LetYourInnerAlphaLoose!

•TheREALSecretstoEffortlesslyAttractWomen•BoostYourConfidencetotheRoof•DevelopaMagneticPersonality•AndDominateEveryAspectofYourLife•

ByJamesBeckett

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Allrightsreservedworldwide.Nopartofthispublicationmaybereplicated,redistributed,orgivenawayinanyformwithoutthepermissionoftheauthor.

TableofContentsIt’sTimetoStopBeingaBoy,andStartBeingaManWhatDoesitMeantoBeanAlphaMale?

GetReadytoGrow–andDon’tEverStopGrowingGetConfident–AndMeanIt

FindtheMeaninginYOURLifeNever,EverGiveUpStartThinkingforYourself

TakeControlofEverySituationAboveAllElse,BeYourself

GetWhatYouWant–WhateverItIsGettheGirl

GettheLooksGettheCareerGettheLifestyle

GetthePersonalityStopReading,StartDoing

Firstthingsfirst...

Bythetimeyoufinishthisbook,you’llfeellikethealphamaleyouwerealwaysborntobe–yourlifewillhavebeguntochangeandyou’llbeclimbingrighttothetopofthepeckingorder,whereyoubelong.Butbeforeyougetstarted,scrolldowntodownloadmyFREEbonuschapteronworkingoutlikeanalphamale,packedwithadviceongettingthebodyyouwantthroughtheidealexerciseanddietplan.Analphamaleneedstolookthepartaswellasheactsthepart–andwiththisimperativebonuschapter,you’llbeabletocompleteyouralphamalepackage.

Nowthatyouhaveeverythingyouneed,let'sstart...

It’sTimetoStopBeingaBoy,andStartBeingaManWhyhaveyouopenedthisbook?Whatmadethetitlejumpoutatyouandmakeyouwanttodivestraightinthisverymomenttoturnitspromiseintoreality?What’swrongwithyourcurrentsituationthatmakesyouthinkbecominganalphamaleisthesolution?

Myguessisthatyoudon’tfeellikeyourlifeisquitewhereyouthinkitshouldbeandyou’relookingfortherightwaytoturnthingsaround.Youthinkthatmaybe,justmaybe,allitwouldtakeisafewtweaksofyourpersonalitytopushyouintherightdirection,helpingyougetthegirl,thehighpoweredcareerofyourdreams,thepackoffriendsyou’vealwayswantedtorunwithandthebusy,rewardinglifestyleyouknowyoudeserve.Youthinkthatbecominganalphamalemaybetheanswertoallyourproblems.

You’reright–that’sexactlywhatthisbookcandoforyou.Butbeforeitcanstarttodothat,you’regoingtoneedtowakeuptoacoupleofrealitiesthatarefundamentally,excruciatinglyimportant.

Beinganalphamaleisnotaboutpretendingtobejustlikethatonecockyassholewiththewrygrinweallknow,whoseegoistoobigtofitintheroom.That’snotanalphamale–that’sanidiotwitharroganceissues.You’regoingtoneedtounderstandexactlywhatanalphamaleisbeforeyoucanstartreapingthebenefitsofbeingthatkindofguy.

It’salsonotaboutputtingonafrontwhilestayingexactlythesamepersonbehindthescenes.Ifyou’regoingtoturnthingsaroundandbecomethealphamalethatmenwanttobeandwomenwanttobewith,youneedtoacceptthatyourlifeandpersonalityareyourresponsibilityandthatchangingwhoyouaremeansdeep,lastingimprovementsthatareastrueunderthesurfaceastheyareaboveit.

Youdon’thavethelifeyouwantrightnow,butit’stimetostopcryingintoyourcerealaboutit.Youwillhavethatlife,justaslongasyougointothisprocesswiththerightattitude.Behonestwithyourselfandadmit,maybeforthefirsttimeinyourlifeifyou’vecomethisfarasoneoftheplebsinsteadofoneofthekings,thatyoucan’tbeconstantlymakingexcusesforallthethingsthathavehappenedtoyousofar.It’salldowntoyouwhetheryousucceed,anditalways

hasbeen.Unlessyouacceptthat,you’renotgoingtogetfartryingtoimprovethings.

Theonlydifferencebetweenrightthismomentandtenminutesago,beforeyouopenedthefirstpageofthisbook,isthatyou’renowholdinginyourhandsthesecrettorealtransformation.It’sstilluptoyouwhetheryouputitintopracticeand,likethebutterflyoutofthecocoon,emergeastheloud,proudandloveablealphamaleyou’vealwayswantedtobe.

Acceptingthesethingsisthefirststeptobecominganalphamale–congratulations,you’vealreadystartedthejourney.Ifyouholdsteadyandkeepcommitted,you’llalsoreachtheend.

Thisisthelasttimeyouwilleverleavethehousenotknowinghowpeoplearegoingtoreacttoyou.Thisisthelasttimeyouneedtowaitanxiouslytofindoutwhetheryou’vegotthepromotionyouwantedoryou’vemadeitontothesportsteam.Thisisthelasttimeyouwillavoidtalkingtothewomanwhocaughtyoureyebecauseyouthinkshemightturnyoudown.Thisisthebeginningoftherestofyourlife–solet’sgetthisshowontheroad.

WhatDoesitMeantoBeanAlphaMale?Weallknowwhatitmeanstobeanalphamale,right?Youseethemalloverthemovies,ontelevisionshowsandinbooks.Thealphamaleistheheroofeverystoryandtheiconweallofusaspireto.

Thealphamaleistheleaderofthepack,theoneeveryoneturnstowhentheyneedtoknowwhattothinkordo,theextrovertwho’sconstantlyoutonthetownwithhisfriendsandattractswomenlikefliestothehoneyjar.

Hedoesn’ttakenonsensefromanyone–andnorwouldanyonedaretogivehimanynonsense.He’sexcellentatwhateverhedecidestoturnhishandto,frombuildingthingswithhishandstoplayingsportsandpushinghiscareertothenextlevel.

Analphamaleischarming,andeveryonewantstospendtimewithhim.Hebarelyhastimetositdownforacupofcoffee,becausehiscalendarissofullofhighpoweredworkmeetings,manlyhobbiesandnightsoutwithwomenandwine.Whenhewalksintheroom,everythingseemsbetterandbrighter–we’reoknow,becausethealphaisheretotakecharge.He’saggressivewhenheneedstobe,especiallywhenhe’sdefendinghispack,andhe’llstickbyyoursidethroughthickandthin.

Inotherwords,analphamaleiseverythingyouwishyoucouldbe,butyouaren’t.Fornow.

Ontheotherhand,that’snotallthatbeinganalphamaleisabout.WhatIjustdescribedisafantasyfigurethatthemediahasboiledthealphamaledownto,ashorthandtodescribeaverycomplicatedreality.

Butthetroublewithstoriesisthattheyneverhaveroomtopaintthewholepicture.Theygiveyounuggetstochewonthathelpyouaccessyourownviewofanalphamale,buttheynevershowwhat’sgoingonunderneath.Thesestereotypesmayhelpyouvisualizeanalphamale,butthey’renotgoingtohelpyoubecomeone.Todothat,you’regoingtoneedtogodeeper.

Sowhat’smissingfromthedescription?Awholelot.Ifyouwanttobeanalphamale,youneedtoconcentrateonmorethanjustthemovieversion,andmorethanjusttheideaofbeingthedominantmaninanyroom.Youneedtofix

what’sgoingonunderthesurfaceand,whenyoudo,you’llfindthatitshinesthroughandbecomesvisibletoeveryonearoundyou,withnoeffortneededatall.Tobeanalphamale,you’regoingtohavetobecome:

Confidentinyourselfandcalminthefaceofcriticism,knowingwithoutdoubtthatyouhavefulfilledthepromiseofyourcharacter,butwithouteverdisplayingarroganceaboutthatfact.Passionateabouteverythingyoudo,clearaboutyourgoalsanddriventoreachthenextstepoftheladderonyourjourneytowardssuccess.Deeplycommittedtoyourmoralsandtoearningthetrustofeveryonearoundyou.Physicallyfitandhealthy,abletotakeonanysportchallengeortestofstrength.Comfortableinthepresenceofothersandgenuinelyinterestedinfindingoutmoreaboutthemandhelpingthemachievetheirowngoals.Quicktopraiseandfeelhappyforothers’achievements,neverfeelingjealousofsomeoneelse’ssuccess.Tirelessinyoureffortstobetteryourselfandyourcircumstances,nomatterhowdifficultthepathaheadmayseem.Comfortableintheroleofaleaderandabletoinspireotherstofollowwithouteverresortingtoviolence,bullyingandintimidation.Humbleinyourownsuccesses,allowingotherstoseeyouforwhoyouarewithoutfeelingtheneedtoflauntthethingsyouhaveachieved.Driventosucceedandtoidentifytheflawsthatareholdingyoubackfromdoingso,neverblamingfateorotherpeopleforyourfailuresalongthewayandabletolearnfromyourexperiences.

Thesearethetraitsyouneedtoaspireto–sodidyoufindthatlistmotivating,ordidyoufinditdaunting?Ifyou’reexcitedbythethoughtofembodyingallthosequalities,you’rereadytowalkthepathofthealphamale.

Ifyouthoughtthelatter,evenifyoujustthoughtitquietlyatthebackofyourhead,it’stimetosuckitupandrealizethatnobodyevergotexactlywhattheywantedjustbyaskingforit.

Ifyouwanttobecomeanalphamale,you’regoingtoneedtoworkforit–andthegoodnewsisthatyou’requicklygoingtodiscoverasyoureadonthroughthesechapterthattheprocessofworkingtobecomeanalphamale,allbyitself,iswhat’sgoingtohelpyougetexactlywhereyou’retryingtogo.Areyoureadytogetstarted?Good,solet’sbegin.

GetReadytoGrow–andDon’tEverStopGrowingYou’vealreadyadmittedthatyoupickedthisbookupbecauseyouweren’t100percenthappywithhowyourlifeisgoingrightatthismomentandyou’relookingforawaytoimproveit.Becauseyoualreadyknowthingsaren’tquiteright,itshouldn’tbetoohardtoacceptthatyou’regoingtoneedtogrowandimproveifyouwanttobecomeanalphamale.Ifitis,thenyouprobablydon’thavethemettletogetthere,sothinkaboutyouranswercarefully.

Youaren’tanalphamaleyet,andgettingtothatpointisgoingtotakeawholelotofpersonalgrowth.You’regoingtoneedtoworkoneveryaspectofyourself,fromyourattitudetoyourworkethicandself-confidence.But,aboveandbeyondthesethings,themostimportantrealizationyouwilleverhaveasyoustrivetotakeyourplaceasanalphamaleisthatthereisno“endpoint”toworktowardshere–youneedtoembracethefactthatyou’renevergoingtoreachtheendofthisparticularlegofthejourney.Onceyoubecomeanalphamale,yourjobisnotdone.

Why?Becauseanalphamaleisallaboutgrowingandimproving,evenifhe’sdoingprettygoodalready.Hehasalaserfocusonwhathewantstoachieveandhe’sgoingtotakethequickestroutetogetthere,whichmeansimprovinghimselfandadaptingonaconstantbasis.

Thisappliestoeverypartofhislife,fromhisrelationshipstohishobbiesandcareer.Thereisnopartofyouthatisperfectatthismoment,andthereprobablyneverwillbe–butit’syourjobtokeepimprovingeveryaspectofyourcharactersothatyouareconstantlyreachinggreaterheightsandachievements.

You’regoingtoneedtostartthinkingofyourselfasaworkinprogress.Youneedtothinkintermsofconsistentgrowthandimprovementfromthismomentonwards,rightuptothemomentyoutakeyourlastbreath.Youneedtoprimeyourselftoneveragainacceptanythingthat’s“goodenough”andalwaysbelookingforbetter.Youwon’tbedoneuntilthemomentyou’redone–everything,absolutelyeverything,upuntilthatmomentisalearningexperience.

It’sadifferentmindsettotheonethatmostpeopleworkwith,andthemindsetthatyou’venodoubtbeenworkingwithupuntilnow,becausemostpeopleseethemselvesasfullyformedhumanbeingswhoeitherfittheneedsofthe

situation,ortheydon’t.Whentheycan’tachievesomething,theyeithergiveintothethroesofdepressionorfindsomethingorsomeoneelsetoblame.That’swhyyou’llhearsomanyexcusesthrownaround,suchas:

“Itjustwasn’tinmycomfortzone.”“IcouldhavedoneitifonlyI’dhadtherighttools.”“Itwasn’tmyfault,Ijustdidn’thaveenoughtraining.”“I’mnotclever/attractive/goodatspeaking/talentedenough.”“Itwastotallyhisfault,Ishouldhavebeenputinabetterteam.”

Whatdoalloftheseexcuseshaveincommon?Why,thefactthatthey’retotalnonsense.Ifyou’veusedanyofthemyourself,oranythatarelikethem,it’stimeforarealitycheck.

Therearefewsituationsinthisworldthatcannotbechangedandimprovedsimplybylookingatyourownpartoftheequation.Ifyoucan’tclimbawall,it’snotthewall’sfault.Youcanprobablyturnthingsaroundandgetoverthetopofthatwallifyouworkonyourupperbodystrengthforawhilebeforeyougiveitanothergo,it’sassimpleasthat.Ifyoucan’tfindajob,there’snopointblamingthemanagerswhodon’tevenknowyouexist–it’suptoyoutotransformyourselfintotherightpersonfortheroleyou’rehopingtoget.

Analphamaleknowsthesethingsandembracesthesimpleideathatnochallengeexistswhichcannotbeovercomewithalittlepersonalimprovement–orbyotherwisefindingawaytochangethestatusquo.

Whenyoufailatsomething,it’stimetostopseeingitastheendofallthings.Instead,youneedtostartseeingitasanopportunitytolearnsomethingnew,growasapersonandfindanewroutetosuccess.Didn’tpassthattest?Thenyouneedtoworkoutwhatyouwerelacking,beittimespentstudyingordedicationtothetask,orsomethingelseentirely.Didn’tgetpickedfortheteam?Thenit’stimetofindoutwhatyourfellowsportsmensawasyourweakpointandworkhardonituntilit’soneofyourstrengthsinstead.Provethemwrong–that’swhatanalphamalewoulddo.

WhatI’mtryingtotellyouhereisthatyouralphamaleselfwillneverbeperfectandneverbeexactlywhoheneedstobe.Andthat’snobadthing.Thepointofbeinganalphamaleisnottobeacartoonprincewithasparkleonhistoothandakingdomathisbeckandcall.It’stobethekindofpersonwhocanaccepthisfailuresandweaknesses,identifywhatheneedstodotoimprove–andthengo

aheadanddojustthat.

Yourschoolorcollegeprobablytalkedtoyouatsomepointbackinthedistantpastabouttheideaof“lifelongeducation”.Theymeantthatyoushouldkeepreadingbooksevenwhennobody’smakingyoudoit,buttheywererightinmorewaysthantheyrealized.Whattheyprobablydidn’ttellyou,though,isthatlearningdoesn’tcometoyou–youneedtogooutandfindit.

Thetakeawayfromthischapteristhatyoushouldnevershyawayfromnewthings,nordecideyoucan’tdosomethingbeforeyoueventry.Ifyou’renotreadyforityet,it’syourjobtomakeyourselfready.Ican’tdothatforyou,Icanonlykeepondrummingitintoyourbrainthatitneedstobedone.Ifyoustarttoforgetit,comebacktothischapterandremindyourselfofit–ifyouletyourselfforget,you’llsliprightbacktothesadlittleversionofyourselfthatyouwantsobadlytogetawayfrom.

Normalmengetstuckinarutbecausetheyaren’tpreparedtoputinthetime,effortandmentalstrainthatittakestostepuptothenextlevel.Alphamalesrecognizethatstrivingforeventheseeminglyimpossiblemightbetheonlywayforthemtogrowandimprove.Analphamalethentakesthatchallengebetweentheirteethandkeepsatituntilhe’sovercome.

ImprovementTipsforAlphaMales:

Writedownalistofchallengesthatreallyscareyou–everythingfromclimbingamountaintomeetingnewpeople.Jotdowntheexcusethatyou’vealwaysusedtoconvinceyourselfit’soutsideyourreach–andnowfigureouthowyoucanchangethingssoitactuallyis.Pickonethingfromthatlist,thengooutandtackleit–keepatituntilyou’veovercome.Andnowyou’vedoneitonce,keepdoingit,writingnewlistsalongtheway.Thechallengeswillneverstopcoming,andyoushouldneverstoptryingtoovercome.Thenexttimeyoufailatsomething,analyzeyourgutreaction.Listenfortheexcusesyouaremakingtoyourself.Dismissthemcompletelyandreplacethattrainofthoughtwithanewone:“Thisisjustastumblingblockalongtheway,andmyjobhereistoworkouthowtogetoverit.”Pushyourselftoovercomethefailureinthebestwaypossible–bycarryingonforwards,neverbackingdown.

Findyourflaws.Whichaspectsofyourselfareholdingyoubackthemost?Areyoutoolackinginconversationtonetworkatanimportantworkevent,ortooeasilydistractedtoeverquitefinishatask?You’renotgoingtochangethingsovernight,butrecognizingwhereyouneedtoimproveishalfthebattle.Itmakesyouawareofyourflaws,whichmakesyoumorelikelytostrivetoovercomethemwhentheyreartheirheadsandgetinthewayofyourprogress.Makeachangeforthebetter.Itdoesn’tmatterwhatitis–pickoneaspectofyourlife,bigorsmall,thatyouaren’tallthathappywithrightnow.Perhapsyou’restuckinadeadendjoboryoucan’tbeartolookattheviewoutofyourbadlylocatedapartmentanymore.Workoutwhatyouwanttochangeandthenmakeaplantochangeit.Sticktothatplan,neverwavering,untilyou’veseenitthrough.Setgoalsforyourself.Alphamalesneverjustsitbackandletlifecometothem–theygooutandgetwhattheywant.Youhavetomakeyourownopportunitiesinlife,andtodothatyouneedtoknowwhatitactuallyisthatyouwant.Youcandothisineveryaspectofyourlife,fromyourrelationshipstoyourbankbalance,careerandaspirations.Don’tsetyoursightstoolow,either–alphamalesaimfarhigherthanyouraveragejoeeverwould,andtheydosowithfullconfidencethatthey’regoingtobeabletoreachthathigh.Onceyouhaveanoverallgoal,breakitdownfurthersothatyouknowwhatstepsalongthejourneyyou’regoingtoneedtotaketoachieveit.Let’ssayyouwanttobeelectedmayorofyourtown–whoareyougoingtoneedtoknow,whatareyougoingtoneedtodoandhowareyougoingtowinvotes?Keepbreakingthisdownfurtheruntilyou’vegotatasklisttofollow,andyouknowexactlywhenandhowtogeteachitemdone.Fewofusarebornwithlaserfocus,butanalphamaleisn’tafraidtogivehimselfdirectionandorganizationtokeephimselfmotivatedalongtheway.Letgoofwhatisn’timportant.Takealookatyourweeklyschedulerightnow.Howmuchtimeareyoudedicatingtothethingsthatwillhelpyouimprove,andhowmuchtimeareyouspendingjustplaying

around?Successisn’tgoingtocometoyou,soyou’regoingtoneedtomaketimeforit.Unlessyouownatimemachine(andifyoudid,I’mprettysureI’dknowyournamealready),theonlywaytodothatistocutoutthethingsthatdon’tmatterandaren’tgoingtohelpyouimprove.Insteadofplayingvideogamestonight,whynotworkout,makeadinnerdatewithacolleagueorlearnsomethingnew?

GetConfident–AndMeanItAnalphamaleisdrippingwithselfconfidence,it’swhatmakeshimsoappealingtoeveryonearoundhim.It’swhat’smadeyoulookaroundatallthealphamalesyouknowandthinkwistfullytoyourself,man,IwishIcouldbelikethat.

It’swhat’smadeallthosewomenlookrightthroughyouandmakeabeelineforthatguyinstead.It’swhyyourbosspassedyouoverforpromotionandgaveittothealphamaleinthenextoffice.It’shissecretweapon,andit’stimetomakeityours.

There’sasubtledistinctionherethatyou’llneedtounderstandbeforeyoucanmoveon.There’sadifferencebetweenfakingselfconfidenceenoughtofoolthepeoplearoundyouandactuallyfeelingcontentwithwhoyouareandwhatyouhavetooffertotheworld.

Fakingitmightfoolthemajorityofpeople,butneverenoughtomakethemthinkofyouasthealpha.They’llthinkyouhaveanego,sure,buttheyaren’tgoingtofeelthatirresistiblepullofacharming,selfconfidentman.

Soifyou’renotconfidentrightnow,youmightbethinkingyou’rescrewed.Youcan’tjustchangethatfact,you’rethinking,you’reeitherconfidentoryou’renot.It’sapersonalitytrait,there’snochangingit,andifyoucan’tfakeitthenyoualsohavenohopeofmakingit.

Yeah,you’reright,youaren’tgoingtogetfarputtingonafront,butthere’sstillasolution.Yourconfidenceisnotsomethingthat’sfixed,likeyoureyecolororyourheight.It’spartlyinyourgenetics,butit’salsogotalottodowithhowyoufeelaboutyourselfandtheachievementsyoucanboastof.Themoreyouworkonyourself,thebetteryoufeel,andthemoreselfconfidentyou’llbecome.Andtobeanalphamale,you’regoingtohavetobuildyourconfidencefromscratchandkeeppilingupthosestonesuntilit’sskyhighandeveryonearoundyoucanseeit.

How?Byimprovingyourselfsothatyougenuinelydofeelproudofwhoandwhatyouare.Ifyouhateyourbeergut,it’snotaboutfindingasnappysuitthathappenstohideit–it’saboutchangingyourwaystogetridofthethingyou

hateandreplaceitwithsomethingthatmakesyoufeelgoodaboutyourself.Ifthatmeansatrimfigure,great.Ifyou’regoingtoneedasixpackbeforeyouthinkofyourselfaslookinggood,thenthat’swhatyou’llneedtoworkfor.

Thinkyou’reprobablycapableofbeingprettygoodatgolf,orfootball,orcycling,butyoudon’treallybelieveinyourselfenoughtotry?It’snotaboutignoringyourloveforthesportandhopingeveryone’sfooledintobelievingthatyoudon’treallyenjoyitafterall.It’stimetogetoveryourfearsanddoubts–giveitago,keepatitandkeeptryinguntilyouhaveaskillthatyoucanfeelproudtohaveachieved.

Hateyourjobandfeelembarrassedwhenyoutellpeoplewhatyoudoforaliving?It’snotaboutphrasingyourjobtitleinafancywaytofoolpeopleintothinkingyou’remoreimportantormoreinterestingthanyoureallyare.It’saboutaskingyourselfwhy.Isitbecauseyouhaven’tbeenpromotedinacoon’sage,orisitbecauseyou’reinanindustrythatyoudon’tfeelpeopleoughttorespect?Whateverthereason,youcanfixit,butit’sgoingtotakesomehardgrind.Dedicateyourselftofindingtherightcareer,impressingtherightpeopleorsimplyhoningyourtalentstogetyourselfnoticed.Whateverittakes,it’stimetoknuckledownanddoit.

Areyoustartingtogettheideafromtheseexamples?Confidenceisaboutfeelingselfsatisfactionineveryareaofyourlife.It’saboutknowingyou’reworkingtothebestofyourabilityateverythingyou’reinterestedindoingandachieving.It’saboutknowing,deepdown,thatyouhaven’tbeenlazy,unmotivatedorscared–andit’saboutknowingthatyou’vepushedpastthoseemotionsandachievedwhatyouwantedtoregardless.

Thisgoeshandinhandwiththeideaofbeingrelentlessaboutselfimprovement.It’snotsomethingyoucandohalfheartedly,you’regoingtoneedtoputinalltheeffortyoucan,atalltimes.Youhavetoreallywantthistomakeithappen,becauseyou’llneverkeepupthekindofmotivationthat’snecessarytoreachthosepeaklevelsifyoudon’t.

Soaskyourselfrightnow:howmuchdoyouwantthis?Andifyouaren’tshoutingatthepagethatIshouldjustshutupandtellyouhowtogetitdone,youmightwanttotakealookatyourprioritiesandcomebacktothisbookwhenyou’rereadytobecomearealman.

Whenyoudeclarethatyouwantsomethinglikethisbadly,don’tforgetthat

you’realsosayingyouwanttofightthebattlethat’saheadofyoubeforeyoucanwinit.You’resayingthatthestruggledoesn’tfazeyouandthestumblingblocksalongthewaydon’tfrightenyou,becauseyou’regoingtogettherenomatterwhat.You’resayingthatyou’lldoanythingittakestoachieveyourgoals–justlikeanalphamalewoulddo.

It’saselffulfillingprophecythatfeedsitselfasyougo:themoreyouworktoimproveyourself,thebetterandmoreconfidentyouwillfeelandthemoreyouwillwanttokeepimprovingyourself.

ImprovementTipsforAlphaMales:

Giveeverythingyourbest.Whetheryou’vebeenhandedaprojectatworkoryou’rethinkingofgivinganewhobbyago,it’stimetotackleitlikeanalphamale.Toomanypeoplehidebehindtheideathat,iftheyaren’tgivingittheirall,theyhaveanexcusewhentheydon’tsucceed.Theycouldhavedonebetterifthey’dspentmoretimeatthegym,ortheydidn’thaveenoughtimetoresearchthepaperasmuchastheywantedto.Alphamalesdon’tthinklikethat–theygofullpeltintoaprojectand,ifitdoesn’tworkout,alltheywanttoknowishowtomakeitworkthenexttimeround.Wakeupandsetyourselfgoals.Ahugepartofimprovingyourconfidenceisshowingyourselfthatyoureallycanmeetthegoalsyou’vechosentosetyourself.You’dbeshockedhowmuchofyourconfidencegetsleechedwhenyoudon’tfinishoutyourlistoftasksfortheday.Youprobablydon’tevenknowit’shappening,especiallyifyouhaven’treallypinneddownwhatitwasyouwantedtoachieveinthefirstplace.Yourfirststepistodefinethosegoalsforyourselfmoreclearly.Bytonight,whatdoyouwantandneedtohavegotdone?Bespecific.Bereasonable,butpushyourselfeverydayjustalittlebitfurther.Thinkabouthowyoucanmakeanimpact.Anothermassivelyimportantpartofselfconfidenceistheideaofcontributingsomethingtothisworld.Itmightbethatyouwanttobethebestatsomething,youcouldbethekindofpersonwhofeelsfulfilledbygettinginvolvedintheircommunityorhelpsoutwithacharity.Tobecomeanalpha

male,youneedtofeellikeyou’remakingadifference.It’suptoyouwhatthatdifferenceisandhowyou’regoingtogoaboutmakingit,butit’snotoptional–youneedtogetstartedonitrightnow.

FindtheMeaninginYOURLifeWetouchedonthisjustalittlebitinthelastchapter,butlet’stakeitonestepfurther.Alphamalesdon’twanderthisplanetwaitingpatientlyforopportunitytocometothem.TheymakeopportunityWANTtoknock,andtheyseemtogetallthebiggestbreaksasaresult.

I’llbetyou’vefeltafewwavesofjealousyinthepast,watchingasthealphamalesgetallthebestjobs,theprettiestwomenandthemostmoney.Ifyou’veeversatbitterlystaringonasafriendwentonthevacationofalifetimewithhisgorgeous,dotingwife,oryou’vequietlyhatedhimasheleftonanallexpensespaidtripabroadonbehalfofthecompanywhovalueseverylastnoisehemakesandeverydarnedbreathhetakes,youknowexactlywhatImean.

Butsittingwhereyou’resitting,hatingothersfortheiraccomplishmentsandmutteringabouthowtheycan’tpossiblydeserveitmorethanyoudo,isexactlywhyyou’renotthealphamaleinyourgroup.It’shappeningbecause,unlikethatguy,youhaven’tdecidedwhatyouwantandyouhaven’tmadeupyourmindtogooutandgetit.

Sowhatisitthatyouwantfromyourlife?Wheredoyouwanttobe12monthsfromnow?Howaboutinfiveyears?Whataboutten?Andwhataboutthatverylastmomentwhenyoubreatheyourlastbreathandshuffleoffthismortalcoil–wheredoyouwanttobethatdayandwhatdoyouwanttohaveachieved?Whatdoyouwanttoflashthroughyourmindasyouclimbthebrightlylitcorridortoyourafterlife?

Tofigurethatout,you’llneedtodosomedeepthinking.Maybeyouhaveavagueideaalready,Iwouldn’tknow,butyousuredon’thaveacutanddriedplanthatyou’vebeenfollowingsinceyouwereoutofshorttrousers.HowdoIknow?Becauseyou’renotanalphamaleyet.

Solet’stakesometimeoutherewhileyouaskyourselfafewquestions–anddon’tcomebackuntilyouhave.Iwanttoseetheseanswersscrawledalloverawhiteboard,stuckwithsupergluetoyourfridgeortypedup,printedandlaminated.Iwantthemsolidanddeterminedandfullyreadyforyoutogooutandstartachievingthem.Iwantyoutoanswerthesequestionsfirst,thenfillintheblanksthatcomeafterthem.

Whatmeansthemosttoyouinthisworld?Whatwouldyouliketoberememberedfor?Whoisitthatyouwanttorememberyou?Whatdoyouwanttohavegivenbacktotheworld?Whatdoyouwantfromyourcareer?Whathobbies,pursuitsandtalentsdoyouwanttoexcelat?Whatdoyouwantfromyourlovelife?Whataboutyourfamilylife?

Withthesethingsinmind,Iwantyoutowritedownyourgoalorgoalsforyourcareer,interests,achievements,lovelifeandfamilyinthelongterm.Ithenwantyoutobreakthatdownandsetyourselfgoalsforsixmonths’time,ayearfromnow,fiveyearsintothefutureandadecadeon.

Iwantyoutoputitsomewhereyou’regoingtoseeiteverysingleday,atleastonce,toremindyourselfwhatthemeaningofyourlifeisandwhatyouwantfromit.Andwhenyoudolookatthatlistofgoals,Iwantyoutothinkaboutwhatyou’vedonerecentlytoworktowardsthemandaskyourselfifyou’vereallydoneenough.

Haveyoujustleftthemthere,hopingthey’llmagicallymakethemselvescometrue,likeyouusedtodoasakidwithacandleonabirthdaycake?Orareyoupushingyourselfeverysingledaytowardsthem?Onlywhenyoucanansweryestothatsecondquestionandchuckletoyourselfattheideaofthefirstquestionhaveyoutakenthissteptowardsbecominganalphamale.

Asyougetintothismindset,you’llfindthattherestfollowsnaturally.Whenyoudecideonagoal,you’llfindyourselfautomaticallyconsideringhowyou’regoingtoneedtogetthereandthinkingaboutthejourney,ratherthanthegoal.You’llstartplanningoutthesteps,askingyourselfwhatyouhavenowandwhatyouneedtohaveinordertograbthatgoalbetweenyourhands.

Andyouwillhavetodothatbecause,asyoukeepgrowing,you’llkeepunlockingmoreopportunitiesandit’spossiblethatyou’llfindyourselfgoinginanentirelydifferentdirection.That’snotaproblem–infact,it’sgood.Analphamaleknowshowtospotopportunitiesandthenadapthisplanstomakethemostofthem.Whateveritisthatyou’vejustlaminatedontoawhiteboardandstuckonyourfridgewithsuperglueisjustastartingpoint–it’stheviewfromwhereyouarerightnow,andthingscouldlookcompletelydifferentfromfurtherup

towardsthetopofyourpersonalmountain.

WhatIwantyoutotakeawayfromthischapteristhatthere’sahugedifferencebetweenyourightnowandthealphamaleyouwanttobe,andit’sallaboutthinkingofthefuture.Ifyou’rehappysittingaroundwaitingforgoodthingstocometoyou,that’sjustfine–butyou’llneedtoputthisbookdownandwalkaway,becauseit’snothowanalphamalethinks.

Butifyouwantyourlifetobefullofmeaning,constantlylookingforwardtowardsthethingsthatyouknowyou’llonedaywonderhowyoueverlivedwithout,thenyouneedtodeciderighthere,andrightnow,whatthosethingsare.Iftheychangealongtheway,that’sagoodthing,justaslongasyoucontinuetopushtowardstherealmeaningofyourlife.

Never,EverGiveUpWhatItoldyouinthepreviouschapternodoubtsoundsexhausting.I’veessentiallyjusttoldyouthatthere’llbenomoresittingonthesofaplayingCallofDutyuntiltheweehoursandyou’llwanttothinktwiceaboutswitchingonthetelevisionorwastingtimebrowsingnewgadgetsatthemall.

I’vetoldyouthatyourlifefromthismomentonwardsisgoingtobeastruggleandthatyoumightnotgettoseetherewardsforagoodlongwhile.Right?

Actually,no.I’mnottellingyouthatatall.WhatI’msayingisthatyouneedtoreconsiderthebalanceofyourlifeandputalotmoreeffortintothethingsthatreallymattertoyou.Ifyouwanttobeagamingpro,goforit,andyoucanstayupallnightpracticingyourvirtualsnipingskillstodoitifthat’swhatittakes–I’llberightbehindyou,buddy,cheeringyoualongtheway.

Butifgamingisjustsomethingyoudotokilltimebeforebed,oryoupickupthecontrollerbecauseyoucan’tthinkofanythingelsetodowiththegapbetweennowandwhenyouheadouttomeetyourfriendsforadrink,thenyouneedtoaskyourselfifit’sreallyworthdoing.

It’salsoworthpausingforasecondtostressthat,justbecauseIhadyouwritegoalsyouwanttohaveachievedadecadedowntheline,itdoesn’tmeanyou’renotgoingtogetanythingforallthathardworkbetweenthenandnow.You’renotgoingtobeoldandgreybeforeyoustartseeingthefruitsofyourefforts–youmightevenseesomeofthoserewardsbytheendoftoday.

Let’ssayyou’vedecidedyouwanttobeaworldclasschef.Tonight,youdecidetocookanewpastaentreethatyou’venevertriedbeforebecauseitseemedtoohardorlikeitwasgoingtotakewaytoomuchtimetobeworthit,oryoucouldn’tbebotheredtogooutandhuntdownthefancyingredients.Becauseyou’vedecidedthatyouwanttotakeyourrightfulplaceasanalphamale,thetypeofguywhowouldn’tletanyofthatbunkumstophim,youbitethebulletandcookit.Yourspaghetticomesoutgood,andyourmomandyourdadandyourauntandyourgirlfriendandyourdogalltellyouthatitwasdelicious.

Bingo,you’veachievedsomething,andyou’realreadyfeelinggoodaboutthejourney.Thelittlejoltofpleasurethatcamefromtakingastepalongthewayis

justyourfirsttaste.Mostofthetime,assumingyoureallydokeeppushingyourself,you’regoingtobefeelinglittleburstsofhappyjustlikethatone,prettymucheverysingleday.Everytimeyoulookatyourgoalsandknowyou’veworkedtowardsthem,andforeverytinyachievementthatmakesuptheoverallgoal,you’llgetalittletingleinyourtippytoes.

No,youhaven’treachedtheoverallgoalyousetyourself,butyouknowyoumovedanotherinchtowardsit.Andbecausethatgoalhassinceremeaningtoyouandrepresentsthetruemeaningofyourlife,movingtowardsitisgoingtomeanawholelottoyou.

Ontheotherhand,therearegoingtobedayswhenyouwanttopackallofthisinandgobacktothetimewhenyoucouldgofishingalldayandnotcareifyoucamehomewithacatchofthedayforyourdinner,orwhenyoucouldjustsitbackwithabowlofnachostowatchthegame.You’llstarttomissyourpre-alphaself,becausehehaditsoeasy.Hedidn’thavetopushhimself,hedidn’thavetobemindfulofhowhespenthistime,hedidn’thavetothinkaboutwhateveryactionwasdoingforhisfuture.

You’llfailatsomething–ofcourseyouwill,wealldoatonetimeoranother.You’lltrytocookasoufflétoimpressyourfriendsandit’llcomeoutlookinglikeayakthrewupalloveryourovendish.Andyou’llthinktoyourself,whythehellamIdoingthistomyself?

Oryou’llhitawallinyourprogress–someseeminglyinsurmountableobstaclethatit’sgoingtotakealotofefforttogetpast.You’retired,you’vegotthingsyou’dratherbedoing,you’rebusyoryou’rejustplainfedup.

Andthat,rightthere,isthegoldenmoment:theonewhereyoutestyourmettle.Areyoureallyjuststilltheoldversionofyourselfwhodidn’tknowthemeaningofhislifeanddidn’tcare?Orhaveyoutransformedintothealphamalewhotakesevenfailureasanopportunitytoexcel?

Inthatmoment,you’llhavetwochoices.Youcaneithergiveupandtossthisbookinthefireplace,oryoucanpickyourselfup,dustoffthesoufflécrumbsandworkoutwhatwentwrong,readyandwillingtousethatinformationthenexttimeyoupulloutyourwhiskandapron.

Soifyoureallydowanttobeanalphamale,prepareyourselfforthelonghaul.You’regoingtoneedtopushyourselfeveryday,nomatterwhetheryoufailor

whetherthingsgettoohard.Andyou’renever,evergoingtobeallowedtogiveup.

ImprovementTipsforAlphaMales:

Expectthebaddays.I’lltellyourightnowwhywehavesuchahardtimedealingwithfailureandunexpectedobstacles.It’sbecause,deepdown,wehonestlythinkwecanavoidthem.Wethinkwe’respecialandthat,becausewe’veputinabitofeffort,we’vedoneenoughtostaveoffanybigissues.That’sabadwayoflookingatit,becauseitmakesthedayswhenyoudon’tmeetyourgoalsseemsomuchworse.Youneedtoacceptthatyouwon’tsucceedeverysingletime,thattheworldwon’talwayscooperatewithyourplans,andthatitdoesn’treallymatterifthathappens.You’reanalphamale–you’refullyconfidentoftakingitinyourstrideandtryingagain.Letgoofthelittlethings.Whenwesweatthesmallstuff,itsuddenlybecomesfarmoreimportantthanitoughttobe.Itdoesn’tmatterifitrainedonyourbrandnewsuit,thatguywhoshovedyouonthesubwayhasnorealconsequenceandyou’renotgoingtokeeloverdeadbecauseyoutrodindogmess.Stopworryingsomuchaboutthelittlethingsinlife–saveyourenergyforthegoalsthatwillchangeyourfuture.Setupyourownmotivationsystem.Whatmotivatesyouwillbedifferentfromwhatmotivatesme–hell,youcanpromisemeasliceofpizzaandI’llclimbEverestbytheendofthedayifyouwantmeto.Youneedtoworkouthowtogetyourselfbackonthehorsewhenyoufalloff,andbythatImeanyouneedtosetupatangiblesystemthatworksforyou.You’llseeplentyofadviceforthat–stickupapictureofyourflabbystomachonthefridgetoconfrontyouifyoutrytosneakasnack,daydreamaboutyourperfecthomeinthesuburbs,stickyourgoalstoawhiteboardwithsuperglueandthenlaminatethefridge.Younameit,someonesomewherehassuggesteditashardandfastadvice.Sowhileyoureallydoneedtohaveyourgoalssetoutinstoneforyourself,themotivationyouusetogettherewillbepersonal.Whatwillmakeyouwanttocarryonwhenyou’vehitaroadblock?Workthatoutnow,whileyou’resailingalongnicely,andyou’llhave

itreadytorolloutwhenyouhitbumpywaters.Ignorethenaysayers.Weallknowpeoplewhothinktheworstofeverysituationandarepronetotellinguswehaven’tgotwhatittakestoreachourgoals.Idon’tcarewhetherit’syourthirdgradeteacheroryourbelovedgrandmother,it’stimetostartignoringwhattheysay.Stopputtingstockinwhatotherpeoplethinkandstarthavingconfidenceinyourownopinion.Ifyouthinkyoucandothis,youcan.Whentheytellyouthatyoucan’t,flashthemashininggrin,thankthempolitelyfortheirinputandthengetthehelloutoftheresoyoucandiscardeverylastmemoryofwhatevernonsensetheyspouted.

StartThinkingforYourselfAreyoupursuingacareerbecausesomeone,atsomepoint,toldyouitwasagoodidea?Didyoutakeupfootballbecausedaddywantedyoutofollowinhisfootsteps?Doyougotothecoolbarintownbecauseeveryoneelselikesit,eventhoughyouthinkitsmellsfunnyandyoucannevergetaseat?Doyoueatyourmealsatbreakfast,lunchanddinnerbecausethosearetheexpectedtimesforrefueling?

Why?Whyhaveyouchosentofollowthecrowd,evenwhenyoudon’tagreewithwhatitthinks?Whyareyoulettingotherpeopledictateeverythingfromtheclothesyouweartothelifeyoulead?Isitbecausethat’sreallywhatyouwant,orisitbecauseyoudon’tknowhowtodothingsanydifferently?

Thisconnectsstronglytoyourgoalsandyourselfconfidence,soIwantyoutoreadthischapterwithamindtowardsworkingonyourselfrespect.Ievenwantyoutohaveanopenmindaboutpossiblychangingthosegoalsyousetforyourselfacoupleofchaptersback,ifitturnsoutthatyou’vechosenthemforthewrongreasons.

I’mgoingtotellyousomethingaboutalphamalesthatyoumightnotalreadyknow–butifyou’regoingtobeone,it’ssomethingyou’llneedtoembrace.Alphamaleshaveenoughrespectforthemselvesandtheirownopinionsandchoicesthat,mostofthetime,theywillgowiththeirownideasratherthanbowtothewillofthecrowd.

Ifcommonwisdomtellsyouthatyououghttobeinbedby10o’clockbutyouknowfullwellthatyou’reatyourmostcreativeormotivatedaftermidnight,youneedtobestrongenoughinyourselftogowithwhatYOUknowisrightforyou.

Ifyourguidancecounselortoldyouthatyououghttogointoconstruction,butyourheartistellingyouthatyouwanttobeavetoracheforadoctor,orevenarockstar,thenyouneedtorespectyourownthoughtsonthematterandchoosetofollowwhatYOUthinkisbestcareerforyou.

Ifyourteamwantsyoutoplaylinemanwhenyouknowyou’dbeperfectasquarterback,it’suptoYOUtonotjusttellthemthatthey’rewrong,butprovethatwhatyou’resayingisreallythecase.

YouseewhatI’mgettingathere?Itdoesn’tmatterwhatotherpeoplearesaying,youareanindependentmanwithhisownthoughts,attitudesandopinionsand,justbecausesomeoneelsedoesn’tagreewiththem,thatdoesn’tmakethemwrong.

It’stimetostartthinkingandactingthatway.Let’ssayyoufindyourselfinadiscussionaboutpoliticsandyoursparringpartnerleansadifferentwaytoyou.It’snotyourjobtositandlistentohimandagreewithwhathe’ssaying,andIdoubtyoueventhinkitisrightnow.But,ontheotherhand,takingyourownstanddoesnotmeansimplyshoutingtheotherpersondown.Itmeanshearingwhattheysayandsearchingyourownrepertoireofknowledgeandexperiencetodecipherit,thenmakingupyourmindbasedoneverythingyounowknow.Itmeansconsidered,thoughtfulresponsestotheopinionsofothers.

Inanutshell,that’swhatbeinganalphamaleisallabout.I’mnottellingyoutostoplisteningtootherpeople,becausethat’soneofthebestandmostusefulwaystogathernewinformation,andinformationishowyougrow.

I’mtellingyouthatit’syourresponsibilitytoprocessthatdataandtocometoyourownconclusionsattheend.AndI’malsotellingyouthatyouneedtostopbeingafraidofthoseconclusions,becauseanalphamalehastheselfrespect,andtherespectforotherpeople,tocomparehisownbeliefsagainstthenewinformationhe’sbeengiven,andcometohisownjudgmentbydoingso.

Thisisalsoamajorsteptowardsbecominganaturalleader.Thinkaboutthebestleadersyou’veencounteredduringyourlifeandyou’llseethattheyallhaveonethingincommon.They’reconfidentenoughinthemselvestowelcomeinputfromeveryonearoundthem;strongmindedenoughtosurroundthemselveswithpeopleofequalstrengthandknowledge;andrespectfulenoughofthemselvesandtheirfollowerstodigestthatinformationanduseittocometothebestconclusionpossible.

Asanalphamale,yourultimategoalistobethekindofpersonpeoplelooktowhentheyneedleadership.Youwantthemtotrustyoutobeabletocometotherightconclusionsandnotsimplydowhatyou’rebeingtoldtodo.Itmightseemterrifyingatfirst,especiallyifyou’reusedtobowingdowntootherpeople’swishes,butyou’llfindoutfastthatit’sasupremelysatisfyingfeeling.

TakeControlofEverySituationI’mgoingtostartbygivingyouthreeexamplescenarios.Iwantyoutoreadeachone,thenspendacoupleofminutesapplyingthemtoasimilarbutrealsituationfromyourownpast.Itdoesn’tmatterifyouhaven’tfoundyourselfintheexactsamesituation,youjustneedtoapplyitascloselyasyou’reabletotoyourownlife.

Iwantyoutothinkabouttheroleyoutookinthatreallifesituation–whileitwasunfolding,whatexactlywereyoudoing?

1)Yourbosscallsameetingtoannounceanewprojectforthecompany.It’sabigoneandadeparturefromwhateveryonehasdonebefore.He’sgoingtoneedtoputateamtogetherandeverypersononthatteamisgoingtoneedtocontributetothesuccessoftheprojectinsomeway.

2)Yourfriendsdecideit’shightimeyouallwentonatriptogether,somewhereexoticorwithadventuresportsandwomenaplenty.First,you’regoingtoneedtodecidewhereeveryonewantstogo.Then,someoneisgoingtoneedtotakechargeofarrangingthedates,flights,hotels,itineraryandotherarrangements.

3)Yourbestfriendisabouttogetmarriedandisputtingtogethertheweddingparty.Hisbiggestpriorityisthathewantsacompletelyawesomebachelorparty,completewithallthetrimmings,andpeoplewhowilltaketheloadoffwhenitcomestothedulldetailsofarrangingtherestofthewedding.

You’vereadthescenariosandthoughtaboutwhatyouweredoinginasimilarreallifesituation.Writeitdown–goon,beaman.ThatwayI’llknowyouweren’tlying.

Here’swhatanalphamalewoulddointhosescenarios.Iwonderhowcloseyoucame...

1)Thealphamalewouldn’thesitatetostepforwardandoffertotakechargeoftheproject,rightthereinfrontofeveryone.Hewould

immediatelystartmentallyplanningthestructureoftheteam,thinkingabouteveryone’sstrengthsandweaknessesandwhowouldworkwelltogether.Healreadyknowsallthesethings,becausehe’sasocialanimalwhopaysgenuineattentiontothepeoplearoundhim.He’salsonotafraidofthestresslevelsofabrandnewproject,becauseopportunitieslikethisarewhatdrivehim.He’snotworriedthattheteamwillfail,becauseiftheydohecanjustmaketherightchangesandtryagain.Andhe’snotconcernedabouthandlingtheconflict,becausehe’sunflappableandwillnotbeaffectedbytheadversity.

2)Analphamalewillknowstraightawaywhatkindofvacationwillsuithisgroupoffriends–andifhecan’timmediatelythinkofadestinationthatwillsuiteveryoneequally,he’llturnhismindtofindingwaystomakeupthedifference.Hewon’tfeelitnecessarytohandleallthearrangements,buthe’lloverseethemandit’stohimthatthevolunteerswillreportwhatthey’vebeendoing–naturally,andwithoutquestioningwhyhe’stakenthelead.Ifpeopleargueaboutwhat’sbeingplanned,he’lldefusethesituationaffablyandquickly.Andhe’llbetheonewhoeveryonefollowsaroundwhentheygettotheirvacationspot,too.

3)Obviously,withoutanyquestionatall,analphawouldbetheperfectbestman.Calmandcollectedenoughtohandlethesheerstresslevelsofaweddingandnaturallyabletotakechargeanddelegatetoothers,he’salsogottheselfconfidencetoknowthatthisisn’thisday–itisn’thismomenttoshine.Withouteventheneedtoconsiderit,he’lldoeverythingnecessarytomakehisfriend’sdayasuccess,turningthespotlightthatsooftenshinesonhimontohisfriend,instead.He’llsupporthisfriendwithanunwaveringsenseofconfidencethateverything’sgoingtobeasuccess,lettinghimleanwhenheneedstodo,andhe’lldoallofthiscompletelywithouteffort,becausethat’sjustthetypeofguyheis.

Didyoureacttothesesituationsinthepastlikeanalphamalewould?Wereanyofyourreactionsonthelist?Orwereyouthesecondincommand,thenaysayerorthefollower?I’mwillingtobetyoutickedoffacoupleofthealphamale’sreactions.You’rereadingthisbook,whichmeansyouhaveanaturalinclination

towardsthealpha,whichmeansyou’lldoubtlesshavefulfilledatleastacoupleofhisrolessometimeinyourpast.

ButIdoubtyoureactedexactlyhowanalphamalewould,oryouwouldn’tneedtobefollowingthisguide.Soit’stimetochangeallthat–fromnowon,you’llneedtostepupandtakechargeofeverysituationyoufindyourselfin.Andifit’shardatfirst,you’llneedtokeeptryinguntilitbecomessecondnature.

Whyisitthatanalphamaleisalwaysincharge,nomatterwhatthescenarioisandwhetherheactuallyhasanyfunctionalexperienceofhandlingit?Becausehe’stheonewhoknowshowtohandlethings–heknowshowtobealeader.

Thealphamalehasaplanwhenitcomestotakingcharge,andyou’llneedtodeviseyourown.Andwhilethatdoestakesomeexperience,youcanthinkaboutitbeforehandandcomeupwithideasforhowyouwouldarrangeyourteams,dealwithconflict,sortoutproblemsanddividethework.

Here’show:putyourselfinyourboss’sshoesandwalkthroughhisday.Decidehowyouwouldhandleeachofthethingshehastohandle–wouldyoudoitthesameway,orwouldyoudoitdifferently?Why?Andwhydoyouthinkyourwayisbetter?

Andmarkmywords,itISoktothinkyourwayisbetter.Infact,it’soneofthekeystoyoursuccess.Analphamaledoesn’tjustfollowanotherman’swayofdoingthings.Hehashisownwaysandmethods,andhehasconfidencethattheyarethebestways.

Here’salittlesecret:thatalphamalewhoalwaysseemstogetthebestprojectsandeveryonefollowsaboutonnightsoutwiththeboys?Hedoesn’tknownearlyasmuchaboutwhathe’sdoingasitseems.Whathedoesknowishowtoportrayhimselfasanaturalleader,andyoucandoexactlythesame.But,todoit,you’llneedtoworkonafewofyourpersonalitytraits,andthat’snotgoingtobeaseasyasyouthink.

Keepyourcoolineverysituation,nomatterhowmuchhurt,angerandnegativityisboilingunderthesurface.Whenfacedwithanewchallengeyouknownothingabout,don’tturnitdown.Rememberthatyourroleasalphamaleistotakechargeoftheproject,notnecessarilytobethepersonwiththeknowledgeand

experiencetocarryitthrough.Nurturefriendshipswithasmanypeopleasyoucan,fromasmanywalksoflife,asmanydifferentdepartmentsinyourcompany,asmanyclubsandgroupsandsocietiesandwithasmanyskillsasyoucan.Whenyou’refacedwithachallenge,youwanttobeabletocallonthesepeopletohelpyoucompleteit.Learnhowtolistentootherpeopleandreallyhearwhatthey’resaying.Analphamaleisateamleader–he’stheguyincharge,theonewholistenstoproblemsandissuesanddirectspeopletowardssolutions.Mostofthetime,that’saseasyashelpingsomeonechoosebetweenoptionA,BandC.Thinkintermsofgatheringinformation,onaconstantbasisandfromasmanysourcesasyoucan.Whenyou’refacedwithproblemsfromhereonout,whetheryou’reinaleadershippositionornot,don’tsettleforjustaskingonepersonorlookingitupononewebsite.Startthinkingaboutfindingavarietyofresourcesanddelvingdeepertoanswereveryquestion.Whydoalphamalesdothat?Becausetheycanbetrustedtomakeinformeddecisionsbasedonasmanysourcesofinformationaspossibleandwithallpossibilitiesgivenequalthought.

Whatyoumayhavenoticedfromthesetraitsisthatanalphamalemightbeyourmailman,hemightbethePresidentoftheUnitedStatesorabartender.Hecouldbeateacheratyourlocalschool,theleaderofyourlocalsoccerteamortheCEOofaForbes100company.Itdoesn’tmatterwhathedoesorwherehedoesit,itmattershowhedoesit.Thecontextisirrelevant:it’sallaboutconsistentlycopingwithsituationsbytakingthelead,andtakingitwell.

Ifyoucandeveloptheskillstobringpeopletogetherandcoaxthemintherightdirection,andshowthemthatyoucanbetrustedtomakedecisionsontheirbehalf?Well,ifyoucandothat,thebattletobecomeanalphamaleishalfwaywon.

ImprovementTipsforAlphaMales:

Learntodelegate.Analphamaleachievesahellofalotinasingle

day,buthealsoknowshowtogetotherpeopleworkingalongsidehimtowardstherightgoals.Ifyou’veneverhadpeopletodelegatetobefore,you’llfindprettyquicklythat,asyouadoptthealphamalepersona,peoplestartexpectingyoutotakecontrolandarereadyandwillingtobedelegatedto.Butbeforeyoucandothat,you’llneedtoletgooftheinclinationtotakeoneverylittletaskyourself.Thatcanbehard,especiallyifyou’reaperfectionist,becauseyouruntheconstantriskthattaskswon’tgetdoneright,ontimeorinthewayyouwouldhavedonethem.Butifyoudon’tlearntodoit,youwon’tgetpeopleintothegrooveofworkinghowyouwanttowork,andthingswon’teverimprove.Alwaysstaycalm.Ifyou’rehotheaded,youalreadyknowthatadversitycancauseyourheadtoexplodewithrageinthespaceofamoment.Someonescratchesyourbrandnewmotorcycle,yougethitwithanunfairbill,thetrainislateagain.Theselittlenigglesgettothebestofus,andreactingwithrageissomethingweallwanttodo.Butanalphamaleneverletsthesethingsgetthebestofhim.Sonexttimesomeoneflipsyourtriggersandmakesyouwanttoragequittheday,takethedeepestbreathyoucanmuster.Letgooftherage,evenifittakesyouanhourofjuststandingthere,inertandpointlessasalamppost.Andonceyouhave,youcanturnyourattentiontoreactinginaneffectiveandconstructivemanner.Calltheresponsibleparty,findanewroutetogethome–whateverittakestofixtheproblem.Asyoukeepworkingonthis,thetimeittakesforyourragetosubsidewilllessenuntilyouareabletoletgoimmediately,dealwiththeproblemandmoveon.That’swhatanalphamaledoes–andthat’swhyeveryonelookstohimstraightawayintheeventofanemergency.Controlyourreaction,notthesituation.Ifyou’refindingithardtounderstandthedifferencebetweenanalphamale’sattitudeandyourown,perhapsthisexercisemighthelp.Nexttimeyougethitwithanunexpectedproblem,repeatthismantratoyourself:Icannotchangethefactthatthisishappening,butICANcontrolwhatIdoaboutit.Analphamalealwayscontrolshisownemotionsinabadsituation,neverloseshiscoolandalwayschooseslogicoveremotion.You’llneedtolearntoletgoofyourimpotentrage,butyou’realsogoingto

needtoworkonunderstandingthatthesituationmightbeoutofcontrol,butyourreactiontoitmostcertainlyisn’t–andit’syourreactionthatcounts,becausethat’swhatpeoplewillseeandthat’swhatwillmakethemthinkofyouasaleader.

AboveAllElse,BeYourselfSofar,everythingthatI’vetoldyouinthisbookhasinvolvedimprovingyourself,changingyourselfandgenerallynotbeingthesamepersonyouwereafewdaysago,whenyouhandedoveryourpenniestobuythisguideinthehopesitwouldchangeyourlife.WhatI’mgoingtotellyounowisalittlebitdifferenttoallthat.Thinkofthisasapausebeforethebigpushattheend:we’verampedup,gotyougoingintherightdirection,bootedyouuptheasswhenyoudecideditwasalltoohardandturnedyoureyestowardstheprize.

Nowit’stimeforalookinward.Because,ifthere’sonethingIknowabouttheprocessofbecominganalphamale,it’sthatit’sfilledwithstumblingblocksandtrapsthatcanveryeasilygetinyourway.Itouchedonthisatthestart,butyouneedareminder,lestyouforgetwhyitisthatyou’redoingthis.

Youdecidedtobecomeanalphamalebecauseyoufeltthatyouhaditinyou.Youweren’tcompletelyhappywithwhoandwhatyouwere,butyoualsodidn’thatethatpersoncompletely.Remembermetellingyouthatbeinganalphamaleisnotaboutputtingonafrontandpretendingtobesomethingyouaren’t?Atthispoint,youmightbewonderingifthatwasmeblowingsmokeupyourbutt.I’mpushingyoutogetconfident,changehowyouact,evenchangehowyouthink.Doesn’tthatcountasputtingonafront?

No,becauseIwantyoutomeanit.Iwantyoutomakethesechangesgraduallyand,overtime,cometoacceptthemnotastheactionsofadifferentperson,buttheultimateversionofyourself.

Iwantyoutobecomewhatallthehipstersandhippiesouttherewoulddescribeas“theverybestversionofyourself”.Evenifthatphrasemakesyougag,andI’lltellyourightnowitdoesme,justthinkaboutitforasecond.You’renotanalphamale,butyou’reanokguy–it’sjustthatyou’renotpushingyourpotential.You’renotanalphamale,butyouhavethepotentialtobe,youhavepositivetraitsandyou’relikeable–it’sjustthatyouhaven’tpushedanyofthesethingstoseehowfaryoucango.

Soifyou’vebeenreadingthisguidesofarandfeelingsorryforyourselfbecausehalfthethingsI’mtellingyoutodoaren’tthingsyouthinkarepossibleforyou,it’stimetostepbackandreassess.That’sjustnottrue,andwhenyou’renot

feelingnervous,overwhelmedorplainlazy,youknowit.

Notthebestballplayerintheworld?Whatdoesthatmatterinthegrandschemeofthings?I’mnottellingyouthat,tobecomeanalphamale,you’llhavetooutplaytheDenverBroncos.I’mtellingyouthatyouneedtoembraceyourpassionforthegameandgiveiteverylastlittlebitthatyou’vegot.

Notthebestatorganization?Notthemostattractivedudeintheclass?Notbrilliantattalkingtowomen?Noneofthesethingsmatter.Whatmattersisthatyouhaveagenuineloveforeverythingyoudo,andthatitshows.Itmattersthatyougiveitallyou’vegot,andthatitshows.UnderstandwhatI’msaying?It’sallaboutyoufindingoutwhoandwhatyouloveanddoingeverythinginyourpowertomakethosethingspartofyourlife.

Alphamalesdon’tgettothatpointbecausethey’realreadythebestatwhattheytry.Theytaketheirplaceintheirowneyes,andintheeyesofeveryonearoundthem,becausetheyareattackingeverychallengewithconfidenceandnevergivingup.

SowhenItellyouthatIwantyoutobeyourself,ImeanthatIwantyoutolookagainatyourtalents,skills,characterandsoon,recognizethatalotofitisalreadysomethingtobeproudof–andthenpusheverysingleoneofthemuntilyou’retheproudestyoucanpossiblybe.

GetWhatYouWant–WhateverItIsSohereweare,nearingtheendofyourcrashcourseinbecominganalphamale.Feelingbetteraboutyourselfyet?Maybealittlebit,right?Butnotcompletely,becauseyouhaven’tstartedseeingmanyreturnsforyourefforts.

Solet’sstartreapingafew,shallwe?Let’sturneverythingwe’velearnedtowardsthethingsyou’vebeenpiningfor–thethingsthatmadeyouwanttodothisinthefirstplace.

Letmelistthemforyou,becauseI’mprettysureyouknowwhattheyare:youwantarockin’body,thegirlofyourdreams,thecareereveryoneenviesandfriendswhoenvyyourlifestyle.

Solet’sfinishthisbylookingatthosethingsonebyone,andworkingouthowyou’regoingtogetthem.Asyou’reabouttofindout,everythingwe’vebeendoingupuntilthispointhasbeengearedtowardshelpingyourdreamscometrue.

GettheGirlConfidence,whenitcomestowomen,iskey.ThereasonIpushedyousohardtoworkonyourconfidenceisthatit’slikeanaphrodisiactoawoman:shecansenseit,andshewantsit.Asanalphamale,womenwillbechasingyou,nottheotherwayaround.Andthey’llbedoingthatbecausetheysensethatyou’reamanworthclaiming,becauseyouhavegoalsandaspirationsandyou’reclearlygoingsomewherewithyourlife.Onceyou’redoneworkingonyourconfidence,thehardpartisover.

Sowhatelsedoyouneedtodo?

Firstup,findyourprotectiveinstinct–theonethatmakesyouwanttoruntoalovedone’srescuewhenthey’reintrouble.Analphamalealwaysprotectshisfriendsandhisfamily,andawomanfindsthatirresistible.Next,quitbeingscaredofrejection.Soyoudecidetotalktoaprettygirlandshesnubsyoubeforeyoucanaskherforhername.Sowhat?She’snottheonlyfishinthesea,andyou’renotgoingtofindoutifshe’sinteresteduntilyoutryaskingher.Analphamalewouldn’tletitstophim–hewouldn’tcare.Analphamaletakesriskswithoutasecondthought,knowingthat’stheonlywayhecanreallypushhisboundaries.Stayinyourcomfortzoneandyou’llnevermeetanywomenatall,letalonethewomanofyourdreams.Stepoutsideitandshe’llnotice–andshe’llwantyouevenmore.Now,stopbeingsuchadesperatedick.Themoreyouconvinceyourselfyouneedawomaninyourlifetobehappy,thelessattractiveyoubecome.Awomanwantsamanwhoknowswhathewantsandisn’tafraidtogooutandgetit,notonewhohangsbackandstareslikealatchkeykidashisfriendschatherup.Womenlikeachallengeasmuchasmendo,andadesperatemanisnotachallenge.He’ssomeoneshecanfallbackonifherotheroptionsdon’tpanout–doyoureallywanttobeherthirdchoice?Finally,startgivingthosewomenyou’reinterestedintherespectthattheydeserve.Thesecondyoustartthinkingofthemascommodities–

somethingyoushouldhaveorneedtoown–you’redoomed.Atruealphamalewantsapartnerwhocomplementshimcompletely.Hewantsawoman,oraman,whohasherowngoals,hopesanddreams.Andtogetawomanlikethat,youneedtorespectherandshowherthatyoudon’tneedtodominateorpossessher.Youarehappytoletherbeherownpersonanditdoesn’tworryyouifthatmeanshavingamoresuccessfulcareerorattractingtheattentionofothermen.That,afterall,iswhatyou’llloveaboutherinthefirstplace.Andbecausesheknowsthat,shewillloveyoumorethanyoucanevenimagine.

GettheLooksYou’vealwayswantedkillerabsandthekindofbuttthatwomen’seyesfollowdownthestreet.Haven’tweall?Buthaveyoudoneanythingaboutit,yet?Thisaspectofyourjourneyisbothaboutbecominganalphamaleandreapingtherewardsofdoingso.Ifyouwanttobeatruealpha,it’ssomethingyoucan’tavoid.ButbecauseyouAREbecomingatruealpha,it’ssomethingyounowhavethewillpower,confidenceanddeterminationtoaccomplish.

Yourbodyisareflectionoftheinneryou–itshowspeoplewhatyouarelikeontheinsideandwhatyourprioritiesare.Andbeingashowtwoofthemostimportanttraitsyouwantpeopletoknowaboutyouarethatyoutakeprideinyourselfandthatyouhavestrengthofcharacter,yourbodywillshowpeoplethatyouvalueyourself,andthatyouareworthvaluing.

Payattentiontoyourgrooming.Fromhereonout,Idon’twanttoseeyouleavethehousewithyourhairmussedandbeforeyou’vetakenashower,anddefinitelynotinyesterday’sclothes.I’mnotsuggestingyoustartspendinglongerinthebathroomthanyoursisterorgirlfriend,butIdowantyoutolookinthemirroreverytimeyouleavethehouseandaskyourself:IfIsawthisman,wouldIrespecthim?Getyourselfintoaroutine.You’regoingtoneedtostartexercising,beitwithweights,atthegymorviayourfavoritesport.Theonlywayyoucandothatistosetyourselftargetsandgoalsandgetyourselfintothehabitofworkingout.Ifyou’retired,toughluck.Ifyou’drathergooutonthetiles,toughluck.Ifyou’vegottoomuchotherstufftodo,toughluck.Makingworkingoutyourpriority,becauseit’stheonlywayyou’regoingtoimprovethewayyoulookandgetyourselfinshape.Startthinkingaboutthisasjustanotherpartofyourday.Thoseguysyouseewhoconstantlypreenandweartighttopssoyoucanseetheirpecs,andwon’ttalkaboutanythingbutproteinpowderandthenewmachinetheyhaveatthegym?That’snotanalphamale,that’snotyou.Youneedtothinkofitasachangeyou’remakingforlife,andwhenyoustarttoseetheresultsyouneedtotakejoyandprideinthemandusethemtofueltomorrow’sefforts.

Getsomehelpfiguringoutwhatyouneedtodotogetyouridealbody.Hireatrainerforawhileandgetthemtoshowyouhowtolosetheextrapoundsorgainsomemuscleonyourscrawnyarms.Theycantellyouwhatit’spossibletoimprove,andtheycanshowyouhowtodoit.Therest?That’suptoyou.

GettheCareerAnalphamaleisanaturalleader,andthat’swhyhealwayswinsjobsandgetspromotions,climbingtothetopofhisfieldfasterthananyoneelse.He’salsodrivenanddedicated,aswe’vealreadycovered.

Butmaybeyoudon’twanttobeaCEOandyoudon’twanttotradesharesonWallStreet.Maybeyouwanttobeawriterorafisherman,makefurnitureorplayprofessionalsports.

Withbeinganalphamale,you’llfindthatauthoritycomesnaturally.It’sallaboutbeingconfidentinyourselfandinspiringconfidenceinothers,andit’sabouttreatingpeoplewithgenuineinterestandrespectsuchthattheyfeelvaluedandappreciatedandwanttofollowyou.

It’sthesamestoryasitwasbackinmedievalbattles–menfollowedtheirknights,dukesandkingsintohellandfoughtanddiedforthemsimplybecausetheybelievedsostronglyinthatleader.Thinkthosedudeswereanythingbutalphamales?Ofcoursenot.

Ifyouwanttoembracethatsideeffectofbecominganalphamale,morepowertoyou.Makesurethatyouunderstandthatgreatpowerbringsgreatresponsibilityandthatyou’llneedtotakeagenuinecareforthepeopleyouareleadingandalways,always,beasmindfuloftheirownneedsandhopesasyourown.

Ifyoudon’t,youcanstillmakeuseofyournewfoundleadershipabilities.Youcanuseyourcharmandpowertowinpeopleroundtoyourwayofthinkingthroughreasoned,thoughtfuldiscussionsandawillingnesstolisten.But,inthiscase,youcanuseittowinclients,opportunitiesorcustomers.Youcanuseyourleadershipabilitiestorampupwhatyou’redoing,buildateamtohelpyouachieveyourgoals.Yourdeterminationanddrivewillbeinfectious–useittoconvinceotherpeopletohelpyou,investinyouorotherwisejoinyourcause.Yourstreamlinedfocuswillhelpyousetgoalsforyourselfandthenmeetthem.

Beinganalphamaledoesn’tmeanyouhavetoworkinthebankingindustry.Itdoesn’tmeanyouhavetoclimbtotheloftyranksoftheCEOsandCOOsandC-whateverelses.Itmeansyouneedtopushtheboundsofwhatevercareeryouwanttofollow–andthatyouneedtochoosethecareerbasedonyourdeepestandmostbelovedpassions.

GettheLifestyleThere’sonesecret,andjustonesecret,togettingthelifestyleyouwant:youhavetotakeit.Wetalkedbeforeaboutblazingyourownpathandnotbeingafraidtotakechancesandmakedecisionsthatotherpeoplehaven’tnecessarilyapprovedof.Thesamegoesforgettingthelifestyleyouwant:nobodyisgoingtogiveittoyou,soit’suptoyoutodecidewhatitisandthentakeit.

Stopfearingtheideaoftakingarisk.There’sonlyonewaytobanishfear,andthat’stopowerthroughit.Ifthelifestyleyouwantmeanschangingalotaboutwhatyoucurrentlyhave,don’tbesurprisedifyoucomeupagainstabrickwalloffearatsomepointalongtheway.Expectto,andmakeupyourmindrightnowtopowerthroughthatwall.Alphamalesdon’tletalittlethinglikefearstandintheirway.Ignoreanyonewhoistryingtotellyouthatyou’rewrong,ornotgoodenough,orthatsomethingisn’tpossible.Peoplealwaystalkfromtheirownperspectivesandcan’tputthemselvesinyourshoes.Theythinkyoucan’tworkfourdaysaweekandplayforthreebecausetheirownfinances,careerchoicesoffamilylifewouldn’tallowit.Thatdoesn’tmeanyoucan’t.Theythinkyou’rewrongtodropapromisingcareertobecomeanartistoranarchitector,hell,adeepseadiver.That’sbecausetheywouldn’thavethegutstodoitthemselves,butitdoesn’tmeanyoucan’t.Theytellyouthatyou’renotgoodenoughbecausethey’rejealous,orbecauseitmakesthemfeelbetterabouttheirownfailures.Ignorethem–butlearntotellthedifferencebetweennaysayersandpeoplewhogiveconstructiveadvice.Ifsomeoneisofferingyouusefulinformationandopinions,analphamalewillalwaysaddthattohisarsenal.Takestockofwhatyou’vegotandwhatyouwant.Don’tbotherbeingrealistic–thatcomeslater.DreambigandtellyourselfyouwanttobedrapedinPlayboymodelsonyourownprivateyachtintheSeychelles.Nowworkouthowyou’regoingtogetthere–remember,analphamaleisallabouttheplanning.Heknowswhathewantsandheworksouthowtogetit.Nomatterhowbigorsmallyourdream,it’suptoyoutoclearthepathtoit.

Keepworkingonyourconfidence.Thereasonalphamalesgetwhattheywantisthattheyhavetheconfidencetoknowtheydeserveitandcanhaveitaslongastheyearnit.Themoreconfidentyouare,thebetteryourchancesofreachingthosedreamsandgettingyourideallifestyle.

GetthePersonalityInyourlifesofar,you’llhavemetplentyofalphamales.Iwantyoutolistasmanyofthemasyoucanremember.Nexttotheirnames,Iwantyoutonotethepersonalitytraitsthatyoumostadmiredinthosemen,andwhy.

Afterawhile,you’llcometoarealization:whatyouadmireinmostofthemwillbethesamecharacteristics.Itmightbetheirwinningcharm,theiraffablegoodnatureortheirdriveanddetermination.Whatyou’llfindisthattherearetraitslinkingallthemenyoumostadmire–andthesearethetraitsyousecretlywantforyourself.

Sonow,it’stimetodigdeepwithinyourselfandgetthem.Pickjustoneofthosemen,onethatyouabsolutelyrespectandadmireandwouldliketobecome.Makethatchoicethepersonthatembodiesallthetraitsyoudon’tfeelconfidentaboutyetinyourself,butyouwishyoudid.Nexttimeyoufindyourselfinasituationthatyouknowyouhaven’thandledinthepastasanalphamalewould,askyourselfwhatthatmanwoulddoinyourplace.

Thismightseemlikejustpretendingtobesomeoneelse,butit’snotwishfulfillmentandyou’renotgoingtowinanOscar.You’rechannelingwhatyoualreadyknowthroughasinglepersonwhoembodiesthetraitsyouwanttonurture.That’sacomplicatedwayofsayingthatyoualreadyhavethesetraits,yourecognizetheminthispersonyou’resoinaweofandtheeasiestwaytoaccessthosetraitsistolookthroughthatman’seyesatyourbehavior.It’salittletrickthatwillhelpyouseeyourselfobjectivelyandstarttoworkonthepersonalityyouwishyou’dalwayshad.Trustme,itworks.

StopReading,StartDoingAreyouwipingoffwhatI’mspittingyet?AreyoupickingupwhatI’mputtingdown?Haveyoucaughtmydrift?

Becominganalphamaleisnotapipedreamandit’snotsomethingthatonlycertainguyscanachieve.Whoeverandwhereveryouare,youcandothis.Youjusthaveonefinalsteptotake.

Nowyouknowwhattodoandwhatyou’llneedtoachievetotransformyourselfintoanalphamale,allthatremainsistogetoutthereanddoit.Setyourgoals,makeyourplans,findyourheroandchangeyourthinking.

Startgoingtothegym,starttakingsomerisks,stoplettingyourfearsgetinthewayofwhatyouwant.I’vetoldyouhowyoucangeteverythingyoueverdreamedof.It’suptoyounowtogooutthereandgetit.

Youhavetheopportunity,thetoolsandtheabilitytochangeyourlifeforever,justbyfollowingtheadviceI’vegivenyou.Aslongasyousticktoitandneverletyourselflapsebackintothethinkingthatheldyoubackuntilnow,youcantransformyourselfintoanalphamale.

Youcanchangethings–bychangingyourself.Youaretheonlythingstandingbetweenyourselfandthewomen,wineandsongyou’vebeenpiningforallalong.

Wouldanalphamaleletthatstand?Wouldhesitthereandwaitforthingstochange?Wouldheignoreopportunityandconvincehimselfitcouldn’tbedone?

Ofcoursehewouldn’t.Sowhatareyouwaitingfor?

Don’tforgettodownloadmybonuschapteronworkingoutlikeanalphamale!

You’vereadthisguide,youknowwhatittakestounleashthealphamalehiddeninsideyouandyou’vealreadystartedmakingchanges...butthere’sonestepstillmissing,andit’sabsolutelyvitalthatyoutakeit.Analphamalelooksfit,imposingandhealthy–heturnseveryheadintheroom.Andwiththisbonuschapter,youcanmakesurethatdescriptionfitsYOU.