter 10, specifically behavior mod, and imagined rehearsal
• Use Assertive Communication—a method of speaking and listening that is respectful of oneself and others that keeps the lines of communication open.
• Three examples are:• I Messages—a clear and
specific statement of the problem from the speaker’s perspective with a suggested resolution—as opposed to the You Message that can turn into an argument.
• See Steps for I messages on pp. 195-6.
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Changing Behavior to Become Assertive (Q)
• Example 2—Active Listening
• When I Messages are reacted to aggressively by another, communication can end. Active listening is a way of dialoguing that attempts to understand and reflect another’s feelings and attitudes while staying in control.
• See steps and example on pp. 196-7
• Example 3—Verbal Defenses
• Sometimes our assertiveness is responded to negatively, so we need defense mechanisms to stay in control: broken record, content-to-process shift, assertive delay, assertive inquiry, clouding—p. 198
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Changing Cognition to Become Assertive
• We must have the skill to stop thoughts about ourselves, and others in order to change aggressive/passive situations.
• Visualizing positive outcomes of being assertive can help us act assertively.
• See change techniques in chapter 11.
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So, Why are People Aggressive?
• Aggressive behavior seems to work by intimidating others
• Aggression feels good temporarily.
• Aggression is promoted by society.
• Aggression is easier than assertiveness.
• Aggression allows us to be comfortable with our own prejudices.
• Aggression is motivated behavior.
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So, Why be Assertive? (Q)
• The societal price of aggression
• The personal price of aggression
• The payoffs of assertiveness
• Assertiveness is a choice
• Weigh the outcomes—see Arnie, p. 202