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Joshiv is lauded by many as the best in the beauty industry thus has got her the title the God Mother of the Asian beauty industry.

Joshiv is an expert in the artistry of makeup, whether it is to subtly enhance a face or ccompletely transform it. Joshiv is a master of her craft, and her exceptional talent and passion have elevated her to the top of the hair & beauty industry in the UK. With her determination and entrepreneurial skill’s in 1986 Joshiv Beauty International was born.

JJoshiv does not take her successes for granted, Joshiv’s career path began in 1976 when she left school (in India). Arriving in the UK at the age of 20 with no family or any form of financial support she has not forgotten where she came from, applying for a job at Christian Dior @ John Lewis Brent Cross where she was immediately offered a poposition in cosmetics where she immediately began teaching herself on “Dior" on the main floor of John Lewis Ironically, it was those women that Joshiv" practiced" on, Joshiv then realised that there was a gap in the market with the Asian beauty industry, that validated her talent and enencouraged Joshiv to pursue a career in beauty beyond the cosmetic counter. With that enencouragement, Joshiv began to focus on a career as a freelance makeup artist working days at John Lewis and building her portfolio and by night at wedding parties doing mehndi where she got her break when she was approached by the Guinness Book for recorders and in 1998 went on to hold the title of “Worlds Fastest Henna Artist”

AAfter decades in the industry Joshiv has had the privilege of working with many of the film and music industry’s icons. Now Joshiv is in high demand in all aspects of her field including her work with the world's leading Asian beauty and fashion magazines. Joshiv’s work can also be seen in print advertising, music videos and ccommercials high end photo shoots including Munfrid Styles, Ranga Rang, Vikki Singh, Metz N Trix, Katrina Kaif to name a few.

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CONTENTS

ISSUE1

38

RUNWAY

PEOPLE

THE VOICE

YOUR BODY

LIFESTYLE

WHAT’S HAPPENING

HEARTS & MINDS

HIP LIST

UP TOWN

ANGLES & DEGREES

INSPECTOR GADGET

THE MAN

HOT SEAT

RELATIONSHIPS

RELATIONSHIPS

WHAT YOUR MOTHER NEVER TAUGHT YOU

Editor’s note

An intelligent and luxurious magazine has been carefully developed for you by us at Asian Lifestyle; we’ve added a little something to make you think, something to make

you laugh, something to inspire and to soothe you, something for your mind, body and soul.

This is the magazine for today and tomorrow, with thought provoking and intelligent editorials, which, we hope, will take you on a journey of health, beauty, and learning; all peppered with our distinctiveness, psychological slant and good humour.

Asian Lifestyle is insightful, practical and appropriate for the Asian Lifestyle of today. Our aim is to bridge the gap in current publications, with fresh and inspiring stories, relevant to you with a strong sense of cross over; after all, we can see ourselves as Asian, British Asian or British. Asian Lifestyle has something at each level, for each part of your identity.

The magazine features something for all tastes and interests. Introducing the latest in Fashion with Runway, Our ‘Film’ section covers both a bit of Bollywood and Hollywood, bringing you our very distinctive “Hinglish” view of cinema. Jewels of the Capital explores the decadent and eccentric bars and restaurants from around the world. The best and hottest global spots covered for the discerning traveller in our Travel section, we’ve made sure you have your fi nger on the pulse of all trends!

We provide you with those oh, so vital relationship tips and there’s something for the men too, with our ‘Man’ section. There are also our regular columns - ‘The Voice’ - expressing opinions about the issues that matter to you; and ‘Delve Deeper’ will give you an insight on a celebrity face.

Our dedicated and talented team have shed laughter and tears, blood and sweat to bring you the new wave in magazines.

Enjoy reading it as much as we have enjoyed bringing it to you.

Viraj YadavGroup Chief Editor

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EDITORIAL

Group Chief Editor Viraj Yadav Cultural Editor Umbreen Ali Features Editor Pia Khan Exclusive Guest Beauty Editor Shahnaz Husain Beauty Editor Sophie Ashraf Personal Assistant To Editorial Team Amanda Smith

LIFESTYLE EDITORIAL TEAM

Lifestyle Editor Joyeeta Basu Lifestyle Editor Nicholas Jones

MARKETING

UK Premier PR & Marketing

CONTRIBUTORS

Raja Dharam, Suborna Basu, Saad Zuberi, Sanober Irshad, Rishi Kainth, Dr Mareeni Raymond, Dr Nehas Ali, Dr Jacqui Grey, Laura Tait and Sharon Jutla

PRODUCTION

Head Of Design & Production Kanittha Mairaing Graphic Design Consultant Fazal Abbas & Fatima@Sheriffstudios Translator Norika KimuraHair Stylist Yumi MatsumuraPhotoshop Assistant Nasra Jama

FRONT COVER

Model Paolo Langella and Angelo Ruggieri Photography Michi ColorHair and make up Sophie Ashraf Front cover design by Alan Murray SALES & MEDIA

Head Of Sales & Business Development (North) Nadeem Khwaja Business Development & Sales Consultant Abs HussainMedia Consultant (North) Jay Mistry Sales Consultant (South) Adnan RaufInternational Business Manager Ramune Miniauskiene

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Lead Photographer Michi Nakao Consultant Photographer Sameer Sarwant

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SPECIAL THANKS

Jonathan King - The Grange Hotel LondonShahid Mahmood - Sports CorporationAndrea Galer – Exclusive Fashion DesignerNia Thomas - Aruna Seth ShoesRenu Sen – CelebrasiansFarrukh DhondySuhail HanifShiraz Mirza - Shiraz Mirza TrustJoshiv BeautyAlok Mathur – Soul Tree WinesOceanic Consulting (Scotland)Media MogulsBrit AsiaDubai Tourism BoardMohammed Muzafar - Star GarageRiff Haworth- RH Media IncNaseba (UAE)Cees Cuijpers - Town & Country (Thailand)Tamzin Poole – Adam Street Members ClubRay Power - Rodas CleaningDave King – Epping 195 clubRob - Metz & TrixBilly Blitz & PMG Anj & NajAnd Café Rouge (St Katherines Dock)

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LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO WAKE UP WITH REGRETS. SO LOVE THE PEOPLE WHO TREAT YOU RIGHT. FORGET ABOUT THE ONES WHO DON’T. BELIEVE EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. IF YOU GET A CHANCE, TAKE IT. IF IT CHANGES YOUR LIFE, LET IT. NOBODY SAID LIFE WOULD BE EASY, THEY JUST PROMISED IT

WOULD MOST LIKELY BE WORTH IT.

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EDITOR OF NEWSPAPERS LARGE AND SMALL AND

PRESIDENT OF NBC

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Asian Lifestyle Magazine International were invited to the bi-annual London Fashion Week Catwalk show ‘A La Mode’. Taking place in London, highlighting the fashion industry. ‘A La Mode’ showcases some of the most outstanding emerging and Independent designers to an audience of buyers, press, upscale consumers and other fashion professionals. Some of the Designers that were showing their latest collections: Malam, Cristina Cernei, Malgorzata Dudek, Anniss, Yu:I&Me, Nad Lynski, Luna Sky, Dina Said, Omar Mansoor, Alja Slemenšek, Bint Thani, Kaveke, Ghori by Azim Khan

ASIAN LIFESTYLE MAGAZINE - TOP DESIGNER CHOICES Omar MansoorReturning to London fashion week for his third consecutive season, Omar Mansoor has notifi ed the fashion world that he is not a force to be reckoned with. Designing beautiful dresses for ‘real women’ is where his passion lies. His delicately designed dresses have even been worn by royalty from the middle-east and supermodel Sophie Anderton. Yu:I&MeYu:I&Me is a newly launched label by CEO of fashion consulting company mottoel, Rami Joo and Independent designer, Yu:l Seo. With their combined years of experience, passion and knowledge of the industry they both joined forces to create the contemporary brand.

Bint ThaniDubai based fashion label ’Bint Thani’ is a fashion brand that combines the Haute Couture of Paris with the trendy style of the high street. Brand Owner Khulood Althani is the fi rst UAE national to have graduated with a Masters degree in Fashion Management and Marketing at the prestigious ESMOD Paris. Ghori by Azim KhanMoving from his hometown of Karachi to London led Azim Khan to launch his fashion label entitled Ghori. Ghori is an innovative womans wear label, creating utterly attractive and sexy looking clothes that give women a positive attitude to feel and look beautiful in their femininity. Azim most recently showcased his creations at Brighton Fashion Week and the fabulous J Summer Fashion Show.

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is a fashion brand that combines the Haute Couture of Paris with the trendy style of the high street. Brand Owner Khulood Althani is the fi rst UAE national to have graduated with a Masters degree in Fashion Management and Marketing at the prestigious ESMOD Paris.

Ghori by Azim KhanMoving from his hometown of Karachi to London led Azim Khan to launch his fashion label entitled Ghori. Ghori is an innovative womans wear label, creating utterly attractive and sexy looking clothes that give women a positive attitude to feel and look beautiful in their femininity. Azim most recently showcased his creations at Brighton Fashion Week and the fabulous J Summer Fashion Show.

ASIAN LIFESTYLE MAGAZINE - TOP DESIGNER CHOICES

Omar MansoorReturning to London fashion week for his third consecutive season, Omar Mansoor has notifi ed the fashion world that he is not a force to be reckoned with. Designing beautiful dresses for ‘real women’ is where his passion lies. His delicately designed dresses have even been worn by royalty from the middle-east and supermodel Sophie Anderton.

Yu:I&MeYu:I&Me is a newly launched label by CEO of fashion consulting company mottoel, Rami Joo and Independent designer, Yu:l Seo. With their combined years of experience, passion and knowledge of the industry they both joined

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ASIAN CUP POLO MATCH 2011 BETWEEN INDIA & ENGLAND, HELD AT HER MAJESTY THE QUEEN’S PRIVATE GROUNDS; GUARDS POLO CLUB.

Asian Lifestyle Magazine were the offi cial sponsors at the event, which was attended by VIP’s from India & UK


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THE BRIT ASIA MUSIC AWARDS 2011

This Year 2011 saw the Brit Asia Music Awards take the HMV Apollo by storm, showcasing a glittering awards ceremony complimented by some of the most striking, grand performances witnessed on stage to-date. The stage was set, the cameras were rolling and the rows were fi lled by masses of applauding public from across the UK. Hosted by Hardeep Kohli, the Brit Asia Music Awards has marked a turning-point for British Asian music by raising the bar of quality and eminence held by our industry.

This Year 2011 saw the Brit Asia Music Awards take the HMV Apollo by


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...Have we evolved into narcissistic, fi nger tapping individuals, more concerned with our Facebook image than other facets of our lives?

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Can you remember the pre Facebook era? The epoch that existed prior to the Facebook domination was clearly marked a primitive level of communication in our age. There is a clear cleavage within the followers. Facebook is either the most effi cient form of maintaining social relations or the bane of our existence! The former being those whose sole manner of communication is via this network, the latter being the disparate group who feel we are living in a tragic era where cyber interaction takes precedence over good old fashioned face to face dialogue, those who make a concerted effort to avoid the social forums. Writing messages to our friends on their walls hardly denotes soul enlightening conversation! I myself am confused as to which fraternity I belong to. At times I tire of it, at times my curiosity is roused as to what others are doing. Yet will I reveal my own activities. No! Is this unfair Facebook etiquette? Perhaps. I wonder, since the

advent of Facebook culture (or epidemic depending on which school of thought you follow), have we evolved into Narcissistic fi nger tapping individuals, more concerned with our Facebook image than other facets of our lives?

And when discussing Facebook etiquette, cyber fl irting is a topic that must be given due mention. My friends and I discuss with much amusement the random men that send friend requests

and amorous messages, hopeful for a response which for the sender will induce a titillating exchange of words. These strange desperate types (-does that sound a tad superior?!) use Facebook to be able to disappear into reclusive anonymity thus

liberating the salacious side of their nature. The initial complimentary message, on account of our profi le pictures, we can be assured has been sent out to a multitude of women. Girls, you haven’t been singled

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out. Still fl attering? No! A friend, Naheed, had received such a request from a gentleman, (-I use the word ‘gentleman’ in a highly paradoxical manner), and subsequently by investigating his wall she discovered all 75 of his friends names were in fact Naheed. Strange? Very. Freakish? Yes! Amusing? Oh yes! Although we may evince distaste towards such advances we will always question the appeal of our profi le picture if time passes without receiving such a request. Are we ever happy??

Facebook gives us the unique freedom to embellish upon our traits and credentials, allowing one to create for themselves the type of profi le we wish we had in our three dimensional lives! Is it bordering on fi ctional? Furthermore, so many discrepancies are created through online dialogue. Tones mistaken, choice of words questioned, the confusion is endless! For example, my status updates, when I can be bothered to do them, unintentionally sound like Bridget Jones laced with peremptory satire. This most defi nitely does not adequately refl ect my calm and demure demeanour!

Too many ensuing social politics have emerged in our lives due to the advent of Facebook through our own insecurities and mental complexities. For example, why accept me as a friend to only subsequently block me from your wall? Should I be gracious that you magnanimously

accepted me as your friend or should I be injured at the fact that I can see nothing about your life?! Perhaps I am being overly dissecting the issue, but does that not defeat the whole purpose of this exercise? What does Facebook etiquette dictate for this situation? Do I remove myself as your friend and put us both out of our misery, or should I feign oblivion to your hindrance? Yet having highlighted the side effects of this, we cannot deny our surprise when someone admits

to not being on Facebook! Aside from widening eyes from bewilderment we internally question their technological abilities and their general savoir-faire! I myself would inadvertently compare them to my seven year old son who is well able to set up his own profi le on various games

websites and wonder if I should offer to send him over to teach a lesson in basic computer skills!

Facebook, without a doubt, has become a part of our daily lives. We turn on the laptop, we check our emails and then Facebook, and then move onto the other items on our to-do list. Yet the magic of creation has simultaneously given birth to an arena of social contention. What is it about Facebook that simultaneously induces enjoyment and anxiety.in our already over complicated, hectic and highly stressful lives. Even my therapist expressed a cause for concern about Facebook affecting relationships when my ex added all my male cousins to his friend list, men he had never met before! Not appropriate Facebook conduct in my estimation. Furthermore, I defy you to claim you have never asked the following questions: Why have I been removed from someone’s friend list? Why haven’t I been accepted as a friend yet? Why is someone’s wall blocked from me? Why can’t I see their photos? These social insensitivities spoil all the fun that Facebook is essentially all about. Which leads me to ask the peremptory question, has Facebook redefi ned the art of socialising?

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Your Body

vette Shaw’s portfolio of success has been

accomplished by her achievements as an International Lifestyle, Fitness and Nutrition Specialist.

For nearly two decades, Yvette has coached individuals and organisations on integrating fitness with nutrition. In doing so, encompassing healthy eating, routine exercise and positive behaviour change has enabled Yvette’s clients to become their own personal engineers of life.

I could not take my eyes of Yvette’s lean, sculptured physique which is an epitome of the product she offers. She believes that whilst ‘getting older is inevitable, feeling older is optional’.

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Her passion and desire to promote a life of balance has led her to work alongside international athletes and entertainers such as Derek Evans, the UK’s Breakfast Television fitness Guru, better known as ‘Mr Motivator’, and other television personalities in the sports and entertainment industry.

A women of character for sure, the mother of a son with multiple special

needs (low functioning autism, complex learning difficulties, severe challenging behaviour, epilepsy and speech disorder), her vision and unique initiatives have enabled her to break down numerous ‘negative barriers’ which adversely affect others with psychological , sociological and physical challenges. As a true Gladiator, Yvette continues to provide insights for achieving positive lifestyle changes that encourage self-liberation for all.The seeds were sowed in my head and made me question if I was “in Denial”?

I had a few thoughts of my own. It wasn’t like listening to a personal trainer or a motivational speaker; in fact it was a combination of both and more. I could relate, things made sense,

and I understood the difference in “Needs and Wants”.

She asked me if I really wanted to lose weight, tone up, get healthier and fitter.

Naturally, I would have been a fool if I said No! The answer was yes for sure. Then Yvette put forth a challenge. A 90–Day Challenge introducing a healthy balanced diet in association with her ViSalus Body by Vi™ products, exercise regime and lifestyle change.

It is true, many of us are looking for a microwavable instant solution for an easy way to lose those pounds and get into shape! On-off fad diets often leave us bored, hungry and miserable as we battle to maintain any weight that has been lost. In addition, the many exercise videos that were purchased way back when, now lay somewhere as a distant memory, as we procrastinate with making the decision to start an exercise program… yet again!

I’ve never considered that, “muscles are made in the kitchen as much as they are in the gym”.

Considering, I have always struggled with my weight, to the extent I have days I feel fatter and days I feel slimmer – it does raise the question, “is it all in my head”? This made me consider, am I in “denial”?

I have taken up the challenge, with Yves support, nutritional advice and exercise regime, so watch this space. I will be sharing my diary, trials and tribulations, my battle with wants and needs, temptations and my tears in the next edition. So no more denial, only change, goodbye to photoshop!

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hour I usually take in the shower. The downside is that sleeping on wet hair means waking up looking like the 6th member of the Jackson 5. Thankfully my trusty GHD comes to my rescue.

8:30 am

After spending what feels like an eternity taming the beast of a mane I have gracing my head, I dress in the dark (which explains the mismatching socks I notice later in the day), down a cup of tea and run out of the door. Looks like another day of having breakfast at my desk.

8:45 am

I arrive sopping at Clapham Junction station all ready with Oyster card in hand – I assume the name implies that the world is my Oyster (card). There was really no need to battle with my hair this morning because a combination of gale-force winds and torrential rain has meant that I have returned to looking like Diana Ross - alas, I have learnt the hard way that only Diana Ross can pull off that hairstyle. I do have an umbrella but I am the fi rst to admit that it’s not of the best quality (£3 from Primark, or as I like to call them, Primani) so I prefer to get drenched rather than take shelter under an umbrella that goes inside out all too often.

8:50 am

Not to worry, it’s not all doom and gloom in my story: I make it on the platform just in time to get onto a train to Victoria. Of course I’m meant to be at work for 9 but, as far as I am aware, teleportation is not a service that Transport for London provides just yet.

Amid all the armpits and bodies squashed against each other in an over-full carriage, I fi nd kindred spirits: judging by

THE RAT RACE

by Suborna Basu

MONDAY MORNING

7:00 am

I can hear an annoying buzzing sound in the distance somewhere. I am also watching my boss wrangled in a wrestling match with a unicorn. Something tells me that I am in a dream. One thing’s for sure, the inventor of the snooze button should be sainted. That grating buzzing sound has stopped so I can return to the world of battling unicorns in peace.

7:45 am

I fi nally wake up – I can’t remember the dream exactly but I get the feeling that it was odd. Also, my alarm clock is on the fl oor. How did it get there? I swear those elves have been at it again. The neon display on the clock says 7:45 AM. 7:45 AM?! B*****ks. I’m late. Again.

7:50 am

One saving grace is that I showered the night before so already I can save that whole


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LUCKILY I HAVE LONG FOUND A FUNCTIONING ANTIDOTE TO THE MONDAY FEELING: REGULAR CIGARETTE BREAKS

everyone else’s expressions it looks like they have had just as miserable a morning as I have. You also have to love the complete absence of spatial awareness AND GENERAL DECORUM in the mornings: toes get stepped on, there are several elbows to ribs and there will always be someone launching themselves into the tiniest area possible just as the train doors close, AS WELL AS THE CUSTOMARY ODOURS THAT ARE INESCAPABLE HOW LONG CAN ONE HOLD THEIR BREATH ALL WHILST MAINTAINING A FAÇADE OF OBLIVION?

I withdraw into my own thoughts contemplating on what the day has in store for me; mainly because I didn’t manage to get a free newspaper on my way to the station, and there’s only so many times you can read the advertising boards in trains. As I listen to the Dirty Dancing soundtrack on my iPod, I can already visualise the hours I will be spending at my desk in front of a computer screen surrounded by empty cups of teas and coffees and maybe the occasional doughnut. I WONDER IF MY LATEST OFFICE CRUSH WILL GRACE ME WITH HIS 6FT TALL PRESENCE. I then also remember the meeting I have at 9:30am for which I am wholly unprepared. B*****ks.

9:05 am

On the other side, I replace my semi-retired umbrella with a cigarette and brave the rain. I say a small prayer as I skip over puddles in my flattering trainers while I pass others doing the same in stilettos. I try to skip past a Krispy Kreme Donuts vendor – fail. Correction: it will

be another healthy breakfast at my desk. Of course no doughnut breakfast is complete without a caffeine fix so there’s a pit-stop at Starbucks as well.

9:20 am

Breeze into the office with the obligatory apologies and blaming of public transport before settling at my desk. 40 emails already? Looks like other people do not

have the same ‘transport issues’ as me. I also have a look at my calendar and remind myself of the 9:30am

meeting (for which I now officially have 10 minutes to prepare) as well. I psych myself into full blag mode. Switch to serious work shoes as well which hopefully should get other people to take me seriously too. Oh, and healthy doughnut #1 to complete my preparation.

9:30 am

The meeting itself was a bit of a blur, but I do sometimes impress

myself with how I have turned blagging into an art-form. You

could call me the Monet of blag. The Van Gogh of blag if you prefer. There were

facts, there were figures, there was dramatic gesturing, some actual tears and I think I even

quoted Martin Luther-King’s “I have a dream” at some point. All in all it was a successful meeting and the shoes played their part beautifully.

11:00 am

I get back to my desk. 63 emails? Okay, I steel myself for furious email-typing with a few games of Solitaire and a congratulatory doughnut #2. The problem with pretending to know what I am

talking about is that people actually ask me about things and expect a sensible response. An example of one of the pearls of wisdom I imparted is:

Colleague: For some reason I can’t see the spreadsheet you sent to me last week.Me: Have you switched on your computer screen?Colleague: Oh

Luckily I have long found a functioning antidote to the Monday feeling: regular cigarette breaks with a colleague who also indulges in my bad habit.

11:30 am

In our smoking area – which consists of two broken chairs, a bin filled to the brim with last week’s cigarette butts and a plastic sunflower with sunglasses – we regale tales of our weekends. I tell her of falling on my arse after twelve too many sambuca shots and she tells me of a quiet weekend indoors snuggled on the sofa with a few DVDs and a bottle of wine. I should highlight here that she recently got married. Secretly we are both slightly envious of one another: she envies my hangover from hell on Sunday mornings, and I envy her settled Sunday morning routine of newspapers and croissants in bed.

11:45 am

On returning to my desk I get a call from my manager summoning me to his office. Well, his words are, “a quick chat” but I know better. I am sure he’s finally cottoned on to my Solitaire-addiction. Queue ominous drum roll to the beat of my dragging feet.


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Me: Erm… you called?Big boss: Ah yes. Take a seat. Oh, and close the door behind you.[Sound of door closing and heart thumping]Big boss: You’re probably wondering why I’ve called you in.Me: I am a little curious.Big boss: I just wanted to let you know that… I’m leaving. I just feel like I’m ready for a new challenge. I will miss this place though. Without giving away too much about my age, I have been here for 15 years. Me: That’s a shame. You will definitely be missed here.Big boss: Thanks. Now, why I called you in here is to discuss the fact that they will not be replacing me here but instead

split the team up. This may mean added responsibilities for all of you. Also you will be managed by X. [Sound of me

gulping a bit too loudly.] I know she can be a bit of a handful but don’t worry, I know you can handle her. Anyway I was hoping we, as a team, could all go out tonight, to show you all my appreciation of the hard work you have put in the last year.Me: Sounds like a great idea. Count me in.

B*****ks. That means I will need to finish everything on my to-do list and respond to all my emails by 5pm even though I waltzed in late today. Lunch at my desk it is again.

12:15 pm

After a satisfying tray of Tesco’s processed sushi and healthy-eating reward doughnut #3, I commence my furious bout of email-responding: Yes, I can deliver that report by the end of the week.

No, I cannot pick up a Quarter-Pounder meal from McDonalds

when I get lunch tomorrow, even if you do have a voucher for the both of us (a McDs meal after my doughnut-intake today would not be wise).

Yes, I can come in on Saturday to help with the department’s move to a new building.

No, I cannot come in on Sunday - best friend’s birthday party is scheduled for Saturday night and recovery time is scheduled for Sunday.

5:00 pm

(After 2 more healthy doughnuts and 6 cigarettes) As soon as 5pm arrives a head comes around the door; my fellow team member asks me if I am ready to “partay” on the boss’s credit card. There’s only one answer to that. With my ‘tousled’ hair and make-up that I applied this morning running halfway down my face. I do not feel particularly in the ‘partay’ spirit. However, a pitcher of Long Island Iced Tea on an empty stomach solves that (SHE STATED SHE HAD 2 MORE DONUTS ALREADY, THERFORE STOMACH IS MOST DEFINITELY NOT EMPTY!!)- for some reason I wasn’t worrying about my hair or much else any more.

5:30 pm

to erm… not entirely sure… We start with the unavoidable work talk at first: who’s got what projects on their plates and which deadlines to meet. Then as the evening progresses (and the booze continues to flow) the conversation takes an interesting turn: who’s sleeping with whom, who the butt belonged to that ended up on the photocopying machine and who’s the office kleptomaniac. IT APPEARS MY OWN LITTLE OFFICE INDISCRETION IS STILL VERY MUCH A CLANDESTINE AFFAIR. Before I know it, I am divulging to my

boss about how my parents messed me up as a child and way too much about my sex life, OUTSIDE THE OFFICE THAT IS. It’s time to stumble home.

11:30 pm

As I get onto the Northern Line to make my way to Waterloo and then somehow try to get onto the right train for Clapham Junction, I realise for the second time today that my fellow commuters share my plight: bleary-eyed from ill-advised work drinks on a school night and now making their way home a little worse for wear. Even in my drunken stupor I realise that I’m not alone...

12:15 am

…that is until I fall asleep on the tube and end up at Morden station at the very end of the Northern Line. B*****ks. Here’s some local information to add to the Lonely Planet’s guide to South London: Morden station can be a creepy place on a Monday night nearing midnight. Taxi it is, via KFC’s lesser known compatriot, PFC, of course.

1:30 am

As I get into bed (forgetting to set my alarm for the morning) I reminisce over the day I have had. All in all I have to admit it’s been pretty successful. More of the same tomorrow.

Ah, now back to the unicorns…

IT APPEARS MY OWN LITTLE OFFICE INDISCRETION IS STILL VERY MUCH A CLANDESTINE AFFAIR


Feature Article

s the age old secret finally out, have men actually cracked what women want?

It is no longer “Me Tarzan, you Jane”. But rather women want to feel safe, they want to be cherished, they want a man who isn’t afraid of being vulnerable.

What once may have been seen as a little effeminate, has now become the entire craze.

This is where dance comes in!

Thanks to many prime time shows, the skill, stamina and strength needed to dance appears to have replaced some misconceptions. Dancers with their agile bodies and delicacy of movement are much more desirable than a football player, beating his chest in celebration.

Women love a man who can dance. It’s attractive, shows confidence and self-assurance. Most women love to dance themselves and desire a bit of romance. How romantic is it to

be held firmly in someone’s arms whilst being lead, no conversation is needed and the chemicals in the brain are racing. The lyrical Waltz or the passionate Tango – all expressions of the complicated

mating ritual men and women engage in.

Once a woman has been captured in the magic of dance and has flowed in a man’s arms there’s surely no going back. Not only is dance magical, it also gives women an indication of the man. (After all a man who appreciates the arts is always a tick on any checklist). A man willing to dance is confident in his own body and aware of his own masculinity.

Sincerity can be assessed during the dance; women can assess whether a man is shy, confident, uninhibited, passive or aggressive, purely through his movement and interactions. It’s a strong man who can lead his partner confidently across a dance floor.

Plus, it’s no wives tale, the connection between a man who can dance and sex is not just a myth, it’s a fact! It’s all in the rhythm!

Courting a woman through dance is an age old human practice; the caveman did it, the tribal warrior and the Victorian gentleman.

It seems men have come to realise the aphrodisiac quality dancing has on women; the proof is in the pudding, with an increase in men taking up dance.

Read the full article in the next edition.

In the meantime if you fancy a

bit of Salsa, Tango or Ballroom, Dance of Life Studio have kindly offered a limited number of one to one introductory dance lessons. Contact Dance of Life Studio and mention this article.

Website www.danceoflifestudio.com

Enjoy your new pass time, but be warned you may be addicted.

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HOW ROMANTIC IS IT TO BE HELD FIRMLY IN SOMEONE’S ARMS WHILST BEING LEAD, NO CONVERSATION IS NEEDED AND THE CHEMICALS IN THE BRAIN ARE RACING. THE LYRICAL WALTZ OR THE PASSIONATE TANGO

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THE FEMALE APHRODISIAC – WHAT WOMEN WANT?

by VY


What’s Happening

It’s the summer of the sequel or prequel, with Hollywood churning out 27 franchised fi lms over the course of four months; the fi rst wave included “XMen: First Class” and “The Hangover Part II”, it will undoubtedly end some time in early autumn with the last pained breaths of the newest instalment of “The Twilight Saga”. The words “I’ll be back” sound far more ominous now than they ever did before!

So, why has Hollywood gone all postmodern on its audience? Well, like everything else these days, let’s blame the economy. The fi lm business is, after all, a business - arguably, the most lucrative in the world - and when money is tight only the very brave or the very foolish want to take a risk; the Hollywood big-wigs have yet to be accused of being either!

In the worldwide top ten grossing fi lms of all time, six are sequels. Franchises are safe, there’s a staple audience of over-excited twelve year olds for them. If a fi lm does well enough to spawn a sequel - no matter how bad the second coming - the loyal audience of the original will go and see it, at least once. Costs recovered, a big woo

hoo for Mr Big-wig Studio Man! Case in point, “The Matrix”, brilliant fi lm but did we REALLY need two more? Don’t even get me started on “Meet the Parents”! The point is, a sequel, prequel or the recent disease, a reboot, no matter how pointless (see what I did there?!), is a sure thing - there’s an established fan base willing to shell out the price of a cinema ticket, the much feared death by lack of audience is avoided. It makes good business sense. Take the Harry Potter franchise, the most successful in the world (yes, more than the 22 Bonds all you doubters), the eight fi lms have earned an approximate £7 billion globally, and the fi nal instalment hasn’t even fi nished selling yet; each fi lm in its own right is a big hit but the eight together are a phenomenon, that’s why the studio felt safe to divide the last book into two fi lms because they knew the fans would come. The same is true for “Breaking Dawn” the fi nal chapter of “The Twilight Saga”, part 1 this year, part 2 next year.

At least, Harry Potter and Twilight spawn sequels with integrity and follow the demands of a preset story, but what about the “Fast and Furious”

NO MATTER HOW BAD THE SECOND COMING - THE LOYAL AUDIENCE OF THE ORIGINAL WILL GO AND SEE IT, AT LEAST ONCE.

hoo for Mr Big-wig Studio Man! Case in

we REALLY need two more? Don’t even get me started on “Meet the Parents”! The

Top page:a scene from X-Men: First Class

Left:poster lists from left to right: X-Men: First Class, The Hobbit, Happy Feet Two

I’ll BE BACKAGAIN & AGAIN & AGAIN

It’s a Sequel Season!

by Pia Khan


franchise, which is what, fi ve fi lms old now; “Fast & Furious”, “2Fast & 2Furious”, “Fast & Furious: Tokyo Drift”, “The Fast and the Furious”, “Fast 5”, what’s next Even Faster & Highly Furious?! We’ll fi nd out as no. 6 is due for release summer 2013!

Sequels, prequels, and reboots are not necessarily the devil’s work; sometimes they are better than the original. Christopher Nolan’s Batman reboot being a prime example, as is perhaps more controversially,

JJ Abrams’ 2009 revisioning of “Star Trek”. Some stories are just longer than others or some characters too compelling to not revisit. “Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Man’s Chest” did much better at the box offi ce

than the original, indeed in the global top ten grossing fi lms of all time, 3 out of the 6 sequels present belong to the Pirates franchise (and there you were thinking they weren’t really THAT good!), Johnny Depp’s Captain Sparrow is so compelling that he was paid $45 million for the fourth outing. This summer does see the highest

number of fourth sequels, with fi lms such as the already mentioned “Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides”, “Mission: Impossible - Ghost Protocol”

and “Spy Kids 4: All the Time in the World”, being released.

The problem becomes one of choice, the audience starts getting a feeling of déjà vu when on a diet of more of the same, for instance, who, except perhaps diehard fans, can differentiate between the 5 or so “Final Destination” movies? (Diehard? Gettit?) And how many “Saws” was it at last count? As sequels, prequels, reboots fi nd success at the box offi ce it gets harder and harder for upcoming writers/directors to get an original script fi nanced

in Hollywood. It’s not that sequels aren’t

good fi lms, mostly they are or at least, can be but when they become endemic it means that Hollywood invariably looses a signifi cant, if quieter, contingent of its audience, namely older adults who care less about special effects and more about storylines; quiet, intelligent fi lms don’t tend to have sequels. Maybe those people should only visit the cinema autumn through to spring – i.e. awards season.

The sequel is not a new concept in Hollywood, after all there were 16 Andy Hardy fi lms starring Mickey Rooney produced by MGM from 1937 to 1958, and there is no end it; already slated for release in summer 2012 are the Spiderman and Superman reboots, and the third instalments of “Madagascar” and “Men in Black”. One can understand the dilemma the studio executives are facing; thus far in 2011, 8 out of the 10 top ten grossing fi lms have been sequels, the other two, animation and superhero! Sequels, prequels, reboots make money, though fi lm critics may be complaining, the audiences are still going to the cinemas to watch “Cars 2” and “Transformers: Dark of the Moon”, the studios are giving the people what they want or perhaps it’s a case of the people wanting what they are given. The point is in this is time of fi nancial crisis the Hollywood machine is whirring away, making money and if it’s at the cost of originality and/or creativity, well, we can always look to Bollywood for that! Hold on, wasn’t the second biggest Bollywood hit of last year a “Golmaal 3”?! OH DEAR GOD.

JJ Abrams’ 2009 revisioning of “Star Trek”. Some stories are just longer than

the Caribbean: Dead Man’s Chest” did much better at the box offi ce

than the original, indeed in the global top ten grossing fi lms of all time, 3 out of the 6 sequels present belong to the Pirates franchise (and there you were thinking they weren’t really THAT good!), Johnny Depp’s Captain Sparrow is so compelling that he was paid $45 million for the fourth outing. This summer does see the highest

number of fourth sequels, with fi lms such as the already mentioned “Pirates of the Caribbean: On Stranger Tides”, “Mission: Impossible - Ghost Protocol”

and “Spy Kids 4: All the Time in the and “Spy Kids 4: All the Time in the World”, being released.

The problem becomes one of choice, the audience starts getting a feeling of déjà vu when on a diet of more of the same, for instance, who, except perhaps diehard fans, can differentiate between the 5 or so “Final Destination” movies? (Diehard? Gettit?) And how many “Saws” was it at last count? As sequels, prequels, reboots fi nd success at the box offi ce it gets harder and harder for upcoming writers/directors to get an original script fi nanced

and “Spy Kids 4: All the Time in the World”, being released.

The problem becomes one of choice, the audience starts getting a feeling

Furious: Tokyo Drift”, “The Fast and the Furious”, good fi lms, mostly they

1. Mission Impossible - Ghost Protocol

2. Johnny English Reborn

3. The Thing

4. Footloose

5. Happy Feet 2

1. Mission Impossible - Ghost Protocol

MY TOP 5 PICKS OF THE 27 FORAT LEAST LOOKING INTERESTING:

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Top page:poster lists from left to right: Rise of the Planet of the Apes, Mission Impossible: Ghost Protocol,The Hang Over part 2


Hearts & Minds

Tomoyasu Hotei and Koji Kikkawa left an influential footstep in the Japanese rock scene. 21 years after remaining out of the public eye, they decided to go back on the stage at Tokyo Dome, to perform “Japan as a whole heart” The reason being to support the affected areas by the Eastern Japan earthquake on 11th March 2011.

by Asian Lifestyle Magazine Team

JAPAN AS A WHOLE HEART


Hearts & Minds

here was a piece posted by a calligrapher, Ms Sisyu on her own website on 20th March, after the earthquake, ‘Japan should achieve its full recovery by uniting the heart of as many people as possible’. These legends of rock were going to awaken the public to be the power of Japan.

“Japan as a whole” was performed over two days at Tokyo Dome and attracted approximately 100,000 people.

Hotei and Kikkawa walked out from both sides of the stage, they firmly shook hands at the centre of the stage and at that moment there was a whirl of emotion and feverish excitement.

Twenty one songs were performed, their last performance was 8th November 1990, 21 years later, and they were back. The crucial difference between the ’90s show and this performance was the thinking behind it, to raise money for this cause.

Kikkawa spoke to the audience ‘Good evening, we are COMPLEX. Thank you very much for coming to join our concert by agreeing to support the Eastern Japan earthquake recovery charity. Under the flag of Japan as a whole nation, we now congregate all together to be a comrade who has the same aim. Every one of us are comrades, let’s enjoy singing and dancing together! Thank you!’

Hotei was playing with dapper steps. Kikkawa performed his legendary cymbal kick. The two images that stuck out were, one of a dancing guitarist and one of a jumping vocalist. It was such a picturesque setting. The sense of unity was touching. Both of them used the phrase ‘I sing and I play’. So there was a scene where Kikkawa was playing

the guitar and Hotei sang. The audience were singing when the song ‘Do not stop loving’ was performed. The last part of the lyrics from the ‘1990’ version were changed to ‘Go forward without looking back’. The last encore was ‘AFTER THE RAIN’ and the profound voices of Hotei and Kikkawa really bought out the message of the song, hope and love.

The concert clearly demonstrated what emerges when love, courage and wisdom are assembled, anything is possible.

TOMOYASU HOTEI VISIT TO THE DEVASTATED AREA “It was my first visit to the area after the earthquake and my knowledge was as far as what the media had projected. And what I was witnessed was far worse than I could have imagined”

One month after the earthquake, the wreckages should have been divided into certain categories. But the site was literally ‘A lost world’. The Tsunami had destroyed such a rich and peaceful environment. Countless beautiful memories were destroyed by the natural force beyond anyone’s imagination, far beyond human comprehension. Anguished pain and uncertainty was overwhelming, those affected had to live in surrounding shelters.

People I knew from the recovering support organizations of CIVIC FORCE and JUST GIVING told me there was one seat available in a car going to the devastated area. Naturally I wanted to join them. The state of the area differed from site to site, the confusion of information was obvious, where or who needed what most. It was certain that careless activity could cause further turmoil. The priority of my mind was set “Prompt and appropriate actions for given tasks.”

Furthermore, respecting feelings of people involved in this disaster

was nothing but priority, and “not to disturb and one further.”

I helped clearing up the wreckage in a shrine and as we were returning to the car after having finished our tasks, a local gentleman approached us and tried to give us a tin of juice “Hey! Thank you guys! Please have a drink!” We tried to turn his kind offer down saying “That’s too much! We just came here to help you” but he persisted “It is not that big deal, do not worry.” I was filled with emotion knowing his thoughtfulness towards us and other volunteers.

We helped loading of supplies at shelters, we handed out towels. The old and the young expressed their gratitude and thanks. We met the Mayor who asked me “Can you sing something for us today?” and I replied “We are here to offer our support and help”. Then he firmly said “Mr. Hotei, we have already stepped into a new start to go forward, we are not staying in sadness. When you visit us next time, please give us energy with your singing”, I was moved with his words.

I was prepared for some hard work, after all that was the reason I was here, not as a musician.

However local volunteers insisted “You are already here, please cheer people up, they would appreciate meeting you.” So I met every one I could in the shelter and attended a local interview. I was welcomed by dazzling smiles and warm handshakes.

I then found myself genuinely wanting to be as “Tomoyasu Hotei” if ‘he’ could encourage people even for a second and bring some joy in to their lives it was definitely worth it.

I will never forget those energising smiles, which came through so much sadness.

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Hip List

Giger BarChur & Château St Germain, Switzerland

If the architecture reminds you of something, then you’re probably thinking of the scary sci-fi horror fi lm ‘Alien’. That’s because Hans Rudi Giger - the Swiss artist who created the set for the movie - also designed this place. Complete with of spinal chord-like skeleton decor that kind of gives you the impression you’re sitting inside the stomach of a giant fossilised beast. Which is cooler than it sounds. Like the movie it’s massively atmospheric, but we don’t know if just like the fi lm plot, ‘no one can hear you scream’.

Skeleton BarLjubljana, Slovenia

Unsurprisingly given its name, skeletons are the general theme in this Slovenian bar. And there are a lot of them. Whichever way you turn, they’re there watching you from their numerous positions. There’s also wacky death-themed art adorning the walls. The party atmosphere, friendly staff, cheesy music and happy hour cocktails are enough to prevent it being particularly haunting though - just don’t knock back so many that you forget the toilets are conspicuously concealed behind bookcases.

Big BaobabLimpopo, South Africa

With the capacity for about 50 people, it might not be the big for a bar, but it’s pretty massive for a tree. Located on the grounds of Sunland Farm, at 72 feet high, with a circumference of 154 feet, the owners have managed to pack a whole British-style pub into its hollowed out trunk, complete with draught beer, bar stools and dart board. The shade inside the tree provides a perfect cool store for the beer, and there’s even a wine cellar squeezed in to boot.

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Depeche Mode BarTaalin, Estonia

How much you like this bar/club in the Estonian capital directly correlates with how much you like Depeche Mode. If you ‘Just Can’t Get Enough’ of the electronic 80s band, you’ll love the constant loop of their songs, pictures of Dave Gahan and Co. decorating the walls and cocktails named after their tracks. If you’re not a fan, you’ll hate this place for all of the above reasons. You might even bump into them – the Basildon boys have been known to party there when they’re in town.


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The ClinicClarke Quay, Singapore

Walk into this bar in downtown Singapore and you might think you’ve entered a medical clinic, complete with surgery room lighting and hospital paraphernalia. But that’s customers – not patients - sitting on the hospital beds separated by hanging white curtains, or in wheelchairs sat at wheelchair tables. And that’s booze – not medicine – in the syringes and test-tubes. And that’s red cocktails – not blood – they’re drinking from bags attached to drips. The design is in fact a

The Hobbit HouseManila, The Philippines

Named after the benevolent dwarf in ‘The Lord of The Rings’, only Philippine midgets and dwarfs get to work here. Perhaps their laws on discrimination are laxer than ours. It works though – the staff are friendly, there’s a good drinks selection and great live music. Plus it doesn’t seem to be the kind of place that attracts much trouble, which is lucky because their smallest midget is the bouncer. It’s not just the staff that will make you feel like a giant – you’ll need to duck

to get through the doorway.

Not the kind of drinking establishments that go down as just another bar, some places that give a whole new meaning to the term ‘crazy night out’. the world By

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AlbatrossTokyo, Singapore

Claustrophobic? Then give this one a miss – they have a capacity of about ten. At a push. It doesn’t even have its own loo – every bar on Shomben Yokocho, the street where it’s located, shares one toilet. Those points aside, it’s worth a visit - the tiny but quite glamorous bar is spread over three levels, one of which is a tiny art gallery and another with a chandelier that takes up most of the room. And because there’s hardly any room the waiters hand you your drinks through a hole in the fl oor.

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Feature Article

Aqua Neuva, one third of the international Aqua restaurant group, is an exquisite piece of Spanish treasure in the heart of London. A revolutionary restaurant whose principal objective is to invite the patron to discover an elite Spanish culinary experience and thrill the palate.

Boasting a chef with an historic culinary heritage, he creates food that depicts a great Spanish personage. The modern and innovative menu is constantly developed to create a customised array of regional food. The menu typifi es the elegant and fl avour infused food that distinguishes Spanish cuisine from other food styles. Aqua Neuva possesses the ability to express the Spanish uniqueness and its proud culinary heritage.

EXQUISITE DINING BOUGHT TO YOU

Aqua NuevaRegent Street, London

Paramount restaurant and barNew Oxford Street, London

Cocochan Restaurant & Bar James Street London

Shaka-ZuluCamden, London

JEWELSOF THE

CAPITALAQUA NEUVARegent Street, London

PASSIONATELY DEPICTS AN AVANT GARDE TAKE ON SPAIN’S CULINARY HERITAGE, WHILST AT THE CENTRE OF LONDON’S CULTURAL EPICENTER.

The vibrant authentic food is mirrored in its exuberant décor. The clever combination of modernity and authenticity results in a warm and contemporary atmosphere. The interior style, including a unique catwalk made of glass, creates a blend of energy and excitement that extends to the diner an exquisitely pleasurable dining experience. With an 120 capacity dining area, as well as a more intimate private dining room, the ambiance is assuredly a cultural and spiritually energising one. Furthermore, Aqua Neuva hosts a trendy tapas bar allowing for a more informal taste of Spanish cuisine.

Aqua Neuva has eclipsed other Spanish restaurants and guarantees a wonderful dining experience combined with an enriching and vibrant cultural experience. Aqua Neuva passionately depicts an avant garde take on Spain’s culinary heritage, whilst at the centre of London’s cultural epicenter.

this page:Aqua Neuva tapas bar

by VY


Jewels of the Capital

Stylish, yet unpretentious – Cocochan Restaurant offers contemporary Pan Asian cuisine with a very reasonable price for this quality of food in the heart of Marylebone.

Paramount, a restaurant and bar, contemporary in style and age, can be located in the heart of London, a prestigious spot on New Oxford Street, a buzzing and vibrant location.

Upon instant viewing the restaurants décor is an allure in itself, with an inviting interior stylishly designed with modern panache concatenated with vintage intimacy.

What grants Paramount exclusivity is the view of London that it boasts from all angles of the restaurant, a sensational sight that illustrates the effervescence of the city, paralleled further in the venues own ambience. The sentiment only enhanced by the dedicated and committed staff.

The alluring European menu depicts a wonderful array of items, clearly created with ardour. The exquisite cuisine consists of delightful fl avours that enthuse the passion of the chef, food made with élan, resulting in a superior dining experience. What is further impressive is the staff knowledge of food and wines. If there are dietary requirements or food allergies, waiters are happy to make suggestions and then adapt dishes accordingly.

Furthermore, Paramount offer a breakfast and brunch menu exclusively. The menu is cemented by an elegant wine list which features an infusion of contemporary cocktails amalgamated with classic drinks.

What projects this modern restaurant from its peers is its 400 capacity events space that it hosts in addition to the dining area and bar.

Paramount is unequivocally the dominant eminence of the West End, a venue that not only guarantees a unique and elite dining experience stimulating the taste buds, but also embodies the true spirit of the modern Londoner. Paramount exudes a profusion of chic suavity that is de rigueur of London life.

PARAMOUNTNew Oxford Street, London

CocochanJames Street , London

STYLISH, YET UNPRETENTIOUS

Created by former Cocoon executive chef Ricky Pang, well-selected menu offers light nibbles from Dim Sum & Sushi selection to a signature dishes such as mouth-watering Oven Baked MisoChilean Seabass. Cocochan also specializes in sous-vide cooking – it is a slow-cooking technique which keeps nutrition - great news for the health-conscious Marylebone high-fl yers. There’s also the option of trying out a Bento Box which start from £13.50 for the Vegetarian option, seafood £15.00 and the meat box for £16.50. Sushi is options are available at £17.50

Each Bento Box includes main, side, salad, starter and a soup.

Tucked away downstairs, all polished wood and private booths like secret domes, Cocochan Lounge Bar, an intimate yet energetic destination for post-dinner or after-dinner drinks.

Originally created by the master of mixology Andreas Tsanos, Cocochan’s cocktail menu consists of delicate cocktails such as Tangy Lilly– fi zzy champagne imbued with light citrus fl avours and a single fl oating berry – to more fi rely yet aromatic cocktails such as Negus Harbour, which comes with an additional Absinthe. Classy and effortlessly cool –Cocochan Lounge Bar is a hidden gem for serious cocktail lovers Cocochan Restaurant & Bar is 5min walk away from Bond Street Station and opens 7days a week.

left:stylishly designed bar area in Paramount.

right:Stylish, yet unpretentiousCocochan dining area

next page:Shaka Zulu, London’s largest South African restaurant


Jewels of the Capital

Shaka Zulu, London’s largest South African restaurant, opened its doors in August 2010 with a special royal blessing from the Zulu King, HRH Goodwill Zwelithini. Set over a groundbreaking 27,000 sq ft in The Stables Market, Camden.

Carved wooden murals cover every inch of Shaka Zulu’s walls and ceiling. A beautiful space to host private events in. The lower fl oor complimented by a display of 20ft high warrior statues. The Mezzanine level offers a champagne bar and cocktail lounge overlooking the stunning braai restaurant.

The hub of the restaurant, is where the ‘Theatre of Food’ comes alive with a line-up of world class chefs stoking the fi res and creating a multitude of wondrous dishes from the best and freshest ingredients available, in the open plan kitchen.

Serving choice dishes such as Seared Ostrich Carpaccio

with Peppadews; Marinated Springbok with Blackcurrant and Balsamic Jelly; Mechoui Karoo Lamb with Pomegranate and Mint to name a few, means diners will be transported to the very heart of South African style food.

Also, the only restaurant worldwide to be able to offer discerning diners rare British Red Poll Beef and Dorper Lamb from the Royal Estate in Sandringham, as well as a wide selection of international dishes to tempt every palate and tasteTo complete the experience, there is a variety of African entertainment and DJs with music and dancing until 2am.

Become a member at Shaka Zulu’s King’s Club and get exclusive benefi ts, express entry at club time after dinner, plus preferential seating locations, a direct line managers, who will be delighted to assist with last minute bookings and the very best booths when Shaka Zulu dims the lights and the dancing starts to our world class DJ’s.

Aqua Nueva, 5th Floor, 240 Regent Street, London, W1B 3BR (Entrance at 30 Argyll Street, opposite The Palladium) Telephone Number: +44 (0)20 74780540 For reservations: [email protected]

Paramount restaurant and bar, Centre Point, 101-103 New Oxford Street, WC1A 1DDTelephone Number: +44 (0)20 7420 2900www.paramount.uk.net

Cocochan Restaurant & Bar, 38-40 James Street London W1U 1EUTelephone Number: +44 (0)207 486 1000For General enquiry: [email protected] Reservations, Events & PR: Marketing – [email protected] times: Restaurant – from 12:00 noon until 00:00 midnight, 7days a week. Lounge Bar – from 17:00 until 00:00 midnight – Wed, Thurs, Fri and Saturdaywww.cocochan.co.uk

Shaka-Zulu, Stables Market,Camden, London NW1 8ABTelephone Number: +44 (0)20 3376 9911For General enquiry: [email protected] Reservations: [email protected]

CONTACT

SHAKA ZULUCamden, London


DUBAITHE CITY THAT NEVER SLEEPSA scintillating experience across the deserts of Arabia

By Sanober Irshad


Up Town

hen we talk about a place with mega structures,

an active nightlife and amazing shopping, Dubai, instantly strikes the mind.

Dubai, an amalgamation of east and west and a second home to many South Asians, has become one of the fastest growing tourist destinations. It attracts people from numerous backgrounds to experience the endless travel opportunities offered in its secure environment.

The city besides its growing skyline encloses within it the traditional Bedouin feel. Dubai downtown offers a rustic experience and entertainment for the culturally starved. The spice soak, Dubai Museum and Shindagha are just a few places to explore the ethnicity of the Emirates. Some visit Dubai for its beaches, some for the heritage, and some for the vigorous nightlife; no matter what they come for, they end up going back with unforgettable memories of a wonderful holiday.Discotheques, plays, concerts and exhibitions are all found in abundance and cater to the taste of every visitor. Dhow dinners, cruises, dune bashing, desert safari, golf, bird watching, you name your interest and it is present here.

Dubai is greatly infl uenced by the west. It is not only a shopper’s paradise, but movie lovers too can take pleasure, watching movies in its luxurious cinemas. Following the footsteps of the capital, Abu-Dhabi, Dubai also has started working on its infrastructure, making it a traveler’s desire.

DINING THE NIGHT OUT

Be it themed or roadside restaurants, Dubai offers a wide range of cuisines, from Lebanese to Thai and American. Many restaurants are also situated in the malls serving ethnic

specialties. Ambience is given importance and hygiene is well looked after. A typical Arabic cuisine consists of a proper four-course meal, that is, the salads, appetizers, the main course and fi nally the dessert, which is followed by coffee or tea. Dinner for Arabs lasts hours, it is a meal

where family and friends gather together and enjoy indulging in various discussions. Usually the traditional shisha (hookah or hubbly-bubbly) is served as well.

Dhow dinners are very popular among foodies who want to enjoy a bit of the Arabic culture, belly dance, ethnic music spiced up with some adventure on the sea.

BUBBLING THE BLUES AWAY

Hookah smoking is an experience on its own. Shisha is also very popular in coffee shops and restaurants at night. Its an important part of the social scene in Dubai, where friends plan a shisha evening, play dominoes or cards and unwind from the stressful day.

Shisha smoking has its own etiquettes and requires a relaxing environment however, since the past few years, many shisha bars and lounges have popped up in streets and malls of Dubai. Many hookah lounges in Dubai are posh and classy places therefore its advisable to dress accordingly if you ever plan to try out a shisha here.

DUBAI, AN AMALGAMATION OF EAST AND WEST AND A SECOND HOME TO MANY SOUTH ASIANS, HAS BECOME ONE OF THE FASTEST GROWING TOURIST DESTINATIONS.

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USUALLY PLAYS AND CONCERTS ARE HELD IN DIFFERENT LANGUAGES WITH THE INTERNATIONAL ARTISTS FLYING IN TO MAKE IT A ONE IN A LIFETIME EXPERIENCE.


Up Town

The Shisha is available in many flavours. No matter how many flavours you try the aroma and the ambiance keeps you coming back for more.

ENTERTAINMENT AT ITS PEAK

Concerts, plays, fashion and comedy shows are very common in Dubai. Many cultural and social societies have emerged which hold theatre plays and promote the local budding talent.

Dubai being a multicultural city caters to the entertainment of all its masses. Usually plays and concerts are held in different languages with the international artists flying in to make it a one in a lifetime experience.

Many sports, music and film events have become so popular that they are held once a year to provide a platform to unleash the region’s hidden talents.

Dubai Desert Rock Festival is a remarkable music event held annually in Dubai. This two-day festival features world music and extreme sports that pull the crowds attention.

Dubai Summer Surprises and The Dubai Shopping Festival are two most publicized events each year. Visitors from around the globe flock to enjoy tax-free discounted shopping; sports, the cultural shows and stalls that showcase their tradition.

Then there is the DIFF (Dubai International Film Festival), which celebrates the best work in regional and international cinema, while providing knowledge and entertainment.

AS THE SUN GOES DOWN IN DUBAI…

As the sun goes down in the cosmopolitan and multicultural Dubai, the nightlife starts blooming.

Best clubs and discotheques are found in this part of the Emirates. Neighborhood bars and pubs are very popular. Most bars are situated in hotels where people can also eat and listen to or watch live music and performances. Many pubs run special ladies nights, karaoke and themed nights to cater to different tastes.

Piano and jazz bars offer a memorable evening with good music, food and cocktails.

If you want to dance, it’s best to locate a good nightclub and swing your night away at the beat of music played by some of the most sought after DJ’s of the region.

The clubs are safe to party in, with cozy interiors, interesting cocktails, a peaceful ambiance and pleasant crowds. You can dance the night away at a club of your choice ranging from Western to traditional Arabic and Indian music.

DUBAI BEING A MULTICULTURAL CITY CATERS TO THE ENTERTAINMENT OF ALL ITS MASSES.

ITS AN IMPORTANT PART OF THE SOCIAL SCENE IN DUBAI, WHERE FRIENDS PLAN A SHISHA EVENING, PLAY DOMINOES OR CARDS AND UNWIND FROM THE STRESSFUL DAY.


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RECOMMENDED BARS AND CLUBS TO VISIT:

THE BUDDHA BAR located at the Grosvenor House Hotel, is without doubt a place to go to. Dark and seductive interiors, soothing music, a crowded bar and delectable food can aid you in your search for nirvana.

BOUDOIR; a snazzy, chic and luxurious place you would not want to miss out. Situated in Jumeira, this club has turned out to be one of the most popular in Dubai.

BARASTI is an open-air bar on the beach front in the heart of Dubai Marina. It’s a tranquil place for people who like good food, cocktails, soothing music, a bit of dance and shisha all in one place.

CAVALLI is a recent and exclusive club launched by designer Roberto Cavalli himself. A lifestyle club that is quite popular among the elites and international celebrities alike. Designed magnificently with gemstones and Swarovski crystals, it is one place the classy you should be spending at.

Situated on the 44th floor in the Grosvenor House Hotel, Bar 44 has a splendid view to offer. Tasteful and retro this bar looks over the ever developing and dazzling skyline of Dubai.

TRAVEL TIPS:

The currency used in U.A.E. is Dirham and credit • cards are accepted everywhere.

The best time to visit Emirates is from October • to April. In summers, it gets extremely hot; even then, there are various activities to enjoy.

Shopping is tax-free. It is definitely a good place • for shopaholics!

Arabic is the official language; English and Urdu • are also widely spoken here.

Dubai, United Arab Emirates – Atlantis – the flagship resort on The Palm – was the first resort to open its doors on Dubai’s revolutionary island. Created by Kerzner International Holdings Limited, a leading international developer and operator of destination resorts, the stunning 1,539-room resort welcomed their first guests on 24 September 2008.

WithWith its enviable location atop the crescent of The Palm, the opening of Atlantis was a landmark event, redefining tourism in Dubai as the first truly integrated entertainment destination resort. Reflecting Chairman and CEO Sol Kerzner’s vision to transport guests into a dazzling, imaginative world, the resort encompasses a 46 hectare site with 17 hectares of water themed amusement at AQUAVENTURE, extensive fresh and salt water pools and lagoon exhibits, an open-aired marine habitat second only to Mother Nature, a seemingly endless stretch of beach, luxury boutiques, numerous dining choices including three world renowned chef restaurantrestaurants, an exciting nightlife experience, ShuiQi Spa & Fitness, and 5,600m² of meeting and function space.

‘‘Out of a vision that married the wonders of marine life with stunning elegance and sweeping views of the Arabian Gulf alongside the most exciting water playground in this part of the world, we have developed an experience within Atlantis that is truly different than the existing pleasures of Dubai. We're very proud," shared Sol Kerzner.


Angles & Degrees

KEY RECOMMENDATIONS FOR WOMEN REACHING THE BOARDROOM

Top Tip 1: Support of the Chair and CEO is critical to success

Engagement of the Chair and the CEO is critical to more women being given the opportunity to obtain executive/non-executive board positions.

Top Tip 2: Shift in thinking at the top is required

Whilst, in the past, there was perceived to be conscious bias against women in organisations, this is no longer the case. It is regarded as an unconscious bias; women are just not ‘in the frame’ when conversations take place about who would be potential promotion material. A shift in thinking must occur at the top of organisations and women must be prepared to put their heads above the parapet and be noticed. Self promotion, networking and ‘playing the game’ are key.

Top Tip 3: Targets or Quotas?

The question of targets and quotas has been raised frequently recently and the majority around the table agreed that, whilst targets are a good thing, quotas are ‘a step too

Following a lively debate between law fi rm Eversheds on the topical issue of ‘Women on Boards’, Jacqui Grey and Denise Jagger build on their respective articles, Bringing Women on Board and Women on Boards: Progress in Sight by offering recommendations for what must change in order that more female executives reach the boardroom.

far’ – a view consistent with the fi ndings of the recent Davies Report. However, there is some sympathy with quotas if things do not start to improve soon. The debate is seen to have gone on long enough. The main reason for not having quotas seems to be that women might be seen as getting there by default, rather than on merit.

Top Tip 4: Headhunters must bear some responsibility

In our discussions, it is clear that headhunters should be more persuasive with reluctant Chairmen in the introduction of women candidates to short lists and that they should be more creative in their searches.

Top Tip 5: Once on the board, women should promote others

Existing and newly engaged/promoted women should actively promote the appointment of more women to their boards. They have the opportunity to provide exposure and profi le for female talent and should use this actively in support. It is important to go beyond a lone female board member as there is a risk that her male colleagues will assume that

WOMEN ARE JUST NOT ‘IN THE FRAME’ WHEN CONVERSATIONS TAKE PLACE ABOUT WHO WOULD BE POTENTIAL PROMOTION MATERIAL

by Jacqui Grey & Denise Jagger

she is representative of female views and behaviours.

Top Tip 6: The 80/20 Rule

Women still suffer from the 80/20 confi dence rule. Men with 80% of the required skills for a job will see themselves as perfect for the role whereas a woman may focus on the 20% she doesn’t have and be (too) open about any lack of experience.

Top Tip 7: Dare to be Authentic

Whilst our colleagues at this discussion acknowledged that,

in some organisations, it is necessary to ‘play the game’ to some degree on the way up, it is also vital that we have more executive role models on boards who are not women trying to be men. This was seen as promoting valuable diversity which has been shown through numerous studies


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to lead to greater profi tability. Both the McKinsey report in 2007 and the recent Eversheds’ report on board composition, support this. See the article, The Board Report: the composition of the board & its impact on company success, for more information on this report.

Top Tip 8: Recommend women for NED positions

When any senior person (male or female) is asked for recommendations for NED positions, they should actively promote women and be prepared to take a risk. There was some discussion at this event around ‘the same old names’ being mentioned, as no-one wants to take a risk with a new person that no-one has heard of. The consequence of this is that women, who are largely new, are consistently being overlooked.

Top Tip 9: Women need to network more

Women still don’t network in the same way as men. They rarely prioritise a drink with colleagues after work and few play golf or attend sporting events. Organisations need to recognise this and provide opportunities for women to socialise and network by building on each others’ experiences. Moreover, women need to recognise that networking and raising their profi le is vital to commercial effectiveness. Membership of an organisation such as Criticaleye is a good way to start.

Top Tip 10: Women want more fl exibility

The issue of fl exibility, particularly as women are still often primary carers for children and older relatives, is still seen as a major barrier. How can they do it all and still function at board level?

Top Tip 11: Mentoring and Development Programmes

Mentoring programmes are phenomenally successful at helping women get ahead. A large proportion of the group at this event had benefi tted from (mainly male) mentors. The lack of female role models at the top of organisations, even when the workforce is predominantly female, is still a problem. Organisations should set aside budget for this if they are serious about gender diversity at the top and women should not wait for formal mentoring programmes but rather seek out mentors for themselves - even on an informal basis.

Development Programmes including Coaching are also essential to women making the leap onto the board. A lack of confi dence and self belief is still seen to be a problem. Women need specialist programmes to help them get ahead. Womens’ networking organisations have started to offer programmes (for example, Jacqui’s programme for ‘the Pearls’ part of the Two

Percent Club) as are forward thinking FTSE 100 organisations.

Finally, despite comprehensive research by government bodies, business schools and thought leaders over the past 20 years, change has been painfully slow. However, following the publicity surrounding the Davies Report, the environment is now conducive and it is time for organizations and women themselves to step up.

Government bodies, large organisations, business schools and lobby groups should continue to share knowledge in this area as we achieve greater organisational diversity and change. Organisations should identify budgets and programmes to work towards greater diversity in the boardroom and individuals at the top (of both genders) must be prepared to think more creatively about skills, expertise and personal chemistry in their leadership teams. If all this happens, we ought to witness a real shift in numbers.

Jacqui is MD of Transition Ltd, atransformational change management, leadership, executive coaching and coach training business. Prior to her current role, Jacqui was First Vice President HR EMEA for Merrill Lynch. She has also worked globally for many blue chip companies on innovative

development programmes, including BT, Vodafone, eBay, Cisco, Standard Chartered, GSK and top business schools on MBA programmes. Jacqui has a special interest in the development of top female executives (she was previously a board member of Opportunity Now), has a doctorate in Executive Anxiety and a Masters in Change Management.

Denise has extensive experience of operating at board level both as a lawyer and in a general management capacity. Denise joined ASDA as part of its recovery team in the early 1990s as Company Secretary and General Counsel. At ASDA she championed Diversity and was responsible for a number of the

company’s successful employment policies. She has held a number of non-executive appointments in the retail, fi nancial services, construction, health and education sectors. She is currently Non-executive Director of the British Olympic Association, Chairman of the York Museums Trust and a Non-executive Director of the Northern Ballet.

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Inspector Gadget

IT’S HERE, THE IPHONE 4S

by Inspector Gadget (iG)

THROUGHOUT THE YEARS, IPHONE REVELLED IN THE GLORY OF BEING ONE OF THE MOST POPULAR SMART PHONES IN THE WORLD. THERE ARE MILLIONS OF IPHONE USERS WHO SWEAR BY IT AS BEING THE LIFESTYLE PHONE OF CHOICE. SO WHAT CAN WE EXPECT FROM ITS LATEST INCARNATION, OUR VERY OWN IG INVESTIGATES…


Inspector Gadget

ith the arrival of the iPhone 4S, you can see some

signifi cant improvements over the iPhone 4. For one thing, the processor of the iPhone 4S has been upgraded to the A5 chip, compared to iPhone 4’s A4 chip. There’s also an improvement in the resolution of the camera, upgrading it to 8 megapixels. As for its design, little has changed compared with the iPhone 4, It’s just like having a girlfriend (or boyfriend of course) who got a new haircut; same old girl/boy, with a whole new head of hair.

However some of the most prominent features that give it an edge over its predecessors are as follows:

SIRI VOICE CONTROL

With the Siri Voice Control, iPhone 4S becomes a more intelligent voice recognition device. Unlike common linguistic search, Siri can understand what you say, see what you mean and even answer your question like a private assistant to some extent. With natural language support, you can just speak as usual and interact with the iPhone 4S to realize the weather, text messages, maps, search and other functions, all through the voice control.

iCLOUD

Although available on both iPhone 4 and 4S, iCloud allows you to sync documents, apps and books among iOS devices. It helps to store your music, photos, documents and more and wirelessly pushes them to all your devices. Thus, you can share them on other devices, without the need of a cable or a USB drive.

8-MEGAPIXEL CAMERA & 1080P HD VIDEO RECORDING

Compared with iphone 4, iphone 4S increases the camera’s sensor to 8 Mega pixels with fl ash, F2.4 aperture and improved light sensitivity and now supports 3264 x 2448 resolution. The backside illumination can reportedly achieve 73% more light and 33% percent faster capture. In addition, its camera is added with an IR fi lter, allowing

better color accuracy and more color uniformity. Moreover, the phone is now capable of full 1080P HD video recording, real-time video image stabilization and temporal noise reduction.

A5 DUAL-CORE PROCESSOR

With A5 dual-core processor and dual-core graphics, the CPU of iPhone 4S runs twice as fast as iPhone 4. The graphics performance of iPhone 4S is seven times of that of iPhone 4. Whether you start an application or browse the Web you can enjoy its rapid speed and sensitive reaction.

OTHER FEATURES

In addition to the above, it is also worth mentioning that iPhone 4S has longer battery life. Apple states that the new phone will offer up to 8 hours of 3G talk time, 14 hours of 2G talk time, 9 hours of and six hours of 3G internet use. With it, you can also watch 10 hours of video and up to 40 hours of music listening. Unlike previous iPhones, the 4S is a dual-antenna phone and supports both GSM and CDMA. Also, it is equipped with

Bluetooth 4.0, 3.5-inch IPS 960 x 640 retina display and 16GB, 32GB and 64GB Storage.

PLANET OF THE APPS - iG’S CHOICE OF APPS:

MagAppZine is a powerful software platform that allows publishers to easily create apps for mobile/tablet

devices. MagAppZine is unique in its ability to handle multiple content formats and its seamless integration with Apple’s iOS and iTunes infrastructure.

MagAppZine have launched their latest version 2.0 in September 2011 which now allows publishers to enrich their content with links and multimedia, allowing for a truly interactive experience for their digital readers with video content, web content, and more.

It is a perfect fi t for publishers of all sizes to make their content available digitally on the iPad and all future e-reading devices. MagAppZine was founded by two former Apple employees and one former Adobe employee. The result is a tech company with a publisher-centric point of view.

To fi nd out more visit: www.magappzine.com

UNLIKE COMMON LINGUISTIC SEARCH, SIRI CAN UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU SAY, SEE WHAT YOU MEAN AND EVEN ANSWER YOUR QUESTION LIKE A PRIVATE ASSISTANT TO SOME EXTENT.

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Relationships

ou’re life has been turned upside down, the anger and pain is too much to

manage, let alone the amount of questions that go through your head. What did I do? Is it my fault? Was I not good enough?

Feelings of rejection, betrayal, anger with a plummet in self-esteem and confidence. Years of devotion and what you thought was matrimonial bliss, well at least most of the time, and now you’re left with a broken heart. The person you felt you were the closest too, the one you shared tears and joy with, now has only

left you with tears and anguish.Where do you go from here? Can you go anywhere? It feels as if you are in a black hole and continuously slipping further. The emotions are all consuming and the confusion keeps rising. Pain, as if you have been struck by a lightning bolt and the weight of the world rests on your shoulders.

Before any movement can take place, it is a case of accepting what has taken place and accepting what you are feeling. Naturally, the internal battle is on and the inner voice is growing. This may be the biggest betrayal you have ever faced; hence, you

need to face it. Infidelity is far from easy to work through and time is needed purely to process the shock and the range of thoughts and emotions that are rocketing. Disgust and hate would not be uncommon, this is due to the level of betrayal and the investment you had in your partner.

The anger will subside and may be replaced with pain. No two people will behave in the same

THE LACK OF VALUE YOU HAVE FELT, THE PAIN, OF NOT MATTERING IN THE EYES OF THE ONE THAT YOU LOVED.

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Relationships

HEART BREAKING, HOW CAN IT HAPPEN TO ME?

CHEATING!by Viraj Yadav

way, someone may become very cold and almost numb, whereas someone else, may feel incredibly empowered and go in to over drive as far as it goes for controlling and moving forward their life.

We are only human and for the majority of us, we may want to see our partner hurting, we cannot tolerate the sight of them, we want nothing to do with them. All those years spent together are clouded purely with pain.

However, it is not the right time to make life changingdecisions. Time is still the essence as well as a great healer. After all it is only when we feel more in control of our emotions, we are able to contemplate decision making.

Only then can you explore if the relationship can be salvaged, whether you can forgive this betrayal, re-build trust. Whether, the both of you have the commitment and will to grow together once again.On such occasions forgiveness is hard and seems like a huge challenge. We question if we should forgive, if we forgive what

does that say about us? Are we accepting someone else actions and approving of them? Will they repeat the same action again? By forgiving are we approving? Endless questions set in.

What most of us fail to recognise is that forgiveness is for us? How long can we stew and fester, build up negative emotions that effect us psychologically as well as physiologically. Hence, by forgiving we are at

the same time looking after own health. Psychological research into the subject, displays the importance of forgiving within personal relationships. It makes us healthier and happier, the research says; it makes you

ONLY THEN CAN YOU EXPLORE IF THE RELATIONSHIP CAN BE SALVAGED, WHETHER YOU CAN FORGIVE THISBETRAYAL, RE-BUILD TRUST. WHETHER, THE BOTH OF YOU HAVE THE COMMITMENT AND WILL TO GROW TOGETHER ONCE AGAIN.

feel stronger and better about yourself. It was Mahatma Gandhi who said, “Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong”

Psychological hurt is what can take its toll. The injuries left by the loved ones, the betrayal, violation of trust, broken promises, shattered dreams. The lack of value you have felt, the pain, of not mattering in the eyes of the one that you loved.If you want your relationship to

grow and work then forgiveness is a key element, firstly for yourself and then for the relationship.

Ask yourself can you forgive?

Then your journey will begin.


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Time releases a spectacular car, the wait was worth it…

LAMBORGHINI AVENTADOR

by Nicholas Jones


Hot Seat

Sometimes the best is always developed over time. True for malt whisky, and true for a new Lamborghini revealed at this year’s Geneva motor show.

The LP700 – 4 or known more commonly as the Aventador is a blistering package of 6.5 litre V12, housed in a carbon fibre body that looks like Tom Cruise’s new stealth plane. As a supercar that reaches 62 mph in a stunning 2.9 seconds it keeps up with the breed of Murciélago

and then leaves it behind to hit a top speed of 217mph. It certainly uses every last one of the 700 horses propelling it.

If you are stunned by the statistics then you will marvel at a sculpted body shape and luxurious interior that is full of LCD screens and padding, that complete the experience that you are driving in a plane, and not a car attached to the road. The interior can be highly customised with colour, as with any Lamborghini the brighter you go then the better it looks. Time to bring out the orange leather and drive with sunglasses in winter!

As for more on the engine, the gear box delivers the power through a new ISR transmission, which Lamborghini say is faster, and ‘more emotional’, of course we hope more emotional does not mean you begins to cry with joy every time you go up a gear. The gear box is frighteningly quick and out paces dual clutch models so that even if you blink you will have changed gear, long before you got your eyes open again.

The feeling you will get from driving this is one of insanity, firstly the consideration of why you bought on at over £200,000, and then the ultimate joy as you turn the key and understand you are driving a little piece of history. With Lamborghini there are only 4 models, unlike other car makers they get it right first time, and keep refining that model. Waiting for these models is worth it, and is often a lifetimes pursuit.

Finally the Aventador name is associated with a courageous bull, courage that drivers will need to tame this wonderful machine, a beast that is beautiful and elegant when sliding round a corner on a track. A track is where this car has grown from, and the road is where you can experience what other car makers have never achieved, the joy of driving.

Want one, desire one, they will be available later this year, for the most passionate.

THE ULTIMATE JOY AS YOU TURN THE KEY AND UNDERSTAND YOU ARE DRIVING A LITTLE PIECE OF HISTORY

A BEAST THAT IS BEAUTIFUL AND ELEGANT


What’s Happening

HEALTHY OR DETRIMENTAL

IT’S YOUR CHOICE?

THE GREEN EYED MONSTER

by Viraj Yadav

We all have felt degrees of jealousy at different points in our relationships, the situations may vary, however, the feelings and thoughts still remain. As much as jealousy is a normal emotion, it is the extent of it, which can be a problem.

Now, the area of the brain which controls jealousy has been located. It is the same part which detects real physical pain – perhaps explaining why feeling envious of your lover’s philandering ways hurts so much.

There is a difference between men and women. Men’s jealousy, more than women’s jealousy, is triggered by thoughts of a mate’s

sexual infidelity and women’s jealousy, is triggered by a mate’s emotional infidelity. Even though there are gender differences and cultural differences, jealousy can be corrosive and ugly, detrimental to any relationship.

Are you the man who gets agitated when others simply look at your partner?

Do you have irrational thoughts?

Does your blood boil?

Do you feel over protective and come across as controlling?

On retrospect, how attractive are these feelings and how constructive are they to you?

If you are a jealous man, you probably have a hard time appreciating a lot of good things that are out there, because you’re too busy worrying.

Let’s take a scenario; you’re both going out for a romantic dinner, she walks down the stairs and is looking absolutely stunning. You’re relishing in the thought that she’s for your eyes only and she’s with you.

JEALOUSY CAN BE CORROSIVE AND UGLY, DETRIMENTAL TO ANY RELATIONSHIP.


Relationships

All is going well and you’re feeling confident, proud and incredibly lucky. And you’re enjoying, that she knows she looks good, sexy and is radiating charisma.

A glass of champagne or two later. She catches the eyes of someone, you notice and look over. Thinking, who is that model type man she is exchanging, looks with? Mr tall, dark and handsome walks over with confidence; you’re holding a gimpy smile, whilst at the same time your mind is flooding with irrational thoughts.

She introduces you and you grudgingly shake his hand. Suddenly, you get the impression that there may be some flirting going on between them, (this is probably a figment of your imagination).

Time seems to stand still, conversations are exchanged, however, you feel there is more conversation between the two of them and you are the odd one out, (probably once again in your head). Your blood is boiling and you can imagine throwing model wannabe over the profiteroles that just arrived. Basically, you’re having a full fleshed jealousy attack and are about to turn from Bruce Banner into the big green monster – the jealous rampaging Hulk.

Just as well you didn’t know he was an ex!

Jealousy is a human emotion; it is the degree that can be the worry.

Why are you feeling this way?

Are you doubtful of your partner?

Are you feeling threatened by her interactions?

Are these feelings going to continuously grow?

How are you going to feel, when she’s out with her friends, if she talks to men, if you think she looks too good?

The green eyed monster. As much as jealousy can be healthy in a relationship, it is when you begin to question her loyalty, her movements and you feed those obsessive and irrational thoughts that the problems emerge. You inherit low tolerance and before you know it, you’re controlling and over protective. In fact you’re suffocating.

In reality you have two options; deal with your jealousy and understand where it stems from or leave the poor girl alone. It’s your problem, not hers! In essence jealousy is a by product of your own issues with self confidence and self esteem as well as being influenced by your past experiences. Have you been cheated on? Have you cheated on someone? If so, is there a fear of history repeating itself, the fear of it happening to you?

As trust is one of the key foundations that holds relationships together, there’s no space for the green eyed monster. Not only is it self-destructive, it is destructive to the relationship. Just imagine when you feel jealous, you’re feeding the green eyed monster and it’s growing bigger and bigger right in front of your very own eyes, it’s about to tear through your shirt and leave you in the rags of your trousers!

If you get to the point, that the majority of your day is concentrating on irrational and fearful thoughts. Before you know it, you’re focusing on what could happen in your relationship as opposed to what is happening.

If you want to build a relationship and want a future, then kick yourself up the butt and get on with it. Remember, if theres no trust theres no relationship, with yourself or with anyone else.

To get you started;

Try to identify where your jealousy stems from. Recall one of your first episodes of jealousy and all the feelings and thoughts that went with it. Put it into perspective

Look at your own behaviour patterns and the consequences of them.

Question how your behaviour affects not only you but your relationships.

Rationalise what is really happening and what you are

creating. Fact or fiction? Is your imagination running wild and dictating the kind of person you think she is?

Be honest with yourself and question your own self-confidence and self-esteem

Open up to your partner and re build the trust together.

Reflect on why you got together in the first place.

Jointly set some ground rules for acceptable and unacceptable behaviour and develop a dialogue of communication.

Crush that monster and live your life!

IF YOU ARE A JEALOUS MAN, YOU PROBABLY HAVE A HARD TIME APPRECIATING A LOT OF GOOD THINGS THAT ARE OUT THERE, BECAUSE YOU’RE TOO BUSY WORRYING.


The Man

by Joyeeta Basu


The Man

So, you’re on a night out and you’d like to get some action? You head to the bar and then look around for the kill. You mark her out and then instinctively give her your sexiest smile. Subtle maybe, but with little result? Your alpha male zeal may lack foresight. It may not be your mannerisms, but your clothes that killed it.

If you want some action, start looking the part. Dating can be challenging for most of us. However, a few alternate tips to dress down can up your sexual ante, say sex gurus. Follow a fi ve-step mantra and watch her grow from a sex kitten at the bar into a tantric tiger in your bed, (if you’re brave enough that is...) Adhere to the following principles to get women to come to you, rather than having to chase them. So, get ready to rev up your usual routine and live out your deepest fantasies.

If you think money, good looks, power or a fast car were the only basis of getting a woman,

be careful because you might be slipping into “lazy” thinking. Sure they’re great and they do something to most women, but there will usually be something they would be more interested in – yes, You! Be it a one night stand or something more, a little bit of charm and confi dence can get you a lot further than your fat wallet.

So listen up and follow a few tips to a great night ahead.

Rule1

First impression is key, so pay heed to your appearance. Here are a few handy tips – be well groomed. Make sure you have showered and shaved; trimmed

to fl irt, tease and be playful with them. Women like men who know how to talk to them in a fl irty and confi dent way. Confi dence is an inimitable turn on for women. Practice the art of making small talk sexy, and it’ll work like magic to increase your romantic success.

Rule 4

So now that you’re feeling fun and confi dent, time to turn on that charm. Remember, keep cool and relaxed and let your personality show through. Keep lecherous lop-sided grins or gregarious instincts at bay and try to start with a friendly, warm smile. When speaking to a woman, notice her body language and act accordingly. If she’s giving you signs of attraction, increase your efforts. But if she’s not, it’s best to focus your energies elsewhere. Attraction is created through the subtle build up of touching and physical contact. If she allows you to touch her during a conversation and reciprocates your advances, then you know she’s defi nitely attracted to you.

Rule 5

If she’s with her friends, ask what she’s doing afterwards. If she wants to be with you, she’ll make it clear with her answer. If not, you’ll know. The trick is not to be overtly sexual. Leave that for the bedroom but create an atmosphere where she can sense the great possibilities with you. Be gentle and easy. And remember; if you make her feel safe, she won’t have any hesitations about kissing you and perhaps, a lot, lot more.

your beard or goatee. Don’t forget the deodorant and if you have chapped lips, make sure to apply some balm.

Rule 2

Dress the part. A suit may well be impressive, but solely in the boardroom. In order to get her attention at a bar, ditch it for something better – attitude. Picture this- you’re in a crowded bar when you spot her. A great way to get her to notice you is to hang out with friends who give you attention. Women are social creatures and they hang out in groups. She will be interested in someone who knows how to act in social situations. She’ll like the

image of a man who takes on the role of leader when surrounded by others. Because of biological programming, an easy way to attract women is to seen as a leader by your peers. The more men a woman sees looking up to you… the more likely she will fi nd you attractive.

Rule3

No one has told you this before maybe, but one of the easiest ways to get a woman is to just be ‘fun’. Lighten up and put any nervousness or insecurity at bay. Remember, if you can be the rare guy who can allow a woman to relax and have fun around him, you will be three steps ahead of the game. A good way to be is

A SUIT MAY WELL BE IMPRESSIVE, BUT SOLELY IN THE BOARDROOM. IN ORDER TO GET HER ATTENTION AT A BAR, DITCH IT FOR SOMETHING BETTER – ATTITUDE.

PRACTICE THE ART OF MAKING SMALL TALK SEXY, AND IT’LL WORK LIKE MAGIC TO INCREASE YOUR ROMANTIC SUCCESS.


Food & Recipe

CHILLI PANEERby Rishi Kainth

If mother taught you well, you’re ready to make Chilli Paneer the Rishi Kainth way

This dish is inspired from Mumbai which is made from curded milk then formed into a block in which you can cut into bite size pieces. It is the equivalent to cottage cheese and is a very versatile ingredient in Asian cooking and also in Chinese cuisine. It is widely available from Asian stores and your local supermarkets and you can make a lovely curry, scrambled or in stir fry. Paneer is a good source of protein for those of you who are vegetarian and is a bit bland in taste but buy adding all various Asian spices you can make a mouth watering dish.

Chilli paneer is everyone's favourite and one of our most popular dishes at the restaurant. It is a great dish for people who think they cannot eat a proper meal without meat, as most people who eat it cannot tell the difference between this and some popular meat dishes.

Chilli paneer is an Indo Chinese dish which is a fusion of Asian and Chinese ingredients; it is best cooked in a Chinese wok for full fl avour and a healthy and quick way of cooking this dish.

Ingredients

300g Paneer1 Red pepper1 Green pepper3 Green chillies1/2 Sliced Onion1 tsp Salt1/2 tsp Ajinomoto (Chinese salt)1/4 tsp White pepper1 tsp Sugar100g Cornfl ower4 Tbsp Soy sauceHandful of fresh coriander1 tsp Garlic1 Sprig of spring onionOil for frying

Method

1. Cut the paneer block into about 30 pieces cubed and keep aside.

2. Cut Green pepper, Red pepper and Onion into slices.3. Vertically slit the Green chillies in half. To temper their heat, you can de-seed them.4. Finely chop the Garlic and keep aside.5. Coat the paneer pieces in the Cornfl ower and fry until golden brown.6. In the wok, heat 3 tbsp oil and when very hot, add the chopped Garlic and the slit Green chillies and fry for 2 minutes.7. Then add the Green and Red pepper and sliced Onion and fry for another 2 minutes.8. Then add the paneer, Soy sauce, Salt, Ajinomoto, Sugar and Coriander.9.Mix well and stir fry well for 2 minutes.10.When cooked garnish with fi nely chopped Spring Onions and serve hot.

This dish is best eaten as soon as it is cooked because paneer tends to harden after being cooked in this dish.


About the Author

Rishi Kainth aged 35 a trained chef with a vast amount of talent who has cooked for a number of celebrities and launched a cook book.

Rishi’s inspiration comes from his family who gave him the encouragement and determination to create new healthy and tasty cuisine, which he has chosen to share with others and show that it is not diffi cult to put together simple and healthy home cooked food.

Main areas Rishi cover’s are in training is Indian and Indo Chinese foods, the course goes through starters, mains and desserts and running a very successful restaurant and catering company.

Rishi’s target audience are experienced cooks who want to enhance their cooking skills, also people who are going to be entertaining clients and want to learn specialist cuisine.

Rishi also run’s specialised training courses for new brides before they get married where they can do a 10-12 week course to learn basic cooking skills and cuisines. And not forgetting courses for couples etc and men.

One lesson varies from 2-3 hours where you learn 3 dishes of your choice and if you what to spread that you can do it over a period of 10 weeks once a week for 2-3 hours.

The courses are developed to give individuals the confi dence and skill’s that they can cook good Restaurant cuisines in there very homes.

Asian Lifestyle Magazine International

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