Assertive Behavior 2007830

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ASSERTIVENESS

A workshop for teachers

Lic. Mariana Porta


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WHY WOULD TEACHERS

NEED IT? The teaching profession requires

interaction at many levels.

Assertive behavior improves thequality and effectiveness of the

interaction.


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IN AND OUTSIDE THE

CLASSROOM CLASSROOM

CONTEXT

giving feedback keeping discipline

supporting your

choices setting expectations

INSTITUTIONALCONTEXT

teacher -- parent teacher -- student

teacher -- colleague

teacher -- supervisor teacher -- staff

member


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WHAT IS TRUE ABOUTASSERTIVENESS?

yes no

It is a personal quality.

It is a kind of behavior.

It is specific to a person

in a situation.It is a universalprinciple.

It is based on free will.

Mini Quiz


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DEFINTION 1

Assertiveness is a kind of behavior.

It is specific to a person in a situation.

It is based on free will.

It is socially effective.

It is culture-dependent.


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TASK 1

You are in a queue at the movie theater. Somebodycomes in and jumps the queue right in front of you.What do you choose to do?

Nothing. You just bear it. Vent comments out loud such as some people are

such/so . but you dont face the person.

Face the guy bluntly and furiously, after all who does hethink he is?

Approach the man and politely but firmly tell him that heshould take his turn at the end of the line.

Other


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ASSERTIVENESSDEFINITION 2

Assertiveness is defined asbehavior which enables people

to actin their own bestinterest by expressing theirthoughts, feelings, desires andopinions directly, honestlyand appropriately.


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ASSERTIVENESS

DEFINITION 3Assertiveness is standing

up for your rights whilerespecting the rights

of others.


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ADVANTAGES OF

BEHAVING ASSERTIVELY Respecting yourself and others

Developing healthy relationships

Giving others a chance to change theirbehavior

Feeling better about yourself

Preventing conflict

Defending basic human rights


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SOME BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS

1. The right to be treated with dignity and respect

2. The right to reject requests without feeling guilty

3. The right to experience and express feelings.

4. The right to stop and think before acting.

5. The right to change an opinion.

6. The right to ask for what you need.

7. The right to do less than you are able to do.

8. The right to be independent.9. The right to decide over your own body and

property.

10. The right not to behave assertively.


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RIGHTS

BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS

Rights all human beings have

RIGHTS GIVEN BY THE ROLE

Rights a person has as part of his/herrole attributions.


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BIDIRECTIONAL MODEL

ASSERTIVE AGGRESSIVE

PASSIVE PASSIVE

AGGRESSIVE

OVERT

EXPRESSION

COVERT

EXPRESSION

NO COERCION COERCION

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PASSIVE BEHAVIOR

Passiveness is having respect

for other's rights while havingno respect for your own.

Ex. denial, isolation


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AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR

Getting what you want with no

regard to the rights of others.

Ex. Verbal offense, threat,

hostile comments


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PASSIVE AGRESSIVE

It is having no respect for

anyone's rights.Ex. Sarcasm, malicious

comments, rumor,

manipulation, doublemessages.


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Task 2

Chart with alternative forms ofbehavior

Read

Classify examples.


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Why would someone not

be assertive? Cultural differences.

Positive reward to nonassertive

behavior.

Irrational Beliefs and IdeasRoadblocks or Myths

ABC Cognitive Model


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Spiders bite peopleSpiders can kill

Spiders are powerfulSpiders are quick

You never know when aspider can bite you.

This spider could comeafter me.

ABC MODELTHE B BEHIND BEHAVIOR (I)


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ABC Cognitive Model

A B C

stimulus mental process overt behavior

THE B BEHIND

BEHAVIOR (II)


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THE B BEHIND

BEHAVIOR (III)It may contain roadblocks to

assertive behavior:

I must avoid making questions orstatements that will make me look stupidor ignorant.

If I assert myself in any relationshipothers will get mad at me.

If I say I dont agree my supervisor willthink I am not being supportive


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Task 3.

Roadblocks to assertive behavior

Read these roadblocks to assertive

behavior and think of their assertivecounterpart.


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ASSERTIVE DISCIPLINE

IN THE CLASSROOM Dismiss the thought that there is any

acceptable reason for misbehavior .

Decide which rules you wish toimplement.

Determine negative consequences for

noncompliance. Determine positive consequences for

appropriate behavior.


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TEACHER TALK

"Tish, I like the way you raised yourhand before speaking.

Ana, please start putting your projectaway. It's been five minutes since Iasked you to clean up.

"I give up. If this group doesn't wantto listen, its your problem, not mine."


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Body language as related

to assertive behavior: 1. Eye contact and facial expression:

Maintain direct eye contact, appear

interested and alert, but not angry.

2. Posture: Stand or sit erect, possiblyleaning forward slightly.

3. Distance and contact: Stand or sitat a normal conversational distance fromthe other.


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Body language as related

to assertive behavior: 4. Gestures: Use relaxed,

conversational gestures.

5.Voice: Use a factual, not emotionaltone of voice. Sound determined andfull of conviction, but not overbearing.

6. Timing: Choose a time when bothparties are relaxed. A neutral site isbest.


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ETHICS: JUDGEMENT:

What is the right thing to do?

ASSERTIVNESS: BEHAVIOR

What is the assertive way of acting?

INTERPERSONAL SKILLS: CULTURE AND

COMMUNICATION

How will I communicate my ideas so that I am

understood?

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