AbuseRelationships

Abuse in relationships:Comes in many different forms

• According to the CDC, domestic violence is a serious, preventable public health problem that affects more than 32 million Americans.

• This number only reflects the number of cases that are reported; it’s estimated that in the United States, as many as one third of domestic violence cases are never reported.

• More stats

Physical abuseWhen one person uses/threatens to use physical pain to intimidate another person

Slaps, pushes, punching, hair pulling, etc.

People can die from injuries

Verbal abuse

When one person uses words and body language to criticize another person

Put downs, name callingNot easily recognized as abuse, can go on for extended periods causing damage to victim’s self-esteem

Psychological abuse (mental/emotional abuse)

Occurs when one person controls information available to another person to manipulate their sense of reality

“Mess with their heads” to gain compliance of victim

Hard to detect

Sexual abuse

Unwanted sexual contactMolestation, incest, date rape

Usually coupled with physical abuse

NeglectOccurs when a

person fails to provide for the basic needs of dependent victims he or she is responsible for

Usually children or elderly who can ’t care for self

Hate crimesAbuse toward an individual or a group of because of race, color, religion, national origin, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation or gender identity etc.

5-step cycle of abuse1.Tension2.Belittlement/put downs3.Physical abuse4.Remorse (saying sorry)5. “Resolution” (making promises

to change)Then it starts all over again

Another cycle Tension: Gets tenseExplosion: Outburst and abuse-emotional, verbal, sexual/physicalHoneymoon: Apologize, try to make up, shift the blame

Another Cycle of Abuse

How to stop it before it startsYour body belongs to you only!Trust your responsesSay “stop it” and mean itIf you feel like a potential “victim” seek

helpWho can you seek help from?

ParentFriendTeacherCounselor

How to avoid being an abuserBe aware of your own anger

Respect someone else’s limits

Seek help to understand yourself

Power & Control Wheel

Telling Amy’s Story• There are only 3 possible

outcomes in an abusive relationship: Either the batterer is going to STOP the abuse, or the victim is going to LEAVE that relationship, or someone is going to DIE. ▫ –Detective Deirdri Fishel,

State college Police Department

• Documentary about women being abused by husband, sheds light on domestic violence

The End

Reviving Ophelia•Lifetime Movie about Dating Violence•Look for healthy and unhealthy

relationships•Look for the cycle of abuse•Look for power and control in

relationships

“No one will tell”•Movie about Dating Violence•Look for healthy and unhealthy

relationships•Look for the cycle of abuse•Look for power and control in

relationships

Warning Signs

•What to look for in your relationships, and relationships your friends/family are in…

•http://helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm

Songs• Identify these things for each song

▫ Healthy/Unhealthy relationship, why▫ What type of abuse present?

• 1. Goodbye, Earl by The Dixie Chicks▫ http://www.youtube.com/watch?

v=Gw7gNf_9njs&ob=av2e • 2. Independence Day by Martina McBride

▫ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4VPpAZ9_qAw&safety_mode=true&persist_safety_mode=1

• 3. Concrete Angel, by Martina McBride▫ http://www.youtube.com/watch?

v=KtNYA4pAGjI&safety_mode=true&persist_safety_mode=1