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“When It’s not The Client’s Trauma” Integra;ng Family Constella;ons

with Energy Psychology

Michael Reddy, Ph.D. CPC www.ReddyWorks.com Philadelphia, PA

Relieving Chronic Emo0onal/Physical Suffering Using Family Constella0ons | Core Energy Coaching | EFT | Shamanism

ACEP Breakout Session, Phoenix, 2014

What are They?

• Family Constella;ons are a method for revealing and re-‐aligning hidden loyal;es in ancestral and family groups.

• They IMAGE and WORK WITH whole systems in an exploratory and restora;ve way.

• The classic group form uses intui;ve, spa;al arrangements of human representa;ves.

• Think of slow, unscripted psychodrama.

Why Do This?

• Children take on, via innate social resonance systems, unconscious assignments within families.

• Persis;ng beyond childhood, these systemic “entanglements” anchor change-‐resistant problems.

• Treatments focused on the individual alone very oUen fail to remedy these problems.

• They are not “in” the individual but part of the system to which the individual s;ll subconsciously belongs. Thus trauma is also trans-‐genera;onal.

That System is the Family Soul

• A distributed, subconscious social intelligence built in to the human nervous system

• It’s goal: insure the propaga;on of life WITH LOVE through genera;ons

• It’s primary strategy: Harmonious Inclusion • When badly challenged: it will choose the good of the group over that of an indivi dual

• It is capable of a kind of cross-‐genera;onal load balancing that is partly psychic

LeIover loyal0es to unresolved issues in your birth family’s past shape your

life—usually for the worse

Thus… How Constella;ons Developed

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Kinds of Systemic Constella;ons

• Family & Personal Constella;ons—resolve a person’s issues – There are varia;ons on the Classic Group Format – Also private, one on one Constella;ons with different forms of representa;ves • Face to face or via telephone or Skype

• Organiza;onal Constella;ons—resolve hard to quan;fy, whole system problems in businesses or other organiza;ons

TERRIBLE MIGRAINES FADE

• Don’s debilita0ng migraines go away when he resolves a hidden loyalty to his father’s older brother

• Unrepaired stair rail causes Uncle to fall & die of concussion age 4. Grandparents blame each other—their grief & acceptance s;fled by biberness. Don’s migraines express this unresolved tangle—un;l the grandparents, accept, grieve, and reconcile in a constella;on.

CASE #1 PUBLIC SPEAKING PHOBIA VANISHES

• Rising execu0ve John’s incurable panic liIs when he unloads a hidden loyalty: a grandfather was crippled lecturing about explosives.

• Teaching explosives safety in WW1, Grandpa is crippled by a faulty grenade and remains shamed by-‐-‐as opposed to heroic in-‐-‐his military service.

• John resonates to the unaccepted “lectures can unfairly destroy your life” feelings-‐-‐un;l these return to his ancestors in a constella;on

CASE #2

CAN’T LOVE BECOMES “I CAN!”

• Beth’s avoidance of any man she starts to love shiIs when she releases her loyalty to both a mother and a grandmother who could not be close to the man they loved.

• Grandma never got over not being allowed to marry the man she loved. Mom loved her man, but (loyal to her Mom) could not open up to him.

• Beth releases 2 genera;ons of “you can’t have any many you really love” by acknowledging both her love & her separateness from these women.

CASE #3 BREAST CANCER STOPPED

• Mary’s 2nd bout with breast cancer goes into remission when her subconscious stops trying to fulfill her mother’s intense desire to have a boy baby instead of the girl she was born as.

• To the blindly loyal child within, double radical mastectomies threatening Mary would create a superficially more “boy-‐like” form.

• Interac;ng with the representa;ve for Mom in a constella;on, both Mary and Mom release this entanglement in the family system.

CASE #4

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What’s the Pabern Here?

• When unaccepted, not assimilated – Death by concussion incurable migraines – Crippled, shamed teaching speaking phobia – Enforced “can’t have your love” reject love in advance

– “Be a boy for Mom” cancer threatens breasts

• Some literal or metaphorical echo of the un-‐processed trauma appears one, two, or three genera;ons down the line.

Demonstra0on

• SOCIAL GEOMETRY Conceptual metaphors

based on the spaces around

the human body

A Constella0on Illustrated

• TERRIBLE MIGRAINES RELIEVED 1 Ini;al Setup of

Representa;ves

• TERRIBLE MIGRAINES RELIEVED 2

AUer 1st check in and then reps are allowed to move to new

posi;ons

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AUer Grandfather soUens & looks at his lost son


• Grandparents reconcile

• Accept & mourn loss of son

• Client rep moves away from Uncle • Client actual

inserted for healing sentences

Seven Sources Of Systemic Loyal0es

Failures in Early Childhood Bonding

• In womb and 1st 2-‐3 yrs of life crucial determinants of success in later life

• Child IS the family system budding off a new, as yet only poten;al “individual”

• Social empathy tools in nervous system are modeling on Mom & caregivers (Abachment Theory)

• Problems here block the flow of love in the family system and thus also from life itself

HIDDEN LOYALTY SOURCE #1

Parent/Child Seniority Switching

• Preschool & later children sense topsy-‐turvy imbalances of care, guidance, need for love

• Some forgo childhood freedom & begin paren;ng needy or incompetent parents

• Some become “emo;onal spouses” of one or the other parent

• Adults whose inner children lost parents this way miss developmental stages

HIDDEN LOYALTY SOURCE #2 Former-‐Partner/Lost-‐Love Exclusions

• Family Soul “remembers” biological parents & deeply loved former partners

• When their rights or memories are suppressed, a child oUen bonds with them subconsciously

• They may suffer as the excluded member suffered, or feel anger at the excluders that is not their own.

• Adults who as children became part of divorce and other parent level struggles con;nue to express these in their lives.


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Major Injus0ces

• These can affect descendents whether they were within or even outside of the family

• Anyone who affects the flow of life & love in a Family Soul deeply becomes a family member

• Grandpa stole a business from his partner—now his favorite granddaughter suffers repeated, unexplained business failures.

• She suffers with the damaged partner and also thereby atones for Grandfather’s duplicity.

HIDDEN LOYALTY SOURCE #4 Tragic Suffering in the Family

• Lost children (miscarriages, s;llbirths, abor;ons, un;mely deaths)

• Un;mely loss of parents, forced emigra;ons

• Birth defects, debilita;ng diseases. • Cripplings or long-‐term PTSD from accidents or in returning military personnel.

• REMEMBER—it’s not the events per se, but rather “have they been processed/accepted?”


Catastrophic Experiences

• Wars, terrorism, civil unrest

• Devasta;ng natural disasters—storms, floods, earthquakes, fires, droughts

• Survivor guilt in those who lose family, military unit comrades, even close colleagues

• Perpetrator remorse in those who must maim or kill others

HIDDEN LOYALTY SOURCE #6 Perpetrator-‐Vic0m Abuse

• This can be Incident-‐based (one ;me event) or pabern-‐based (ongoing series of similar events)

• When this is between caregivers & children, it marks both in deep ways

• Those on the receiving end carry oUen the perpetrator within—they become either perpetrators or vic;ms themselves later on

• Even not-‐so-‐abused children or grandchilden of abusive caregivers oUen become vic;ms to atone


What happens maiers less than how it was processed. Tragedies that are adequately grieved, assimilated, & accepted leave no nega0ve traces.

Remember… Trans-‐Genera;onal Trauma is Real

• There is thus a form of trauma that is not personal, but rather “systemic.”

• It resides in the family system, wai;ng there because it was not, or could not be processed.

• It ends up being carried in some literal or analogous manner by a descendent of those whose experience it originally was.

• So the original events did not happen to the descendent, but similar ones keep happening

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So How Does it Cross Genera;ons?

• Successful constella;ons worldwide in the ten’s of thousands provide ample anecdotal evidence

• Epigene;c inheritance & social empathy system bonding in early childhood suggest pathways

• Yet the scien;fic materialist paradigm offers no explana;on for some observed effects

• Energe;c, holographic, non-‐local a-‐temporal, consciousness-‐based models of reality are required to hypothesize about how this works

Consciousness Related Effects Observed

• Representa0ve Percep0on. Complete strangers in constella;ons display feelings or traumas of absent or deceased family members – EXAMPLE-‐-‐Representa0ve for client's father feels one leg go temporarily numb; client then says, "Oh, Dad lost that in the war."

• Induced Systemic Healings. Pa;ent and respecmul restora;on of harmony among those represen;ng the system frees or heals the client. – EXAMPLE-‐-‐Reps for parents of the lost uncle our detailed example here forgive each other, mourn their child's early death. Client’s migraines go away.

SLIDE #1

Consciousness Related Effects Observed

• Cascading Resolu0ons. Resolu;ons produce oUen uncanny shiUs in the lives of family members who know nothing of the constella;on. – EXAMPLE-‐-‐Rep for homeless, addicted son reconciles with the rep for his dead father in his mother's constella;on. Totally unaware, he enters rehab, aQer resis;ng for years

• Effec0ve Personifica0ons. Symbolic abachment to reps of elements like "the disease" or "a new job" produces valid informa;on & transmits effects. – EXAMPLE-‐-‐Rep for Daughter's neuropathies aRaches to Grandma, leaves constella;on during resolu;on. They fade

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Implica;ons for Healing

• If the problem is not so much in the client as in the family system, trea;ng the client purely as an individual is – At least the harder, less effec;ve way to approach it – Or may not work at all, leading to recurrent or change-‐resistant syndromes

• Systemic trauma carried by an individual oUen spawns personal trauma, but remains dis;nct

• At minimum, simple screenings for systemic trauma would aid many kinds of healing professionals

• Like EP, Constella;ons are easy, inexpensive, non-‐in;mida;ng, solu;on focused, very oUen effec;ve in the hard cases. They are naturally complementary.

Cross Genera;onal Load Balancing

• If a family system is overwhelmed, its children do not survive

• Not yet individuated children, with nothing to give but a kind of blind love, take on trauma;c burdens caregivers cannot or could not manage

• If this shores up the whole system, it becomes a form of resilience

• But later, when crises pass, these hidden loyal;es need to be released, or adult life suffers

The Family to Individual Fractal

• Fractals repeat similar paberns across a range of different scales (Na;on, Tribe, Clan, Family, Individual…)

• In individuals, we know that survival can require encapsula;on of immediate overwhelm (trauma), which emerges again later & requires healing to restore wholeness

• Family systems also encapsulate overwhelm, which emerges now in succeeding genera;ons and requires its own kind of healing

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Integra;ng Constella;ons with EP

• Family Constella;ons involve both a SYSTEMIC ANCESTRAL PERSEPCTIVE – Our energy fields are necessarily embedded in larger fields, primarily the ancestral, birth, & partner fields

– Trauma can happen to the larger fields, yet express across genera;ons in entangled individuals

• And a DIAGNOSIS & TREATMENT METHOD – externalizing, spa;ally based, symbolic representa;on of people, events, diseases, desires, and so on

• Both can be important for EP people, but even the perspec;ve along has value also on its own

Screening for Hidden Loyal;es

• EP-‐ers unable to facilitate constella;ons can easily learn enough to know when these would move an otherwise stuck client forward

• Screening the client for hidden loyal;es to trauma in the ancestral system is not hard – Construct an overview genogram – Look for the 7 sources in rela;on to client’s issues – Decide on referral or not (chat with me or someone like me if you’re not sure…)

SIMPLY MAKING USE OF THE PERSPECTIVE


Representa;ves


Representa;ves

Ways to Learn the Perspec;ve

• Read my book—which is wriben for people exactly like you (no kidding)

• It’s here in the bookstore • You can order it at

www.Reddyworks.com

• On Amazon in both paperback and Kindle e-‐

book form

SLIDE #1 Ways to Learn the Perspec;ve

• Take my 6 week Teleclass (reddyworks.com/services) SLIDE #2

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Ways to Learn the Perspec;ve

• Many books are light on concepts and heavy on case examples. Two that are not are – Indra Torsten Preiss, FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS REVEALED

– Jacob Schneider, FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS—BASIC PRINCIPLES AND PROCEDURES

• Both of these come from a more European, Hellinger-‐esque perspec;ve

• I feel constella;ons differ in different cultures

SLIDE #3 Alterna;ng These Modali;es

• Those skilled in both can easily switch from one to the other modality as dictated by the progress of the healing partnership.

• I’m doing this increasingly using Gary and Tina’s “gold standard” EFT techniques

• There’s a fascina;ng flow in the process – Personal trauma clears, which leads us to traumas in the family system

– As family system traumas clear, other personal traumas lose their anchors & yield to the EP technique

USING BOTH BUT NOT INTEGRATING

Integra;ng Both Modali;es

• Tapping the constella;on client to release emo;onal/energy disrup;ons as the private or group constella;on in unfolds

• Tapping representa;ves who become too caught up in the “channeled” reac;ons of the non-‐present, possibly no longer living persons they are represen;ng (calm the representa;ve in groups…)

• Surrogate tapping of the the non-‐present, possibly no longer living persons via tapping of the representa;ve (clearing the ancestor…)

SLIDE #1-‐-‐MERIDIAN TAPPING IN CONSTELLATIONS


• I’m personally in the experimental stage with this in both seqngs. It is definitely useful, but how, when, and how much to do it is s;ll emerging for me – There is a drama;c flow to group constella;ons that I don’t want to interrupt with too much tapping

– Too much focus on either the client’s or a given rep’s energy system distracts me from my “whole system” focus

• I worked a bit with Julie Roberts (Chang Works with CLEAR, an

EP method), who uses EP far more in constella;on groups • In private constella;ons, where I rep (feel into) each ancestor—I’m finding I can tap myself as a surrogate for the ancestor I’m “channeling”—and see results.

SLIDE #2-‐-‐MERIDIAN TAPPING IN CONSTELLATIONS


• Deborah Donndelinger has moved in the opposite direc;on, pulling treatment of cross genera;onal trauma more into an EP form

SLIDE #3-‐-‐THE CONSTELLATION PERSPECTIVE IN EP

• This is a careful transforma;on of the systemic, ancestral perspec;ve into script-‐based tapping procedures

• This book is also here in the bookstore and on Amazon

Cross Fer;liza;on between the Modali;es

• I’m aware of many constellators who also do some form of EP—these seem to be more “alternators” than “integrators”

• Would love to hear from EP-‐ers who also alternate or integrate constella;ons

• These two modali;es seem to have rich possibili;es for enhancing each others effects

• The perspec;ve and techniques of each can help the other

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Implica;ons for the Human Energy Field

• The human energy field is designed by nature to par;cipate in larger systems of such fields

• Just as neurologists are realizing that the physical brain and nervous system, with it’s mammalian, limbic social resonance circuits, is profoundly rela;onal and cannot be understood in isola;on—so too for the larger “human energy field.”

• Some healings require aben;on to these larger fields—especially FAMILY SOULS

SLIDE #1-‐-‐EMBEDDED IN LARGER FIELDS Implica;ons for the Human Energy Field

• The threat response of the larger systems in which we are embedded is similar to that of our individual nervous system – Isolate & encapsulate overwhelm so as to survive

– Troublesome “leakage” of these capsules later on – Restoring wholeness requires careful reintegra;on

• So similar remedies may be effec;ve

• We should look for and heal traumas induced by other traumas both up and down levels

SLIDE #2—TRAUMA IS A FRACTAL

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