Asante Hospice Bereavement Newsletter Aug 2010
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m a y t h e i r m e m o r i e s b e a b l e s s i n g August 2010
Asane HospiceBereavement Newsleter
Medford
Day group:
11 a.m. to noon
2nd and 4th Mondayof each month
Asante HospiceConference Room
2960 Doctors Park Drive
Evening group:
7 to 8:30 p.m.
Every Monday night
Asante HospiceConference Room
2960 Doctors Park Drive
Grants Pass
Every third Thursday:
5 to 6:30 p.m.
Three RiversCommunity Hospital2nd Floor Chapel Room
500 SW Ramsey Ave.
All groups are free to
the public on an open-ended group basis. There
is no time limit to grief. If you
have any questions, please
call(541) 789-4831
or (541) 956-6241.
Please call for information
and registration for the next
6 to 8 week class in late July.
Classes and PublicSupport Groups oferedby Asante Hospice
AsanteHospice:Medford(541) 789-4831 Grants Pass (541) 956-6241 [email protected]
To Cry or Not to CryBy Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD, Director, Center for Loss
One morning I read a lovely, personalized obituary in my
local newspaper. Te obituary described a man who had
done many things in his lie, had made many riends, and
had touched the lives o countless people. He died in hissixties o cancer. At the end o the obituary, readers were
invited to attend his uneral service and were instructed to
bring memories and stories but no tears. I nearly choked
on my Cheerios.
ears o grie are oten associated with personal
inadequacy and weakness. Te worst thing you can
do, however, is to allow this judgment to prevent you
rom crying. While your tears may result in a eeling o
helplessness or your riends, amily, and caregivers, you
must not let others stife your need to mourn openly.
Sometimes, as you can see rom the obituary I described, the people who care aboutyou may, directly or indirectly, try to prevent your tears out o a desire to protect you
(and them) rom pain. You may hear comments like, ears wont bring him back or
He wouldnt want you to cry. Yet crying is natures way o releasing internal tension
in your body, and it allows you to communicate a need to be comorted.
While data is still limited, researchers suggest that suppressing tears may actually
increase your susceptibility to stress-related disorders. It makes sense. Crying is one o
the excretory processes. Perhaps like sweating and exhaling, crying helps remove waste
products rom the body. Te capacity to express tears appears to allow or genuine
healing. In my experience in counseling mourners, I have even observed changes in
physical expression ater crying. Not only do people eel better ater crying, they alsoseem to look better. ension and agitation seem to fow out o their bodies.
You must be vigilant about guarding yoursel against this misconception. ears are
not a sign o weakness. In act, your capacity to share tears is an indication o your
willingness to do the work o mourning.
Dr. Alan Wolfelt, director of the Center for Loss, is known around the world for his
compassionate messages of hope and healing in grief.
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Why Celebrate Grie?By Donna Stribling
Grie gives us the git o awareness, o realizing that these moments
we celebrate together are the only moments that exist. Grie teachesus the real git o living in the moment. Grie gives us the git ounderstanding that we may be robbed o everything in lie, but weare never robbed o the ability to make meaning out o lie.
Let us celebrate our relationships, our riendships, and our loveo humanity.
Let us celebrate those who have died, who loved us, and whom weloved. Tey continue to be present to us in our memories, in ourvalues, and in our hearts.
Asane Hospice Buterfy ReleaseReminder that this event is September 18, 2010,from 1 to 3 p.m. at Grants Pass Riverside Park.
Sometimes when weve experienced a loss, it is helpul to rememberthe good in our lives. Show us what youre thankul or and howyou celebrate the blessings in your lie. Bring a ramed photo oyour amily member or riend to place on the memory table. Bringa mementoa piece o artwork, a quilt, a painting, a shirt, or tennisshoesto place on the table as well. Tese keepsakes show whoyour loved one was and what he or she meant to you. Its all part othe work o grie. Share with others your memories o love. Havequestions? Call Donna Stribling at (541) 789-4831.
Registration is open or the six-week bereavement class starting
July 31. Please call Donna at (541) 789-4831 or (541) 956-6241.
AsanteHospice:Medford(541) 789-4831 Grants Pass (541) 956-6241 [email protected]
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A Symbol o Hope
A buterfy lighs beside us like a sunbeam
And or a brie momen is gloryand beauy belong o our world
Bu hen i fies again
And hough we wish i could have sayed...
We eel lucky o have seen i.
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